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International Male Chastity Day 30-day Adventures

By Chaste on Monday, February 14, 2022

Today, February 14, marks the end of the 30-day version of International Male Chastity Day. How did you do?

Yes, the actual International Male Chastity Day is tomorrow, February 15. But if like me, you agreed to do the International Male Chastity Day 30-day extended cut that began January 14, we have finally reached Valentine’s Day. My keyholder released me this morning, but as Mistresses are prone to do, allowed only a ruined orgasm. But I’m okay with it. A normal one would have dissipated all that hard-won sexual tension and frustration. So, I’m not starting over at ground zero.

While I’ve spent far longer than thirty days locked in the past, my habit is to remove my device for a few minutes once a week for proper cleaning. So, this International Male Chastity Day adventure was my first experience with being locked continuously for a full month. It was an interesting experience, and my keyholder ensured it was meaningful.

Back to Self-Locked

After about a two-hour respite, I’m locked again in a different device. Today, I am beginning my wear test of the Rigid Modular Chastity Device Model 01 knock-off I ordered from an eBay seller. It showed up in my mailbox last week. Expect a review in a couple of weeks. But here are my initial impressions.

It came as no surprise that the knock-off device doesn’t have the same brilliant shine as the original Rigid device. That confirms my suspicions that the knock-off manufacturer scraped the images used on eBay from the Rigid website. But the luster is shinier than expected and definitely not the dull finish of most stainless steel devices made in China. I’m also impressed with the quality of workmanship. While not up to Rigid Chastity standards, the quality is surprisingly good for the price. The knock-off is also a dead ringer for the original article as far as appearance.

The device feels comfortable and not overly heavy as far as stainless steel devices go. It fits well, although the length of the cage is about a half-inch longer than I need. Unlike Rigid and their original device, the knock-off manufacturer doesn’t offer this modular device without the PA hook. And the design doesn’t allow for using the device without the s-hook component. I was curious how wearing a device with an s-hook inside the cage would feel since I have no PA and have never worn a device with an internal hook. But it’s a non-issue. I can’t feel the hook at all.

I’ll post a full review after completing the wear test. In other news, I also received two other devices during the past month I ordered. So, more tests and more reviews to follow.

The Device

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Male Chastity and the Goldilocks Principle Have More in Common Than You Think

By Chaste on Monday, January 17, 2022

If you are locked in a chastity device, observing International Male Chasity Day (the extended cut month-long version) for the first time, the worst is probably behind you. That’s because male chastity and the Goldilocks Principle have more in common than you think.

We are on Day 4 of the International Male Chastity Day extended cut version. If this is your first go at remaining locked in a chastity device for one full month, you may have already regretted not waiting until the real International Male Chastity Day on February 15. If you had, you would have only had to wear the device for an actual day instead of thirty of them.

Thinking about having twenty-seven more days to go until February 14 can be daunting. That’s especially true for guys who may have fantasized about being locked in a chastity cage, but they quickly unlocked after only a day or two when they have tried it in the past. But take heart. The worst of it is probably already behind you. There are three main phases you go through when you experience wearing a chastity device for an extended period.

Just fourteen more days to go in January, and then it’s on to February.

The Irritation Phase

The first day of wearing a chastity cage is often euphoric. It’s a new adventure you’ve embarked upon, for many the first time, and spirits are high. Success already seems easily within grasp. But that all changes usually on Day 2. Without a doubt, Days 2 and 3 are the toughest, just as they are when starting a diet or giving up tobacco and for the same reason. You are denying your body something it has been accustomed to getting when it wants it. It’s an uncomfortable change, and your body doesn’t like it. So, like everyone who has ever gone on a diet or tried to quit smoking, you feel frustrated and irritable.

Instead of distracting you from focusing on your penis, the cage is only a constant reminder of it and how badly you want to satisfy your urge for release. It can feel as though you have descended into one of Dante’s nine circles of hell. The more often you’ve been accustomed to having orgasms and ejaculating from sex or masturbation, the harder Days 2 and 3 are usually. But around Day 4, for most of us, things start to improve.

The Transitional Phase

The Transitional Phase starts for most men around Day 4. Your body slowly begins to realize that orgasm and ejaculation are not imminent, and it’s a waste of resources to keep expecting and demanding relief. Eventually, this realization transitions into acceptance, both mental and physical acceptance. Of course, you still suffer bouts of the intense need for release and frustration when you don’t get it, but they pass quickly.

The Goldilocks Phase

The Goldilocks principle is named by analogy to the children’s story “The Three Bears,” in which a young girl named Goldilocks tastes three different bowls of porridge and finds she prefers porridge that is neither too hot nor too cold but has just the right temperature. The concept of “just the right amount” is easily understood and can be applied to a wide range of disciplines, including developmental psychology, biology, astronomy, economics, and engineering. It also applies to orgasm denial when practicing male chastity. This is the phase where chastity is not too hard, not to easy, but just right.

Goldilocks Explained

Desire, the first phase of the sexual response cycle, is driven by the desire for sexual gratification. The evolutionary basis for this stems from our need to reproduce. A need shared among all living things. Through reproduction, organisms pass on their genes and thus contribute to the perpetuation of their species.

During this phase, changes occur in the male body. For example, muscle tension increases, heart rate quickens, breathing gets faster, blood flow to the genitals increases, the testicles swell, the scrotum tightens, and men begin secreting a lubricating liquid (pre-ejaculate). In the image, note the redness of my genitals in comparison to the tone of the surrounding skin areas, the swollen testicles, and the tight scrotum. These are the desire phase changes I’ve described.

Chemical changes also occur during the desire phase. For example, dopamine, produced by the hypothalamus, a particularly well-publicized player in the brain’s reward pathway, is released when we grow aroused. Along with high dopamine levels, a related hormone, norepinephrine, is released. These chemicals make us feel giddy, energetic, and euphoric. After orgasm and ejaculation (the resolution phase of the sexual response cycle), the release of these natural chemicals stops. But when you’re locked in a chastity device and unable to orgasm and ejaculate, the release of these chemicals continues until the reward pathways are marinated in them. Then, your brain starts to realize that desire itself is pleasurable, and so orgasm denial becomes its own reward. It’s almost as if you’re floating on a blissful cloud of chaste pleasure, and that moves you past the constant need for release.

In the Goldilocks Phase, your expectations for impending release have been lowered enough that you stop fighting chastity, but not so low that you become depressed. Most men transition into Goldilocks by Day 14. In this phase, you are free to simply enjoy chastity, to experience the sensation of your ever-growing arousal and ever-intensifying desire. The desire itself becomes pleasure. Of course, this will be made a little bittersweet by occasional waves of overwhelming need. But don’t worry, they pass quickly.

The Goldilocks Phase lasts between about three to four weeks. During this phase, you will slowly grow more and more aroused and may experience submissive feelings toward your key holder and a greater desire to please them.

Spend Your Time in Chastity Well

It’s important to spend your time in chastity well. Time is a gift, and chastity grants you more of it by taking away that idle pastime of mindless masturbation and porn watching. So, please don’t waste it. Here are a few ideas to help you make the most of the gift and productively pass the next twenty-seven days.

Read some books. If you haven’t finished a good book in years, now is the time. You should be able to read several before February 14 arrives.

Learn a new skill. Have you ever thought about learning a foreign language? Now is your chance. Download an app like Babbel. With almost a penis-free month ahead of you, you could easily acquire a second language.

Exercise. Start a new exercise program. There is literally no recreational exercise activity you can’t do while wearing a chastity cage. In a month, you could be fitter and have dropped a few extra pounds.

Get started on spring cleaning early. Remember that closet or garage you’ve been planning to clean out and organize. Now you have the time to do it.

The point is, find something to distract you from thinking about your penis for a few more weeks and simply enjoy the blissful dopamine buzz.

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Why You Should Give Up and Observe International Male Chastity Day on the Wrong Date

By Chaste on Thursday, January 13, 2022

Despite my tireless efforts to educate those who get the date of International Male Chastity Day wrong every year, I continue to find people on Twitter and Tumblr saying it’s on January 14. Living under the delusion that a DAY on Earth is 720 hours long, they insist on celebrating Male Chasity DAY for an entire MONTH from January 14 through Valentine’s Day!

If you want to know the actual date of the annual event, you can read this past post. But, honestly, what’s the use? I give up. So today, instead of railing against the heretics, I’m suggesting reasons why you should give up and observe International Male Chasity Day on the wrong date like everyone else. And, I’m taking my own advice.

It’s an Excuse to Celebrate Locktober Ten Months Early

The end of Locktober on October 31 each year always leaves me feeling a little wistful, knowing I must wait an entire year before it comes around again. I feel almost as sad about it as I felt every December 26 as a kid, knowing I had to wait an entire year until the next Christmas. So, it bizarrely makes a lot of sense just to ignore the reality that International Male Chasity Day is only a single day instead of an entire month. When you think about it, you realize it gives you a ready excuse to celebrate an extra thirty blissful days locked in your chastity device—sort of a Locktober ten months early. Locknuary!

If You’re in Chastity 24/7 Anyway What Difference Does it Make?

I worked every Christmas Day and often Thanksgiving Day in my past profession. It’s funny how they don’t seem like holidays when you must work on holidays. They seem pretty much like any other day. That’s kind of true when it comes to male chastity, and you’re a guy like me who practices it 24/7. Did the event happen if you’re already caged anyway, and people celebrate International Male Chastity Day? It’s sort of like the old “If a tree falls in a forest and no one is around to hear it, does it make a sound?”

Extending the Month by a Day Covers All the Bases

If you’re a pious male chastity purist like me, you can observe the wrong-headed month-long version of International Male Chasity Day and just add an extra day. That way, you will be locked on February 15, the actual date, and you’re all good.

So, I’m observing International Male Chastity Day on the wrong date this year, and so should you. I even have a new Mistress I haven’t played with before as my key holder. But, she is such a kind and gracious lady that she locked me today, a whole day early. Yes, a Dominatrix is just good that way. So, I guess I’m celebrating International Male Chastity Day three times this year—International Male Chastity Day Eve today, from January 14 through February 14, and then on the actual date, February 15. Awesome!

Happy International Male Chastity Day no matter when you choose to celebrate it!

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International Male Chastity Day

By Chaste on Wednesday, December 2, 2020

That’s right gang—International Male Chastity Day is looming on the horizon. It’s coming up in about eleven weeks on February 15. If you have never heard of it, now is your chance to learn all about this auspicious holiday.

How did International Chastity Day Start?

UberKinky, a UK BDSM gear retailer, launched International Male Chastity Day on February 15, 2014, to pay homage to everyone living in chastity or trying it. It has been celebrated on February 15 each year since.

You should know that there is some disagreement within the chaste community about the accuracy of the February 15 date.

Some believe International Male Chasity Day is celebrated on January 14 each year. But that’s a crock. I’ll explain why in a moment.

Rest assured the correct date is indeed February 15, as this 2014 post found on the UberKinky website confirms. They started the holiday nearly eight years ago, so I guess they know the correct date. This post found on the Cara Sutra online sexuality magazine website backs that up.

UberKinky specially chose February 15 as the date because they felt setting the holiday observance on the day after Valentine’s Day, February 14, just makes it all the more “brutally bittersweet.” They thought it might be fun for one partner to enhance the flavor of the holiday by rubbing a little salt into the wound by presenting their male partner with a chastity device as a gift on the most romantic day of the year.

The International Chastity Day-Date Discrepancy

So, how did people get confused and start celebrating International Male Chastity Day on January 14, you ask? Here is what happened.

Some enterprising soul thought up the idea of changing the date to January 14 (one month before Valentine’s Day) so that the holiday could become a month-long chastity event that ran until Valentine’s Day on February 14. Some suspect it was the Holy Trainer chastity device company that tinkered with the date as a marketing ploy. But your intrepid reporter was unable to find any smoking gun to verify the claim.

I admit I’m a purist when it comes to celebrating holidays on the correct date. For instance, I wouldn’t stand still for it if Amazon arbitrarily tried to change Christmas Day to November 25 to gain a marketing advantage.

But I suppose there isn’t anything really wrong with some wayward souls observing January 14 as International Male Chasity Day. No one will haul them before the Great Chastity Inquisition for blasphemy or excommunicate them from the church of chaste over it. But as a proud chaste man and a huge fan of International Male Chastity Day, I, for one, will celebrate the holiday on the correct damn date, thank you very much.

Why Is There A Chastity Day?

Frankly, I’ve always suspected that UberKinky’s story about wanting to pay homage to those who observed chastity by wearing a cage on their penis is a load of bull crap. I strongly suspect it must have been sometime in 2014 when the retailer started stocking and selling chastity devices. Call me cynical, but I believe UberKinky founded the holiday as a little marketing strategy of their own to sell more cock cages.

Nevertheless, there are legions of male chastity fans globally—guys who love to be locked up and keyholders who love to guide them in their journey, perhaps with a generous helping of teasing along the way. So, it’s great to have a day to celebrate that.

Also, having a specific date set aside to celebrate male chastity annually is a great way to raise awareness of chastity’s popularity. It’s an excuse to share chastity advice and resources, read some sensual male chastity erotica, and perhaps connect with other chastity enthusiasts or potential keyholders.

Whether it’s a long-term commitment to chastity, some intense humiliation play, the chance to experience orgasm tease and denial, or merely a way to enhance sex play you crave, International Male Chastity Day is an excuse to celebrate the endless possibilities for gratification that chastity offers.

How to Celebrate International Male Chastity Day

Even if you wait for the proper date, February 15, you can still make a 30-day event out of the holiday if you wish. For example, you might lock up on February 15 and remain locked until St. Patrick’s Day on March 17. There would be a couple of extra days involved, but if you’ve never experienced a full month wearing a cock cage, here is your chance.

Perhaps you only recently learned about chastity and want to try it. But you were gutted when you discovered you had already missed Locktober and No Nut November. If so, making a month-long commitment to staying locked from February 15 until St. Paddy’s Day can be your Mulligan.

Of course, UberKinky founded International Male Chastity Day, not International Male Chastity Month. They never intended the holiday to be a 30-day event. So, you can simply celebrate by locking up for only one day if you wish. No one is going to question your manhood for not hanging tough for the following thirty days or so. The truth is, you’re free to celebrate the holiday in any way you choose, whether you elect to lock up for twenty-four hours, a month, or to infinity and beyond.

The point of the holiday is for people new to the chastity lifestyle to engage with it a little. It doesn’t matter whether you’re looking to experience a higher level of control by having your access to your dick and orgasms controlled by a keyholder. Or whether you only want to see if you have the willpower to keep your hands off your cock for twenty-four hours. Either way, observing the holiday will give you a chance to savor the feel of wearing a chastity device.

Join the Fun

Whether you choose to celebrate International Male Chastity Day this year on January 14 like the heathens do, or on the correct date, February 15, have fun with it. At the very least, after reading this post, if someone tries to convince you the observance of International Male Chastity Day is January 14, you can with confidence call bullshit on it and tell them to stop being a shit sandwich.

If you’ve been considering purchasing a chastity device and giving it a try, International Male Chastity Day is your perfect opportunity. Check out our chastity device reviews, buy a cage and take the plunge. Lock up that cock for International Chastity Day, or better yet, find a keyholder to lock it up for you. Then enjoy the unique erotic thrills that only chastity can provide.

Don’t forget to help spread the word as February 15 gets closer. There are even some specific hashtags for this annual event you can use on social media.

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