Cut to the Chaste

What does chastity mean to you?

By Chaste on Thursday, December 19, 2019

Since I’m taking a break from another project, I decided to write a new post. Mostly because I’m still waiting impatiently for the chastity device to arrive which keeps my mind focused on my impending step into the world of enforced male chastity.

Today I’ve been ruminating on this question. What does chastity mean to you? Put simply, I view chastity as denying your penis sexual stimulation, and giving control of your sexual being to another, your key holder.

I’m curious to know the answers you might get if you polled a group of people asking “What does chastity mean to you? I suspect it might be quite a range of answers, often with definitions including celibacy. That wouldn’t be terribly surprising since chastity has its roots in both social and religious origins. Dictionaries even define “chastity” as abstaining from sexual relations or morality with respect to sexual relations, being pure, and of virtuous character. But as I contemplate it, I’m not convinced that chastity must include celibacy which I’m defining as absolute abstinence from intercourse and/or masturbation.

Other men who embrace enforced male chastity have posted on the web their key holders give them periodic release dates. They look forward to those release dates and to experiencing the rare and hopefully overwhelming orgasms they crave. It seems then the release dates, and control of their orgasms is what makes chastity work for them.

While I’ve yet to experience it, I easily imagine the feeling of a key holder owning my penis and controlling my orgasms is likely to feel highly charged with eroticism, even at a distance. But, as I try to answer the question I advanced at the beginning, I don’t feel that an erotic experience or participation in some kinky sexual activity is exactly what chastity means to me.

I think it a fair statement that the things we do and not do combine to alter us, perhaps even heighten certain attributes and diminish others. I’m willing to posit how I feel about me and view myself now as a man and as a human being might change profoundly once I’m no longer having the same amount of sexual release I’ve become accustomed to. The point here is what chastity means to me today might be radically different from what it will mean in the coming days and weeks when I’m actually submitting to it.

Based on what others have written I’ve read recently, it seems clear chastity changes you in a myriad of ways—mentally, hormonally, emotionally, and even other ways. That’s part of why I’m keen to experience it. It’s a big reason I find it so interesting. I’ve always been a seeker of new experiences, someone especially motivated to seek novel experiences rather than everyday ones. That includes sexual experiences, so it is no surprise that enforced chastity ticks a few boxes for me in that regard.

I firmly believe a person’s sexuality and their understanding of it changes over time. At least that has been true of me and several friends I know well. In a real sense, I think having a penis has just become too easy.

Evolution has made the penis an organ that efficiently provides extraordinary pleasure. During my life, it has been my great fortune to have had intimacy with a significant number of attractive women, a handful of whom I can honestly say were truly exceptionally amazing lovers. But, as gratifying and enjoyable as sex with women like that can be, if I’m honest, I have to admit the very design and nature of the penis means I can get the same physical satisfaction and sexual release from masturbation. So, sometimes you only go through the motions whether solo or in the company of an intimate partner. But, just maybe sex and intimacy is supposed to be at least as much about emotional fulfillment as about physical release. Self-pleasure then seems more and more an easy way out sexually. I have come to view that as a disadvantage, even as a weakness.

In conclusion, what chastity means to me is an opportunity for positive change. Without access to my penis as an avenue to satisfy myself sexually whenever I feel the urge, perhaps I’ll become a different person, a better person. Maybe it will force me to become more creative, to learn other ways to find and feel pleasure that have nothing to do with physical touch. I might even become more service-oriented and learn to channel and redirect sexual frustration and craving into concrete expressions of total devotion and respect to my key holder.

Over to you. What does chastity mean to you? Give us an idea of how it shapes you and your relationships. Are you in Chastity or is your partner?

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The Agreement

By Chaste on Wednesday, December 18, 2019

In the previous post, I promised to share a little about my agreement with my key holder, who for the purposes of this blog is known as Lady Jayne. First, let me say how fortunate I feel I am to have met her. She is extremely knowledgeable about enforced male chastity and has a good deal of experience with it. I don’t think I could be in better hands. Figuratively speaking, of course.

I just signed an agreement yesterday that covers what amounts to a 30-day introduction to enforced male chastity. This period of time allows me to learn whether male chastity is something I wish to experience long-term. It also gives Lady Jane the opportunity to evaluate me and decide whether I am the kind of guy she wishes to be the key holder for.

While we haven’t had a lot of interaction yet, already I am very impressed with Lady Jayne’s knowledge and professional attitude. She is an easy woman to respect, and already I sense her dominance.

As I’ve mentioned before, a lot of “vanilla” people are practicing enforced male chastity these days. So, submitting to male chastity doesn’t necessarily correspond with submission as practiced in D/s or BDSM. But, you can’t deny there is a real exchange of power involved. While I am a rank novice when it comes to enforced male chastity, I do have a rather lengthy experience with D/s relationships and BDSM play. Ironically, in terms of that, I’ve always filled the role of dominant or top. This then is a completely new paradigm for me to sort.

Now back to the agreement, it spells out the ground rules I’m to follow and provides me Lady Jayne’s expectations. During the next thirty days, I will remain under her control and she quite literally owns my penis. I am not allowed to touch except during cleaning or play with it at anytime whether locked or unlocked absent her permission and expressed direction. Actually, I find that concept quite thrilling to think about, having my most intimate bits in possession and under the control of another person. That bit is a major part of what I wanted to explore, and to learn how I’ll react to it.

In addition to wearing a chastity devices for longer and longer periods of time over the next thirty days, I will also receive assignments from time to time which I’ll be required to complete timely and to the satisfaction of Lady Jayne. These assignments haven’t been spelled out, but I rather suspect at least some of them will be aimed at elevating my arousal so that I will become even more acutely aware of my predicament.

It’s important to note that Lady Jayne and I do not live anywhere near each other. Our interaction will be only at a distance. That means, of course, that there isn’t anything physically sexual about our arrangement. From past experiences with power exchanges, I’m more than confident that even with the limitations of interaction at a distance, the control aspect will still feel quite profound.

The agreement has been signed, the die has been cast. Now it’s only a matter of waiting impatiently for the highly anticipated chastity device to arrive in the post. When the package arrives, I feel sure that things will get real.

In the next post, I’ll hopefully be able to share my initial experiences with enforced chastity while wearing the device for the first time. Until then, thanks for reading.

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The Jailhouse

By Chaste on Tuesday, December 17, 2019

After reading a ton of reviews on male chastity devices, I came away with two major things. First, a stainless steel device seemed more appealing to me than those made of other material like resin, silicone, or plastic. Steel seems more appealing due to its greater strength, aesthetics, and heft.

The other thing I learned, based on what I’d read, was steel chastity devices are best purchased from one of a handful of manufacturers who custom build them. Steelwerks and Mature Metal were two companies I saw recommended again and again. However, for a couple of reasons I chose not to go this route.

While a custom built device is no doubt optimal, it is a relatively expensive option. At Mature Metal for example, device prices range from $320 up to $480 depending on the model you’re interested in. The other thing is there is a lengthy wait of 6-8 weeks after you order before the device is shipped since it is custom built.

Given this is my first experience with enforced chastity, it didn’t seem to make sense to spend around $400 for a chastity device until I’ve learned whether enforced chastity is something I want to submit to on a more or less permanent basis. The other thing is after making the decision to explore enforced chastity, I didn’t want to wait 6-8 weeks or more before getting started. So, for those reasons I decided to go with a cheaper and faster option.

For my first experience, I chose to go with a more moderately priced device from a California manufacturer called the Jailhouse. It is the common two-piece device composed of a stainless steel tube, or cage and a stainless steel ring which connects with the cage using a series of three pins. There is a hole drilled in the center pin where either a small padlock or a numbered plastic lock can be used to secure the device.

The Jailhouse isn’t the cheapest way to go. I saw many similar style devices on Amazon for example which looked almost identical that were half its price. But, having researched this all quite exhaustively I was convinced getting the cheapest thing was not the way to go. So, a little more research led me to the device I ordered.

While I haven’t received the Jailhouse yet, I feel confident it will meet my expectations for a first device. Something I only learned after ordering it was it is basically a knockoff version in stainless steel of a very well known chastity device called the CB-6000. The CB-6000 has been the entry level device of choice for a great many men trying enforced chastity for the first time, but it is only available in poly-carbonate. Since I wanted steel, it wasn’t an option. Here is a side by side comparison of the Jailhouse and the CB-6000 to illustrate the similarities.

Notice that both devices use the three pin system, have similar looking vent holes, and the same style slit at the end of the tube for urination. Actually, as I’ve learned, the CB-6000 due to its popularity is likely the most copied chastity device in the world. You can even buy similar plastic models manufactured in China from Amazon, though the quality is no where near the same as you get with the authentic device.

For the gear heads, here are the specifications of the Jailhouse.

Stainless steel construction
Length 7cm (2.76 in.)
Tube inside diameter 35mm (1.38 in.)
Ring diameter 4.5cm (1.77 in.)

I’ve read both positive and negative reviews about steel CB-6000 knockoffs. The most troubling comment I read was from a very experienced guy I’ve developed a lot of respect for that found one he tried (not from the same manufacturer) to have a poorly finished interior that abraded the corona of his penis’ glans when he wore it while taking a long walk. Since I run almost every day, I have to have a device that accommodates physical activity without causing abrasions on one of the most sensitive parts of my anatomy. So, I’m trying to remain cautiously optimistic. Hopefully the device will meet my expectations.

Once I receive the Jailhouse and have had a chance to wear it a while, I will post a review for the benefit of others who may be interested in test driving a metal CB-6000 knockoff.

I hope you will visit again to read my next post when I’ll be sharing a little about the key holding agreement I’ve just signed with Lady Jayne.

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Cut to the Chaste

By Chaste on Monday, December 16, 2019

Welcome to Cut to the Chaste, my online journal where I chronicle my exploration of enforced male chastity. I’m your host. You may call me Chaste, and this is my very first post.

For the uninitiated who may have landed here out of curiosity, simply put, enforced male chastity is a practice where a male voluntarily submits to having his penis confined in some sort of chastity device. Once he is “locked up,” another person, known as the key holder, assumes ownership of his penis and complete control over its availability for sexual activity of any kind. The device may be removed only with the permission and at the expressed direction of the key holder. That of course means the guy is subjected to orgasm control or even outright orgasm denial for whatever period of time the key holder deems appropriate.

I can imagine there must be someone reading this is wondering why any man would want to subject himself to enforced chastity. The truth is, like many things in life, enforced male chastity is not as simple as it seems. The reasons why someone would desire to be locked up in a chastity device are likely as varied as the men who choose to do it. I’m not qualified to explain why others desire to experience enforced chastity, and to be frank I’m still trying to suss out my own attraction to experiencing it. That is a big part of the reason why I’m embarking on this journey of exploration and self discovery.

The practice of enforced male chastity is actually far more common than you might imagine. Also, it isn’t only kinky people who practice it. In recent years it has become quite common in committed relationships between partners who otherwise practice “vanilla” intimacy. Part of the reason for this may simply be the fact that the availability of male chastity devices has literally exploded in recent times. Once choices were few and costs were very high. Now the options are quite mind boggling.

When it comes to male chastity devices, there are two basic options. Chastity belts and chastity tubes, sometimes called cages. I’ve chosen to go with a cage device. The device is composed of two primary parts. There is the tube or cage the flaccid penis is inserted in and a ring which encircles the base of the penis and goes behind the scrotum entrapping the testicles. Once the penis is inserted in the tube, the tube is mated to the ring and secured with a locking device. In the next post, I’ll share more about the specific device I’ve chosen and why.

Ideally, in my opinion, the best choice for a key holder is someone you are already having an intimate relationship with. Sadly, in my case that wasn’t an option as I’m between partners at the moment. So, I had to seek out someone willing to act as my key holder. The best option seemed to be someone who offers key holding services on a “pay-to-play” basis.

After some due diligence research, I contacted a dominant woman I felt comfortable with who is willing to provide me the service I need in return for me showing my respect and appreciation for her by offering tribute (a fee). I’m quite happy with the arrangement as this woman, we’ll call her Lady Jayne, seems very experienced, straightforward, and someone I’ll come to trust. The more contact I have with Lady Jayne, the more confident I am that she is the perfect person to act as my key holder at this stage of my exploration. If you continue visiting here and reading my posts, you will learn more about Lady Jayne as time goes on.

At the time of this post, I’m not yet locked up. While the arrangement with Lady Jayne has been finalized, I am still awaiting delivery of the chastity device I ordered. Hopefully, it will arrive by week’s end and we will be able to get started. As a complete novice, I am excited about all this, but a bit nervous too. But, soon we’ll see how things go with it.

I hope you will return here to read the next post when I’ll share a little about the specific device I’ll be locked up in and why I chose it. Until then, thank you for reading.