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Thirty Days of Chastity: Day Seven

Chaste answers the questions from the "Thirty Days of Chastity" Meme from Tickleberry.com.uk

It’s Day 7 of the Thirty Days of Chastity meme, and today I’m giving you a peek inside my toy box.

DAY 7: YOUR TOY BOX…

What’s your favorite toy or item of equipment (excluding your chastity belt or device) that you use during chastity play? 

One thing a guy learns, almost out of necessity when embracing the chastity life, is there are other parts of the male body besides the penis that offer highly pleasurable sensations when stimulated properly. Butt play, one of my favorites, can be highly pleasurable and add an extra dimension to people’s sexual enjoyment. 

There are still many negative social barriers that prevent people from trying it, even if they want to. For straight men, masculinity can be a barrier to exploring anal penetration. For many men, being penetrated feels somehow less masculine, and being on the receiving end of such stimulation may seem not only weak, but feminine. But the truth is, the anus is full of sensitive nerve endings, and the proximity of a man’s prostate (sometimes referred to as the P-spot) makes this type of sexual stimulation powerfully pleasurable. 

So, when it comes to favorite toys or items of equipment (excluding my chastity device) that I use and enjoy during chastity play, it’s my, shall we say, impressive collection of anal toys. While I enjoy using all the tools in my toolkit, I do have a favorite. It’s a wave motion, 9-speed vibrating prostate massager called the Phanxy.

Introducing the Phanxy

Ergonomically designed, the Phanxy is made of velvety soft and body safe silicone. Dual motors drive the powerful vibration and wave motions that combine for an amazing pleasure response. Sorry if I sound like an infomercial. I have no connection with the company that makes the Phanxy beyond being a very satisfied customer. 

I actually considered answering today’s question by simply telling readers about my favorite toy in generic terms. The reason was because every person is different. A toy that provides a mind-blowing, lip biting experience for one person might well produce a meh response from someone else. So, I worried a little someone might rush out and buy the toy I raved about only to have a disappointing experience with it. That’s happened to me frequently and it can feel soul crushing, not to mention annoying when you feel you’ve wasted your hard-earned money. But I decided to identify the toy because I like it that much.

The Phanxy Specs 

The width of the insertable part of the Phanxy is 1.18 inches, which makes it appropriate even for beginners. I don’t insert huge things into my butt, but I have plenty of toys with much more girth than this one that I accommodate comfortably. But for its designed purpose, the Phanxy is plenty large enough. 

Overall, the toy’s length is 5.5 inches with an insertable length of 4.33 inches. It also comes with a Lithium battery (CR2032) powered remote, but there are also controls on the base. The unit is rechargeable, but the remote battery must be replaced when discharged. It’s also completely waterproof and can be used in the shower or bath. The manual says to allow two hours for charging, but mine charges much faster than that. A blue LED light flashes while charging, and once the light stops blinking and stays illuminated, it’s fully charged.

Why I Like This Prostate Massager So Much

I’ve pursued P-spot pleasure for years and tried almost every toy from the most well-known and recommended companies out there without getting close to the allusive P-spot orgasm I looked for until now. It didn’t happen with the Phanxy right away, and it took some time and experimentation to work out the kinks and find the perfect positioning technique. But unlike all the other toys I’ve tried, the Phanxy didn’t disappoint. Besides shuddering orgasms, I’ve also used this toy to accomplish reliable prostate milking. And to me, that’s where I get the most value from this prostate massager. 

Some believe that long-term orgasm denial can be harmful by causing prostate problems, including increased risk of prostate cancer later in life. The medical research on this is sketchy at best, but I believe it is wise to err on the side of caution. But I’d rather “milk the prostate” than simply orgasm the usual way, and when locked, I typically do it once per month. 

While I have seen no compelling medical evidence it needs to be done once a month, this seems the prevailing wisdom you find on the internet. And since it’s pleasurable, why not? The Phanxy makes it ridiculously easy to accomplish. I have only one other toy in my arsenal I have used for prostate milking that’s been reliable, and it doesn’t work every time. But this one does. 

One of the best things is this massager cost me less than thirty bucks, which is a fraction of the price I’ve paid for many more well-known massagers that never worked for me.

 

Please remember, everything I’ve shared here is my personal experiences. Regardless of how pleased I am with this prostate massager, if you decide to get one, your mileage may vary.

Is Long-Term Chastity Unhealthy?

Is long-term chastity unhealthy? In this post I want to look at that question. Here I’m not speaking of whether wearing a chastity device for extended periods might possibly affect the health or function of your penis (e.g., does it cause erectile dysfunction (ED), does in cause penis shrinkage, etc.). Little in the way of medical or scientific studies exist to answer those kind of questions. The truth is no one can give you definitive answers.

Instead our focus in on whether you should be concerned about the effects of going extended periods without orgasm or ejaculation. The short answer is no. But, we’re going to get into the physiology and processes behind male orgasm and ejaculation. Let’s see what science says about the benefits and risks of infrequent ejaculation.

The Male Orgasm

The major purpose of the male orgasm is to ejaculate sperm. Beyond producing pleasure, the role of the female orgasm is less clear, though some researchers believe it may help move the sperm closer toward the ovum (egg) to achieve fertilization.

The male ejaculate, semen, is comprised of sperm cells and seminal fluid, the latter of which contains phosphorylcholine (an enzyme that aids in fertility) and fructose (which provides fuel for sperm). The average volume of semen expelled by a healthy man is around a teaspoon.

Guys don’t need to worry that they will run out of sperm or semen no matter how many times they release semen in a day. The male body constantly produces sperm and stores them in your testicles. This is called spermatogenesis. A full cycle takes about 64 days. But your testicles produce several million sperm per day. That’s about 1,500 per second. With all this semen and sperm production going what happens when a chaste guy doesn’t come frequently?

What Happens To Unused Sperm

What happens to sperm if they aren’t ejaculated frequently? Whether or not you ejaculate has no effect on your overall sex drive or fertility. Unused sperm cells are simply reabsorbed by your body or released via nocturnal emissions. Although “wet dreams” are most common during puberty, they can happen at any time.

Medical science says it is unlikely that any significant health consequences occur as a result of not ejaculating. In fact, the quality of semen, and in particular the sperm in an ejaculate, is affected by the interval between ejaculations. That said, men with spinal cord injuries or other neurological disorders often may not ejaculate at all. In such cases when semen was collected via an electro-ejaculation technique, some of these men had inferior sperm quality when compared with normal ejaculate. Thus, infrequent orgasm and ejaculation could pose fertility concerns. Other than that, there is no conclusive evidence tying ejaculation frequency with health. The lack of ejaculation does not create any well-established negative health consequences.

Ejaculation Frequency And Prostate Health

There is a well-known 2016 study of almost 32,000 males that lasted from 1992 to 2010 that suggested ejaculating often (about 21 times a month) might lower the risk of prostate cancer.

However, the study used self-reported data. It’s impossible to know for sure whether study participant’s answers were truly accurate since they weren’t observed in a controlled clinical setting. People don’t always remember things with one-hundred percent accuracy.

A 2004 study with this same group of males didn’t find any significant link between frequency of ejaculation and risk of prostate cancer.

Even though the 2016 study gained more than 12 years of extra data, the study didn’t change at all. That’s why we can’t take these kinds of results at face value.

Takeaway

Is your keyholder not planning to allow you to orgasms and ejaculate for a while? That’s fine. Long-term chastity isn’t unhealthy.

Despite what some research has suggested, there’s very little real evidence that ejaculating a lot helps prevent prostate cancer.

Your keyholder should feel free keep you locked as long as she wants.