With the start only hours away, many of those trying Locktober the first time may understandably feel a little nervous. Let’s talk about what to expect.
We’re all unique and respond to things in different ways. But I think there are commonalties in every first time Locktober experience. So what I’ll share here from my experiences probably won’t differ much from what everyone experiences. While I had about ten months of experience wearing chastity devices under my belt before trying Locktober the first time, here are things I wish I’d known back then.
I suspect most guys who have the option will have an orgasm sometime today before beginning Locktober tomorrow. Sadly, I won’t be among them by Lucie’s decree. But for those who do, assuming they made a wise choice when sourcing their chastity device and it’s reasonably comfortable, the first day of Locktober, while exciting, will be pretty much a nothing burger. That’s because after a man has an orgasm and ejaculates, his sexual desire and arousal drops to their lowest levels. We’ve all experienced it. Interest in sex evaporates. That means the first day shouldn’t be difficult for anyone, although the first night might be for those who have never tried sleeping while wearing a chastity device.
The length of the refractory period after orgasm varies from guy to guy. But, most males, within 24 hours of having an orgasm, are back to the sexual excitement phase of the sexual response cycle. Slowly, sexual desire climbs as the prostate refills, and arousal returns. We barely notice it at first, but by the second and third days, most guys are thinking about and feeling pretty ready for another orgasm. That’s why the second and third days are often the most difficult and irritating days of Locktober for most of us. Also, guys who spent little time getting acquainted with their chastity device or worse, chose a poor fitting one will probably experience some discomfort or soreness, especially where the base ring sits beneath their balls. This discomfort or soreness only exacerbates the irritation factor.
Days two and three are usually the most difficult for the same reason that the first few days of any diet are when people are most prone to temptation and failure. Whether we’re talking diets or chastity, we’re transitioning from giving our bodies exactly what our bodies expect to not. It’s an uncomfortable change and our bodies don’t like it. It can seem like every five minutes our bodies demand that we give them what they have become accustomed to getting and want. Thus, the frustration and irritation mount.
Usually, sometime on day four, depending on the man, the body slowly realizes that orgasm and ejaculation are not imminent and it’s a waste of resources to continue expecting sexual release at any moment. It is then that we stabilize into physical and mental acceptance and things feel at least a little easier. Those who make it through the fourth day and remain committed to successfully completing Locktober will usually attain their goal.
After day four or five, expect to arrive at what some term the “Goldilocks phase.” This phase is when the denial of chastity doesn’t feel easy exactly, but not too hard. It feels just about right. Your body’s expectations for sexual release have lowered enough that it stops fighting denial. In this phase, you’re free to simply enjoy the experience of chastity, to experience the sensations of ever-growing desire and intensifying arousal. For men, sexual desire is pleasure. This will be a sweet sensation that never stops when locked in a chastity device and denied, though made just a little bittersweet by occasional waves of overwhelming need. No worries. Those will pass quickly.
Of course, those who try to go straight into 31 days of wearing a chastity device without practicing and getting acclimated to their device in advance might find the going a little harder until after the first week or ten days have passed. That’s because they will probably experience some amount of chafing and soreness where the base ring contacts the delicate skin of the scrotum. All a guy can do is tough it out with the liberal application of a good lubricant until the skin toughens a little and the discomfort dissipates.
The Goldilocks phase usually lasts for about three to four weeks for most males. During this period, a guy slowly gets more and more aroused, and may experience more and more intense submissive feelings toward his keyholder if he has one. Depending on the man, some may float to the finish line on a cloud of intense arousal. But others may find things get difficult again the last week. Those guys will just have to grit their teeth and find the willpower to persevere to the end. But the key point is, with sufficient commitment to succeed, any guy can survive 31 days of denial and wearing a chastity device that fits him reasonably well.
I recommend open, cage-type chastity devices for Locktober that the wearer can keep clean with daily showers without removing them. I’ve never had a problem wearing a cage-type stainless steel device for 31 days straight without removing it for cleaning. This year, I’m wearing a Kink3D Cobra, my first Locktober in a plastic device. But like most of my stainless steel favorites, the Cobra has plenty of openings to allow for cleaning with my handheld shower head.
After 85 days in the Cobra, Lucie unexpectedly told me to remove it last evening long enough for a thorough cleaning of the device and my body. I discovered no foul odor, no built up gunk, and a healthy penis I hadn’t seen in 85 days. Hello, old friend! Of course, after only a 20-minute respite, long enough to clean and dry everything, Lucie locked me right back up. But at least, I’m going into Locktober tomorrow with a squeaky clean cage.
Even if you are trying Locktober the first time this year, you needn’t feel nervous now that you know what to expect. Just take it a day at a time. Good luck! You’ve got this.