December 2019 - Cut to the Chaste

Fellowship of the Base Ring

By Chaste on Tuesday, December 31, 2019

As I looked at the cage this morning, especially the circle of hard steel surrounding my balls and shaft, I found myself feeling a bit like Frodo Baggins.

“I wish the ring had never come to me. I wish none of this had happened.”

Well, I wish it only a little.

I’ve been horny as fuck for the past two days. My balls feel heavy and full. I’m desperate to come. Penis-centric thinking has returned with a vengeance.

Maybe, just maybe, I was attracted to chastity, believing it was about being locked until I was as horny as possible, followed by eventual release and a mind-blowing orgasm. Maybe it was all about having some really hot fantasies turned into reality. Slowly but surely, I’m beginning to realize that kind of mindset is the very antithesis of what male chastity is about. It’s not about us. It’s about our keyholders.

When I woke up this morning, I’d completed my second forty-eight consecutive hours locked. Today begins the second week with LJ. I don’t know what she has planned for me, but last night she made a cryptic comment that leads me to believe I may be experiencing something new today. What I haven’t a clue.

We had a nice long chat last evening before bed, a talk that had little to do with chastity and cock cages. It was more a conversation about normal, everyday things of life. Somehow, it made me feel closer to her like we are truly beginning to bond as two human beings. I like that feeling. I like the feeling of attraction for LJ that is beginning.

Being completely new to chastity, I didn’t really know what this would be like. I’m sure I thought there would be a lot of teasing to go along with the denial. But, at least so far, there hasn’t been any teasing at all.

During the times I’ve been unlocked, I’ve only been prohibited from playing with or even touching my dick beyond what is necessary for washing and showering. There have been no requirements to edge, no instructions to torment me with a vibrator or other toys. There has just been the experience of being locked and denied. LJ always gives me a small assignment to perform each morning, but never anything sexual. The assignments seemed aimed at reminding me I’m locked for LJ, that my penis is now her property, and that it gives her pleasure to have that control.

The thing is, I’m okay with all of it. I’m okay with being taught that I’ve spent a lifetime thinking with my penis, and it’s time to rewire the circuits in the reptilian part of my brain produced over millions of years of evolution. Sure, a part of me wishes LJ would unlock me and allow me to at least enjoy a full-blown erection even if she didn’t permit me to come. But, there is another part growing inside me that doesn’t want to be unlocked and given release.

As good as an orgasm would feel, and I have no doubt it would feel amazing, the satisfaction would be fleeting. A part of me would feel guilty for being selfish instead of focusing on LJ and what gives her pleasure. Perhaps I should instead be grateful that LJ hasn’t been subjecting me to intense teasing, which would only make me hornier than I already am and make me suffer all the more.

On another note regarding the ring, I actually found a vendor I can source a second base ring from for the device I’m currently wearing. It’s a cheap, made in China device that came with only one ring. It’s the 40mm ring I couldn’t get on when I first tried but managed to squeeze into when The Jailhouse device failed.

The 40mm ring has worked, but it’s a little tighter than it needs to be. I can get the tip of a finger between the ring and the skin, barely. I haven’t had any temperature or color issues. I just think a 45mm ring would be more comfortable. So, I ordered one.

After another inspection and thinking about it, I don’t think The Jailhouse failed to keep my balls trapped so much because of the ring size. I think it had more to do with the gap between the ring and cage being too wide. The fact the ring was multi-part and had some play in it didn’t help matters either.
I’m looking forward to getting the 45mm ring and seeing if it feels a bit more comfortable. But, it won’t arrive until mid-January. I’ll have to make do with the 40mm ring a couple more weeks. I end today with another quote from the Fellowship of the Ring.

“Embrace the power of the ring or embrace your own destruction!”

That’s more like it. The attitude I need to continue to cultivate.

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72 hours in chastity update

By Chaste on Sunday, December 29, 2019

Time for my 72 hours in chastity update. As of this morning, I’ve passed the mark. While a paltry length of time for those who have been living the chastity lifestyle for years, it feels like a significant milestone for me as a novice. I wish I could say I’ve been locked for the entire 72 hours, but LJ made me remove the device before bed last night. I’d only reached the sixty-hour mark by then.

Frankly, I found it soul-crushingly disappointing to be made to remove the chastity device last night. But, of course, I’ve already learned my feelings in the matter are totally irrelevant, as it should be.

The device had become so comfortable, it felt weird having it off. And worst, being unlocked did not come with any freedom to masturbate or orgasm. I spent a fairly miserable night tossing and turning, unable to fall asleep until the wee hours of the morning. It was the kind of night I’d expected the first night I slept locked, which turned out to be amazingly restful instead.

My marching orders from LJ were to shower and lock up first thing this morning. That proved a bit problematic. After showering, I waited a while before putting the thoroughly cleaned device back on to give things time for proper air drying. Then I attempted to put the 40mm base ring back on. My balls weren’t having any of it.

Overnight had been more than enough time for my nicely stretched scrotum to return to its normal excessively tight state. It took more than an hour before I finally managed to coax my nuts back into the damn ring. I was thoroughly frustrated, and I admit more than a little annoyed at having to deal with it when there hadn’t been any compelling reason to have taken the cage off last night anyway.

This morning, I told LJ the 40mm base ring must be a little too small after all since it shouldn’t have been that difficult to get back on. I pleaded with her to allow me to order a custom-fitted cage with the correct size base ring. Well, I pleaded as best I could without risking making her feel I was overstepping and triggering a rebuke. She was unmoved.

LJ allowed the 40mm base ring might be a bit too small, pointing out she had been skeptical about it being the right size all long. But, she still firmly insisted it wasn’t yet time to order a custom-fitted device. I have no choice but to accept her decision to wait. Still, when a 6-8 week wait seems the norm with custom chastity device makers, I just don’t get why we’re waiting to order one.

I have my measurements now, and the base ring measurements show I need a ring size a little between 1.50 and 1.75 inches, which I could easily get from a custom manufacturer. I just don’t see any good reason to delay ordering it. If we ordered a custom device today, my 30-day trial period with LJ would already be up before it arrived. That means I’m stuck with wearing a less than an optimum device for weeks longer. That just seems totally unnecessary.

The moral of this story seems to make sure you get a properly fitted device you’re happy with before you start looking for a keyholder. Once you have a KH, you won’t have much if any input on what your dick is locked in.

As I write this, I am again locked. The first hours after putting the device back on this morning were miserable, the most uncomfortable hours I’ve yet experienced. Things are now finally stretching out again and the major discomfort seems to be behind me. I’m sure someday I’ll be able to look back on this and laugh. Today is not that day.

Not sure what LJ has planned for me next. I haven’t been able to suss out her planned schedule. There hasn’t been any discernible pattern. I was totally surprised when she told me to unlock before bed last night. Now I don’t have a clue how many days I’ll stay locked this time around.

Whatever happens, I remain determined to continue chasing the chastity rabbit down the hole without looking back.

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The Jailhouse Review

By Chaste on Saturday, December 28, 2019

While I only wore The Jailhouse for a few days, I decided to go ahead with this review since I probably won’t be wearing it again. Since I am now wearing another device to compare with it, I think I am able to offer a fair review.

Intro

I ordered The Jailhouse with a 45mm (1.75 inch) base ring which turned out to be too big for me. My right nut kept slipping out of the base ring as a result. But, in spite of the problems, a few days was long enough for me to realize I didn’t like the device enough to put money into another one with a smaller base ring. At least as far as I know, it isn’t possible to buy a replacement base ring only. That to me is one of the biggest problems with low quality, inexpensive chastity devices.

Note that this review covers only the version of The Jailhouse I purchased from a company in California. After ordering it, I learned similar (if not the same) device is available from many different vendors, though it may be called something other than The Jailhouse.

Regardless, all of the devices are steel knock off versions of the CB-6000. They are all made in China, maybe by multiple manufacturers. We all know what that means when we’re talking about male chastity devices. Cheap, low quality, but maybe okay for guys only curious about trying out male chastity, or someone who only wants a device for short-term bedroom play. In other words, China makes devices useful to experiment with for those unwilling or not yet ready to make the required substantial investment in a quality, custom-made male chastity device.

Here are just a few other vendors I found that sell similar (if not the same) metal versions of the CB-6000, including Amazon, like the one I ordered.

Lock the Cock

Chasity Cages Co.

Amazon

Obviously, I should have done more research before ordering mine. It seems I could have got an identical device for half the price I paid.

Meet The Jailhouse

The Jailhouse is comprised of six parts

1. Multi-part steel base ring with an open top.
2. A half-moon piece with two outside posts attached to it. The piece goes on the back (body side) of the ring. It closes the gap at the top to make the ring a complete circle.
3. A smaller half-moon piece that goes on the front over the three front posts. It also acts as a spacer.
4. Removable center pin with a hole drilled at the front to accept a lock.
5. A small spacer (about 1/2 inch in length) that slides over the center post before you mate up the cage.
6. Full solid cage with side vent holes and urine outlet.

If you’re familiar with the CB-6000, you probably see some familiar looking parts in the above image. If you want a side-by-side comparison view of the CB-6000 and this device, there is an image you can look at in this post.

Fit

Unlike the actual CB-6000, there are no multiple fitting combinations with this steel knock off version. The only option you get is the base ring size which is offered in 40mm (1.5 inch), 45mm (1.75 inch), or 50mm (2 inch). Only one ring comes with the device, so you need to know the correct size when ordering. Beyond the base ring, what you see is what you get.

I ordered a 45mm base ring, mostly because I’d previously ordered another cheap, Chinese made device with a 40mm base ring and hadn’t been able to get the ring on. I assumed I needed the next larger size. But, once I received The Jailbird and wore it for a day it became obvious that the 45mm ring was too big for me. Another problem I noticed is since the base ring is made up of three parts there is some play in it which exacerbated the fact the ring was already too big. After wearing The Jailhouse for a second full day, things had stretched just enough that my right ball kept slipping out of the base ring. Not a good look when trying to impress your first keyholder.

The cage length is 7cm (2.76 inches) and the diameter is 35mm (1.38 inches). Having never owned an actual CB-6000, I can’t say how those measurements compare between the two devices. I am pretty sure the cage with this device is meant to imitate the shorter CB-6000 cage. I have an average size penis. No, seriously, it’s average. The length of the cage was a little more than I needed. The tip of my penis never bottomed out. The diameter seemed about right. I had to use the stocking method to draw my penis into the cage. But, once inside it didn’t feel too tight while at the same time there wasn’t much extra room. So, for guys like me with an average size dick, the cage dimensions are probably going to be acceptable.

Comfort

With a solid steel cage, this is a heavy device. It didn’t feel like a burden to wear it exactly, but it was heavier than I had expected. I ordered it because it sort of has a draconian look to it, sort of like a Spartan helmet which appeals to me. But, as soon as I put it on the first time I was already concerned it was too heavy to comfortably be locked in during my daily fitness runs.

Honestly, I think if I’d bought this device with a 40mm base ring, it would have probably mostly worked for what I had in mind. I wanted a ball-trapping male chastity device to use for a thirty-day introduction to enforced male chastity to see whether it was something I wanted long-term. I already knew if I decided I did, I’d replace it with a high-quality, custom-fitted device.

The Jailhouse was generally comfortable enough. I didn’t experience any kind of chafing issues or pinching. I did really like the feel of the base ring which is wider than the more common basic steel base rings. The edges are smooth and beveled.

Security

Obviously, no ball-trapping device without a PA ring is completely secure. If you’re determined to take it off while locked, you can find a way to do it. But, with the right size base ring I feel it is as secure as other devices of similar quality. But, as my experiences showed, if you get a base ring that is too big, your balls can pop out of it.

Hygiene

The Jailhouse has side vents and a big slot opening at the end for urination. Both of these features I expect would allow you to get plenty of clean, soapy water into it while it’s being worn. I didn’t wear it long enough to try showering with it on, so I’m only speculating here.

Since the tip of my penis didn’t reach the end, my urethral opening didn’t often line up with the slot. That meant I couldn’t pee while standing, and peeing while sitting still resulted in more of a spray effect than a stream. Even doing the best I could to clean up after peeing, after the third or fourth time I had to go while wearing it I started to smell the odor of urine on me. That’s definitely not something I like. I expect if your flaccid dick doesn’t reach near the end of the tube where the slot is, the interior gets exposed to enough urine it gets dirty no matter what you do. The odor soon follows.

Other impressions

The quality of The Jailhouse wasn’t exceptional, but I find it generally well designed and built considering it is a cheap, mass-produced, China produced knock off product. But I have a few issues with it quality-wise.

First, it was advertised as stainless steel at the site I ordered it from. If it truly is, it’s low grade, certainly not surgical grade. The exterior of mine is highly polished which makes me suspect it might be chrome plated steel, not stainless steel at all. But, I’m no metallurgical expert by any stretch.

The interior of the tube is not polished, but it’s smooth and I did not find any burrs or rough spots. Still that screams low quality.

Everything fit together as designed, but as noted there was a little play in the multi-part base ring. That happens with any assembled machined metal product without tight tolerances. Again, it shows lack of quality.

Recommendation

Even though choosing the wrong size base ring was my error, I don’t think I’d have liked The Jailhouse much even with the right size ring. I certainly won’t recommend it to anyone looking for a good quality male chastity device.

I’d rather have a complete base ring than one made of three parts because of the play in the one that comes with The Jailhouse. I think that is real weakness of this device. Maybe it works with plastic as with the CB-6000, but it doesn’t work well with metal.

Overall, in my opinion this device is meant more as a novelty or sex toy than for serious, long-term male chastity. On the other hand, if you’re only looking for an inexpensive option for short-term play or exploration, it’s probably about as good as any of the other China produced metal chastity devices. You can lock up your cock in it, so it serves the purpose it’s designed for. It’s reasonably secure as long as you get the right size base ring.

Note this review contains my own opinions. I have not received any form of consideration for providing it, and I purchased the reviewed device using my own funds.

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My first night sleeping in a male chastity device

By Chaste on Friday, December 27, 2019

Finally, I experienced my first night sleeping in a male chastity device. LJ told me to remain locked when I went to bed last night. I had been keen to do it, which led to what seemed a small misunderstanding.

Yesterday afternoon I mentioned how I was really hoping she would let me sleep while locked. I meant only to convey how much I liked being locked for her and that I was feeling confident I was ready for my first night locked. Evidently, she either interpreted what I said as a request or a suggested course of action.

At any rate, I received a terse reply reminding me in no uncertain terms that she made the decisions, and what I wanted was completely irrelevant. Fair enough, I suppose, if she really believed I had overstepped. But, I was honestly only sharing my mental state at the time which is something I thought she expected from me. This goes to show that getting acquainted and comfortable with a new keyholder is just as much a part of this process as getting accustomed to being locked.

I’m not the type who gets hurt feelings easily. But LJ’s curt correction, which I truly believe was simply based on an incorrect interpretation on her part, smarted a bit. It also makes me feel less eager to express feelings as opposed to only the facts about my adjustment to being locked. That is problematic in my view. It makes me feel less willing to be completely open and vulnerable with her which I’d think is how this kind of arrangement should ideally go.

Anyway, it’s still a bit of a sore spot for me this morning. The shocking bit is she has been strict, but very reasonable up until the exchange yesterday afternoon. Guess it will start to feel more like we’re on the same page as we get better acquainted.

Later in the evening, LJ told me I would be sleeping while locked. I was a bit surprised by that given what she had said earlier. I half expected she was going to make me remove the cage, not out of spite, but to drive home the point she was boss. I’m happy she didn’t do that because to be honest, I would have seen that as petty. I have a very firm grasp of the dynamics of power exchanges. I’m not one to attempt topping from the bottom. I feel no entitlement to suggest courses of action to LJ, and I’ve not made a single request of her. I simply do what she says which is how I see the whole enforced chastity thing working. I hope we get this sorted in short order.

Well, off my rant and back to the actual topic, my first overnight locked. Sleeping locked was probably the one thing I felt a bit uneasy about at the beginning. I’d read a lot of experiences shared by other guys, which made me worry dealing with night time erections might be a very unpleasant, and maybe even painful experiences. As it turned out, I worried about it way too much.

I was awakened three times by attempted erections during the night. With the first two occurrences, things subsided quickly and I went back to sleep almost immediately. The last erection was a short time before I intended to get out of bed this morning. Morning wood, I suppose. It didn’t cause what I’d characterize as real discomfort. But, I was very much aware of some significant pressure from the base ring being pulled tighter. So, using a tip I’d read somewhere, I went to the bathroom and urinated which resolved things quickly.

In short, my first overnight while locked went amazingly well. I’ve now experienced my first complete 24-hour locked experience. I slept normally for the most part, and had no trouble finding a comfortable sleeping position. The cage is beginning to feel more like a part of my body rather than an uncomfortable foreign object. And, I am very pleased with this inexpensive, made in China, device I had to switch to when the Jailhouse device didn’t work out. It is amazingly comfortable to wear, and its open style makes cleaning up in the shower while locked a breeze.

The only thing I dislike about the device is the “shower head” effect caused by the end cap with multiple holes. Invariably, my urethral opening is never lined up properly with the center hole. So, when peeing, the urine splashes against the inside of the end cap and pretty much goes everywhere except where intended. I’m now planning a full review of the device once I’ve worn it another week or so.

I have no clue where we will go from here, or how long I’ll be locked before being released again. As LJ brusquely reminded me yesterday afternoon, she makes the decisions about how things will go and will tell me what happens next when she feels I need to know. Yep, cool. Pretty much what I expected when I decided to jump into male chastity.

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LJ Rules

By Chaste on Thursday, December 26, 2019

I suppose I’m in a contemplative mood today, even though it’s only my third day in chastity. I thought I’d start by sharing LJ’s rules for me in this post. The rules are few but straightforward. I’m sure most of them are similar to the rules other key holders set. The last two relate to the fact LJ is enforcing my chastity from a distance.

1. My cock belongs to LJ, period.
2. I must wear my chastity device at all times unless she instructs me to remove it. (A bonafide medical emergency the only exception.)
3. I can only come when given permission, and in the manner, LJ instructs me to do so.
4. When I’m unlocked, I may not touch “her” penis except as required for cleaning and must never play with “her” penis whether locked or unlocked without permission.
5. I am required to submit verification photos whenever LJ chooses to require them.
6. I must complete any assigned tasks given by LJ promptly and to her satisfaction.

Here is the contemplative part. As I was looking at the rules again today, I’ve agreed to follow, a few thoughts came to mind about exactly what accepting these rules means for me.

1. I no longer decide when and how often sexual stimulation or release happens for me.
2. I enjoy no entitlement to sexual stimulation or release.
3. I have no expectation of being allowed sexual stimulation or release.
4. Pleasure for me now is doing my best to show respect to LJ by obeying her in every respect, pleasing her, and submitting to her authority.
5. When and if LJ allows me sexual stimulation or release, it will be a gift.

When a man gives up control over the very thing that defines his manhood, he gives up a lot of other related things too. Most of them go against the grain of everything our culture says men are entitled to. Even though I’m only in my third day of enforced chastity, I already suspect accepting and embracing these realities will be among the hardest things I’ve ever done. And, I’ve done some hard shit during my lifetime.

Even so, at the very outset of this dive into male chastity, I feel deeply enforced chastity is something I don’t think I’ll ever want to give up.

Yes, LJ rules. She makes them. I live by them. I don’t think I’d have it any other way.

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Houston we have a problem

By Chaste on Wednesday, December 25, 2019

I hadn’t planned on posting another update until the 72-hour mark. But, Houston, we had big chastity device problems.

Things were going so swimmingly, I expected it to continue. But, at around five yesterday afternoon on my first real day in chastity, I lost my right nut.

I wasn’t even aware it happened until Lady Jayne, who for the sake of brevity, will be known from this point forward as LJ, asked for a photo. She wanted to check that my color was still good and there weren’t any circulation issues. I dropped trou to take the photo with my phone and that’s when I discovered righty had gone AWOL. It had slipped the ring and then hidden itself up inside me. I tried to coax it back through the ring, but it was a no-go. I had to cut the lock and remove the device to sort it out.

Weirdly, there was absolutely no sensation associated with the wayward nut. Everything felt copacetic. The damn device had felt so secure. Anyway, I put it back on and locked up with a new plastic numbered lock, thinking it was only a fluke. But it wasn’t.

About four hours later, I was sitting in my recliner watching football. Sure as fuck, my right nut popped right out of the base ring again. I wasn’t having an erection of anything. One minute it was inside the ring. The next, it was hiding again up inside me. That time I did feel a slight twinge when it happened.

After talking it over with LJ, we concluded the base ring was too big. Buying an off-the-shelf device, I had only three choices in base rings; a 1.50 inch (40mm), 1.75 inch (45mm), or 2.00 inch (50mm). I’d purchased a cheap device earlier with a 40mm base ring but hadn’t been able to get the ring on. I’d also tried on a 50mm standard behind the scrotum cock ring when checking sizes. It was too big. So, by process of elimination, I ordered the new device with a 45mm base ring. Without the option of a custom-fit ring, the 45mm seemed the right choice. Evidently not.

LJ was tied up with Christmas Eve guests when I lost my ball the second time. So, I took the initiative. I pulled out the cheap device (made in China) I’d bought previously with the 40mm ring. My thinking was if 45mm was too big, the 40mm had to fit unless I was one of those unlucky guys between sizes who has to have a custom-size base ring. Low and behold, the damn 40mm went right on, no sweat.

Later when we touched base, LJ was skeptical. She didn’t see I could suddenly fit into a 40mm ring that I’d been unable to get on before even using a lubricant. She was concerned about circulatory issues cropping up. But, she graciously gave me permission to try wearing it on the condition I took it off at bedtime. She is super safety conscious and wouldn’t risk me wearing the smaller ring to bed having worn it for such a short time. So, that’s what we did.

Christmas morning, I put the 40mm ring and the cheap device back on. I had to work it a bit more than on the night before, but it went on easy enough. My nutsack is the type that is really tight up against my base and likes to stay that way, especially first thing in the morning. But, once I got things stretched out a little, the ring went on and it was all good.

I’ve had this device on for about eight hours as of publication time. It’s simple and cheap, but actually I kind of like it. For one thing, it weighs a ton less than the other device that wouldn’t stay on me. LJ and I chatted briefly about me ordering a new custom-fitted device now that I may have finally figured out my true base ring size, or close to it. I’m feeling confident about the 40mm.

For one thing, I read Thumper’s blog religiously, Denying Thumper, and just based on the images he shares, I’d be willing to bet we’re about the same size. He has said 40mm is his standard base ring size, so from the get-go, I couldn’t understand why I had trouble getting the 40mm ring on before. I’m thinking it must have been because of my tight scrote. Wearing the bigger, heavier device for a day and a half, I think stretched things just enough so I could get into the 40mm ring.

Previously, I shared in this post the insights from an experienced key holder who advises this when buying a custom-fitted device.

“The main option is the length (short is good actually buy one way shorter than you think you should as well) the other critical size is the base ring buy that in the size you think is right and also the next two smaller sizes. Sure go ahead, start with the one that’s easy to get on. There’s a good chance it will eventually fall off even without trying. Go smaller, go a lot smaller, then go even smaller.” ─ Chastity Perkins

I’m definitely taking Chastity’s advice when I order my custom device. I’ll get a 40mm base ring and the next two smaller sizes. From what I’ve read, it seems an accepted fact that the weight of stainless steel devices does stretch the scrotum over time. So, Chastity’s take, based on her experience with her husband, makes perfect sense to me.

Meanwhile, I think now I’ll be able to get by with my cheap, made in China replacement until I get my hands on a high-quality custom-fitted device.

Rocking the cheap, made in China model

Hope everyone is having, or had happy holidays. Thanks for reading.

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Locked in a male chastity device for the first time

By Chaste on Tuesday, December 24, 2019

Finally, I’m sharing my first post while locked in a male chastity device and can relate my first in-chastity experience.

I received the chastity device yesterday afternoon. For the first time, Lady Jayne had me wear it for only a few hours until bedtime last night. The idea I assume is to allow me to gradually grow accustomed to staying locked for longer and longer periods. Here are my first impressions of what it felt like to be locked for the first time, and after removing it last night.

Physically the first thing I noticed was the device adds noticeable extra weight to my penis. Not surprising since the device is made of metal. It felt a little unusual at first. Not uncomfortable, only different. The device pulled my penis downwards a little more than normal, and the cage presses rather tightly against my testicles.

After a little while, the device generally felt comfortable. I found I rather liked the physical sensations of confinement. While I liked the looks of things, I can’t say I felt particularly aroused at the outset. Perhaps that only indicates chastity devices aren’t a fetish for me. Almost immediately, being locked did make me very aware of my key holder.

I’ve read some guys who are accustomed to long term lock up actually feel “naked” when not wearing their device. Maybe because I wore it only a handful of hours, I can’t say I felt that way exactly after removing it. Perhaps that will come in time. However, I can already easily imagine how wearing a chastity device will come to serve as a constant reminder of my commitment to Lady Jayne and our agreement, that I’ve surrendered complete control of my penis to her, and that I need her permission to orgasm.

Here are a few other thoughts.

Comfort

As said, wearing the chastity device caused no discomfort. It certainly didn’t cause any pain. Still, even after wearing it a relatively short time, I feel sure I’m not going to just forget I’m wearing it any time soon. I expect it will take some time to get used to it. Both physically and mentally. I’m already curious about what it will feel like when I experience my first attempted erection. I wonder if it will feel more like the good kind of erotic pain, or the bad kind of pain.

Wearing a chastity device definitely made me aware I was denied the full range of sensation I usually experience with my penis, that I couldn’t touch myself, and that visiting the bathroom to urinate can be a bit frustrating. I used the “stocking method” to coax my penis to the end of the cage. Everything seemed lined up, and I thought I might be able to urinate normally. Not so. It seems I retracted a little after wearing the device for a while, so the first time I needed to go and tried the usual approach, it made a mess. Guess I’ll be sitting to pee from now on.

As said, no real discomfort of any kind was felt. The base ring felt tight, but not too tight. There wasn’t any discomfort felt around the scrotum where the base ring fits. Having worn regular metal cock rings in the past, my body is likely already accustomed to that part it.

The Device

I’m pleased with how well the device I chose fit right out of the box. For a mass-produced device, it seems reasonably well made. The interior of the tube isn’t polished the way the exterior is, but it’s smooth without any rough spots. It seems I chose the correct base ring size, at least for making a start with all this. Since it’s stainless steel, there is some heft to the device, but the weight doesn’t feel overly burdensome.

Here is a look of me wearing the device for anyone interested.

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Locked for the first time

Somewhere I read a suggestion about wearing tight underwear to help with support when wearing a steel device. In preparation, I picked up some new briefs a size smaller than I usually wear. It does seem they help with supporting the weight.

Typically I wear relaxed fit jeans or track pants. I’ve tried on both while wearing the device, and the “chastity bump” doesn’t appear too noticeable in either. I have found I need to “adjust” myself more than usual, especially while sitting. I expect it will only take a little getting used to on that front.

Erections

I haven’t yet experienced an attempted erection, so I can’t yet offer any thoughts on how that feels while locked. Having nocturnal erections is the one bit I’m feeling a little anxious about. I’ve read the experiences of others. For some, it doesn’t seem much of a bother. A few described it as quite painful.

Current status

As instructed by Lady Jayne, I put the device back on first thing this morning after showering and giving the device a thorough cleaning. Since she hasn’t told me, I have no idea how long I’ll be locked before I’m allowed to next remove the device. But, I suspect I won’t be taking it off at bedtime tonight since she instructed me to secure the device with a numbered plastic lock instead of the padlock. I find I rather like the uncertainty over not knowing when or if I’ll be unlocked.

I’m also very keen to learn how wearing a chastity device and having fewer orgasms than I’m accustomed to will affect me. Over time will my body become more mentally attuned to some of the other erogenous zones? Will I gain a better appreciation through chastity and orgasm denial that stimulation of my penis isn’t absolutely necessary to enjoy life? Will I learn to enjoy the pleasures of my own body without orgasms or the ability to directly touch of my penis? Will wearing a chastity device cause me to feel more sexually aroused during the day, as my mind returns to the one who holds my key? These things and more are what I’m contemplating this morning.

Concluding thoughts

I’m planning to post the next update of my first-time chastity experience after I reach the 72-hour mark. While I have some initial impressions about the device itself, since this is the first time I’ve worn one, I think I will wear it for two weeks before posting a full review.

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Size matters

By Chaste on Monday, December 23, 2019

Size matters when it comes to choosing a male chastity device. It’s crucial. When choosing a standard two-piece device made up of a tube or cage, and a base ring, the size of both components are important.

If a base ring is too large, it could actually fall off, or at least you could fall out of it without trying. Too tight and it will be uncomfortable, it might chafe and cause raw, irritated skin, or even compromise circulation. Similar issues can crop up with an improperly sized tube.

Given the variances in the human male body, the importance of proper sizing suggests a custom made device built to exact specifications is always going to be the best option. Unfortunately, it is also a pricey option and not every guy interested in experiencing male chastity is going to be able to fit a custom device into his budget.

Like me, I’m sure a lot of guys have gone with the off-the-shelf option, at least for a first device. If it doesn’t fit well, it becomes a matter of either biting the bullet and investing in a custom made device or buying a different mass-produced model that may provide a better fit.

As I mentioned in the “Male chastity expectations versus reality” post, proper sizing was certainly a major concern of mine when getting started. Since then, I found an attention-grabbing article on Medium about sizing written by a female key holder, Chastity Perkins. She enforces chastity for her husband. Here is what she wrote that I found so interesting.

“…finding the right device and, more importantly, the right size which will be far smaller than the one you think is “too tight.” It’s best to choose a male chastity device that you think is the right size and then also get two sizes smaller in the various parts available.

The main option is the length (short is good actually buy one way shorter than you think you should as well) the other critical size is the “base ring” buy that in the size you think is right and also the next two smaller sizes. Sure go ahead, start with the one that’s easy to get on. There’s a good chance it will eventually fall off even without trying. Go smaller, go a lot smaller, then go even smaller.

After a week or so of this routine, it’s not only dulling that awareness but also conditioning the body to not constantly fight the chastity device. During this period, there’s a good chance that you’ll need to use a smaller device, smaller ring, smaller. Not sure? Go smaller. Go as small as can possibly be MADE to fit as long as nothing is turning colors.”¹

The idea a guy will acclimate to smaller and smaller sizes over time than he started with is something I haven’t come across before. Not only that, the rest of Perkins’ article indicates this occurs relatively quickly.

Here is my biggest takeaway from this. Buying a custom-fitted chastity device sooner rather than later might actually be the less expensive way to go. Most mass-produced steel devices come with only one base ring. While moderately priced, if you have to keep buying a new one frequently, it seems it may not take long to spend more than the cost of a custom device.

Also, with custom made devices, in most cases, I have found you can purchase a new ring of a different size from the manufacturer if needed without having to buy a whole new device. This isn’t usually an option with cheaper off-the-shelf models.

It seems there is always more to learn once you get started with male chastity. One thing for sure is I now have even more of an appreciation for how much size matters when choosing a properly fitted device.

¹Perkins, Chastity. “Implementing Long Term Male Chastity Enforcement.” Medium.com. 31 May 2018. Web. 22 Dec. 2019.

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Male chastity expectations versus reality

By Chaste on Sunday, December 22, 2019

Expectations versus reality. Things don’t always go like you think they will. Like, pretty much never.

This is what I’m thinking about today after receiving an update from the postal service advising me the package containing my chastity device arrived at my local post office at 5:43 a.m. this morning. That means if all goes according to plan, it should be delivered tomorrow in the afternoon mail. Shit is about to get real.

Don’t get me wrong. I’m still eager to experience this. But, given the whole expectations versus reality thing, I admit to feeling a little anxious. It’s not only a matter of what it will be like to be locked up for the first time, and all that entails, but also a matter of interacting with Lady Jayne, my soon to be key holder. I’m sure she has expectations too, though at least up until now, she has only outlined them in the broadest of terms. Did I mention I’m feeling a bit anxious?

There are plenty of things that could go wrong, you know. Like Murphy said. “Anything that can go wrong will go wrong.” For one thing, I’m obsessing a little over the base ring size I selected. I tried measuring first, using the instructions from one of the custom manufacturer’s websites. But, I kept coming up with different results. Finally, I decided to try the Goldilocks method. I ordered a really cheap (made in China) device off Amazon that came with three different sized base rings—1.50 inches, 1.75 inches, 2.00 inches.

I tried the 1.50 inch ring first, but it was too small. With a lot of effort, I did manage to get both testicles inside, but no matter how hard I huffed and puffed, I couldn’t get my flaccid penis inside with them. It was just as well since before I gave up my balls were already taking on an unfamiliar hue.

Next, I tried the 2.00 inch ring even though I expected it would prove too large. Sure enough, it was. It was comfortable and easy to get on, but all the advice I’d read on choosing base ring size adamantly suggests choosing the smallest you can get on and wear comfortably without any circulation issues.

Finally, I tried the 1.75. “Ahhh, just right,” I sighed. At least I hope so. It felt a bit on the tight side and did take some work to get on, but I wore it for an hour and my junk retained its normal color. I didn’t try wearing the device itself because it’s ugly and weighs a ton. I only ordered it because it provided a way to get a variety of base ring sizes on the cheap to experiment with. So, that is how I determined the ring size to order for the device I’m expecting in the post tomorrow. But, what if 1.75 inches isn’t the right size? Maybe it felt fine after wearing it for an hour. How will it feel after 24 hours, 72 hours, or longer?

After reading first-timer accounts by other guys on the web, I suppose the thing I’m most worried about is the dreaded nocturnal erections. How will I deal with that? Some described them as incredibly painful. Will my sleep suffer while caged? Not to mention all the other things that could go wrong.

What if the tube chafes the skin of my penis? What if the chafing creates patches of raw, irritated, sensitive skin, which then becomes a breeding ground for infection? I have a fairly high pain threshold. I am confident I can handle whatever minor discomfort the cage throws at me. But, a raw, irritated, infected Johnson? Wait. Obviously, I’m not gonna want to fucking deal with that.

It’s a lot to think about, to worry about, to obsess about when you’re facing something new and for which you have no frame of reference. Sure, in his first inaugural address, Franklin D. Roosevelt said, “There is nothing to fear but fear itself.” But, I kind of doubt he ever had a chastity cage locked on his penis. Chastity devices weren’t really a thing back then. Were they?

At this point, I can only hope I chose my first device wisely, that the fit will at least be satisfactory, and that I’m able to observe proper hygiene so I don’t run into any unforeseen problems due to bacteria and/or small, unnoticed injuries.

One can only hope. In this instance of expectations versus reality, maybe things will go the way I hope they will.

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How did you become interested in male chastity

By Chaste on Saturday, December 21, 2019

How did you become interested in male chastity? That’s a good question, one I don’t yet have a good answer for.

Having read endless blogs and forum posts about enforced male chastity, it seems for many men, it all starts with a fantasy. Orgasm control and male chastity are powerful sexual fantasies for them. For some, the sexual fantasies are so intense, they develop the desire and willingness to enact the fantasies and turn chastity into reality. That’s why it seems nine times out of ten; it is the male who brings up the idea of male chastity with a partner.

I’m certain I’ve likely fantasized about orgasm denial and enforced chastity from time to time, but frankly, I’ve always had a full and vivid sexual fantasy life. I can say that fantasies about being subjected to chastity have never been at the top of my go-to fantasies list. So, I feel certain the desire to enact a fantasy doesn’t explain my attraction to trying enforced male chastity.

On the UK Tickleberry website, I found this list of eleven common reasons men find chastity appealing.

(1) It’s a secret fetish a man finds highly provocative, arousing, and very sexy, to the point that even just an image of a chastity device could cause the beginnings of an erection.

(2) It links in with the sexual fantasy of surrendering himself to a partner in erotic submission.

(3) It’s not just concerned with physical sensations, but the mind, body, emotional, and innermost self. He will understand chastity as all-encompassing desire, fetish or kink, that’s an intellectual, physical, emotional, sexual and spiritual experience.

(4) From his sexual fantasy perspective, the allure is that a loving wife or girlfriend holds the key to his penis. His cock becomes theirs, it’s freedom is dependent upon them releasing him. They become the key holder and become the key to his release.

(5) A man believes he’s masturbating far too much and would like help controlling this by being made to wear a chastity device to prevent him from touching himself.
(6) He longs to be “Loved, Locked and Owned” by a partner, and he believes that wearing a chastity device will demonstrate his commitment and faithfulness to his partner.

(7) He longs to escape from everyday realities and to allow his submissive desires freedom. This is a “need” for many men who long to set free their sexual submissiveness in the safety and security of their own homes and with their loving wife or girlfriend.

(8) Orgasm denial is highly arousing to him.

(9) He believes that his female partner is superior to him, and he needs to demonstrate his acknowledgment of this by wearing a chastity device.

(10) A desire to seek his pleasure in pleasing and pleasuring his partner, thinking of his keyholder’s needs above his own. Wearing a chastity device helps him to sexually achieve this.

(11) He is interested in practicing Tantric Sexuality and wearing a chastity device may help save his sexual energy for his higher, emotional and intellectual self.

Looking over the list, I didn’t see anything that truly resonated that might explain my attraction to trying enforced male chastity. If I had to pick one, perhaps part of number eleven applies; “wearing a chastity device may help save his sexual energy for his higher, emotional and intellectual self.” But I’m not sure. Most of the reasons offered at the Tickleberry site involve an existing intimate partner which I don’t have at the moment. So, those don’t seem to apply.

Celebrated theoretical physicist Albert Einstein once said, “The important thing is to not stop questioning. Curiosity has its own reason for existing.” Perhaps then curiosity is reason enough. Maybe I simply wish to satisfy my curiosity about how it feels to be locked up and have my penis under the complete control of another. Maybe that’s explanation enough.

Month: December 2019

Comfort

The Device

Erections

Current status

Concluding thoughts