December 2021 - Cut to the Chaste

Simple Goals For your Best Male Chastity Life

By Chaste on Friday, December 31, 2021

The important thing to remember as you reflect on your chastity experiences last year, and look forward to what you want to accomplish in 2022, is there is no one "right way" to practice chastity.

New Year’s Day often gets a lot of flack for being a largely arbitrary time to set new goals and resolutions for yourself. But what I like about the beginning of a new year is its reminder to approach life with an attitude of intention.

It's a great time to reflect on your goals

As 2021 comes to a close, it’s a great time to reflect on your goals, lessons learned, and what’s most important to you. It’s also a great time to start planning for 2022. Of course, this can apply to male chastity just as well as to anything else.

Maybe you’ve thought about getting your first male chastity device for a while now but haven’t. You’re curious and think you want to explore wearing one, but you’ve never pulled the trigger. Or, maybe you bought an off-the-shelf device this year and tried it, but you haven’t been able to wear it for more than a day or two without taking it off. Usually, that happens because the device you chose doesn’t fit well. Or, perhaps you’re eager for your partner to lock you, but you haven’t found a way to start the conversation with them.

Ask yourself a couple of questions

Start by asking yourself a couple of questions.

What do I envision the chastity life looking like for me in 2022?
What small shift in mindset, habit, or action can I take to achieve this vision in the new year?

These are great questions to ask yourself on this last day of December, and a new chapter in your chaste lifestyle begins. The point isn’t to put pressure on yourself to achieve but rather to embrace radical joy in your chastity.

Because if you’re not enjoying chastity, then what’s the point? Right?

Maybe 2021 was a great year for you, and you feel like you’re on a roll. Or maybe it was a really hard year, and you feel stuck and uninspired.

Wherever you are with male chastity right now, it’s never too late to set (or reset) your goals and create a plan to make the rest of your chaste life the best of your chaste life.

A simple goal-setting process

Here’s a simple goal-setting process that might help:

Write down what you want

Do you want to spend more time locked this year? Finally approach your partner about caging your cock? Find and purchase that chastity device that fits you perfectly?

Imagine that you could have anything you wanted, and you just have to pick what you want off a menu.

Write Down Your Next Steps

Once you’ve figured out what you want, write down what your next step could be to move toward that goal.

If you’re looking at choosing a better fitting, more comfortable device this year, maybe your next step is to get more accurate measurements. In my experience, knowing your measurements and finding a device that fits them as close as possible when you’re completely soft is the best starting point. Then, measure a few times during the day to get more accurate measurements that allow for body changes at different times of the day.

Keep it short and simple so your next step is something you know you can accomplish today or tomorrow in your spare time.

Once you’ve written down that first step, brainstorm and write down the next step and the step after that. The key to accomplishing big things is getting started and keeping going, so don’t over complicate it.

Take Action

Now that you know what you want and have your next steps planned out, it’s time to get started.

Look at your list and pick one thing you can accomplish today.

If you follow this process every day or every week, you’ll be amazed how much progress you can make this year—one step at a time.

Remember what's most important

The important thing to remember as you reflect on your chastity experiences last year, and look forward to what you want to accomplish in 2022, is there is no one “right way” to practice chastity. Some guys will want to work up to a full-time 24×7 scenario and stay locked for weeks or even months at a time, rarely being “allowed” to have an orgasm. A few hours of denial a week is more than sufficient for others. It’s important to understand your individual motivation and goals for being locked rather than setting goals for some arbitrary length of time to stay locked. Figure out what works for you and what doesn’t. Keeping a small journal of your successes and failures can help greatly. That was one of the reasons I created this blog.

I’ve had some successes and a few failures this past year in my practice of chastity and what I hoped to achieve with this blog. But I’m starting 2022 with new goals and am excited to see how the new year unfolds. While I intend to practice full-time chastity again this year, which means wearing my chastity device every day, I plan to change up the way I practice chastity to keep things fresh, exciting, and fun. I also have my eye on getting a new custom-fitted device this year that I plan to order before the end of January. I’ll reveal more on both of those things during the coming days.

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Reflecting on My First Full Year of Full Time Chastity

By Chaste on Tuesday, December 28, 2021

Rather than feeling sexually repressed, a full year of full-time male chastity has given me a new kind of freedom.

December 31, 2021, marks the date of my first full year in full-time chastity. Technically, it will have been thirteen months or 396 days since I’ve worn a chastity device continuously since December 1, 2020. So, I actually passed the one-year mark on November 30 of this year. Today, I’m reflecting the effects on my first full year of full-time chastity.

How I Got Here

I experimented with wearing a male chastity device, mostly out of curiosity after reading about the experiences of other men. Single and right out of a relationship, I lived alone and worked from home. So I thought, why not order a chastity device and see what it was like to wear one? And there were other reasons beyond curiosity that motivated me to try male chastity.

After my relationship ended, I came to realize that I had developed a sexual compulsion and an addiction to pornography. I also felt that I masturbated entirely too much, which wasted and consumed entirely too much of my time each day. Frankly, masturbation became boring. So, wearing a cock cage consistently seemed like a solution to the habits I’d fallen into that I wanted to change.

Although male chastity devices come in a variety of sizes, colors, and materials, they all perform the same function. By design, they prevent the wearer from getting a full erection, touching themselves, masturbating, fully ejaculating, or engaging in intercourse. The devices typically comprise three pieces—a ring that sits behind the testicles; a tube or cage that encloses the flaccid penis; and a lock of some type to secure the two other components together.

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My Salad Days in Chastity

I bought a device and began wearing it all day, and then while sleeping at night. The self-imposed orgasm denial and inability to get a full erection gave me room to focus on other things. But it was a fairly amateur approach; and usually after only a few days at most, my commitment to remain chaste would wane. When that happened, I’d unlock and return to my old habits.

It seemed having a keyholder to supplement my unreliable self-control was a good idea. So, after some searching on the internet, I met a professional who, to my delight, enjoyed locking men up. She was both knowledgeable and experienced. It was a long distance keyholder relationship, so she kept me honest using numbered plastic locks and frequent inspections where she required me to text photos, proving I was wearing the device and the assigned numbered lock was intact. Soon, my keyholder had me going from days of wearing my device to weeks and then months. While I developed a deep affection for my keyholder and enjoyed the interaction, after a while I felt I had gained sufficient self-control to go it alone and ended our agreement.

My Self-Enforced Full-Time Chastity

After ending the agreement with my first keyholder, I sometimes engaged other professional keyholders short-term whenever I felt I needed the extra support. But for more than a year now, I’ve been enforcing my own chastity. For the past thirteen months I’ve worn a chastity device continuously, removing in only once a week for less than a half-hour for cleaning and a thorough washing of my genitals in the shower. During that time, I’ve allowed myself one orgasm every ninety days, but only when caged. So they aren’t like the orgasms I once experienced. I never masturbate in the usual way, but achieve orgasm only with the use of a powerful vibrator against my cage.

While I’ve gone from daily masturbation and multiple orgasms to having only four orgasms during the past thirteen months, instead of feeling sexually repressed, I feel a new kind of freedom. I can concentrate more on work and feel more in touch with myself and the world in general.

What's Next

Full-time chastity has changed me and my perspective on many things. I’m still sexually attracted to women, and sometimes miss the intimacy. But I’m not focused on finding a partner for a relationship or to have sex with any longer. I can’t see myself ever desiring another relationship. And since casual sex never interested me much, I suppose I’ll never have intercourse with a woman again. It seems that chapter in my life ended during the past year. But I have no regrets.

Chastity has cured me of habitual masturbation and I no longer need porn. I like being able to look at attractive women I meet now and see them as potential friends rather than possible sexual partners. I’ve always had a healthy respect for women, but chastity has certainly deepened that.

I can’t even imagine not wearing a chastity device full-time anymore. It even feels uncomfortable when I remove my cage for weekly maintenance. The more time you spend locked, the easier it gets as it becomes your new normal. So, I expect to remain permanently chaste for the rest of my life, and I wouldn’t have it any other way.

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HolyTrainer Nub V4 Version Review

By Chaste on Friday, December 24, 2021

The Holy Trainer Nub V4—A light-weight resin male chastity device that's perfect for the micro chastity enthusiast.

Based on my travels around the web this past year, it seems that micro chastity may very well be the most popular segment of the male chastity device market. There are lots of models available in almost any material you might imagine. I own several micro chastity devices myself, including the Holy Trainer Nub V4 version, which is the focus of today’s male chastity device review. I’ve actually had this device since late March 2021 and finally made the time to wear test and review it. So, if you haven’t had the chance to try the Nub, here is your chance to see what all this device offers.

Holy Trainer Nub V4 Chastity Device Physical Details

Holy Trainer manufacturers the Nub V4 model from a bio-based resin that the company claims is one hundred percent natural and resistant to all detergents and solvents. The ergonomic design aims to offer wearers a device that provides both security and comfortable long-term wear. As shown in the specifications above, with five distinct ring sizes available, all Holy Trainer male chastity devices, including the Nub, suit the unique morphologies of most chastity device wearers right off the shelf. The rings are wide and designed to fit the male anatomy perfectly. If you purchase an original Nub directly from Holy Trainer, the device comes with only one ring, so you must select the proper size. You can find Holy Trainer’s sizing guide here. Like all Holy Trainer male chastity device models, they offer the Nub in three standard colors—black, pink and clear. For an additional charge of $20 USD, Holy Trainer offers all their models in over forty-five custom colors. Choosing a custom color adds twelve days of manufacturing time before Holy Trainer ships the device. The company also offers some additional customization options here, including an accommodation for those with a PA piercing.

Holy Trainer Nub V4 Chastity Device Use

The Holy Trainer Nub V4, like all the company’s device models, is a standard ball-trapping device. The wearer first inserts his scrotum and testicles into the ring and once he has positioned the receiver at the top above the base of the penis, he slides the tube into the channel to mate the two primary components together and then secures the device with the provided MagicLocker that comes with two keys. It’s a simple, innovative design that works effectively. I also own a Nano model, which I find secure. If anything, the Nub’s shorter tube (only one-inch), makes it even more secure. I think it would be extremely difficult if not impossible to remove the penis from the backside of the cage. At least I wasn’t able to accomplish it using a reasonable amount of effort. So, like the Nano, the Nub seems a reasonably secure device. I had no ball slippage issues with either Holy Trainer device. But, as always, I’ll give my standard disclaimer here. No ball-trapping male chastity device (without a PA piercing) is one-hundred percent secure. Someone motivated enough to escape one usually does.

Precautions to Be Taken While Wearing the Nub V4 Male Chastity Device

As with any ball-trapping male chastity device, choosing the proper size base ring is important. The worst that can happen if you choose a ring that’s too large is the locked device might come off or be too easily escaped. However, choosing a ring that is too small can cause significant problems, including compromising your circulation. As a rule of thumb, skin discoloration or skin temperature of the scrotum that feels cooler than normal body temperature are indications of reduced circulation. I don’t know how many images I’ve seen of men wearing chastity devices where their scrotums have turned dark blue or even purple. That’s no bueno. Wearing a base ring that interferes with circulation is asking for a serious medical issue. When you first put on a chastity device, your skin may turn a little red from the manipulation, but it should soon return to the normal color and your scrotum should never feel cold to the touch. When wearing a male chastity device, you should always be able to insert a fingertip between the base ring and your skin. If you can’t, the ring is too small. Also, if you are unaccustomed to wearing a chastity device, it’s a good practice to apply a little personal lubricant between the inner ring and your skin to avoid chaffing and tender spots that can make it uncomfortable to continue wearing the device.

Comfort and Feel of Wearing the Nub Male Chastity Device

Do I like the Nub? That’s really what most people want to know when they read a review. So, I won’t leave you in suspense. The Holy Trainer Nub V4 model is one of the most comfortable male chastity devices I’ve ever worn. It fits me like a glove. It’s so comfortable and light-weight, I forgot I was even wearing it in only a few minutes. Since I’ve been wearing chastity devices for a while, I know a two-inch base ring usually fits me best. So, I chose the 50 mm ring (1.95 inch) and it fit perfectly.

I also found the Nub aesthetically pleasing once I had locked it on and looked at it in a mirror. My penis disappeared completely, and all I had between my legs was tightly captured testicles and a piece of pink plastic. That makes the Nub supremely stealthy. Wearing only a pair of briefs, I had no chastity bump showing at all. Because it is so small, light-weight, and comfortable, the Nub is now my go-to chastity device for running and other exercise activities.

Hygiene Concerns When Wearing the Holy Trainer Nub

I always feel compelled to try urinating while standing when trying out a new male chastity device, even the micro chastity models. The Nub has a generously sized urination outlet, and I was careful to center my urethral opening with the urination outlet while putting on the device. But the design of the device means your urethral opening in pointed straight ahead. It might work okay with a urinal since the stream was unobstructed, but it didn’t work so well with a toilet. So, my advice is just sit to do your business the way it works best with other micro chastity devices.

Since the one-inch tube forces the penis to turtle back into the body, the one drawback with the Nub is it isn’t possible really to keep things as clean as you would like. The urination outlet is about the only place to introduce water and soap into the interior of the device. Since I’m something of a clean freak, I prefer to remove the device once a week for showering and cleaning the Nub itself properly. That isn’t a knock on the device, since every micro chastity device I’ve ever tried requires the same. The steel devices I generally wear are open type cages that make it snap to keep everything clean using my handheld shower head, and I rarely remove them for cleaning.

A Word About Nub Knockoffs

Since all the Holy Trainer models are so popular among male chastity enthusiasts, knockoffs abound all over the internet. There is even a steel model I saw available. I bought an authentic Nub that I wear tested for this review from the manufacturer. So, I have no knowledge or experience with the knockoff versions. I know they are considerably cheaper to buy and often come with up to four different size base rings. The one issue I’ve read on the internet about the knockoffs, and I’ve read it several places from different reviewers, is that at least some knockoffs have sharp edges on the receiver attached to the base ring that will actually cut your skin. Other than that, the usual considerations apply when buying a cheap copy. First, the material used by those making copies of the nub probably won’t be the all natural bio-resin that Holy Trainer uses. Next, the quality isn’t likely comparable. Finally, my device came with an authentic MagicLocker. Cheaper quality copies of the locking device will be supplied with knockoffs. I’ve had a few problems with those in the past and prefer the original MagicLocker. The $165 USD price Holy Trainer charges seemed reasonable to me, and I found it worth paying that price for the real deal. But I understand the temptation to grab a copy that may perform similarly for over a hundred dollars less.

Holy Trainer Nub V4 Final Thoughts

All in all, the Holy Trainer Nub is one impressive male chastity device. I really like the way things look when I have it locked on, and it has felt super comfortable from the first time I put it on. The one-inch tube, most of which slips inside the base ring, makes it impossible to cheat by accessing and stimulating the penis shaft. And as far as ball-trapping devices go, I find it quite secure. The available add-on for those with a PA piercing would make it even more secure. Having done several daily runs wearing the nub, I’ve retired the light-weight, 3D printed cage I was using for exercise before and will wear the Nub for running and other exercising from now on. If I wasn’t so sold on steel devices, I could easily imagine making the Nub my every day device.

Month: December 2021