Recently, I read a post on a chastity blog I follow by a guy who has worn chastity devices and practiced chastity with his wife as keyholder for a lot longer than I have. And I’ve learned a lot from reading his blog. He wrote about a discussion taking place on another blog I’m not familiar with but that he follows, apparently. The discussion was about whether enforced chastity is an actuality.

While I couldn’t find it again, I’m pretty sure I read an older post on his blog where he opined there was no such thing as enforced chastity. He said he voluntarily wore a chastity device and was free to remove it whenever he wished, even if he had to use tools to take it off. So, in his view, his wife wasn’t forcing him to practice chastity. He did it voluntarily for his own reasons, as he assumed all guys do. He figures enforced chastity isn’t a thing since no one is getting forced to wear a chastity cage.

I can agree there isn’t any physical force involved. I’ve never had a keyholder wrestle me to the ground and lock a chastity device on my genitals, and I’ve never even heard of anyone claiming to have experienced such a thing. Although I admit it sounds kind of hot imagining it. But “forced” and “enforced” while similar terms don’t mean the same thing.

One key word found in the definition of “forced” is “involuntary.” One key word found in the definition of “enforced” is “compulsory.” Speed limits, as an example, are enforced. Observing speed limits isn’t optional. It’s compulsory. Exceeding speed limits can result in traffic tickets and fines, so we usually comply with them. It’s voluntary, of course. The state doesn’t put someone in the car with us to force us to obey speed limits. We do it voluntarily because we don’t want to waste money on fines or collect points on our driving record that would cause higher insurance premiums. Hopefully, that example helps show how forced and enforced aren’t identical terms.

Probably all of us who wear chastity devices and have a keyholder voluntarily put them on and handed the keys to a partner or other third party. Along with the keys, we gave them control over when we can remove the device and have orgasms. No one forced us to do that. We probably initiated it because we wanted to wear a chastity device and have someone else controlling us sexually. But once we handed over the keys and the control, for us, chastity became compulsory.

Technically, as the blogger pointed out, we can still remove the device anytime we want, even if we have to use tools to defeat the lock. But that would breach the contract we made with the keyholder. And just like getting a ticket and paying a fine when we get caught exceeding the speed limit, that breach would probably have negative consequences.

I suspect the blogger’s wife would be unhappy if he just took his chastity device off anytime we wanted without her permission. And he would likely experience unpleasant consequences as a result. With all the pro keyholders I’ve had, removing my device without permission would have meant the deal was off and I wouldn’t have had a keyholder any longer. That was enough of an unpleasant consequence to contemplate I never considered breaching the contracts I’d made. None of those women forced me into chastity or to continue practicing it, but each of them enforced my chastity. Yes, Virginia, there is enforced chastity, whether someone acknowledges it or not. Try not to overthink it.