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Thirty Days of Chastity: Day Two

Chaste answers the questions from the "Thirty Days of Chastity" Meme from Tickleberry.com.uk

Here we go with Thirty Days of Chastity, Day Two and the second question.

DAY 2: Your Chastity…

What sort of device or belt do you (or your partner) wear? What are your likes and dislikes about it? If you don’t currently wear a chastity device or belt, what design would you like and why?

I don’t know how many chastity devices I currently own, and I didn’t bother counting. But I have many and in every material except silicone. And all are “beltless,” standard “ball-trapping” devices. 

Chastity belts intrigue me, the type that men supposedly made women wear in medieval times, but actually didn’t. The first chastity belts probably appeared during Victorian times when society sought to curb masturbation. But intriguing or not, chastity belts don’t seem practical to me for everyday use. 

Yes, I’m aware some men and women who practice chastity and orgasm denial do that, but I can imagine chastity belts are a nightmare to keep clean. And I’m just not fascinated enough with actual chastity belts to spend the money to buy something that’s reasonably expensive that I wouldn’t wear much. 

I am and have always been partial to steel chastity devices. The first device I purchased was stainless steel and although that one didn’t work well for me. I immediately liked the weight of steel. 

I’ve since purchased several more steel devices, including four custom made devices. But there are two devices I wear most often. My Mature Metal Jail Bird and Male Chastity Now Amicus are my go-to devices. I’d say I like both devices about the same. Both are well made, attractive, and comfortable devices. I’ve worn both for so long that, unless I feel the urge to go to the bathroom, I’m usually not even aware of them. 

What do I dislike about the two devices I wear most frequently? Not much. I’ll have to get picky to think of anything I don’t like about either.

Since I sometimes use remote keyholders, I sometimes must lock up using a plastic, numbered lock so that the keyholder can have confidence I’m not cheating. The problem is the Jail Bird doesn’t play nice with those plastic locks and rotates excessively. That’s because the design relies on the lock the manufacturer furnishes with the device to minimize rotation. But I’ve since come up with a solution after I found these nifty key safes available from several places on the web.

Instead of locking the Jail Bird with a plastic, numbered lock, I secure the keys in a safe with the plastic lock. That allows me to use the manufacturers’ lock to secure the device and still give remote keyholders the security they want.

Like the Jail Bird, I can’t say there is anything I dislike about the Amicus. But I regret I didn’t have Male Chastity Now make a small modification to the cage. 

The Amicus cage has only two vertical bars at the end, which allows for urination in the usual male fashion. But it also allows the glans of the penis to protrude through the gap. That allows the very tip to rub against your underwear and after a while causes irritation of the delicate skin. So, I wish I’d had the manufacturer add two horizontal bars across the vertical ones. That would solve the problem and I’ve since learned the company often makes this modification for customers who request it. One day I may send the cage back for the modification but it’s such a minor issue I haven’t done it yet. 

There are plenty of other devices in my drawer I like and find comfortable to wear. I especially like my two Holy Trainer devices. They fit well and are satisfyingly comfortable. But they are resin, not steel, so wearing them requires more maintenance for someone that wears a device every day as I do. 

As much as I like the devices I already own, I’m always on the lookout for another device. At present, I’m awaiting the delivery of two more custom made devices which I expect to receive in six to eight weeks. 

How about you? What is your go-to device and what do you like about it? Or, if you don’t have your first device, is there one that has captured your interest?

Thirty Days of Chastity: Day One

Chaste answers the questions from the "Thirty Days of Chastity" Meme from Tickleberry.com.uk

I’ve thought about writing a series of posts answering the questions about chastity from “Thirty Days of Chastity” meme I found a long while ago on the Tickleberry website. Not sure why I waited so long to do it, but here at mid-May 2022, I’m going to do it.

One way we learn things is from the experiences of others and that is as true of male chastity as anything else. So, my reason for writing this series has more to do with you, the reader, than with me.

Whether you’ve practiced chastity for a long time or you’re only thinking about trying it on for size, I hope this series might offer you some focus or clarity. For that reason, I hope you won’t stop at reading my answers to the thirty questions, but that you will give careful thought to answering each question for yourself. I think it will be eye-opening. You could record your answers in a journal for future reference or even share them with me and the other readers of this blog by posting your answers as a comment here.

Now, on to the first question.

Day One: You

What does Chastity mean to you? Give us an idea of how it shapes you and your relationships. Are you in Chastity or is your partner?

Since I don’t have a partner at present, the relational aspects of chastity included in the question don’t apply to me. At least not beyond the temporary engagements I have with professional keyholders from time to time.

Most of the time I’ve worn chastity devices, I’ve been on my own. But even those experiences with professional keyholders have given me glimpses of the power of chastity to change and improve relationships. And even practicing chastity alone has given me such profound experiences that it is something I never intend to give up. Wearing a chastity device is a unique feeling, impossibly difficult to describe adequately to someone who has never tried it, but definitely one of the most powerful things I’ve ever felt.

For me, a chastity device has never been a fetish object. I don’t wear them because the devices themselves arouse me. And I’ve never considered chastity a mere kink. I’m sure many people think a chastity cage is a weird device that must be uncomfortable and can’t imagine there are men that genuinely like wearing them. But I am one of those men, and chastity for me is a lifestyle choice.

After nearly three years of wearing chastity devices, I feel uncomfortable when I’m not locked and so I wear a device every day, removing it only for periodic cleaning, doctor’s appointments, air travel, etc.

The physiological and psychological aspects of chastity are what I find most meaningful. Rather than feeling sexually repressed from the denial, chastity feels freeing and abstinence helps me concentrate more on work and helps me feel centered and more in touch with the world in general. Before I began practicing chastity, I had depression that I barely kept under control day to day and lived with far more stress than needed. I also indulged in far too much masturbation and generally felt I never had enough energy and didn’t know why. Chastity changed all that for me and that’s why it is so important to me to continue it. I don’t wish to return to the way things were before.

I’m also definitely into sensory play which is something I discovered years ago when I was heavily into the BDSM lifestyle. A chastity device gives me a special feeling of enclosure with my cock completely encased and enclosed. There is a serious and functional aspect of bondage involved, something else I like, and chastity fulfills that for me, too.

While I find self-locked chastity deeply satisfying and meaningful, each time I engage with a keyholder, it reminds me that having a partner is the missing piece. Having a keyholder profoundly enhances all the things I like most about chastity and adds things doing solo chastity can’t offer. So, I do hope in the future I’ll be able to add that piece to the mix.

Another badassworkroom Update

I reached out to Guan, the owner of the badassworkroom, again yesterday through the Etsy shop, and finally got a reply. I didn’t ask him specifically if a COVID lockdown had impacted him and he didn’t mention it. Given where he lives, that wasn’t a surprise and also why I didn’t bring it up. He told me he had little time to respond to inquires lately because he is so busy getting orders out. And he mentioned order fulfillment is now taking about six weeks. So, whether it’s a matter of lockdowns or increased popularity, the quick deliveries that past customers have enjoyed and perhaps also the attentive customer service we experienced are now things of the past. So, I placed the order for the new device I had my eye on. More about that later. The good news is seems safe to order, although you may not get speedy answers to your questions or fast delivery.