Please don’t take offense at the title, Male Chasity For Dummies. I don’t think you’re a dummy. I’m not calling anyone a dummy, least of all someone who has developed an interest in male chastity and is looking for information on how to get started.
The reason I chose the title is because of Google. When I started typing “male chastity” into the Google search bar, the algorithm suggested “male chastity for dummies.” I accepted the suggestion for that search term out of curiosity to see what links I’d get.
Did I get a link to a site or article titled “Male Chastity For Dummies?” Of course not. I did get links in the search results for stuff like “male chastity guide,” “male chastity for beginners,” “male chastity basics,” etc. Just no “male chastity for dummies.” That leads me to believe a whole lot of people have Googled that search term. I thought, what the heck. I’ll give them something to find next time.
Anyway, if you arrived here looking for some basic male chastity 101 information and advice, you’ve come to the right place.
First, let me tell you a little about me. In the summer of 2019, I came across a very entertaining site, written by a woman no less, about male chastity. I’d heard of it before, and I’d seen male chastity devices. I’d never found the idea particularly intriguing and had never contemplated buying a chastity device. But, something about the way the woman discussed male chastity and even encouraged guys to try it resonated with me. You might say she planted the seed.
I visited the site regularly for a few months after I’d stumbled onto it, but still wasn’t seriously thinking about buying a chastity device. But, by November 2019, I had become hooked on the idea of giving male chastity a try. I started looking for devices, and soon I ordered my first device.
I mention all this only to say I don’t consider myself some kind of chastity expert. I haven’t been wearing chastity devices for even a full year yet. Mr. Chastity, I’m not. However, I’ve learned a few things, mostly by trial and error, about male chastity and chastity devices. I feel I can competently help another interested new guy get started safely with chastity.
Male Chastity For Beginners
At its most basic, male chastity is the act of a guy locking his penis into a specially designed device that prevents him from having sex, masturbating, having orgasms, or even getting normal erections. Usually, the device you hear about is a steel or plastic tube or cage. As you may know, there is such a thing as a chastity belt, sort of like those from Medieval myths, and to a lesser extent, the Victorian era. But chastity belts are not nearly as widely used in male chastity as the devices some call “cock cages.”
I’m writing this post for guys who, like me not long ago, are just beginning to consider adding chastity to their sexual lifestyle. Specifically, those considering buying or who may have already recently acquired their first chastity device.
Male Chastity Cages Overview
The interest in chastity and chastity devices among males has skyrocketed in recent years. Part of the reason for that, I think, is because chastity devices have become more widely available and at significantly cheaper prices than ever before. Here I am speaking of mass-produced, off-the-shelf type devices, many of which are manufactured in foreign countries, China in particular.
I’m not trying to throw shade on the Chinese here. They are great people with a long and distinguished history. The thing is, they are not inventors. I’m pretty sure they haven’t invented anything original since gunpowder in the ninth century. But, what the Chinese excel at is taking the inventions of others, copying the designs, and then manufacturing and selling those products at significantly reduced prices in comparison to the originals. Sure, usually the quality isn’t high. But one thing the Chinese know. One heck of a lot of people buys stuff based on price. For some reason, the Chinese became interested in making chastity devices. So, Chinese manufacturers ginned up and flooded the market with cheap knockoffs of just about every chastity device that existed, including chastity belts. You can buy many of the cage devices for as little as $10-$15. Anyway, this situation is what I believe spurred the growth of interest in male chastity. It was no longer necessary for guys to spend $150-$200 to get into the game.
Guide To Male Chastity Devices
Chastity device design is straightforward, mostly because the design is based on the male anatomy. Most chastity devices consist of a ring (base ring) seated around the base of the penis behind the scrotum and a tube or penis cage that holds the penis. The two parts mate together with a hinge-like component or pin. The penis cage is designed so that the penis inside cannot be stimulated directly with hands and fingers.
The tip of the chastity device has one or more holes to allow urine to pass, and some designs incorporate vents to facilitate long-term wear and cleaning. The flaccid penis is inserted into the cage or tube and is held at a slight downward angle to make an erection uncomfortable or impossible. Some designs have an extra short cage into which the penis may be squeezed to restrict it even more. Other designs incorporate a tip covering the glans through which a catheter is fixed.
The base ring and cage are usually secured together with a lock, security screw, or a tamper-evident plastic security seal. When the device is locked, it traps the testicles in the gap between the ring and the penis tube or cage, which is narrow enough to prevent the testicles and penis from being pulled out. The testicles are usually held in a fixed position, exposed beneath the cage
Acquiring Your First Cock Cage
When looking to buy a chastity device, be aware that prices vary widely all over the web. Prices also depend on whether you buy an original device from a reputable manufacturer or retailer, or whether you buy from places like Amazon, eBay, or one of the similar Chinese online retailers. In any case, what you will almost always be buying from those sources is a device manufactured in China or some other foreign country. I don’t see a problem with doing that, as long as you’re discriminating. You will save money, and you can get an idea of whether chastity is something you are really interested in before paying serious money for a device. That was my approach at the beginning.
I would only urge you not to buy a Chinese knockoff of one of the popular name brand devices like The Holy Trainer or CB-6000. You can find them in abundance at the sites I mentioned for far less than the cost of the originals. But the quality is junk grade, and they are not durable. Most of the popular inexpensive stainless steel devices available from those retailers are of decent quality, and you can buy one for very little money that won’t immediately break or injure you. But, if you’re determined to get a device made from plastic, stick with the genuine devices. Trust me on this. It’s worth paying the difference.
My Recommendations For A First Chastity Device
If I had it to do over, I would have purchased one of the popular plastic devices to start with instead of the device I chose. The two I’d recommend are The Holy Trainer made by HolyTrainer Inc. or the CB-6000 made by CB-X. They are the two most popular devices in the world for beginners, and for good reasons.
The thing I like about the CB-6000, a device made from polycarbonate, is it comes with multiple base rings and spacers that allow you to experiment until you find the best fit. The downside is there are few choices when it comes to the length and inside diameter of the cage. The regular size cage is 3-1/4 inches in length, which for most guys is too long. We’re talking about flaccid penis length here. The CB-6000 comes in multiple colors.
There is a CB-6000S (small), which has a cage 2-1/2 inches in length. That’s going to be a better fit for most guys. Yeah, sadly, we aren’t all hung like porn stars. Both the regular and short versions come with an inside cage diameter of 1-3/8 inches. Again, this works for most guys. If you buy the CB-6000 directly from the manufacturer’s site, it retails for $159.95. Occasionally CB-X runs inventory sales as they were when this post was published, and they are priced at $99.95. Also, you can often find original CB-6000 devices for a little less from some of the online chastity device retailers. Just avoid buying units with “too good to be true” prices on eBay or other sites as you will get one of the inferior knockoff versions.
I give The Holy Trainer a slight nod over the CB-6000 only because it has a sleeker, more ergonomic design. Unlike the CB-6000, it comes with only one base ring. You must either order it with the right size for you or spend the money to buy extra rings. Instead of polycarbonate, The Holy Trainer is made from what the manufacturer calls bio-based resin, which they claim is hypoallergenic. The real advantage with the trainer is the five cage length options—1.41 inches, 1.55 inches, 1.75 inches, 1.95 inches, and 2.14 inches. Most guys will get a better fit with The Holy Trainer. Later I’ll explain why cage length is important. The internal diameter of the trainer’s cage is 33mm (1.3 inches) for all except the Maxi model, which is 34mm (1.4 inches). If you buy directly from the manufacturer’s website, expect to pay $165 for a transparent model or $185 for one of their twelve custom-colored models.
My advice is to visit both the CB-X website and the HolyTrainer, Inc. site. Compare features side-by-side and then decide which you believe would work best for you. There is only a $5 price difference, excluding sales.
Measure Before You Buy
No matter where you decide to buy your first device, measure yourself first. Even when purchasing a mass-manufactured, off-the-shelf device, knowing your measurements can prevent you from wasting money buying a device that won’t fit you. Rather than copy the information here, I recommend Mature Metal’s chastity device measuring guide, which you can find by clicking on this link.
Many online chastity device retailers now provide at least basic measurements on their product pages. You can check your measurements against those and end up with a better fitting device than you would get otherwise, though you probably won’t get an exact fit. As far as tube or cage length, as a rule of thumb, it is better to choose a length a little smaller than your measurement than a little longer. Some guys wind up with a half dozen chastity devices in their sock drawers they can’t wear before they finally find one that works. That’s because they didn’t bother with measuring. Don’t be that guy.
Safety Tips
Let’s be honest. The male genitals are not designed to have a plastic or steel tube device locked onto them. You can injure yourself playing with chastity. Listen to your body. Don’t try to power through it if you experience excessive discomfort or actual pain. Common sense is your most valuable ally here. If something feels wrong or looks wrong, it’s probably wrong. Remove the device, take a step back, and reassess. Take things slowly. As a few examples, your genitals should never feel numb, become blue or purple, or feel abnormally cold to the touch while wearing a chastity device. All those things are symptoms of impaired circulation, something you do not want.
How It All Works
The base ring goes around the base of your penis and scrotum. If you’ve never worn a solid cock ring, you put your balls into the ring first, one at a time. Then you put your flaccid penis into the ring where it will lie atop your balls. Then you connect the cage to the base ring to the tube or cage via a locking pin or hinge-like part depending on the model of chastity device you get. Some devices have some extra parts like spacers, which they explain how to use in the instructions that come with the device.
Erections
You may have heard or read on the Internet that chastity tubes and cages prevent erections. That’s so not true. They do inhibit erections but don’t stop them. If you look at some porn, read some erotica, or play with your wife or girlfriend, you will probably get attempted erections. Also, if you’re a reasonably healthy guy, you get from three to five erections at night while sleeping, which is called nocturnal penile tumescence. As a rule, these erections are purely a physiological phenomenon. You have no control over them. They are also typically more robust than those erections that occur randomly throughout the day when you’re thinking about sex. They can be very uncomfortable to experience at best. Some guys find them painful.
Erections are why a proper sized chastity tube or cage is so important. If you have extra space inside a cage or tube, either in diameter or length, it gives an erection more room to grow. Erections will then give you more problems, and that’s no bueno. Best case, your flaccid penis should touch the inside of the cage all around, and the tip should touch the end of the tube or cage.
Fit And Comfort
Remember when we agreed our genitals aren’t designed to be locked inside a chastity device? That means when it comes to fit and comfort, you must remember two things. Until you decide you’re ready for a custom-made chastity device built to your exact measurements, fit will never likely be perfect. You can only do your best to get a device as close to the ideal as possible.
There will always be the possibility of a little discomfort when wearing any chastity device, especially at the beginning. You should expect some amount of skin redness and tenderness, especially where the base ring contacts your scrotum. That’s because nearly all devices rotate a little to the left and right, and the friction irritates the tender skin of your genitals. Usually, over time your skin toughens up, and it ceases to be a real problem.
Discomfort is one thing. Pain is another. Wearing a chastity device should never make you want to reach for the Aleve bottle. If you experience pain, remove the device and don’t put it back on until you diagnose the problem.
Again over time, you should experience less and less discomfort to the point you sometimes almost forget you are wearing a chastity device. At least that has been my experience. If you are a guy who does not endure discomfort gladly, chastity ensured by a physical device, may not be for you.
Lubrication Is Your Friend
When you first start wearing a chastity tube or cage, use a good quality lubricant both to help get your penis into the tube correctly and between your skin and the base ring. However, avoid using any lubricants containing glycerin on your penis. Glycerin is a chemical substance closely related to sugar. Utilizing a lubricant containing glycerin on your dick inside a chastity tube is an invitation to yeast infections. Avoid using such lubricants. Instead, use something like body lotion. It absorbs well into the skin and will cut down on the friction inside the tube. You can also use what is called the “stocking method” to get your penis inside the tube or cage. If you click on this link, it will take you to a UK male chastity site called Tickleberry, where you will find the instructions for the method in text and images. I prefer this method as I don’t like using lubricant inside the cage or tube.
For lubricating the skin beneath the base ring, you can use either a silicone-based personal lubricant or baby oil. Baby oil is cheaper, but must be reapplied more often. Silicone lube costs more, but it’s odorless, and you don’t have to use much per application. Use a Q-Tip to apply the lubricant between the base ring and your skin.
Getting The Right Base Ring Fit
Here are a few more tips for getting the best possible fit with a base ring. Start with the same size ring as called for by your measurement. Often, but not always, this is the right size. You can check by seeing whether you can get a fingertip between the ring and your skin. One fingertip means the size is right. If you can’t get a fingertip between the ring and your skin, the ring is too small. If you can get two or more fingertips inside, the ring is too large. Other indications that the ring is too large is the weight of the tube pulls the base ring away from your body or, in some cases one of your genitals will escape from the base ring while the device is locked on.
Some guys believe you should wear the tightest ring you can get on. Not so. If a ring is too small and too tight, you will suffer continuous discomfort. Remember those overnight erections. They will feel even worse, and a ring that is too small could cut off circulation to your genitals when you get one of those. Also, a ring that is too tight puts too much compression on the tissues around your genitals, which could set you up for some permanent damage. You must find a happy medium where the ring is neither too large nor too small.
One final word on base rings. Cheaper devices, especially steel ones, come with only one base ring. And, you must choose from among only three standard sizes—1-1/2 inches, 1-3/4 inches, or 2 inches. For most, one of these sizes will probably work. But, if you order a device and find the base ring is too large or too small, it’s unlikely you can just order a different size ring. In almost all cases, you will have to order a whole new device.
Breaking In Your Chastity Device
During the first few days, you try wearing a device, remove it daily, and inspect your skin for excessive redness, abrasions, and tender spots. The skin around your genitals is unaccustomed to being squished by with hard plastic or steel. You will probably have a few hot spots. If you find any areas with excessive abrasions, broken skin, uncomfortable soreness, swelling, or excessive redness, leave the device off until everything heals and then try again. After a while, the tissue will toughen up, and these things will diminish. For minor redness and tenderness, just keep lubricating until you get past it.
In any event, the wisest approach is to wear the device for a few hours the first day, then gradually add a little more time each day until you become accustomed to more extended periods.
Once you find you can wear the device comfortably all day for at least two consecutive days with a minimum or acceptable level of discomfort, you can try sleeping while wearing it. Don’t expect to get much sleep for the first night or two. You’ll probably wake up several times and you may be in some pain when the overnight erections occur. The nighttime erections are something many guys have the hardest time getting past. But, usually, after three or four nights, once you can mostly sleep through the night without significant disturbances, things will get better.
The breaking in process might sound like it takes a long time. It can. For me, I’d say I was lucky. And I have a high threshold for discomfort. It took me only six or seven days to feel comfortable wearing a device, and I was able to sleep soundly without waking up after the third night of sleeping in the device. But, I’ve heard of guys trying to wear a chastity device for months who still couldn’t wear one for more than three or four days at a stretch.
The Chastity Lifestyle
If you plan to wear a chastity device 24/7, be aware it will impact your life in more ways than just only your sex life. Unless you find a genuinely comfortable device and have a tolerance for a little minor discomfort, the awareness you’re wearing a device will be almost constant.
Another thing is you must adjust to sitting on the toilet instead of standing whenever you must urinate. Regardless of how manufacturers design the urine outlet on almost every device, it’s rare that your urethral opening will ever be perfectly aligned with it. As a result, if you try to pee the way we are accustomed to doing it, the urine will end up going just about everywhere other than where you want it to go—on the floor, all over the toilet, on the wall, and yes, on your clothes.
The Chastity Bump
Wearing a chastity device will also probably impact your choice of clothing. Unless you don’t mind everyone you meet wondering whether you have a gun in your pocket or you’re just glad to see them, you must consider the best clothing options to conceal best the “chastity bump” produced by the device. As you might expect, pants with more room in the crotch will accomplish this better than tight pants. It might be time for you to consider “relaxed fit” jeans over the regular cut. Also, you may find low rise pant styles won’t offer enough room in the crotch. The chastity bump aside, they may just be uncomfortable to wear with a chastity device.
Underwear is another part of your wardrobe you may have to reconsider. Boxers are more comfortable since they allow the device to move more freely. But, they won’t help with concealment. Tight, brief-style underwear does the best job with hiding the device but can be more uncomfortable, especially when sitting. Be aware, going commando is the worst option. First, the device and its contents get no support, which will become uncomfortable. Also, the seams of some pants and shorts can be rough on the unprotected skin of your scrotum.
I’ve found almost all my pants and shorts telegraph that I’m wearing a device. Some just aren’t as obvious about it. Many devices have a lower profile than others. In some cases, even if people notice the chastity bump, they may only assume you’re a little better endowed than you actually are. At any rate, my last suggestion on clothing and concealment is to just get over it. It isn’t possible to completely conceal most devices all the time. Sure, we all remember the embarrassment of the spontaneous boners when we were going through puberty. But, chastity bumps aren’t nearly that bad. Besides, we aren’t going through puberty anymore. So, just let your freak flag fly. It’s no one’s business that you’re wearing a chastity device. It’s just another lifestyle choice, and it’s perfectly legal.
A Final Word On Sleeping
As mentioned previously, sleeping while wearing a chastity device can be the part of living the lifestyle that is most difficult to adjust to for many guys. I can only say it will get easier; the more experience you gain with doing it.
While I acclimated to sleeping in a chastity device fairly easily, I still remember the first night. I woke three times with a full tube, a tight scrotum, and a little burning sensation beneath the ring behind my ball sack. The tighter your sack at the beginning, the more you will probably experience that discomfort. The good news is the situation will eventually resolve itself if you wear a device long enough. Over time you find your scrotum will actually stretch and hang lower even when you’re not wearing a device. Your body also adjusts to the sensations caused by the base ring when you have erections. I suppose your brain just gets used to it and stops sending you the pain signals.
Experiment with different sleep positions until you find the one that feels most comfortable for you. Intuitively, you might think sleeping on your back is the best. But, I’ve found lying on my side, with my bottom leg more or less straight, and my top leg spread a little forward and bent at the knee works the best for me. My package rests on the bed between my legs and doesn’t cause me any problems. After the first few nights, things will get better. After my first week, the nocturnal erections stopped waking me. Now I usually sleep fine.
The Fantasy Of Total Security
Here’s the unvarnished truth about total security: When it comes to ball-trapping chastity devices, complete security is only a fantasy. Any guy with the will can find a way to escape from a chastity device while it is locked if he wants to escape badly enough. You should look at a chastity device as a deterrent to accessing your penis, and not like it’s Fort Knox.
If you feel you require, for whatever reason, to have absolutely no ability to get to your penis, then any ball-trapping device alone will never do that for you. Let’s face it, living the chastity life means you need more than a chastity device. You must also have a little will-power, self-control, and respect for your keyholder (if you have one).
All chastity devices can be defeated. Depending on how well or poorly a device is fitted to you, some can be overcome quite easily. For one thing, most are secured by a tiny padlock, and most guys probably have several different tools in their toolbox that can easily cut them off. That said, there is one way to make most ball-trapping devices more secure.
In the name of more security, some guys get the popular male genital piercing called the Prince Albert (PA). The PA is a “ring-style” piercing that extends along the underside of the glans from the urethral opening to where the glans meets the shaft of the penis. Many chastity devices today accommodate PA piercings. The ring through the piercing is attached either inside the device where the device user can’t access it once the device has been locked on or using an external lock or locking cable. That means a wearer cannot withdraw his penis from the device without ripping out a chunk of flesh that isn’t ever going to grow back. Getting a PA just for chastity is sort of a big deal. Depending on the guy, this piercing can take from four weeks to six months to heal. It isn’t something I’d ever want. But, I’m not a body piercing kind of guy to start with. I mean, it’s fine for other people if they want them. Piercings just aren’t my thing. But, a lot of chaste men get them.
Chastity & Hygiene
One of the more important aspects of male chastity is practicing good hygiene, especially for those who choose a device with an enclosed tube. Otherwise, if you’re not careful, after some wear time, the smells emanating from your chastity tube may remind of the odors you remember from that particularly nasty public restroom you visited that time. You must do daily cleaning as best you can while wearing the device. Also, at regular intervals, you should remove the device for a thorough cleaning.
Daily Hygiene
If you have a device with an open-type cage, you will find keeping the contents of your cage clean much easier. That is the type of device I usually wear. I have no problems keeping the contents of my cage clean and smelling April fresh using just soap and a detachable shower head. I’m confident I could wear my usual device indefinitely without ever removing it for a thorough cleaning. I am circumcised. If you aren’t, then you will probably need to remove your device once a week for cleaning, even if it is a cage-type.
Enclosed tube devices are different. A detachable shower head won’t be enough, and you must get soap down inside the tube. Many guys use a squirt bottle with a long tip they can insert between the skin and the inside of the tube, and up through the urination opening to clean the tip of the penis. The squirt bottle can be used both to apply soapy water and to rinse afterward. Just mix a little antibacterial soap with warm water inside the container. Once you’ve finished washing, refill the bottle with plain warm water and rinse. The inside of a tube device can become dirtier than you might imagine, even after a single day. Tubes, even more than cages, trap sweat, small amounts of urine, pre-ejaculate fluid sometimes, and dead skin cells. If you don’t stay on top of personal hygiene, you could end up with some funky bacteria growing inside the tube, along with some awkward, unpleasant odors.
Weekly Cleaning
Once a week, if you wear a tube-style device, you should remove it, and clean your genitals thoroughly. Then wash the device completely with hot soapy water. Weekly cleanings are also a good time to shave or trim your pubic hair. Once the device is completely dry, you can put it back on and lock it up. This same advice applies to guys who are uncircumcised and wear cage-type devices.
More Resources
If this post has whetted your appetite for even more information about male chastity, please consider grabbing a copy of my book, The Hitchhiker’s Guide To Male Chastity. I attempted to make the book a comprehensive male chastity guide or male chastity handbook with all the information a beginner needs in one place. It also includes information for new keyholders. The paperback version is available on Amazon and at Barnes & Noble. The eBook version will be available exclusively on Amazon starting July 14, 2020, and if you’re a Kindle Unlimited subscriber, you will be able to read the book free. You can learn more about the book here on this website, or by visiting the paperback version book page on Amazon where you can read a free excerpt.
Coming soon—Finding a Chastity Keyholder For Dummies