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NOvember 2023 Halfway Point

By Chaste on Wednesday, November 15, 2023

For those hanging in, we’re at the NOvember 2023 halfway point. Only 15 days of “no nut” to go.

While I operate automatic counters on my Current Status page, I don’t look at them often. While I’m doing an extended, locked session, I find it easier mentally not to track the days. But I looked today out of curiosity and the numbers surprised me. 132 days locked and 199 days since my last release.

The latter number is bigger since I was already doing the Chastity 90 challenge just before I met Lucie. And during the early part of our relationship, she required me to unlock, without a release, a few times. While I have self-locked for much longer, the 132 days feel impressive to me since it is the longest period I’ve stayed locked for a keyholder. And at the end of the month, that number will be 147 days, about 40 percent of 2023. And adding the 15 days to my current number will make it 214 orgasm-free days, or a little over 58 percent of 2023.

I was planning to do Denial December, but that was when I wasn’t planning on doing NOvember. Now I’m undecided. First, I think I need a break. But there is another reason. I’m not feeling confident that Michele is going to be a good fit as a long-term keyholder. Not that she isn’t a lovely person, but the regular teasing we discussed at the beginning hasn’t materialized.

I know she has a lot going on at the moment because we spoke about that last week. And maybe she doesn’t have the time to devote to me. I don’t top from the bottom, so I haven’t registered my dissatisfaction. Honestly, I don’t feel it is my responsibility. She is a dominant woman and a professional, so she should understand the dynamic. Also, two weeks into our first encounter, I just don’t feel we’re developing the chemistry I expected.

Lucie is, of course, a tough act for anyone to follow, but this feels more like inattentiveness on Michele’s part, rather than a lack of ability. The beauty of having a pro keyholder is you have no obligation to continue with them if things don’t go as expected. I only agreed to a month long trial, which I will complete. But barring some dramatic positive change in Michele’s approach, I’m not planning to continue past the end of the month. So, I may take some time off from chastity in December and then search for a new keyholder.

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First Week of NOvember 2023 in the Bank

By Chaste on Tuesday, November 7, 2023

The first week of NOvember 2023 is in the bank for those of us observing Locktober and NOvember (or No Nut November if you prefer) back-to-back.

Because of unforeseen circumstances, I find myself taking part in the 2023 edition of NOvember (also known by many as No Nut November), even though I hadn’t planned to participate this year. Yet after completing Locktober and the first week of this 30-day challenge back-to-back, I am not finding it all that challenging. That’s mostly down to the fact that not having a sexual release just before starting a month long chastity challenge makes the first week much less stressful and frustrating than it would otherwise be. Actually, I feel I’m motoring through NOvember on cruise control and not suffering at all.

The change in keyholders is also playing a role, I’m sure. It’s hard to say yet how different Michele is than Lucie. It’s only been a week. We’re still feeling one another out and getting acquainted. Michele has teased me a bit, but it’s been nowhere near as intense as the teasing Lucie delivered. She has given me a few assignments, but nothing that has created the type of sustained arousal and frustration Lucie is so supremely capable of. But no complaints. I am having fun interacting with Michele and never expected her or anyone else to be Lucie’s equal.

My arrangement with Michele at the moment is month-to-month. But I’m looking to forge a permanent keyholder arrangement and she has already told me she wants the same thing. So, I’m hopeful things gel and we establish some chemistry by the end of our first month together. I would rather not be looking for another new keyholder in December. But only time will tell.

Update on My NOvember Side Gig

Turns out, the Dominatrix I mentioned in the last post, Charlotte Douleur, offering the 5-day, mid-NOvember opportunity isn’t supervising the week of chastity training after all. But she is offering the week of training under the auspices of her House of Douleur. Instead, Adreena Winters, celebrated cuckoldress and self-identified “size queen” is doing the training. Winters, a British erotic content creator and model, names the hardcore genre of adult entertainment as the passion she loves, especially interracial hardcore. Winters explains her preference [for cock size] “is over 8 inches of length and at least 6 inches of girth,” noting that is well above average. Considering men with a penis size smaller than her preference physically inadequate and incapable of satisfying her, Winters favorite solution for men with what she considers inadequate dicks is to lock them in chastity. After learning that Winters enjoys humiliating men with “little dicks” with dick ratings and small penis humiliation (SPH), I had to wonder what I’d got myself into. Cuckolding? Dick ratings? SPH? None of those are my thing. But I didn’t want to bail on the challenge. Doing that I figured would disqualify me from taking part in future Charlotte

Douleur challenges. I didn’t want that. So, I thought I’d go with it and see how things went. And since taking part is free, what did I have to lose?

Day 1 was easy enough. Here was the task. Freeze one key in a bottle of water. Seal the emergency key in an envelope and sign your name on the flap to prevent cheating. Put on the cage and lock up. Participants were required to post a photo of the key in the bottle frozen in ice on X (formerly Twitter), and were “allowed” to post a proof of locked photo to Adreena Winters’ Only Fans or Loyal Fans account. But, of course, a tip was required to do that.

Maybe the challenge wasn’t free after all? Not really. Maybe it was designed to produce tip income for Winters. Since I’m not cheap, sort of, I did post my proof photo on her LF account. I gave the minimum tip along with paying the required 50 cent DM fee. No problem. I’ve carried a balance on LF for ages since the time almost two years ago when I was investigating whether you could find a legit pro keyholder on the fan sites. After learning, you can’t, I didn’t go back to LF and abandoned the balance. You really can’t find a keyholder on those sites unless you’re willing to endure continuous pressure to buy video clips, give tips above and beyond whatever keyholding tribute you agreed to, or to buy things for them off their over-priced gift registry. Not saying there are no legit pro dommes on the fans sites. It’s just the payout models the fan sites use. These women get 70-80% of the monthly subscription fees when people subscribe, but that doesn’t amount to enough money to entice anyone to create a fan site page. They make their real money from upselling and these women upsell like car salesmen. If you’re unwilling to pay for the extras, they will quickly label you a cheap time waster and you won’t get any further attention from them. So, yeah, using money I’d already spent by making a deposit to my account and wasn’t getting back anyway, I tipped and paid the DM fee.

Actually, given the small tip, it surprised me when Winters replied. Yep, you probably guessed it. She replied with a SPH comment. I knew enough about her, that came as no surprise. I’m not into SPH because it does nothing for me. I have no emotional response to it, neither negatively nor positively. It doesn’t arouse me but it also doesn’t hurt my feelings. So, no worries. I thanked her for replying and acknowledging the photo and moved on. Then, to my surprise, she replied again almost immediately. Winters’ said since I was definitely on the small end of the scale, I really should being paying her monthly “small dick” tax. I had to laugh at that for two reasons.

First, haven’t we small to average guys suffered enough? Haven’t we felt insecure about our penis size our entire life? The guys with the porn star size schlongs that Winters prefers didn’t get their big cocks at the gym doing penis presses or curls. They simply got lucky with the genetic lottery. If anyone should be paying a tax it’s those guys who nature blessed with way more than most women need or want. Let them pay a “more than needed” tax.

The other reason I laughed was because Winters’ remark reminded me of an old joke I heard back in my military days. Guys, when talking about size queens like Winters who must have 8 plus inches in length and 6 inches in girth to “feel stretched” sufficiently use to say this. “I had to strap a board to my ass to keep from falling in when I had sex with her.” *snicker* Frankly, tight vaginas have always been my preference and for that reason sex with size queens has never interested me. From my perspective, the joke is on Winters, not me.

Wrapping up my first day experience with the the “free” 5-day challenge, it left me less than impressed. But I’ll give it another go this morning. What the hell? I still have money left in that LF balance to spend so another minimum tip won’t kill me. And trust me, so far, the 5-day challenge experience hasn’t been worth more than the minimum.

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Why Am I Still Locked 3 Days After Locktober Ended?

By Chaste on Friday, November 3, 2023

If you’ve checked my Current Status page since Locktober ended, which I know from the site stats is one of the most popular pages on the blog, you might be confused. Didn’t I say I wasn’t taking part in No Nut November? Why yes. Yes, I did. So what gives? Why am I still locked 3 days after Locktober ended? It’s a long story. Let me explain.

1 Day After Locktober Ended...

Early on Wednesday morning, November 1, Lucie texted me her congratulations on a successful Locktober, gave me permission to unlock, and wished me a mind-blowing release. And now, it’s Friday, November 3, and I’m still locked. I haven’t removed the cage. I haven’t had a release. Why? Inquiring minds want to know.

There are actually several reasons. First, this seems to happen every Locktober. The last week I can’t help counting down the days until it ends and I can enjoy a sweet release. The anticipation builds. By October 31, I can’t wait. Halloween feels like sheer torture. I never stay up until midnight like I do on New Year’s Eve. That’s because I don’t want to rush the release. I want to take my time. I want to savor it. Especially this year when Lucie kept me locked for 117 days, not just the usual 31 days of Locktober. So, I went to bed Tuesday evening feeling needy, but full of delicious anticipation. Then I woke up on Wednesday morning, read Lucie’s text, and everything changed. I didn’t feel ready to unlock. I’m not even sure why exactly. But, I didn’t. I started day 118, but on my own.

Next reason. I received a message from a domme I’d contacted about the possibility of her becoming my new keyholder. She seemed interested. We spent a good part of the afternoon messaging back and forth. I asked questions. She gave answers and filled me in about her expectations and how she conducts her business.

Finally, we arrived at the discussion of how we would interact and she told me which private messaging app she preferred using for daily check ins and task assignments. It’s a popular app, especially in Europe, but not one I’ve used and different from the one Lucie and I used. So, I had to download the app, sign up for the service, and work out how to use it. Pretty similar to what I’ve used before, so no worries. But by the time I had organized it, it was still early evening where I live, but after one in the morning where she lives in the U.K. Things came to a standstill on that front. I had to wait until the following morning to learn if she found me on the app and added me to her contacts list.

Then I read an email I’d received a few days ago but hadn’t bothered to read. It was an invitation from perhaps the most elegant, distinguished pro domme I know personally to submit to her locking me up for the thirty days of NOvember. And for free! I wasn’t sure if I was too late to get accepted, but how could I say no? I had to try and completed the application. That’s because I once contacted this woman about keyholding only to learn the cost for her professional services (not published on her website, you must ask) was not even in the same galaxy as my budget. I hadn’t received a reply by bedtime Wednesday night, and couldn’t risk unlocking until I heard back whether she would accept my application. And all that took care of November 1, the first day after Locktober ended.

2 Days After Locktober Ended...

I woke up on Thursday morning, November 2. There was no word yet from Europe’s most sophisticated dominatrix about my last minute request. When I checked her website, I saw that there were 52 pending requests, so I didn’t like my chances. Fair enough as I hadn’t read the email until several days after she sent it and probably didn’t submit my request in time to get picked. The email said there were limited spaces available. But already two days into NOvember, I couldn’t very well risk unlocking until seeing if she hit me back with a reply. I felt sure the first question she might ask was, “Have you unlocked since the end of Locktober?” The email made it clear that she was looking for boys to do Locktober and NOvember back to back without a release. Unwilling to stoop to lying to her if she asked, I had no choice but to stay locked until I got a yeah or nay.

I rolled out of the sack and began November 2, two days after Locktober ended. Checking my phone, I saw I had received a reply from Michele, the domme I’d chatted with Wednesday afternoon. We connected on the messaging app she preferred using and continued our discussion to learn whether we would be a good fit. I answered her questions about my kink interests, limits, and what I was looking for from a keyholder. She told me about her interests and expectations. It seemed we had plenty of compatibility in that regard. I found her to be professional, knowledgeable, and experienced, and could see myself submitting to her control. After Lucie, I had no illusions of finding anyone to equal her. Lucie is simply uncommonly amazing. But I felt a potential for mutual satisfying chemistry existed, so we proceeded to the discussion of the expected monthly tribute. This, as always, was the most awkward part of forging an agreement with a new keyholder. Many times, the keyholder seems reluctant to quote a figure, perhaps because they fear they will ask for too much and lose out on acquiring someone to lock they feel keen to get. I am equally reluctant to suggest a figure for two reasons. While I am perfectly fine with paying a professional tributes for her keyholding services, I don’t want to pay more than necessary. Also, I don’t want to appear cheap. I know what works with my budget and I prefer the keyholder to name an amount and if it’s reasonable, all good. If not, I simply say it’s beyond what I can afford, thank them, and apologize for wasting their time. That’s another thing I always appreciated about Lucie. She published the required tribute amounts on her website making things easy for everyone concerned.

After the expected hemming and hawing, Michele finally quoted a figure. It was perfect. Slightly less per month than I had been paying Lucie and I always considered her tribute requirements to be on the lower end of the expected scale, especially considering the perfection she provided. So Michele and I struck a deal. I remitted the first month’s tribute and 2 days after Locktober ended, I found myself locked by a new Mistress. It seemed I would be doing No Nut November (or NOvember as some prefer to call it) after all. And if I never heard back from Europe’s most sophisticated dominatrix about acceptance or rejection of my tardy request for NOvember keyholding, all good. In fact, better than good because I hoped I wouldn’t have to decline her offer since I no longer needed a keyholder. On the other hand, I would have been over the moon having the chance to be locked for a month for one of the classiest, most sensual pro dommes I have ever spoken with. It truly would have been a dream come true.

Michele and I took care of the ceremonial unlocking and re-locking with a new plastic, numbered lock via a video call, and once again I was owned. And I was still locked 2 days after Locktober ended.

3 Days after Locktober Ended

I awakened on Friday, November 3, still locked 3 days after Locktober ended and owned by Michele, my new Mistress and keyholder. Did I regret missing out on the chance for a nice orgasm and ejaculation or two before facing another month locked? Curiously, not really. Maybe I felt a tiny bit wistful, but no regret. Perhaps it was the excitement of getting acquainted with a new keyholder who I feel sure I am going to like very much, even though she will never replace Lucie.

It always feels exhilarating getting to know a new keyholder at the beginning. Part of it is no matter what she has told you about herself, you don’t truly know what to expect. I know Michele isn’t a sadist like Lucie, so already she feels more of a nurturing domme type. But she seems firm and no doubt will hold me accountable. I am to expect daily tasks and teasing, she has said. So, I expect the overall process might be quite similar to what I experienced with Lucie.

In many respects, it feels quite like dating the first new woman after a breakup with a woman you truly adored and still miss. I don’t for a moment begrudge Lucie for stepping away from keyholding and taking a break that she felt she needed. But in all honesty, I wish I still belonged to her and wasn’t having to get accustomed to someone new. But I intend to make the best of it and to not expect Michele to be everything Lucie was to me. And somehow, I feel confident that Michele will become special to me in her own unique way.

Before concluding this post, I want to include an update on the dominatrix who emailed me. She did kindly reply, extending her regrets that she had already filled all the available slots before receiving my request. But she offered me a consolation prize, five days under her control beginning Monday, November 6, with daily tasks and teasing. And she said, if I impressed her, it was only a month until Denial December.

I feel a little ashamed admitting it, having just submitted to Michele, but I couldn’t decline her kind and generous offer. Honestly, I have never forgotten this woman since the day, almost a year ago, when we talked and I felt so disappointed learning I couldn’t afford her tribute requirements. Honestly, I think it would be worth every penny, but it was simply beyond my means. Even five days will offer me a taste of what I’ve missed out on. And I don’t think it will interfere with my arrangement with Michele. Come on man, it’s only five days.

And there you have it. If you had been checking my Current Status page and noticed I was still locked 3 days after Locktober ended and wondered why, now you know.

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Is It Too Soon to Talk About No Nut November?

By Chaste on Thursday, October 26, 2023

With five days left to go in Locktober 2023, is it too soon to talk about No Nut November? I imagine some guys will go straight into NNN from Locktober. The true over-achievers may even aim for the trifecta by doing Denial December after that, cumulatively a solid 92 days of chastity bliss. Well, okay, since you insist, let’s talk about No Nut November 2023.

For the benefit of those who may have recently emigrated from Indonesia where even today most locals do not have internet access, I’ll begin with what No Nut November is and then give a little of the history behind it. If you’re not from Indonesia and have had internet access since 2017, you can probably skip straight to the history section because you likely already know all about the No Nut challenge.

No Nut November, often abbreviated NNN, is an annual male sexual abstinence challenge that takes place during the month of November. For the full month, men attempt to refrain from sex, masturbation, and ejaculation of semen to complete the challenge successfully.

“Bust a nut,” as defined by Urban Dictionary, is “a slang term used in place of the more ‘correct’ term for ejaculation. The term originated from when sperm would bust from the testicles (nuts).” Hence the challenge title, No Nut November. NNN appeared on the web in 2011 and then rapidly gained popularity around 2017, thanks to social media.

NNN is almost an identical challenge to Locktober with similar rules. The primary difference is NNN doesn’t specifically incorporate the use of chastity devices as Locktober does, though today many NNN participants do wear chastity devices during the challenge.

Despite its similarity to Locktober, NNN isn’t as well received by the general public as Locktober. That’s because many associate NNN with the NoFap movement, which they view negatively and often connect it (incorrectly) with the Incel community, widely deemed misogynistic.

Also, E. J. Dickson, a Rolling Stones senior writer who covers internet culture, once charged that the “far right” had co-opted the challenge and urged her left-leaning readers not to take part. For fuck’s sake. Must Marxists make every fucking thing about politics?

Anyway, after Dickson noticed an obscure Republican politician had tweeted support for No Nut November, she sounded her “the far right has co-opted No Nut November” alarm. Many other left-cleaning publications, as good little apparatchiks do, fell immediately in line and shrilly trashed NNN as a dastardly fascist plot. They sensed NNN threatened not only democracy but the very notion of sexual liberty and would undoubtedly lead to a resurgence of puritanical sexual customs and conventions, which the right wingers would once again force upon the masses.

Unlike E. J. Dickson and her fellow travelers, I don’t fear No Nut November is a right-wing Jedi trick aimed at dragging us kicking and screaming back into the Victorian era. I regard it as the same type of innocuous fun that Locktober is for those of us who enjoy chastity devices and orgasm denial. So, say “fuck off” to E. J. Dickson, the Marxist rag she writes for, and her commie pals and take part in NNN if you want and help make No Nut November great again.

You can find many sites on the web that publish a lengthy list of rules people should follow during No Nut November. Allow me to summarize them for those who may be interested in taking part this year. Bro, don’t nut in November. Other than that, do you what you want and have fun.

If you failed Locktober, don’t despair. No Nut November is a chance at redemption and it’s even a whole day shorter. For those who pass the Locktober challenge successfully, NNN is a chance to really test your mettle by seeing if you can survive another thirty days straight without a sexual release.

I have done both Locktober and No Nut November back-to-back before, but I don’t plan to observe NNN this year. Since Lucie is taking a sabbatical to recharge, I plan to take about a week off to let things return to normal lengths and to experience normal nocturnal erections again. Then, I’ll lock up for the Hera device wear test. I’ll probably spend November looking for a new keyholder and have a few candidates in mind. If I strike a deal in time, who knows? Maybe I’ll be down for Denial December.