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Indefinite Chastity

By Chaste on Saturday, May 6, 2023

I been thinking a lot lately about indefinite chastity, and the more I ponder the idea, the more I find I want to experience it.

Indefinite chastity is not an original idea I’ve come up with. I’ve read plenty of chastity blog posts and forum posts written by guys who are doing indefinite chastity even if they are not consciously aware of it or don’t know that is what they are doing.

Indefinite Chastity Defined

If you aren’t sure what I am discussing, here is a simple definition of indefinite chastity. It’s when a keyholder tells you to put on and lock your chastity device and then says you must wear it until further notice. End of discussion. The keyholder has imposed an indefinite ban on you having sex, masturbating, having an orgasm, and ejaculating. From my chastity travels around the web, this seems how chastity is done commonly between partners where one’s partner acts as the keyholder.

Fixed Term Chastity

The other popular way of chastity with a keyholder is the fixed term embargo. As an example, you must wear the chastity device for one week, one month, etc. There is a blog I follow curated by a dominant woman in a female led relationship. She requires her husband to wear a chastity device for six days and then unlocks him on the seventh and allows him to orgasm and ejaculate every week. She explains she adopted that schedule because if he remains locked for over six days without an orgasm, he becomes either depressed or resentful. So, going in, he knows how long he must remain locked. I suspect he then spends the intervening time counting down the days, hours and minutes, and the closer the end gets, the more desperate he becomes.

My Experience With Enforced Chastity

Since I have only had professional keyholders, the fixed term is the type of chastity I’m most familiar with, since that is how most professionals structure their services. You pay a fee for a week locked in chastity under their supervision, or a fortnight, or a month, etc. It works okay, but I want to experience indefinite chastity. There is just something about stepping out into the great unknown that excites me.

With indefinite chastity, when it will end and the keyholder will unlock you is a moot point. The term is indefinite. With a fixed term, you know how long you must stay locked. You have a goal. When the term is indefinite, there is hope that it might end at any time. Yet there is also the awful prospect that it might go on and on, stretching out into an orgasm-free eternity.

It’s not that I want an orgasm-free future where I may never have sex, mastubate, orgasm, or ejaculate again. That is the unthinkable, a life sentence of chastity. Having to endure such a draconian regimen might well be where madness lies. No time off for good behavior. No more negotiations. No more counting down the days until the cage comes off, and the ban is lifted. No more dreams of the mother of all orgasms. Just a bleak, endless future bereft of sexual release stretching out before you.

Is There a Professional Keyholder in the House?

My problem has been finding a professional keyholder willing to make my dream of indefinite chastity a reality. During the pandemic, when dominatrices could not offer in person sessions, professionals offering distance chastity keyholding were a dime a dozen. Cam, phone, or text sessions were the only way to fill the gaping hole the pandemic shutdowns knocked in their incomes. But now, with things back to normal, most of them have returned to plying their trade through the far more lucrative in person sessions.

Also, all the payment platforms and banks professionals once used to collect payments for keyholding and other online services now discriminate against sex workers. It seems the industry most known for wokenss and progressive spirit have no qualms about marginalizing sex workers. I guess they don’t deserve a seat at the intersectionality table. But I digress. The point is, it is much harder to find a good professional dominatrix for distance keyholding these days.

After spending considerable time this past week searching for a dominatrix offering keyholding, I found less than a dozen. I found a few more than that, but I discounted those who do not publish their required tribute amounts (their fees) on their websites. That is always a dead giveaway that they are insanely expensive. Half of those I found advertised fees that were, shall we say, well out of my price range. I saw fees ranging from $100 per week, for just basic keyholding to $3,000 for a month, with a few naughty pictures and texts thrown in. Of course, a professional dominatrix is within her rights to set her fees at whatever she feels the market will bear. I’m willing to pay a fair rate for what I want. But since I am not independently wealthy or desperate, I wouldn’t even consider paying anything close to those rates.

Narrowing the Search

Finally, I narrowed my search down to three professionals, all of whom specifically offered chastity keyholding services. All three offered their services for around the same amount. I’m sure I would be happy with any of the three, but ranked them from my first to third choices. Then I completed the obligatory forms on their websites to submit my applications. After submitting the form, then you sit back and wait for them to reply at their convenience.

I did not apply to all three at the same time, as I would never wish to waste anyone’s time. If I had done that and received a reply from my first choice, then the other two would have wasted their time replying to me. I applied to my first choice and waited. And waited. Five days passed by and no reply. Not that I think she rejected me. The initial form required didn’t request enough information to warrant rejection. It was only an initial inquiry about the services I was interested in. There are at least three explanations for the no reply. The person is focused on in person sessions and no longer offers distance keyholding but has not bothered to update her site by removing the offer of keyholding. The forms function on the website doesn’t work properly (more common than you might think) and she never saw my application. Or, her PayPal, Venmo, etc. account got cancelled, and she has no way to collect for online services anymore and couldn’t be bothered to reply to me with regret.

The Quest Continues

So, I filled in another form on the website of candidate number two. Same result. Another five days went by with no response. Then, I filled in the form at the website of contestant number three. That was yesterday, so it is too early to tell how that one will turn out. But I’m not feeling optimistic. If she doesn’t reply, then I will probably shelve the idea for a while. Many respected economists claim the economy will go into recession by the end of the year or early next year. If that happens, the in person session income will dry up again when horny guys will not have as much disposable income to finance their kink desires. And then, more dominatrices will probably be happy to take on distance keyholding clients again to pay the bills.

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Holy Trainer Nub V5 Review

By Chaste on Tuesday, May 2, 2023

My review of the Holy Trainer Nub V5, the latest edition of the Swiss chastity device maker’s popular bio-resin based, light-weight micro-chastity device.

First Impressions of the Holy Trainer Nub V5

Usually, I’ll wear a new device for at least ten days before writing a review. But in this case, I’ve owned a Holy Trainer Nub V4 for a long while and, spoiler alert, after six days in the V5 model, I have observed no noticeable differences. It remains, hands down, one of the most comfortable plastic devices I’ve tried, thanks to the ergonomic design. And the quality is second to none. I also own a Holy Trainer Nano, but I much prefer the compact fit of the Nub, which is why I chose it for my review of the V5 model.

After studying my Nub V5 and V4 thoroughly, side by side, I couldn’t see any changes in the design except for the new integrated lock that the V5 features. It’s a push-button affair that uses a barrel key. This is a key with a hollow shaft used to open tubular pin tumbler locks. These locks are used on various types of equipment. A soda vending machine is one application where most people might have noticed this type of lock.

You only need the key to open the integrated lock since, after mating the penis tube to the base ring, you simply push the button in the center of the lock to lock the device. There is a small hole drilled into the top of the penis tube, where it slides into the receiver molded into the top of the base ring. Pushing the lock button extends a small metal pin into the hole, locking the two components together. I consider the new lock an improvement that makes it even easier to mate the tube and base ring. Like all chastity devices using “MagicLocker” type locks (the type used with the V4), occasionally there is a minor misalignment that makes it difficult to insert the lock into the hole. The new integrated lock featured on the V5 model eliminates this potential issue.

Device Specifications

As shown in the above illustration, the full length (Length A) of the Nub tube is 2.2 inches (57mm). As most penis owners know from experience, flaccid lengths vary almost constantly. Having measured for several custom-made devices, on average, my flaccid length ranges between 2.5 and 3 inches. I always use 2.5 inches as the starting point when ordering a custom device. And then, depending on the device, I subtract .25 to .50 inches. That ensures the tip of my penis is always touching the end of the tube or cage and my urethral opening stays properly positioned at the urine outlet. And I don’t mind the minor turtling effect that happens when my flaccid length grows closer to 3 inches. So, the length of the Nub gives me the exact fit I want.

For those with longer flaccid lengths, Holy Trainer offers four other tube lengths:

Nano | 80 mm (3.1 inch)
Small | 85 mm (3.3 inch)
Standard | 95 mm (3.7 inch)
Maxi | 109 mm (4.3 inch)

Those options will cover most individuals, providing the internal diameter of Holy Trainer devices is sufficient, which I’ll cover next. But, as long as you aren’t bothered by “turtling” most guys, regardless of flaccid length, can wear the Nub. If the tub is shorter than your average length, when you mate the tube to the base ring, it will just push the excess length inside your abdomen. Most don’t find that uncomfortable.

Internal Diameter

The internal diameter of the Nub (and all other Holy Trainer devices except the Maxi) is 33 mm (1.3 inches). The Maxi internal diameter is slightly larger at 35 mm (1.4 inches). While I’m very average in length, my flaccid penis is thicker than average, and the internal diameter of the Nub tube is a little tight for me. The 35mm would fit me perfectly. So, the tube compresses me slightly. It still works for me and isn’t uncomfortable, but for someone even thicker than average, the 1.3 inches internal diameter will probably not work even if you could squeeze your flaccid penis into the tube.

Base Ring Sizing

Holy Trainer base ring sizing is a little different from what you might be accustomed to with other devices. They recommend measuring using the traditional string-method, the distance around the base of the penis and behind the scrotum. Then they have a chart that suggests base ring size within a range, based on your measurement.

As an example, my measurement in almost exactly 7 inches. So, consulting the sizing chart on the Holy Trainer website shows I fall in the range between 6.42 to 7.03 inches and they suggest ring size 55. That’s the size I ordered with my Nub V4 and found it was too large and allowed my right testicle to pop out of the base ring. So, I ordered ring size 50, and that worked perfectly.

My Holy Trainer Nub base ring size is a little larger than the ring size I wear with my custom made stainless steel devices and I need the larger size. That’s because of the design of the Nub. When you connect the tub to the base ring, it presses the tube into the scrotum a little, forcing your testicles outward. I need the larger base ring size to accommodate that, or it soon feels very uncomfortable. So, base ring sizing for the Nub isn’t as straightforward as picking a size from the chart. It’s probably best to follow the chart recommendation on their website as a beginning point. But be aware you might have to drop a size to get the right fit. If you have an earlier model, as I do, it simplifies things since you already know the size you need. And, if you’re new to HT and get the wrong size, they sell tubes and base rings separately as well as complete units. So, you can, as I did, always order a different size base ring. But for the V5 model, it isn’t cheap. Base rings go for $71.

Bases rings and tubes are fully interchangeable as long as it’s the same model. If you buy a Nub V5 and later decide you want a Nano or Small tube, you can just buy the tube and use it with your Nub V5 base ring. But parts from older versions don’t interchange with newer versions. Nub V4 parts won’t work with Nub V5 parts and Nub V3 parts didn’t work with Nub V4 parts.

One thing I love about HT base rings is they are thicker than garden variety base rings and ergonomically shaped, which makes them super comfortable.

Nub V4 Versus Nub V5

Having worn both, I find no difference in the design or fit. So, if you have a Nub V4, I can’t give you a good reason to buy a V5. The new style lock gets convenience points and is sort of cool, but unless you’re dying to try out the push button lock like I was, or simply want a different color, the design as far as I can determine is exactly the same otherwise.

If you are considering buying a Nub for the first time, then it boils down to what kind of locking mechanism you want. If you’re happy with or just prefer the “MagicLocker” Holy Trainer still sells the V4 model on its website. But don’t expect to save a few bucks by opting for the older model. The price for both models (full set) is the same, $165 for the basic colors (clear, black, baby pink) and $185 if you want one of the many custom colors on offer. The Nub V4 tubes alone cost the same as the V5 tubes, but the V4 base rings alone are considerably cheaper. And remember, the V4 and V5 parts won’t interchange.

Security of the Holy Trainer Nub V5

Holy Trainer chastity devices are “ball-trap” devices, and no ball-trap device is escape proof. But a well-fitted Nub minimizes the chance of escape. And I think Holy Trainer devices are more secure than many other plastic device options. The tightness of the tube and the way the tube extends through the base ring and a little beyond makes it very difficult to back your flaccid penis out of the tube from behind the base ring.

I didn’t even attempt it with the V5 because when I did that with my V4, I found it both difficult and slightly uncomfortable. Also, when I managed to back my penis out of the tube, I still wasn’t able to get my testicles free of the base ring. No doubt, with enough lubrication and determination, someone could do it. But I wasn’t willing to endure the pain to get the locked device completely off my testicles.

The only way to fully secure a penis in a ball-trap device is to use a piercing, such as a Prince Albert (PA), to actually lock the head of the penis inside the tube or cage. I can’t imagine there is enough room inside the tube of a Nub to accommodate a PA ring or that you could use any aftermarket locking device with the device. But, if you’re serious about chastity, you wouldn’t want to cheat by escaping from a locked device. So, for most, the HT Nub is secure enough.

Hygiene Considerations

Essentially a closed tube with only a urine outlet at the end, the Nub is a device that you must remove periodically to clean your genitals and the device. You can’t flush it through the urine outlet well enough to accomplish any effective cleaning. And over time, urine, semen, and dead skin cells will build up, making it an unhealthy environment for your peen. I remove mine once a week for cleaning and after wearing it a week, the smell it pretty ripe when you pull the tube off.

While almost impossible to clean effectively while wearing, the Nub is simple to clean with soap and water after you take it off. So, I don’t give it low marks for hygiene since it does not differ from other closed tube devices.

The Nub also has a generously sized urine outlet. So, as long as you take care to align your urethral opening properly, it minimizes getting urine inside the cage. I’m pretty adept at peeing while standing while wearing the Nub, but mishaps sometimes occur. So sitting to pee is the best practice.

Price

Given the quality of the materials and craftsmanship, I think Holy Trainer has priced its devices fairly for off-the-shelf, mass market devices that will work well for most individuals. But some may find $165 for a plastic, non-custom chastity device pricier than others. For that reason, Holy Trainer Nubs are one of the most copied plastic chastity devices. Some sellers of counterfeit models, at least acknowledge their devices aren’t authentic Holy Trainer devices. But I know of one retailer who has not only ripped off the design but markets their copies as genuine Holy Trainer devices.

I understand the temptation to buy a counterfeit instead of paying $165 for the original. Copies are available at a fraction of that price. But ethical considerations aside, there are many other reasons not to buy a counterfeit Nub. You won’t get the Holy Trainer quality of workmanship and the material of the device won’t be what they use. Even the “MagicLocker” type locks will be cheap imitations.

Spend some time on one of the many active online chastity forums and you will read plenty of stories of what can go wrong when people buy fake Nubs. I read a post today on one site where a guy was asking for advice about how to get the device off because the key turned but the lock wouldn’t unlock. I’ve also heard that many of the cheap imitations have sharp edges where the tube slides into the base ring receiver that have cut people when they were putting on or taking off the devices. Buying a counterfeit Holy Trainer like device is definitely a “you get what you pay for” situation.

The Verdict

THE PROS

THE CONS

Sleek, stylish
Quality materials and craftsmanship
Comfortable, ergonomic design

Not inexpensive
Designed with the “average” in mind. Not a good choice for those with thicker than average penises

Disclaimer: As always, I purchased this device using my own funds. This objective review represents my own opinions. I have no affiliation with Holy Trainer other than being a satisfied customer.

Today is Day 2 of Chastity 90 for those of us who started May 1. But you can begin anytime.

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Chastity 90 2023 Day 1

By Chaste on Monday, May 1, 2023

And it begins. The first day of Chastity 90 2023, ninety-days of abstaining from masturbation, orgasm, and ejaculation.

The truth be told; I was eager to lock my Holy Trainer Nub V5 back on after three days of freedom. So eager, I stayed up until 12:01 A.M. this morning to put it back on and lock up. I’ve grown so accustomed to wearing a chastity device, I feel more comfortable wearing one than not. While I wasn’t concerned about it, the three days out of the cage showed that after 877 days of 24/7 chastity, I experienced no shrinkage, have no problem getting and maintaining an erection, and ejaculate normally. I admit I didn’t last long when performing the plumbing check, but that’s to be expected since the lengthy period of being locked increased my sensitivity.

Are You In?

This site gets a lot of visitors every day and I’m hopeful others are taking part in the challenge with me. Yes, I know not everyone interested in chastity is interested in long-term chastity. But spending ninety days wearing a cage and observing strict abstinence is an experience not to be missed, in my opinion. You learn things about yourself that you just don’t with shorter periods of chastity. And by the end, you will definitely know whether permanent chastity is for you.

If you’ve been thinking about participating, or this is the first you’ve heard about Chastity 90, you can review the terms of the contest here. You’ll see that there are other things besides practicing sexual abstinence we ask you to do for the ninety days, along with a few things you’re asked to do you probably don’t do now.

I aimed all the terms at making it easier to complete the challenge than it might be otherwise. In our hyper-sexualized society, every type of media, from video games to television to social media sites, pushes sexual imagery and content. You can view all the porn you want without ever visiting an Internet porn site. Just sign on to Twitter, TikTok, or just about any other popular social media platform. The things I ask you to avoid should limit your exposures to titillating content and other sexual triggers that will make it far more difficult to complete the challenge. And while social media particularly can be addicting, you can learn to live without it.

I used to sign into Twitter every morning, intending just to spend a few moments catching up. Instead, I’d waste an hour or more scrolling through the never ending feed, clicking on news stories that captured my interest, etc. And then I’d end up wasting even more time looking at Twitter on my phone throughout the day. Then Twitter did me a big solid about a year ago.

A few months before Musk took over, they suspended me when I posted criticism of an ignorant government official who did nothing but spread disinformation throughout the entire pandemic and he harmed many people, including kids. A moderator sent me a message telling me they would restore my account if I deleted the “offensive” post. Instead, I gave Twitter a middle finger and deleted the app from all my devices. Know what? I haven’t missed it at all. In fact, my life is much improved since I left that toxic crap behind. So, please consider doing your best to follow all the terms because if you do, I think you will get much more value from this challenge than just a 90-day chastity experience

No Device Required

Remember, you don’t have to wear a chastity device for the entire challenge. But you can wear one if you wish. You can wear a device, all the time, part of the time, or none of the time and just rely on good old-fashioned willpower. It’s completely up to you. I’ll be wearing a device the entire challenge, but I have a lot of experience with long-term chastity that others probably don’t. I have many comfortable, well-fitting devices and, of course, I enjoy wearing them.

Even if you find it impossible to complete the full 90-days, Chastity 90 is still a great opportunity to go deeper into chastity and learn that it is a healthy and positive lifestyle choice with many benefits.

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Unlocked After Wearing a Chastity Device for 877 Days

By Chaste on Friday, April 28, 2023

As I write this post, it’s been almost seven hours since I unlocked and removed my chastity cage before beginning the Chastity 90 Challenge on May 1. This is the longest I’ve gone without wearing a cage 24/7 in 877 days. It feels weird.

During the longest period I’ve spent continuously locked, I’ve only removed my chastity device for brief hygiene unlocks, always following the same procedure.

First, I clean the device and leave it to air dry before getting into the shower. Usually I spend about 15-20 minutes showering and shaving my pubic area, which is enough time for the chastity device to dry. Then I put it right back on and lock up.

Since there has been no occasion to put on underwear between taking off the device and locking it back on, today is the first time I’ve worn underwear without a chastity device attached to my body in a very long time and it feels different.

Feel Me?

When you’re circumcised like me, things like masturbation and just your exposed glans rubbing against the fabric of your underwear constantly as you walk and move around toughens the skin of the glans a little and reduces sensitivity. After so much time spent wearing a chastity device, the skin of my glans is again soft and noticeably more sensitive.

With my penis free inside my underwear, just from normal movement and walking around and no further encouragement, it’s been frequently semi-erect. And I’ve already had two random, full, firm erections, again with no encouragement or while thinking about anything remotely sexual. So, I can report after 877 days of confinement, there is no sign of erectile dysfunction (ED), something a lot of guys worry about with long-term chastity device wear.

Did I Shrink?

Right out of the shower after drying off, I took a measurement of my flaccid penis, and the length is unchanged from the averaged measurements I took in 2021 before ordering my Jail Bird from Mature Metal. I haven’t taken a measurement while erect yet, but it looks normal.

The erections I’ve had resulted only from my more sensitive glans rubbing against my cotton underwear, not from sexual arousal. So, I’ll wait to take that measurement when I am intentionally aroused, since that is when my penis grows to its full erect girth and length. Still, I already feel it’s safe to say I have experienced no shrinkage. If chastity device shrinkage is a thing, as some people claim, it evidently takes over 877 days for it to occur. Frankly, based on past experience, I’ve never believed in chastity device shrinkage, anyway.

Plumbing Check

While externally, all systems seem normal and functional, I haven’t checked the internal plumbing, meaning I have not attempted to stimulate myself to orgasm and ejaculate. I hadn’t really thought about doing that when I decided to unlock for 72 hours before starting the Chastity 90 Challenge, since that isn’t the reason I’ve chosen to unlock for a few days. But I have thought about it today and it makes sense to orgasm and ejaculate before locking up again on May 1 since the whole point is to make Chastity 90 a distinct 90-day period unconnected to my past and future periods of long-term chastity. I haven’t decided when I’ll check the internal plumbing. All I know is I’ll do it, and only once, before May 1. So, I’ll table that discussion for now.

A Different Countdown

When I first began experimenting with chastity, I was always counting down the days until I could unlock. But it’s the opposite now. Already, after less than seven hours unlocked, I’m counting down the days until I can put my device back on. After so much time locked in a device, the absence of the cage feels abnormal. I’ll stick with the 72-hour plan, but am eagerly looking forward to locking up again on Monday morning, May 1.

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Join Me for the Chastity 90 Challenge on May 1

By Chaste on Tuesday, April 25, 2023

Join me for the Chastity 90 challenge. My current streak of 24/7 chastity will end on April 27, 2023, at 877 days. I will remain unlocked for 72 hours, April 28-30, 2023. Here’s why. I want the Chasity 90 challenge to be distinct ninety days period to show solidarity with those who join me in the challenge.

It's Been A Minute

Except for the fifteen or twenty minutes that I’ve spent periodically to clean my body and chastity device thoroughly, I have worn a chastity device 24/7 since December 1, 2020. I didn’t set out then to prove anything. The truth be told, the longer I have remained chaste, the easier I’ve found it to remain chaste.

Frankly, I now prefer to wear a chastity device every day and every night over not wearing one. Even when I unlock for cleaning, it feels weird to me having the device removed and I’m always eager to put it back on. I don’t have a keyholder except for those occasions when I’ve engaged a pro keyholder, so I do chastity for me, not for a partner. I’m sure having a partner to share chastity with is far more rewarding than what I experience. Yet I get so many benefits from remaining locked and semen retention that I have permanently embraced the chastity life. I say all this to say that I’ll find it more than a little uncomfortable to remain unlocked for seventy-hours. But even if only one other person joins me in the Chastity 90 challenge, I want them to feel supported knowing someone else is going through each day with them as a distinct ninety-day period.

Honestly, since I’ve observed permanent chastity, the past two Locktober events haven’t challenged me. They have been just another month of doing something I already willingly did every other day of the year. That’s why I want this ninety-day challenge to be a distinct period where I’ll do seventy-two hours unlocked both at the beginning and the end.

Spoiler Alert

As you probably surmised from the image accompanying this post, I’ll be wearing the Holy Trainer Nub V5 for the Chasity 90 challenge. Holy Trainer got my new device to me amazingly fast. When I ordered it, they stated I’d receive it via UPS within 2-3 business days. I admit I wasn’t sure I believed that. After all, they manufacturer the devices in Switzerland. But they delivered. I ordered the device last Thursday, received notice last Friday morning that they had shipped it, and I received it early yesterday afternoon. I assume the company must have drop ship arrangements here in the United States to deliver so quickly for the modest shipping cost of $7.95.

I will soon post a complete review of the HT Nub V5 with a comparison to my Nub V4, but I’ll wear the V5 for a while before I do that. What I will say now is I absolutely love this device. It

isn’t difficult to put on and wear the V4, but the new locking device on this model makes it even easier to put on the V5.

As much as I’ve always preferred the heft of a stainless device chastity cage, I’m learning to love the comfort of these almost unnoticeable plastic resin devices.

I dropped one size with the base ring with the V5. While I’ve mastered measuring for chastity devices that fit correctly, I always follow specific advice manufacturers provide for their devices. The Holy Trainer base ring sizing instructions are a little different from those other device manufacturers give. Rather than telling you to measure and then order a ring size based on the measurement, Holy Trainer gives length in inches ranges to point you to the proper size. My measurement around my scrotum and penis base is almost exactly 7 inches. The company recommends their 55mm (2.14 inches) base ring for measurements between 6.42 and 7.03 inches. While that is considerably larger than the base ring size I wear comfortably with all my custom-made stainless steel devices, I took their advice and ordered the 55mm ring with my V4. I think the larger base ring size is warranted, especially with the Nub, because of the way the penis tub presses deeply between your testicles. And the 55mm ring worked for me as I had no ball slippage issues. Yet the ring always felt a little larger than I needed. So, with the V5 I ordered the 50mm ring (for measurements between 5.83 to 6.41 inches and I like it so much better. It felt slightly tight when I put it on for the first time and felt that way until I went to bed last night. But since I woke up this morning, it has felt great, and the device stays tight against my abdomen perfectly. So, I think I’ve got the right device to get me through Chastity 90 and I know I’ll be eager to put it back on and lock up on May 1.

Hope You Will Join Me for the Challenge

If you’ve done Locktober a few times and have always thought about doing a longer period in chastity, Chastity 90 is your opportunity. As I explained in the post about the challenge, there is no set start date. You can begin the challenge anytime that works for you. But it would be great to have others joining me at the starting line on May 1 and the finish line at midnight, July 29. If you haven’t read the rules of the challenge, there is no requirement that you wear a chastity device every day or even any day. You must only abstain from all masturbation, orgasms, and ejaculation for the ninety days. You may attempt the challenge on good old willpower alone if you wish, or wear a chastity device for all or part of the challenge. It’s your call. I prefer to remain locked for the entire period, but of course, I’m accustomed to wearing a device 24/7.

I’m planning to post at least a couple of times before May 1, explaining a little about aspects of the challenge requirements. So, please check back in a day or two for more information.

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Have We Reached the End of Interesting New Chastity Device Designs?

By Chaste on Saturday, April 22, 2023

There was a once popular meme with text that read, “Congratulations. You have now reached the End of the Internet.” Today, I’m wondering, have we reached the end of interesting new chastity device designs? Say it isn’t so!

The Dearth of New Chastity Device Designs

It’s been a while since I’ve posted a chastity device review. But it hasn’t been because of a lack of interest. At least monthly, I scour the webs for interesting new chastity device designs, looking for something intriguing enough to buy and review. But for months, it’s been the same old story. I got nothing. Maybe the proverbial well has finally run dry of ideas for creating new chastity device designs. I could be wrong, but I think the 3D-printed Cobra device by Kink3D was the last noteworthy new design, and it has been out for a long while now. Long enough, in fact, that other manufacturers have copied it to death.

Yes, I get it. There is really only one way to attach a chastity device to the human male genitals without the aid of a PA piercing. That alone is a significant creative barrier in designing new devices. Sure, there are full chastity belts. And while I briefly flirted with the idea of trying one of those, after researching them, I lost interest. They are far more complicated to measure for and require a great deal more maintenance than your standard ball-trap device. And if you gain or lose significant weight, a pricey belt may no longer fit.

Of course, there are plenty of existing device styles I haven’t tried. But I don’t buy and review devices simply because they have some cosmetic differences to those I’ve already tried. After all, I have plenty of custom-made, well crafted devices gathering dust in a drawer that fit me and are comfortable to wear without adding a device to my rather extensive collection that I know I’d likely never wear again. So, unless I spot a device I know I’ll probably put some mileage on if it fits well and feels comfortable to wear long-term, I won’t buy it.

As one example, I’ve never had the slightest interest in trying a Cellmate. I can’t imagine they are comfortable at all. Frankly, they look to me like one of those combination lock boxes realtors hang on the doorknobs of houses they have listed. Those devices with a tube that feature a metal cast lion’s head with gaping jaws and teeth and the end hold no attraction for me. I shudder to think what might happen to the tip of a penis in one of those things in the event of a nocturnal erection. And the pink micro chastity devices with molded vulva lips as a cage do nothing for me.

There are a handful of devices that have been out for a long time, made by quality manufacturers, and that have large followings. But for one reason or another, the devices have never intrigued me enough to persuade me to buy them. So, yeah. Maybe we have reached the end of interesting new devices until someone thinks up a new and superior method of attaching a chastity device to the body, what we have is what we get. Frankly, I’m surprised some enterprising plastic surgeon hasn’t invented a method of surgically attaching a chastity device. After all, body modification seems all the rage now.

What's a Chastity Device Reviewer to Do?

Around the end of March, I was considering buying a KINK3D device to wear test and review. I have reviewed several Cobra counterfeits, but haven’t tried the genuine article. And, it seems only fair to the company to at least test drive the real deal. But about the same time, it occurred to me I hadn’t worn my Holy Trainer Nub in a long while. So, I put it on April 1 and immediately remembered why it is one of my favorite devices and one of the most comfortable I’ve ever worn. Like some of my favorite custom made devices, the Nub is so comfortable I sometimes find my hand inside my underwear, making sure it is still there.

There is a lot to love about the Holy Trainer Nub. At least I think so. I like shorter cages because I like the tip of my penis to always be in contact with the end of the cage. And the Nub performs perfectly in that regard. In fact, my meatus (urethral opening) protrudes slightly beyond the generous urination port of the Nub, looking like tiny labia majora. This makes it possible to urinate while standing with little risk of spraying urine all over the place. I easily hit the target every time with no mess. The design of the device lifts the testicles slightly, which means they never accidentally get crushed by the thighs as happens with other devices I’ve worn. Last, the device is just plain comfortable and light as a feather.

Holy Trainer Nub V5

Short story longer, getting reacquainted with the Nub V4 motivated me to pull up the Holy Trainer website to have a look at the new model, the Nub V5. The noticeable difference between the models is the V4 has the traditional Holy Trainer “MagicLocker” while the V5 has a new integrated push-button lock that uses “barrel” keys. I’ve been curious about how that works since the V5 model came out. I have read claims on a few other chastity websites that the V5 has some other minor improvements, but just looking at them on the Holy Trainer site reveals nothing obvious. Anyway, I placed an order for a Nub V5 and expect to receive it early next week. So, I’ll be switching from the V4 to the V5 for a wear test in a few days.

I intend to buy and review a Kink3D Cobra next, for the information of anyone interested. But those devices have been long available and I expect most people interested in them and who want only authentic devices have already got one. So, maybe I’ll only be satisfying my curiosity about how well the knock-offs I’ve tried stack up again the original. But hopefully someone may find a review of the Cobra useful. Meanwhile, look for the Nub V5 review coming soon.

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Chastity 90 Challenge

By Chaste on Thursday, April 20, 2023

Chastity 90 is a ninety-day chastity program, ninety days of abstinence from ejaculation and orgasm and cultivation of self-discipline. For ninety days, individuals commit to chasteness and acts of self-denial. Ninety days to become a better person. Here is how it works:

During Chastity 90 you will embrace chastity as a means to the start prioritizing that which is truly important in your life instead of allowing your sex drive to control you. Let’s face it. For most of us born with a penis it often feels like we’re strapped to an out-of-control rocket ship that takes us to places we often don’t want to go and often end up regretting.

Are you tired of your libido controlling you?

Individuals who commit to Chastity 90 are ready to live differently. They know there is more to life than numbing themselves with porn, masturbation, the constant quest for sex, and other sexual distractions. Sound like you?

Chastity 90 Offers a Path to a More Fulfilling Life

Research shows we can radically transform habits in ninety days. And when you put that in the context of chastity, you can experience freedom from the tyranny of unwanted habits linked to your sex drive.

Sexual release feels good. That’s why many of us want to experience it often. And yes, our sex drive is a powerful thing. That can cause us to think of sexual release as a need. But actually, it isn’t a need. It’s simply a want.

Ejaculation and orgasm are not bad, harmful, or anything we should feel anxious or ashamed about. Sexual pleasure isn’t a bad thing. It’s simply satisfying normal (and very strong) biological urges with natural physical acts. But sexual desires should not control you.

The pleasure we feel from ejaculation and orgasm, those five to twenty seconds (the average length of the male orgasm according to research) of pure bliss at sexual climax is nature’s way of encouraging the perpetuation of the species. If we didn’t derive that pleasure, we wouldn’t regularly spend our limited time and energy engaging in the sexual activities that produce ejaculation and orgasm. And that wouldn’t bode well for the survival of the species.

Why Chastity 90?

In most things in life, excess creates problems. The same is true of sexual pleasure. There are negative consequences for those who cannot control their sex drive and instead allow these powerful urges to control them. I’ll be writing more about those negative consequences during the coming days. For now, I hope we can agree that controlling our libidos is a far better option than allowing our sex drives to control us. Committing to periods of chastity is arguably the best method for taking back this control.

Chastity Works

Chastity is the way to take charge of your libido and legions of individuals who practice chastity report they experience new freedom. Not only that, they also reap several benefits from curtailing ejaculation and orgasm:

Many believe semen contains vital energy, so abstaining from ejaculation can help build up and conserve this energy. This may cause increased physical and mental vitality.
By redirecting sexual energy and reducing distractions related to sexual desire, semen retention may help improve focus and concentration on other tasks and activities.
Some individuals report feeling more confident and self-assured while practicing chastity, which may be related to the increased energy and vitality that can result from semen retention.
Sexual energy is closely linked to creativity, and some individuals report experiencing increased creativity and inspiration while practicing chastity.
By building up sexual energy and strengthening the pelvic floor muscles, spending time in chastity may lead to improved sexual performance and greater control over ejaculation when you have sex.
Chastity can help redirect sexual energy by increasing awareness of the body and its sensations, including sexual desire and arousal. By developing this mindfulness, individuals can learn to observe their thoughts and feelings without judgment, which can help reduce the urge to act on sexual impulses or fantasies.
Chastity can also help individuals develop greater control over their thoughts and emotions, which can help them redirect sexual energy towards other activities or goals. For example, it can help you cultivate a sense of inner calm and focus that promotes better mental health. A period spent in chastity may help individuals find it easier to resist the temptation to engage in risky sexual activity or habitually seek sexual stimulation.
Chastity can help individuals become more attuned to their bodies and their needs, which can help them recognize and address underlying emotional or psychological issues that may contribute to sexual or porn addiction.

The Chastity 90 Challenge

The terms of the challenge:

Abstain from masturbation, ejaculation, and orgasm for 90 days.
Abstain from porn.
Take only short, cold showers for the ninety days.
Get a full night’s sleep (at least seven hours).
Limit alcohol consumption and recreational drug use.
Limit sweets, sugary drinks like soda, and foods with high sugar concentrations.
Avoid social media, playing video games, and watching television. These distractions will only make adjusting to chastity more difficult.
Limit computer and device use to essential activities like those related to work, school, paying bills, etc., and to visiting sites that will encourage you to keep your chastity commitment.
Begin an exercise program on the first day if you aren’t working out regularly already. Then workout or walk for at least thirty minutes each day of the challenge.

FAQS

Do I have to wear a chastity device for ninety straight days?

No. Whether you choose to wear a chastity device at all is completely up to you. To take part in the challenge, all you must do is commit to ninety days of complete abstinence from orgasm and ejaculation.

I recommend wearing a chastity device for two reasons. It serves as a physical reminder of your pledge. It provides a physical barrier to impulse masturbation. There is nothing magic about a chastity device, but it is a useful tool to support willpower.

If you choose to wear a chastity device, unlike challenges like Locktober, there is no requirement that you wear it every single day of the challenge. In fact, I DO NOT recommend that anyone try putting on a chastity device for the first time (or after a long period of not wearing one) and trying to wear it for 90 straight days.

If you want to attempt the challenge and want to try wearing a chastity device for the first time, here is a very gradual, 6 weeks to 24/7 chastity training schedule you might consider: https://kinky-world.net/male-chastity-training-6-weeks-from-chastity-device-beginner-to-24-7-chastity-slave/

Isn’t it unhealthy not to ejaculate for 90 straight days?

No. There is no scientific evidence that refraining from ejaculation for any period of time is unhealthy. When we don’t ejaculate semen, the body absorbs it or sometimes expels it through nocturnal emissions (wet dreams). It doesn’t just keep building up. Despite a well known study that suggested frequent ejaculation might decrease the chances of prostate cancer, those claims have been largely debunked because the study did not adhere to the scientific method.

When does the challenge begin?

Unlike other chastity challenges, there is no set date for this challenge. You can start anytime you wish. But there’s no time like the present. Consider starting May 1.

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Chastity 90

By Chaste on Sunday, April 2, 2023

Chastity 90? Lately, I’ve been meditating on what chastity means to me and the progression I’ve undergone since incorporating it into my life. I pondered what seemed most responsible for moving me from mere curiosity to become passionate about practicing chastity to finally adopting chastity as a lifestyle. Reflecting on it, I realized what it was. It was the first time I experienced practicing chastity for 90 days. And that realization motivated me to write this post, because I think it could be something that others might find useful.

Reviewing the Benefits of Chastity

Those who follow this blog or others like it or who have perhaps read one of the many books available on chastity have read about it and the benefits that many claim it offers. As a quick review, the practice of chastity means abstaining from ejaculation or orgasm, either for a certain period or indefinitely.

Many people, from ancient times to the present, have held the basic idea that semen is a precious substance, rich in life force and vital energy. According to this perspective, they view ejaculation as a loss and waste of this energy, which can lead to physical and mental exhaustion, as well as a weakened immune system and decreased vitality. By definition then, chastity involves semen retention. And many claim semen retention offers some important benefits.

Among them:

(1) Increased energy and vitality

(2) Improved focus and concentration

(3) Increased confidence and self-esteem

(4) Enhanced creativity

(5) Improved sexual performance

(6) Improved mental health

Many who have practiced chastity and thus semen retention claim having experienced all these benefits and more. Yes, the reported benefits are based on anecdotal evidence, and it’s important to note that scientific research on the benefits of chastity and semen retention is limited. But the sheer number of people who have reported experiencing these benefits by practicing chastity lend the ring of authenticity to the claims.

I have experienced these benefits while practicing chastity, so I find it easy to believe the similar claims of others that track with my firsthand experiences. But I’ve learned you must spend a lengthy time in chastity to appropriate all the amazing benefits it offers. The first time I spent 90 days in chastity was the first time I experienced all the benefits I listed above significantly.

Why Short-Term Chastity is Not Sufficient

I believe there are benefits available from practicing shorter terms of chastity, but my experiences and the experiences of others I’ve heard about point to something important. While you might experience some benefits or in rare instances, even most of them during a week or a month spent in chastity, you really will have only scratched the surface.

To fully realize all the powerful benefits, I believe spending 90 days in chastity and abstaining from ejaculation is the minimum period necessary to fully experience the benefits. And from there, it only gets better the longer and deeper you go into living a chaste life.

Maybe you’ve only ever managed a few days or a week in chastity. Or perhaps you’ve struggled through a full month either on your own or while participating in Locktober or one of the other month-long chastity events many observe each year. Completing a month in chastity, especially while locked in a chastity device, is a significant accomplishment. And for those who have achieved it, I’m sure they got a taste of all the benefits I’ve mentioned. But I’m just as certain that a month is not nearly long enough to reap the richer, deeper aspects.

Instead of a month-long challenge, why not challenge yourself to spend 90 days in chastity? I’m convinced that those who do that will learn for themselves what chastity is all about and how beneficial it truly is. I’ve found it transformative and I think you can, too.

But Isn’t 90 Days Really Hard?

I found that spending thirty days locked in chastity for the first time was the most difficult thing I’d ever done. In fact, I found it so difficult that had I not been under the supervision of a keyholder, I would have probably given up after the first week.

Since then, I’ve found it gets much easier. The first time I spent 60 days in chastity was easier than the first 30 and then 90 days was easier than 60. And the longer I stayed locked after that, the easier it became. At some point you become so accustomed to it, you rarely think about what it feels like to not be in chastity or to ejaculate whenever you want. If you set your mind to do it, you can make the 90 days.

But Isn’t it Unhealthy to Retain Semen for 90 Days?

For most guys, semen retention in and of itself is not harmful, as it simply involves abstaining from ejaculation or orgasm. This is true, regardless of how long you abstain from ejaculation or orgasm. Semen doesn’t just continue building up. The body breaks the semen down and reabsorbs it, or sometimes, the body may expel semen either by leakage or through nocturnal emissions also called “wet dreams.”

It is important to note that semen retention may not be recommended for individuals with certain medical conditions, such as prostate problems or infections. In these cases, ejaculation can be an important part of maintaining prostate health. But for most of us, lengthy periods of semen retention are not harmful. It’s beneficial.

But I’ve Never Been Able to Wear a Chastity Device for More Than a Few Days

As you may already know, after I wrote and published The 7 Day Chastity Challenge, I conducted a survey to learn about the experiences of individuals who had taken on the challenge. A surprising number reported that they physically could not wear a chastity device for seven full days.

If I had to guess, I’d say for most of them that probably resulted from having a poorly fitted device. Instead of taking careful measurements to get the best fitting device they could afford, I’d bet many either bought a device they thought looked cool or else got something cheap and in either case didn’t fit them well. I made those same mistakes when I first began experimenting with chastity. Since I was only satisfying my curiosity, I wasn’t ready to spend several hundred bucks for a quality, custom fitted device, so I wasted money on three different ill-fitting devices before I found one that worked.

I’d also bet some of those unable to wear a device for a full week simply didn’t find the discomfort worth it and threw in the towel. Accepting even minor irritation and discomfort is more difficult for some than for others.

I still recall what it was like when I first engaged a professional keyholder for chastity training. I had sore spots after the first few days that lasted for almost two weeks, and I experienced some annoying testicular discomfort for at least the first week. Then my body adjusted to having the hunk of stainless steel attached to it, and the soreness and discomfort went away. I was committing to succeeding, mostly because I didn’t want to disappoint my keyholder. So I stuck it out. But some guys lack the commitment and once things get uncomfortable, they choose to quit instead of giving their bodies time to make the adjustment.

Personally, I think it would be rare to find someone without some physical anomaly who couldn’t acclimate to wearing a well-fitted chastity device within one to two weeks with sufficient motivation to succeed. But I could be wrong.

Yes, chastity devices can support the practice of chastity by preventing individuals from engaging in sexual activity or masturbation. Chastity devices prevent erection and orgasm. They represent a physical barrier to giving in to sexual impulses. I’ve found them an invaluable aid. But I also know ball-trap chastity devices are not magic.

Unless combined with a piercing for added security, with enough motivation, I know that all ball-trap devices are escapable while locked. And anyone holding their own keys can simply unlock and remove them whenever they wish.

For me, a chastity device is more a symbol of my commitment to chastity than a failsafe barrier to giving in to my sexual impulses. So, while it requires greater willpower, it’s definitely possible to practice chastity and to refrain from sexual activity and masturbation without wearing a chastity device. I believe I could remain chaste without wearing a device at this point in my journey. But I like the symbol, I like the reminder of my commitment, so I continue wearing a device every day.

Are You Up for a 90-Day Chastity Challenge?

I’m putting the finishing touches on Chastity 90, a challenging 90-day period of abstinence and self-discipline, supported by suggested activities to help you succeed. The 90-day benchmark is not arbitrary, but the minimum number of days I firmly believe is necessary for individuals to reap the full benefit of a time spent in chastity. If you’re interested, watch for the next post where I’ll outline the Chastity 90 Challenge.

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The Secret to Successfully Adding Male Chastity to Your Relationship Revealed In 7 Simple Rules

By Chaste on Tuesday, October 11, 2022

I suspect many guys are observing this eleventh day of Locktober 2022 solo, or like me, under the supervision of a pro keyholder. Still, I expect there are guys who finally found the courage to approach their wife or partner this year to have the chastity discussion. And a smaller subset of that group persuaded their significant others to add male chastity to their relationship, at least as a trial for the month of October. If that describes you, congratulations. And I hope you will take a few moments to contemplate the secret to successfully adding male chastity to your relationship revealed in 7 simple rules.

A hilarious, satirical forum post I read on Chastity Mansion last evening, “How to get my husband to embrace a Canasta Centric Lifestyle?” by a woman going by the name Ashley Wilson Black is what sparked the idea of this post. Basically, she was poking a little fun at the guys who are forever posting in the forums, asking for advice on how to get their wives or partners to embrace male chastity. She cleverly turned it around to the female perspective, substituting the name of a card game (Canasta) for chastity. Maybe she was a bit harsh it spots, but I definitely got where she was coming from. So, for those lucky guys out there who convinced their wives or partners to explore chastity with them by acting as their key holders, you don’t want to blow it. And here I’m offering some simple rules that might just keep you from doing that.

Rule #1: Balance Reality with the Fantasy

Let’s be honest. At least at the beginning, the urge to satisfy a very common male fantasy motivates a guy’s interest in chastity. They want to spend long periods (just not too long) locked up at the mercy of a cruel, adamantine Mistress who will demand constant sexual pleasure through oral stimulation while he must suffer the pains of denial, unable to even have an erection. It’s the attraction of tease and denial play that most often drives initial interest in chastity, not the practice of chastity itself.

There is nothing wrong with sexual fantasies or seeking to enact them as long as no one gets harmed. But if it’s only fantasy driving it, chastity is likely to turn out massively disappointing both for the chastised male and his key holder. Take your joint foray into chastity with a healthy dose of reality because chances are good, your fantasy is not likely to ever be fully realized. And I can even make an argument for why it shouldn’t. You see, male chastity isn’t about you and your dick. It’s about your key holder and chastity should ALWAYS be female-focused (or partner-focused for those whose tastes may lie elsewhere).

Rule #2: Don’t Try to Mold Your Partner into a Dominatrix

Another question I often see guys post in chastity forums is how they can get their wives or partners to act more dominant. Here again, we see fantasy fulfillment outside the bounds of reality raising its ugly head. How do you get your wife or partner to act more dominant? You probably don’t. Simple as that. Long before I ever tried male chastity, I was heavily involved in the kink community. Yes, I offer only anecdotal evidence, based on my experiences, but I firmly believe that dominants (in the sexual and kink contexts) are born, not made.

That doesn’t mean there aren’t lots of people who can act effectively in the role of a top when so inclined, but here I’m talking about an actual, honest to goodness dominant. If your wife or partner had not a kinky bone in her body before you broached the subject of male chastity and asked her to become your key holder, it’s most unlikely she is going to turn magically into the harsh, implacable Dominatrix of your fantasies. Back during my days in the kink community, when the novel Fifty Shades of Grey came out and interest in BDSM exploded, I can’t even guess how many women asked me a similar question. How can I get my husband (or other significant other) to Dom me? I gave them the same answer. You probably can’t. They may not even be interested in trying, much less be capable of it.

If male chastity is key holder-focused, which it is, you should never try to coerce, persuade, or pester your key holder into becoming something she is not and that might even make her feel hugely uncomfortable. There is a word for that. It’s called manipulation. Just don’t. Manipulation is never okay. Many wives and partners, bless their hearts, agree to incorporate chastity into the relationship and serve as their male partner’s key holder out of loving kindness and genuine caring despite how stupid, unnatural, and useless they actually believe locking up penises really is. So, please don’t repay these wonderful women by telling them how they need to do a better job of fulfilling your fantasies.

Rule #3: Don’t Talk to Your Key Holder About Chasity and Kink Constantly

You know what I hate most about Twitter? It’s the political and social justice activists. They rarely, if ever, post about anything but politics and social justice. They simply don’t grasp that not everyone is obsessed with politics and social justice as they are and that they bore the holy hell out of people like me. In fact, I end up not only hating them but everything they advocate and stand for because it reminds me of them. And they are too self-absorbed and ignorant to understand they do their various causes way more harm than good. I actually view a lot of things negatively today that I once either saw positively or at least had no strong opinion about either way because of the self-appointed, self-styled, in your face activist assholes on Twitter. This is exactly the reason you shouldn’t talk to your partner incessantly about chastity. Trust me. The vast majority of them will never feel as fanatical about it as you do. Chastity is not on her mind or something she wants on her mind all day, every day.

Most of the time, a wife or partner agrees to chastity and to becoming a key holder because they love their penis owning partner and want them to be happy. They see cooperating with the latest kinky thing he picked up on the Internet as just another relationship cross they must bear. Secretly, they hope the chastity cage will turn out massively uncomfortable if not outright painful, and that their partner will soon lose interest in it. After all, it’s stupid, unnatural, and pointless, anyway. But even those who may discover to their complete astonishment that they actually enjoy the new power their partner has bestowed on them and finally having the means to put a stop to the constant sex bargaining they have always dealt with, don’t want to engage in chastity discussions and sexy kink talk ad nauseam. Subjecting your key holder to this will only annoy them, so don’t be surprised when they don’t want to play anymore if you insist on doing it. A good rule to follow is this. The first rule of male chastity is don’t talk about male chastity, unless your key holder brings it up.

Rule #4: Don’t Complain That She Doesn’t Tease You Enough or Effectively

Remember our old friend, Tease and Denial? Many guys opt into male chastity because they want to be helplessly subjected to sexual teasing until driven crazy with arousal. Hopefully, you thought to cover the teasing bit when you first asked your significant other to lock you in a chastity device. Because once the lock snaps shut, that’s all behind you now. The quality and frequency of sexual teasing is completely up to your key holder. And guess what? Teasing may not be her thing. She might not know how to do it. She may not even be interested in learning how to do it. Or doing it all, for that matter.

Luckily, when faced with something they know little about, because of their very inquisitive nature, women often immediately turn to the Internet or a bookstore looking for resources that will get them up to speed. So, maybe, if you’re lucky, if your key holder never heard of male chastity before you brought it up, she might dig into the topic and learn all about teasing and how to do it. She might even ask you what sort of things make you pleasantly aroused if she doesn’t already know. But remember, that’s up to her, not you. So, if she isn’t interested in teasing or learning about it, you could end up with the worst possible chastity outcome, locked and forgot. Still, complaining and nagging will get you nowhere and may even end with her throwing the key back in your face with strongly worded instructions to never speak to her about chastity again.

Rule #5: Don’t Negotiate

Once your wife or key holder locks you up, understand something. There’s no scheduled release, no time off for good behavior, no get out of jail free cards, no negotiations. She decides when or if she unlocks your penis. That’s how enforced chastity works. So, don’t tell her how horny you are and ask her to unlock you. And don’t even think about *gasp* begging. If she understands how chastity is supposed to work and isn’t a pushover, even if she isn’t the female version of Christian Grey, she will automatically say “no” whenever you ask or beg for release. After all, she will reason: Isn’t this what he asked for? And don’t forget the first rule of chastity. Never talk about chastity unless your key holder brings it up. If she is a good key holder, she will even punish you for asking for release. And she should.

Rule #6: Never Refuse Punishment or Chores

Domestic service and submission are two things that we commonly incorporate with chastity. Focusing on the key holder usually means a guy doing household chores that weren’t previously his responsibility. The goal is to make your key holder happy by doing anything she wants you to do that she finds pleasurable, even if that is only you doing the laundry. But, at some point, frustration sets in. What you enjoyed immensely at the beginning suddenly feels less satisfying. What you regarded as perpetual foreplay doesn’t result in the reward of a nice, throbbing erection or the sexual release you want desperately. Maybe you even broke the rule and asked or begged her to unlock you. But she said no and now you’re left feeling angry and act out passively aggressively. Maybe you actively disobey by refusing to do a chore she assigned. Or, maybe you earned punishment for violating a rule, and refuse to accept it. This is another thing that can sink your chastity boat and ruin the experience for both of you.

When you refuse to do a chore or accept a punishment, you are taking back the power you transferred to your key holder and showing her that chastity is about you, not about her, as it should be. And that might just destroy your credibility in her eyes and she will never believe it’s focused on her again. So, if it is truly important to you to incorporate chastity into the relationship, grit your teeth and resist the urge to disobey when frustration sets in.

Rule #7: Don’t Use Chastity to Segue Clandestinely into Another Fetish or Kink

Your wife or partner deserves to know exactly what you are asking for when you ask her to lock you in chastity. I’ve known many men who wanted much more than just having their cocks locked up. But instead of laying it all out at the beginning, they asked their partners for the chastity piece first and once they got that, they then pushed for fulfillment of some other fetish or kink interest. For some guys, chastity is only a segue into something else they really want to experience, like feminization, small penis humiliation, or cuckolding. Not that there is anything wrong with desiring or enjoying those kinks as long as everyone agrees. But you should never ask your partner to add chastity to the relationship when you already know you intend to up the ante later by asking her to add some other fetish or kink. Be honest and lay it all out at the front end.

Yes, maybe she would add chastity but won’t have any interest at all in feminizing you, ridiculing the size of your tool, or having sex with other men. And hearing you want those things too may put her off chastity. But it’s dishonest to withhold information from her she might wish to include in her decision-making process.

Some kinks many guys think fit seamlessly with chastity actually don’t. Consider the three I mentioned, forced feminization, SPH, and cuckolding. All of those fit into the humiliation kink category and are all stand-alone kinks embraced by guys who find humiliation sexually arousing. That’s what sets them apart from chastity. They are self-focused, while chastity is partner-focused. At least it should be. You can tell me until the cows come home you want your wife to cuckold you only because you just can’t satisfy her with your cock the way a more generously endowed bull could and you only want her to be happy and sexually fulfilled. But we both know a huge part of it is how horny it would make you knowing some other guy with a bigger cock is shagging your wife, and even better if she lets you watch or gives you a play-by-play afterward.

Just a few rules of thumb to keep in mind if your significant other has agreed to lock you and hold the key for the first time this Locktober. You may not remember them all. But that’s okay as long as you remember this. Male chastity isn’t about you. It’s key holder-focused. As long as you remember that and apply it, you’ll automatically keep all seven rules.

If you’re observing Locktober 2022 and still hanging in there, well done. If it’s your first Locktober and you’re still locked after ten full days, that’s awesome. Good luck to all. Just 20 days and a few hours to go.

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6 Fantastic Locktober Temptations Hacks

By Chaste on Monday, October 3, 2022

Research published in the Personality and Social Psychology Bulletin suggests men and women have a similar ability to resist sexual temptation, but men’s resistance fails more often because they experience stronger sexual impulses. Here on the third day of Locktober 2022, many guys who took up the challenge are feeling the effects of the conflict between their pledge to stay locked for thirty-one days and their biological drives to seek release. So, here we offer 6 fantastic Locktober temptations hacks than can help guys keep their month-long chastity pledge.

Days 2 and 3 of chastity are the most irritating phase for most guys. Why? For the same reason that the first two or three days of a diet or the attempt to overcome a habit like smoking are most fraught with temptations that so often produce failure. Transitioning from getting exactly what your body is accustomed to getting and demands to not getting it is always an uncomfortable change and your body doesn’t like it. It can seem that every five minutes your body demands, “I need! Give it to me now!” As frustration and irritation mount, all a guy thinks about is his need for getting immediate relief.

The good news is, most of those who make it through Day 3 will find the going gets easier, at least until near the end. But that doesn’t mean the temptation to quit and unlock or cheat won’t raise its ugly head again when you least expect it. Here then are six proven strategies to help you deal with the temptation to bail on your pledge when it comes.

Just Breathe

Deep breathing exercises can get you through a surprising number of bouts of temptation. You can use the same techniques health providers teach those who suffer from stress or anxiety. Sit in a quiet and comfortable place. Take slow and regular breaths in through your nose, and breathe out through your mouth slowly. It helps to put one of your hands on your chest and the other on your stomach while doing this relaxation technique. Your stomach should move more than your chest when you breathe in deeply. So, watch and sense your hands as you breathe in. The hand on your chest should remain almost still, while the hand on your stomach should move noticeably. Repeat this process at least 10 times or until you feel temptations lessen.

Set Your Mind Straight

When your body whines, “I need it,” dispute that nonsense by interrupting the thought process and vigorously challenging it. Ask yourself, “Could I resist this temptation if someone offered me a thousand bucks?” Ninety-nine percent of the time, you will reply, “Of course.” That means you have the power to resist the temptation to give in and seek release. You just have to muster the will to do it.

Affirm Your Resilience

Anytime you start feeling chastity is too hard and you can’t do it, say “Yes, I can.” Remind yourself in no uncertain terms that you have resisted temptation successfully many times before, and you can do it again. Visualize success, not failure.

Walk it Off

Research shows that a brisk walk reduces many cravings. For others, a slower, meditative walk works. Either way, it is a healthy way to distract yourself so that you don’t give in to temptation. Aim for a fifteen to twenty-minute walk, or if you already walk regularly, go even longer.

Distract-Distract-Distract

Do the opposite of vegetating on the couch or in front of your computer screen dwelling on how badly you need release. Get up and get active, doing something you genuinely enjoy. Go to the gym, go to the mall, go to a movie, call or text a friend. This is another strategy for distracting yourself when your brain is telling you to give up and get relief. Find a distracting activity that fully engages both your hands and your mind is another excellent technique. Work a puzzle, play a video game, do some yard work, scrub a floor, anything that will take your mind off it when those temptations persist.

Make Giving in Inconvenient

Especially for those without a keyholder, making it inconvenient to access the key to your chastity device is one of the best ways to combat the temptation to unlock. There is the old tried and true freezing the key in a block of ice technique. That way, if temptation strikes, you must wait until the ice melts before you can access the key. Often, the frantic urge to get relief will dissipate long before that happens. Personally, when I first tried self-locking, I found it most effective to get the key out of my home and out of reach. I’ve done things like leaving the key to my device in my safe deposit box, in a desk drawer at work, or locked up in my gym locker. Even when the key was somewhere that I could access it at most any time, it still meant I had to get in the car and drive there to retrieve it. That provided just enough inconvenience that the path of least resistance was to let the crisis of temptation pass. It’s the same principle as when you’re on a diet and craving a chocolate bar or some other treat that will blow your diet. If you have to drive to the store to buy a candy bar or container of ice cream, it’s easier to resist the temptation than if you already had it at home. The same is true of a chastity key.

Bouts of temptation to unlock early and get relief often last for five minutes or less, and using one or more of these techniques should allow you to get past them and cross the Locktober finish line victorious.