I’m not one to brag, but you’re probably curious about my new professional chastity key holder. Okay, fine. If you’re going to drag it out of me, anyway, I’ll brag on her just a little.
How shall I describe my new key holder? Stunning, sassy, elegant, mesmerizing, fascinating, and smart. Oh… and impossibly sexy. She is an exquisitely European Dominatrix who offers remote keyholding as a side gig. She is also a self-professed sadist with a penchant for cruelty and has already proven it to my satisfaction. But when she isn’t being cruel, she is quite charming and has a great sense of humor.
My key holder is strict, but eminently fair. Her tribute requirements (rates) are more than reasonable, far less than I have paid for professional keyholding in the past. And she has been worth every penny. Also, she doesn’t insist you buy her extras from some gift list to prove your devotion like many professional Mistresses do. Frankly, if I sat and contemplated every fantasy I’ve ever had to compile a list of qualities for my ideal Mistress, she would surpass anything I could have imagined.
Self-Locked Versus Enforced Chastity
I’ve seen it said many times online that self-locked chastity is useless. It’s stupid. If a person with that opinion is defining “chastity” as merely role play or a kinky sex game, I agree. Someone wanting chastity because what they actually want is tease and denial sex play will not get that from self-locking. But what many people don’t understand, even people I consider knowledgeable about chastity and chastity devices, some of whom even practice it on a permanent basis, is this. Wearing a chastity device or making your partner wear one can be a part of a pleasurable sex game. But chastity and tease and denial can be separate things.
I don’t self-lock because I crave tease and denial even though I have enjoyed it in the past. Instead, I practice chastity because I’ve found curbing my orgasms and ejaculations offers me many transforming benefits. Benefits I consider more valuable than frequent 5-20 seconds of pleasurable spasms. Self-locked chastity isn’t useless, and it isn’t stupid if you practice it for reasons like that. But make no mistake. The chastity experience is completely different when there is someone else enforcing it. When someone else is in control—actual control where they make all the decisions, the dynamic differs vastly from self-locked chastity.
Sometimes You Just Want a Key Holder
Sometimes, even though I find self-locked chastity very meaningful, I crave the experience of having someone else enforcing my chastity. Someone else in actual control. It’s the power exchange I find attractive. My desire for chastity and my goals don’t change just because I have a key holder. I’m still not pursuing tease and denial or some other sexy role play game. It’s still the valued benefits of practicing chastity I’m after. So, sometimes, I seek a professional who offers remote key holding services for a welcome change of pace..
As I shared in a previous post, when I recently wanted to experience chastity enforced by a key holder again, I started looking for one. I’ve had many professional key holders, but it isn’t a stable business model. People move into it and then out of it for many reasons. So, I’ve found you often can’t get a key holder you’ve had in the past because they have moved on to something else and aren’t doing it anymore. This time, for me, was no exception. So, I contacted three new professionals who advertised key holding services and just before I was ready to give up and throw in the towel, my new Mistress responded. And I feel more than fortunate she did after only the short time we’ve been together. I am sure she is the best key holder I have ever had.
Why a Professional Key Holder?
Although I have never experienced it, I can imagine having a person you already share intimacy with as your key holder is probably one of the best ways to do chastity. But it’s not an option for me. I’m single and have been since my last relationship ended. And for now, I’m not looking to get into another one. That’s one reason I look for professional key holders.
Another reason is I find it satisfying having someone who has no emotional or personal stake in my chastity enforcement. They are more strict, which is something I find very exciting. Someone who doesn’t love you will never yield to pleas for mercy. The rules, conditions, and schedules are only those the key holder wants. And, the key holder can make up new rules as long as they respect the limits you revealed at the beginning. That all adds a psychological dimension I truly enjoy.
Why This Professional?
I didn’t choose my new Mistress just because she was the only one who responded to my inquiry. She had been my first choice from the beginning among the three I contacted. She has the most professional, comprehensive website I’ve ever seen. The professionalism and the to the point information presented had already begun earning my trust before I even spoke to her for the first time. Then, when we did talk, I discovered we shared similar philosophies on chastity and how it is best done. That sealed the deal for me. And believe me, I feel so lucky I found this woman.
After exchanging emails, we met for a video chat because she insisted on it. That was a first for me. With only one other exception, I’ve not seen even a photo of my past remote key holders. Most want to preserve their privacy. Given the state of the world, I understand that. And it seems only fair since I’ve remained anonymous to them. But my new key holder strives to make her services as personal as possible for her clients and believes they deserve to know what their Mistress looks like. What I wasn’t expecting was how impossibly attractive she is.
I’ve never looked for a remote key holder based on looks since I wasn’t accustomed to seeing them, anyway. And a professional key holder isn’t and will never be your girlfriend. It’s simply a professional arrangement, and that is all it will ever likely be.
Truly beautiful women can be a little intimidating for that reason alone. And when you add a level of authentic dominance that I literally felt coming through my phone screen, the intimidation factor felt pretty intense. It was a brief conversation where she allowed me to ask questions, and then she had me lock up and secure the keys to my device while she watched. And it did make things feel more personal.
So Far, So Good
Mistress continues to impress. She requires a daily check-in with a photo to confirm I’m still locked. But most professionals do that, although some require only a weekly check-in or do surprise inspections. She also provides daily torture teasing, even though our agreement didn’t promise it, and it has been far more than I expected. Best of all, from my perspective, she texts me several times each day to torment me.
You can get those same services from most professionals, but always at an additional cost above the basic chastity key holding tribute. Mistress has truly gone above and beyond, exceeding my expectations on every level. While we don’t have long conversations by text, I still find them meaningful all the same. The texts show she is thinking about me when she sends them. And they help me feel a chemistry is developing that could sustain a long-term keyholding relationship. I think she is having fun (mostly at my expense) and I know I’m having fun. She has made this the most enjoyable enforced chastity experience I’ve ever had.
I have never had an unpleasant experience with any of my past key holders, and I liked every one of them. But this experience has been something truly remarkable. And, of course, she is definitely making Chastity 90 far more challenging for me. But I’m all good with it. And I may not be returning to self-locked anytime soon.