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Eating Your Cum

By on Wednesday, September 13, 2023

Whether they will admit it, I suspect most men have at least tasted their semen after ejaculating, if only to satisfy their curiosity. I admit I have. But eating your cum, whether voluntarily or because a dominant partner makes you, is a whole other level. A post by a dominant woman I follow on Twitter got me to thinking about this and prompted this post. How do you feel about eating your cum?

The first line of a Twitter post by a dominant woman (@PracticalFLR) I follow immediately caught my attention.

“Always Make Him Eat His Cum!”

Of course, I clicked on the “Show more” link to read the entire post to learn more about her perspective. I’m reposting the entire post here for the convenience of readers who don’t use Twitter (now known as X). Here is what she had to say.

“One great rule in a #FLR is mandatory cum eating.

It’s really not even meant to be an option.

There’s really no excuse not to eat it. It’s polite.

But there’s more to it than just that. There’s multiple reasons on why he should be eating his cum, without being told.

The main reason is because it helps him develop the submissive mindset beyond sexuality.

When he is always submissive, and horny, he ties submission to being horny. So naturally when he gets off, his submission will drop off and he will want a break from submission.

In a FLR there are no breaks from submission that she doesn’t agree to. So it’s unacceptable for him to not be in the mood to submit, just because he had a full release orgasm.

This actually makes full release orgasms something to fear, and avoid, which isn’t very ideal. You don’t want to be afraid of certain acts just because it might cause his submission to drop.

Instead, it’s time to train him to be submissive, whether he’s horny or not. Whether it’s sexual or not.

The moment he cums, any ideas and appeal of eating his cum he entertained only moments before, are completely gone. The idea of eating it now is a turn off, and maybe even gross.

This is the perfect opportunity.

It’s the perfect time for him to demonstrate his submission to her, and reinforce the submissive mindset in his non-horny mind.

It’s time to make him eat his cum. Not quickly either. Slowly. Make him wait a few seconds between each lick.

If it was collected in a glass, [make him] sip it slowly, and let the taste infiltrate his entire mouth.

He doesn’t get to just slurp it up and gone, that’s too easy. No, he must savor it, and understand he will be eating it from now on, every time, every last drop.

This will maintain his submissive mindset through a full release orgasm, and will train his non-horny mind that he’s still owned by her. That submission to her is not optional.

It’s also a sign of respect for her, to do it without being told, to demonstrate that he knows his place, and will respectfully clean up his own mess, as a sign of gratitude, so she doesn’t have to do it.

It’s the polite, submissive thing to do.

There are other benefits of this as well, since cum is full of vitamins and minerals, it’s a complete and total waste to not eat it. It’s healthy, and it replenishes the nutrition lost in cumming.

It should be mandatory, and non-negotiable. Every time. The bigger the load, the better.

Always make him eat it.”

─PracticalFLR. “Always Make Him Eat His Cum!” X (Formerly known as Twitter), September 2, 2023. Accessed September 13, 2023.

Wow! There’s lots to unpack here. Eating my semen is not something I have ever wanted to do. Not to say I haven’t done it. I have.

The very first keyholder I had was evidently a kindred spirit of the woman who made the above post. During the time we were together, she allowed me two orgasms and both times, she made me scoop and eat my semen. So, I’m not just speculating that I don’t want to do it. From experience, I know I don’t want to do it.

Nothing about eating my cum appeals to me. I’ve never liked anything in my mouth that has a slimy consistency and I do not like either the taste or odor of semen. I find it repulsive. And, just so we’re clear that I’m not a hypocrite. Never have I ever asked any woman who has given me a blow job to swallow. A few have voluntarily, but I never asked them to do it.

I don’t even like blow jobs particularly. It takes forever for me to cum that way and the longer it goes on, the more sensitive my glands feel until soon it feels more like I’m enduring it rather than enjoying it. I’ve always loved giving oral to women I’ve had sex with, and that’s what feels most natural to me, perhaps because of my submissiveness. Having a woman give me oral never feels comfortable, especially when I suspect she intends to continue to the bitter end.

Still, I must admit that everything @PracticalFLR wrote makes sense and I can’t disagree with anything she said. While I have little experience with female led relationships, I think her view on men eating their semen after ejaculation applies just as well to any F/m power exchange relationship, including keyholding relationships.

“So naturally when he gets off, his submission will drop off and he will want a break from submission.”

I know from experience this statement is true. Naturally, when a guy has an orgasm and ejaculates, his arousal drops to near zero. And I’ve learned the intensity of my submissive feelings rise and falls with the intensity of my arousal. In the past, when Lucie has allowed me to cum, afterward, I’ve felt sexually satiated and not very submissive until I started feeling horny again.

“The moment he cums, any ideas and appeal of eating his cum he entertained only moments before, are completely gone. The idea of eating it now is a turn off, and maybe even gross.”

I also know from experience this is true. When my very first keyholder made me eat my cum after the first orgasm she allowed, it caught me by surprise. She hadn’t mentioned making me do it until after I came and ejaculated. But I expected it the second time she allowed me to orgasm. And while I was building up to the orgasm, the idea of eating my cum seemed appealing and expecting it made me even hornier. But the moment I ejaculated, the appeal of eating my semen vanished and having to do it was an enormous turn off and definitely gross. I even felt queasy by the time I finished it. I’ve since had similar experiences while masturbating, where I planned to man up and eat it when I finished. But after finishing, I could never make myself do it.

“This will maintain his submissive mindset through a full release orgasm, and will train his non-horny mind that he’s still owned by her.”

This statement is something I’ve never even thought about before and what most prompted me to write this post today. While I have no experience to base it on, I can imagine how this might also be true. I can imagine how being made to eat your cum every time could condition you to continue feeling intensely submissive, even when post-ejaculation you no longer felt horny at all. After all, humans are animals and are just as susceptible to classical conditioning as Pavlov’s dogs were.

I know this to be true because I once used classical conditioning to train a woman I dated to orgasm after only a little stimulation whenever I spoke the five-word phrase I used to condition her. It worked almost too well. Months after we ended our relationship, she was still having trouble reaching orgasm, whether with a partner or with masturbation in the phrase’s absence. She believed I had “broken” her, but thankfully she eventually regained her ability to orgasm normally. So, no reason a guy couldn’t be conditioned this way. And who knows? Perhaps in time he might even learn to love eating his cum, knowing it was simply another way to show his respect and gratitude to his dominant partner.  

“There are other benefits of this as well, since cum is full of vitamins and minerals, it’s a complete and total waste to not eat it. It’s healthy, and it replenishes the nutrition lost in cumming.”

I admit I felt a little skeptical about this claim and decided to fact check it. But, according to the WebMD website, this claim is mostly true.

“Semen is a complex substance created by the male reproductive organs. The fluid is made mostly of water, plasma, and mucus (a lubricating substance). It also contains 5 to 25 calories, and is made up of small amounts of essential nutrients, including:

  • Calcium
  • Citrate
  • Fructose
  • Glucose
  • Lactic Acid
  • Magnesium
  • Potassium
  • Protein
  • Zinc

 

Semen is full of vitamins and minerals, many of the essential nutrients that we need in our daily diet.”

But, according to WebMD, semen isn’t a good nutritional source due to the small amount of semen produced in one ejaculation. So, I suppose we must rule out good health as a motivating factor for consuming it. Maybe choose a good multivitamin here instead.

So far, Lucie has not broached the subject of cum eating. In the past, when she has felt I have earned a release, once she has unlocked me, she has left me to my own devices for the period of unlocked time until locking me again. She has had no direct involvement in my orgasms. But based on our recent conversations, I know this will change with the next unlock when she will take an active role in my orgasms. So, while it is still not something I want to do, I can imagine the subject of cum eating might come up (no pun intended).

If Lucie requires it, then I will, of course, do it, like it or not. However, while I can’t disagree with @PracticalFLR that it’s a sign of respect for your dominant partner to eat your cum without being told, I’m not planning to even bring up the subject with Lucie, much less do it voluntarily. I’m happy to wait patiently to see whether it is something Lucie makes a part of our dynamic. After all, isn’t patience an important submissive virtue too?

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Let’s Talk Penis Piercings and Chastity

By on Tuesday, May 24, 2022

Penis Piercings and Chastity. Love the idea or hate it? Let's talk about it.

Do you have a penis piercing? Have you ever seriously considered getting one?

I don’t have a piercing, but I spend a lot of time vacillating about whether to get one. Anyone who has ever worn a standard ball-trapping chastity device knows that security is an illusion. Sure, a well-fitted, locked cage isn’t going to fall off by itself. But we all know we could escape from a locked device if we wished.

While I’ve never escaped or even tried while under the supervision of a keyholder, I have tried escaping from devices when I review them so I can give an opinion on how secure they are. Some are simply more secure than others. But for a guy who wants true security, a penis piercing, usually a Prince Albert (PA), is a way to get it.

I even know a Pro Domme who won’t take on permanent keyholding for a guy unless he has a PA or is willing to get one. And I’ve read stories from women who hold their husband or partner’s key who persuaded their men to get a PA for optimum security.

So, I’ve thought about getting pierced for the added security, but haven’t reached a firm decision.

There Must Be Sixteen Ways to Pierce Your Penis

We’ll cover the basics since there is no way to know every single person who might read this blog post knows all about penis piercings.

A penis piercing is any type of jewelry inserted into the:

  • glans (head of the penis)
  • foreskin (uncircumcised penises)
  • shaft
  • scrotum

 

At the right is an image I found showing sixteen different types of male genital piercings.

Of course, not all the available options would be applicable to securing a chastity device. The PA is the the most common piercing for chastity device wearers.

Penis Piercing

People get piercings for various reasons, from sexual pleasure to aesthetics. Many years ago, I considered getting a piercing, mostly for the aesthetics. But I was considering a scrotum piercing, sometimes called a “Hafada.” It’s a scrotum piercing that passes through the loose layers of tissue along the scrotum.

Traditionally, this piercing was done in pairs, where the rings rested on either side of the shaft when flaccid. But the piercing now tends to be done along the center seam of the scrotum. It can be done singularly or in multiples. But of course, this type wouldn’t apply to chastity device security, which we’re talking about here.

So lately, I’ve been thing more about getting a penis piercing. While the PA is the most popular piercing for guys wanting true chastity device security, I’m not wild about the idea of having a hole punched through my urethra. And the Price Albert goes in the end of the urethra and exits through a hole on the underside of the penis, where the glans meets the shaft.

While I’ve been thinking more about getting a penis piercing, I’m uncertain about getting a PA, the most popular piercing for guys wanting true chastity device security. The Prince Albert goes in the end of the urethra and exits through a hole on the underside of the penis, where the glans meets the shaft.

There is also a reverse Prince Albert piercing. The names are similar, but they are actually very different. While the PA goes through a small amount of tissue and is quick to heal, the reverse PA is essentially an Apadravya piercing without the Prince Albert. This means that the piercing enters on the top side of the penis (usually centered) and exits out the urethral opening. That makes the healing time for a reverse PA quite a bit longer than for a Prince Albert.

So, yes, the PA seems a little intimidating to me, but I’m not all that squeamish, and I am considering a Prince Albert. But it probably isn’t my first choice.

The Penis Piercing I Most Prefer

The Frenum piercing is what I find most appealing. It’s a common first penis piercing. I’m told they are easy to sit through, and healing tends to be relatively quick and uncomplicated, usually only six to eight weeks.

I like the Frenum from an aesthetic perspective, and it seems it would also work for chastity. It seems the modular chastity device I reviewed that came with a PA hook would also work with a Frenum piercing and a ring. I know some custom chastity device manufacturers that offer hooks specifically for Frenum piercings.

The Frenum is a surface piercing. Traditional placement is through the loose skin on the underside of the penis, slightly back from the frenulum. Placement usually corresponds roughly with the circumcision scar on circumcised men. I’ve read that surface penis piercings are more prone to rejection and migration.

Rejection is when your body treats your jewelry as an irritant and decides to push it out, or “reject” it.

Piercing migration is the process that occurs when a body piercing moves from its initial location. Migration can be painful or go unnoticed until it has progressed. Given enough time, the jewelry may migrate entirely outside of the skin, although it may only migrate a small amount and come to rest.

So far, I’ve only had one short conversation with a piercer. He didn’t seem to know a lot about chastity devices, but after I explained it, he expressed reservations saying he felt concerned that using a Frenum piercing with a chastity device could put too much stress on the piercing since it’s a surface piercing. He also told me that initial jewelry is usually a 10 gauge or 8 gauge barbell, most often 5/8 inches in length. But after healing, I could go to a ring if I was determined to try using the piercing with a chastity device.

So, I’m still vacillating. I love the looks of penis piercings and am curious to try one. But if I choose to get one, I’ll probably get a Frenum piercing first and then maybe that will help me decide about getting a PA later.

 

Now over to you. Do you have a penis piercing you use with your chastity device? Please share your pro tips in a comment below.

In tomorrow’s Thirty Days of Chastity meme post, I’ll share my favorite toy (excluding my chastity device) that I use during chastity play.

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Answered: Your Most Burning Questions About Chastity Cage Safety

By on Saturday, January 22, 2022

The most frequently asked questions about wearing a chastity cage concern whether locking your penis in a device long-term causes any permanent damage. Will it shrink my penis? Will it cause erectile dysfunction (ED)? We answer your most burning questions about chastity cage safety in today’s post.

Myths, misinformation, and downright lies associated with long-term male chastity abound on the internet. That comes as no surprise. Anyone can say anything on the web, which is why you should take everything you read on the internet with a grain of salt. Provided you choose a properly fitting device, and follow some common sense safety and hygiene recommendations, wearing a chastity cage is safe. Very safe.

No medical evidence or scientific studies exist suggesting that wearing a chastity device is unhealthy or unsafe in the short or long term. Factually, no one has done any research about the impact of wearing chastity devices on penis health, but we can infer much from general penis health research, and there is a much of that. First, we will look at the two biggest myths associated with wearing chastity cages, and then we’ll review the common sense safety and hygienic precautions I mentioned.

Does Wearing a Chastity Device Shrink the Penis?

I’ve read plenty of claims on chastity websites and other forums where men claim wearing a chastity device long-term shrank their penises substantially. Here is what a guy posted on one forum I found.

“I’ve been in permanent chastity for several years now. My wife unlocks me every couple of weeks for a deep clean. In my case, I can definitely state that my penis has shrunk considerably, and maintaining an erection is impossible.”

In another post on a chastity forums website, I read a post by a guy who claimed his peen had shrunk by three full inches from wearing a chastity cage.

Sorry, but none of those anecdotal claims are true. Wearing a chastity cage will not reduce the length of a penis, not even wearing a cage that is considerably shorter than flaccid length. Almost always, when you read claims from men that wearing a chastity device cost them length, they will reveal at the end that they are into small penis humiliation (SPH) or being cuckolded. So they want their penises to shrink and convince themselves it happened.

We all know many guys not hung like a porn star have insecurities about the size of their dicks. I read a study where men with average size penises reported believing their penises were shorter than average. Guys like that who believe they have small dicks are the ones who typically embrace small penis fetishes. The facts are 95 percent of men have an average size penis. The remaining 5 percent have larger than average or smaller than average. So, if you’re reading this and feel your peen is smaller than average, it’s probably average.

 

According to one study published in the British Journal of Urology International (BJUI) Trusted Source, the average length of a flaccid penis is 3.61 inches, while the average length of an erect penis is 5.16 inches. So grab a measuring tape and prove it to yourself. You’re probably within the bell curve.

The penis shortens with age because of a loss of elasticity, usually between one-half inch to an inch. Prostate surgery can also cause a loss of length. If you put on a lot of weight or you have a thick bush of public hair, your penis will look shorter even though it isn’t. Men who lose length, or think they have and who wear chastity cages for long periods may attribute it wearing the devices when the explanation lies elsewhere.

Does Wearing a Chastity Device Cause Erectile Dysfunction?

Chasity device wear causing erectile dysfunction (ED) is another claim you find frequently on the internet, but it is all anecdotal. There is no medical literature that backs up these claims. Not to say there aren’t men in long-term chastity who suffer from ED, but it’s unlikely caused by wearing a chastity device.

Erectile dysfunction (impotence) is the inability to get and keep an erection firm enough for sex. Male sexual arousal is a complex process that involves the brain, hormones, emotions, nerves, muscles and blood vessels. Erectile dysfunction can result from a problem with any of these. Likewise, stress and mental health concerns can cause or worsen erectile dysfunction.

Here are some leading causes of ED, according to the Mayo Clinic. Heart disease, clogged blood vessels (atherosclerosis), high cholesterol, high blood pressure, diabetes, obesity, certain prescription medications, tobacco use, alcohol and other forms of substance abuse, sleep disorders, and low testosterone. One or more of those is probably behind ED reported by chastity cage wearers.

Chastity Device Wear and Nocturnal Penile Tumescence

I have read articles by two different urologists that had concerns about chastity device wear. Their concern was that the restrictions that cages put on nocturnal penile tumescence (nighttime erections) could be harmful. Men typically have 3–5 erections per 8 hours of sleep.

The parasympathetic nervous system, part of the nervous system that controls many of the things that happen in our bodies without us having to think about it, like digestion, urination, and sexual arousal, causes nocturnal penile tumescence. The latest research suggests that the penis needs a fresh supply of oxygenated blood from time to time and that’s why nighttime erections happen. There are other theories too, but what’s important is they happen for a reason and are necessary.

So, I can understand why these doctors feel we shouldn’t stifle nighttime erections by locking our penises in a restrictive cage. However, chastity devices don’t prevent erections completely. The penis still becomes engorged with blood, they just can’t grow into full-sized, normal length, or sometimes girth. While I’m not a doctor, common sense suggests we still probably get most of the benefits from nocturnal penile tumescence even while caged.

I see no reason to believe long-term wear of a chastity device causes ED. I’ve never suffered from ED as an ongoing issue, but like most men, I’ve had erection trouble from time to time. And, as I got older, my erections weren’t always as firm or long lasting as when I was younger. But, while also anecdotal, my experience since I started male chastity has been the opposite of ED. When I’m not wearing a chastity device, my erections are reliably firmer and last longer than I had experienced in a long while before I started wearing chastity devices. So, I have no concerns at all that chastity may cause ED.

Your Love Muscle isn't a Muscle Actually

Contrary to popular belief, your love muscle isn’t a muscle. A penis is an organ and there are no muscles in it. Organs don’t atrophy like muscles from disuse, but only in cases of some wasting disease or malnutrition. That’s why none of the penis exercise stuff you see on the internet will make your penis bigger. Your penis is the size it has been since your teenage years. There is nothing short of surgery that will make your penis larger or smaller.  

Common Sense Penis Care Measures for Men Wearing Chastity Devices

Proper Fit

Size matters when it comes to a properly fitted chastity device. You want a device that is not too tight or snug, and doesn’t rub or pinch any part of your peen. For best results, carefully measure your penis and use the dimensions in choosing the cock cage that fits you perfectly. This is especially critical when it comes to choosing a proper size base ring. It is common to see men go for a base ring size that is too small. Perhaps, they believe that a tighter fit makes the device more secure. But a base ring that is too small comes with serious health dangers to the penis. A ring that is too tight can restrict normal blood circulation and damage nerves. Also, when the ring is too tight, the skin of the penis and scrotum can be bruised, chafed, or broken, leaving behind patches of raw, sensitive, and irritated skin. With time, these sites can attract infections.

Hygiene

The next thing is to keep your penis and cage clean at all times. A clean cage comes with a couple of advantages, the absence of bad odor and skin irritation. A man wearing a cock cage should shower or bathe daily. If the cage is an open-type with sufficient slits, holes, and breathable spaces that facilitate cleaning without removing it, a handheld shower head is usually all that’s needed.

Never wear a solid cage that fully encloses the penis for more than four days without removing it to give both the cage and your penis a deep cleaning. This helps you avoid skin rashes, bad odors, and infections.

Regular Inspections

Examine your penis and testicles regularly to ensure that there is no discoloration, bruises, cuts, chaffing, or irritated skin of any form.

Erections

It’s a good practice to allow yourself to have a normal erection whenever you remove your chastity device for a deep cleaning. This can give you added peace of mind.

Lubrication

Lubrication is important when you are new to wearing a chastity device. A little lube around the base ring can prevent chafing, irritated skin, and rashes. Once your skin acclimates to the device and toughens up, lube shouldn’t be necessary if you have a properly fitted device. There are different lubes you can use from baby to water-based or silicone-based personal lubricants.

Contrary to anecdotal accounts you may read on the internet, there is no evidence that wearing the cock cage makes the testicles or penis shrink, or causes ED.

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How Male Chastity Might Help Increase Testosterone Level in Men

By on Monday, January 3, 2022

A scientific research study found an intriguing relationship between ejaculation frequency and serum testosterone level in men.

Testosterone is the male sex hormone. Low testosterone—also known as hypogonadism or low T, can affect your overall health.

How Low Is Too Low?

Testosterone levels are measured through a blood test called a serum testosterone test. Most doctors agree that a “normal” reading falls anywhere between 300 to 1,000 nanograms per deciliter (ng/dL). However, about 40% of men over age 45 have levels below that range since as men age, their bodies produce less testosterone. Starting in middle age, it often drops below levels that doctors consider normal.

Symptoms of Low Testosterone

While only a serum testosterone test can accurately identify low testosterone, there are recognized symptoms that may indicate a man has low T. Those symptoms include:

  • Lower sex drive or desire
  • Lower quality and frequency of erections
  • Lower bone density
  • Reduced muscle mass and strength
  • Low energy
  • Fatigue
  • Depressed feelings

How Male Chastity Might Help Increase Testosterone Level

The results of a research study on the relationship between ejaculation and serum testosterone level in men, published in the Journal of Zhejiang University SCIENCE, revealed that after seven days of ejaculation abstinence, a clear peak of serum testosterone appeared, reaching 145.7% of the baseline.

Interestingly, researchers found that the fluctuations of testosterone levels from the 2nd to 5th day of abstinence were minimal. Also, no regular fluctuation was observed following continuous abstinence after the seventh-day peak. Ejaculation seemed the precondition and beginning of the special periodic serum testosterone level variations, which would not occur without ejaculation. So, regarding an increase in testosterone levels, researchers observed no benefit from extending ejaculation abstinence past the seventh day. The study results showed that the effective time of abstinence for raising testosterone levels is seven days.

Incorporating Seven-Day Ejaculation Abstinence Into Full-Time Chastity

While I intend to continue full-time chastity (wearing a chastity device every day) this year, reading this study has motivated me to change things up a little. Last year, I observed almost complete ejaculation abstinence. But this year, I’m going to incorporate the study findings into my chastity program as my one-man scientific study. I’m curious to learn how observing a seven-day abstinence period between ejaculations affects my testosterone level and how it affects my overall satisfaction with the practice of male chastity. I’m pretty satisfied with chastity now, so should I learn more frequent ejaculation reduces my satisfaction, I’ll revert to the way I practiced chastity up until now. Look for updates in future posts on what I discover.

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Male Chastity With a High and Tight Scrotum

By on Wednesday, December 9, 2020
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As a guy cursed with a “high and tight” scrotum, I know that finding a chastity device with the right fit can be difficult. Guys who have one know what I am talking about here. But there may be some guys who are new to wearing male chastity devices who may not be familiar with the term “high and tight” in the context of scrotums, testicles, and chastity. In this post, I’ll explain the term and how it impacts chastity device sizing choices.

Loose Versus Tight Scrotums

To explain the difference between high and tight and loose scrotums to someone unfamiliar with it, I equate a loose scrotum with scrotums more in the appearance of those you see on a bull. Here is one of those instances where a picture is worth a thousand words, so I provided one. Sure, it’s a

slight exaggeration, but you easily grasp the concept. Guys with the loose variety, like bulls, have scrotums and testicles that hang well below the base of their penis shafts.

Having noticed the scrotums of other men in locker rooms and communal showers when I was in the military, I admit I’ve always envied guys with the low riders. I think the look is just more aesthetically pleasing. And after embracing the wearing of chastity devices, I envy them even more.

A guy with the high and tight variety has a scrotum and testicles that don’t hang much at all. Instead, the tight scrotum keeps the testicles tight against the base of the penis and close to the body.

Below is an image I found on Wikipedia that shows a high and tight scrotum from tight to relaxed. As you see, even when relaxed, the testicles are still high and close to the base of the penis.

Scrotums and Testicles 101

In natural male development, the testicles form in the abdomen in the womb and usually descend into the scrotum by birth. If not, they typically descend within a few months after birth.

The testicles (also called testes) are oval organs about the size of very large olives that lie in the scrotum and are secured at either end by a spermatic cord. Most men have two testes. The testes are responsible for making testosterone, the primary male sex hormone, and for producing sperm.

The scrotum, a loose pouch-like sac of skin hanging below the penis, holds the testicles and many nerves and blood vessels. The scrotum protects your testes, as well as providing a sort of climate control system. For normal sperm development, the testes must be at a temperature slightly cooler than body temperature. Muscles in the scrotum wall allow it to contract (tighten) and relax, moving the testicles closer to the body for warmth and protection or farther away from the body to cool the temperature.

For this reason, the testicles naturally move up and down in response to changes in temperature, erections, and sometimes seemingly for no particular reason at all.

The dartos muscle, found just beneath the skin of the scrotum, is a layer of tissue that gives the scrotum its wrinkly appearance. Contraction and relaxation of the dartos muscle help regulate the temperature of the testicles and works in conjunction with the cremaster muscle to raise or lower the balls. This naturally occurring phenomenon is what can cause some guys with high and tight scrotums significant problems when they wear a ball-trapping chastity device.

Chastity Device Issues For High and Tight Guys

Most off the shelf chastity devices work for men with loose scrotums (although too loose and a wearer may be able to pull out the back end without releasing their testicles). Finding the right fit can be significantly more difficult for those of us cursed with a high and tight scrotum.

When a wearer has a high and tight scrotum, a ball-trapping device exerts almost a  constant pull on the scrotum while he is wearing it. While the scrotum may stretch a bit over time from wearing the device, the dartos and cremaster muscles pull the testicles against the base ring and cage a lot of the time. This situation happens in response to cold, during an attempted erection, and so on. It often causes discomfort and even pain for a wearer with a high and tight scrotum.

If you’re a high and tight guy, you might have found it a struggle to wear a ball-trapping chastity device because of feeling the sensation of your testicles getting pinched and wedged between the base ring and cage in strange ways. The sensation can range from noticeable discomfort to feeling like the cage is ripping your balls off your body. You can thank your dartos and cremaster muscles for that.

Troubleshooting for High and Tight Guys

The base ring width and shape is more of a factor for guys with tight scrotums than those with loose scrotums. Wider rings may be quite uncomfortable as they cause more stretching to occur. Here I use the term wider to refer to the depth, anything wider than a common steel base ring.

The distance between the ring and cage (the gap) is another measurement that is more critical for high and tight guys. A little too narrow, and it can lead to the tight, uncomfortable wedging feeling. If the gap is too wide, the scrotal muscles can make you feel like the device is slowly crushing your balls as the muscles pull your testicles deeper into the gap. You must find the sweet spot when it comes to base ring size, shape, and gap. That means you may not be able to wear an off the shelf device but will have to bite the bullet and buy a custom-made chastity device if you plan on extended wear.

Ring Size

You definitely must obtain accurate measurements before selecting a base ring size. Since many chastity device manufacturers like Mature Metal provide useful measuring guides, I won’t regurgitate the information here. You can read the Mature Metal measuring guide here to learn how to take accurate measurements.

As a rule of thumb, once you put on a base ring, you should be able to get a fingertip easily between the inside of the ring and your skin. If you can’t, the ring is too tight and will likely cause you problems. If you can get two or more fingertips inside, then the ring is probably too large. A base ring that is too big causes the device to be less secure and can result in one of your balls popping out of the ring when the scrotal muscles are doing their thing. I’ve had this happen. Sometimes it is painful, but at other times, I didn’t even notice it for a long while after it happened.

Gap

For me, gap size is even more critical than ring size. I’ve learned from experimentation that a 3/8 inch gap is what I need with my high and tight scrotum. The Mature Metal measuring guide says that is about right for most guys except those with really loose scrotums who may need a narrower gap. It seems most off the shelf devices come with a 3/8 inch gap.

The thing is, there is no way to measure for the gap. It is best then to start with a 3/8 inch gap and then adjust if needed. I once tried a 1/4 inch gap with a device I kept having a ball pop out of, and within thirty minutes, I felt excruciating pain. That’s how much of a difference even 1/8 of an inch can make when it comes to the gap.

If you have a tight scrotum and find it painful to wear a chastity device and you’re sure you chose the right base ring size, then you probably need a wider gap. Custom manufacturers can give you whatever size gap you need. So, if a 3/8 inch isn’t working, try a 1/2 inch gap. I wouldn’t add more than 1/8 inch at a time. You don’t want the gap to be too wide either. If it is too wide, you will likely experience having a ball pop out of the ring.

A high and tight scrotum requires a more precise fit, and there is a much greater potential for pain and a much lower margin for error when it comes to ring and gap sizing.

Other Tight Scrotal Issues

I’m not a medical professional, but having researched it a little, I learned that there is a medical condition called adult hyperactive cremaster muscle reflex, which causes retractile testicles.

For men with a hyperactive cremaster muscle, one or both testicles vigorously retract up into the groin to the extent they have to press the testicle back down into the scrotum. The retraction typically occurs during intercourse, exercise, getting in and out of cars, or other physical activity. There is a minor surgical procedure known as a microsurgical subinguinal cremaster muscle release. This surgery releases the muscle to prevent vigorous testicular retraction.

I’m not qualified to give medical advice or diagnose testicular problems. But if you have a high and tight scrotum and one or both of your testicles sometimes retracts into your groin, especially if it’s painful, you should consult with your doctor. I can’t imagine anyone with a hyperactive cremaster muscle could comfortably wear any ball trapping device.

When Ball-Trapping Devices Won't Work

With my high and tight, I have found some ball-trapping chastity devices I simply can’t wear. Fortunately, I have found many that I can. But for a guy who has tried everything, even custom-made devices, and hasn’t been able to wear a device for any appreciable length of time, there is another option.

There are chastity devices that don’t attach with a base ring, but they require a Prince Albert (PA) piercing. Male Chastity Now makes one called the Mouse Trap. It’s a metal tube that slips over the penis and has a hook attachment for a PA ring. The piercing does carry the weight of the tube. But I’ve heard if you size it properly, the tube shouldn’t slip past the glans of the penis, which takes some of the stress off the piercing.

If you’ve got a high and tight scrotum, want to practice male chastity, but haven’t been able to wear a chastity device for more than a few hours due to discomfort, there are some things you can do.

Always look at sizing first. Nine times out of ten, that’s where you’ll find the problem. I strongly suspect more guys are wearing improperly sized chastity devices than guys wearing properly fitted ones.

Off the shelf devices just don’t work for every guy with a high and tight scrotum. Custom devices are an investment, but sometimes that is what it takes to get a chastity device that works for you.

There are options for those with high and tight scrotums who want to practice chastity but can’t wear a ball trapping device. You might consider getting the PA piercing and going with one of the devices that don’t attach to your body with a base ring. There is also the chastity belt option. Fancy steel makes a slim-fit chastity belt that I find very intriguing.

Finally, if you think you have a medical issue, see a urologist. Whatever the issue, if practicing male chastity is something you want, you can probably find a way to overcome any obstacles to the long-term comfortable wearing of a chastity device.

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Potential Benefits of Reducing Ejaculation Frequency With Male Chastity

By on Monday, December 7, 2020
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Are there actual benefits from reducing ejaculation frequency with male chastity? Since wearing a chastity device reduces ejaculation frequency, that’s probably something most chaste men are interested in knowing. In this post, we will attempt to answer the question.

The Taoists Weigh In

There’s an old Taoist belief that controlling how often you ejaculate helps you preserve what they believed was your life force, a finite amount of life essence. Abstaining from ejaculation was thought to allow the energy contained in your sperm to be recycled by returning it to the brain to supply it with energy.

Therefore, Taoists believed excessive ejaculation resulted in things like premature aging, disease, and general fatigue. The practice of retaining semen remains one of the foundational tenets of Taoist sexual practices.

This belief is the origin of the “24 times a year” idea, where a man should ejaculate only twice per month. Some Taoist teachers also recommend that you only ejaculate 20 to 30 percent of the time you have sex. That translates to 2 or 3 times out of every ten sessions.

None of these ideas are backed by any hard science. Thus, many Taoist teachers urge people to focus on personal feelings of strength and refreshment after ejaculation rather than specific figures as a guide for reducing ejaculation frequency.

What Does Science Say About Ejaculation Frequency

What does science say about ejaculation frequency? Unfortunately, not much. There is little scientific research published on semen retention. What few studies that have been conducted mostly focus on semen retention for couples seeking pregnancy. However, there is a handful of studies that looked to gain an understanding of the relationship between ejaculation frequency and serum testosterone levels in men.

Results from one of these studies found that the serum testosterone concentrations of the study volunteers during abstinence periods showed minimal changes in testosterone levels from the second to the fifth day of abstinence. But on the seventh day of abstinence, there was a clear peak in testosterone, reaching 145.7% of the baseline levels. This suggested that the effective time of abstinence required to increase testosterone levels was a seven-day minimum.

Testosterone is an anabolic hormone that regulates the development of muscles, bones, and sex organs. Testosterone levels increase during puberty, then begin to decline after early adulthood. Researchers have linked low testosterone to decreased muscle mass, low libido, fatigue, symptoms of major depression, and a greater risk of cardiovascular disease. Because of this, there are several benefits to boosting testosterone.

Boosting your testosterone levels can strengthen your bones, which also provides structure and protection for your organs. Also, increased testosterone levels contribute to good mental health and overall mood and benefit the brain in other ways. Studies have found a link between higher levels of testosterone and a reduced risk of Alzheimer’s disease. Higher testosterone concentrations may also contribute to improved memory and cognitive function, including spatial abilities.

All of the scientific evidence that does exist suggests that naturally increasing your testosterone levels through the reduction of ejaculation frequency may have many health benefits.

Anecdotal Evidence of the Benefits of Reducing Ejaculation Frequency

While my experience is only anecdotal evidence, not hard science, I’m convinced that I reap numerous health benefits from reducing ejaculation frequency by the practice of wearing a chastity device. Scientific evidence that ties limiting ejaculation frequency to specific benefits aside, with chastity, there is also the presence of increased and sustained arousal.

Arousal is linked intimately to elevations in oxytocin and dopamine. These naturally occurring substances are associated with positive emotions, comfort in social and intimate environments, increased cognitive abilities and reduced stress.

Within four to seven days after ejaculation, I feel an increase in clarity, motivation, and passion for life. My creative fires return, and ideas associated with my writing come flooding in. I have more energy, more life clarity and vision, and more drive during this time. From twelve to twenty days of abstinence, these energies continue building. My life purpose becomes clearer and becomes integrated into my body in a way I experience in no other way. It’s as if I can literally feel my life purpose in my body as a physical sensation. It feels amazing.

By the time I reach thirty days since my last ejaculation, I have experienced a major shift in how my body and mind deal with the excess energy I get not ejaculating. Instead of feeling like there is too much energy in my system, the extra energy becomes naturally integrated into my body, mind, and spirit. Literally, everything in my life seems better. I experience deep ease, peacefulness, vibrance, clarity, power, purpose, and even sleep better.

My physical urge to ejaculate increases too, but I’m usually still not ready to ejaculate by the thirtieth day. One way I deal with the increased energy in my body and the increased urge to ejaculate is with intense, daily physical exercise like going on an intense run or lifting weights or both.

Because of the valuable physical and mental benefits that I reap from reducing ejaculation frequency through chastity, it’s something I’ll never give up. I find the benefits far outweigh the few transitory seconds of pleasure I get from ejaculation. For me, semen retention is a win.

Is There a Downside to Reducing Ejaculation Frequency?

I’m sure most of us have heard about the European research study that suggested ejaculating at least 21 times a month significantly reduces a man’s risk of prostate cancer. But the evidence supporting that claim isn’t conclusive. It’s worth noting that another study found no statistical connection between ejaculation frequency and reduced risk of prostate cancer.

More research is needed before we can know the answer for sure. Until such becomes available, I’m not going to discontinue practicing chastity on the off chance it may slightly elevate my risk of prostate cancer. For one reason, I once read an article in a medical journal by a well-respected urologist who said all men, if they live long enough, will develop prostate cancer at some point in their lives. The longer we live, the greater the chance we will contract it.

It’s fair to say that there isn’t yet compelling scientific evidence to link actual benefits to reducing ejaculation frequency with male chastity. But I know many guys have anecdotally experienced the same positive benefits I have. My take on it is this. If you strongly feel that practicing chastity has benefitted you, then it has. For me, that’s more than enough.

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Post Six Months in Chastity After Action Review

By on Friday, December 4, 2020

In this post-six months in chastity after action review, I’m finally sharing my long-promised experiences after completing my longest period of consecutive days in chastity.

Ever since I embraced the chastity life, I’ve read and heard other guys expressing concerns about the potential negative consequences of spending long periods wearing a chastity device. I’ve even seen claims posted around the web by guys who have attributed various ills, assertions of erectile dysfunction (ED) one of the more prominent, to long-term chastity cage wear.

Clearly, six-months in chastity isn’t a terribly long time compared to the experiences of the permanent chastity studs like Thumper. Still, it’s a good milestone for me to review the experiences of my chastity journey. I’ll lead off with the obligatory disclaimers. I’m not a urologist, and I don’t even play one on television. These are my own experiences, and since we’re all unique human beings, your mileage might vary if you engage in long-term chastity.

Honey, I Shrunk the Penis

There are two divergent paths of thought within the chaste community regarding chastity devices and penis shrinkage. The prospect is frightening for some guys, while others long (pun intended) to experience it. It’s generally guys for whom small penis humiliation (SPH) is a favorite kink who hope to shrink their willies.

Chastity Devices and Penis Shrinkage

A woman I consider to be very knowledgeable on male chastity and who has introduced hundreds if not thousands of men to the chastity life makes this claim.

It’s pretty common to see a half-inch [penis] length reduction right away if you’re wearing a cage 3-4 weeks at a time with no more than a couple of days off. If you keep that schedule, you’re not likely to see more change than that. But over time, without breaks, that half-inch can grow to an inch or more. A short cage combined with several months of continuous wear can shrink a 6.5-inch penis to 4.5 inches. I’ve seen it with my own tape measure. If the wearer were to stop wearing at that point, he might recover a half-inch in length, but that would be it.

My source bases her opinions of penis shrinkage on observations of men she has personally key held for, which is a rather staggering number. But she admits she has never kept scientific-grade notes or even measured penises at regular intervals. So, I believe we must take her assertions with a grain of salt since her shrinkage opinions are purely anecdotal and not supported by any scientific evidence.

Seeing the Big Picture

Let’s assume for a moment that the long-term wear of a cock cage does cause penis shrinkage. If you’re a long-term chastity enthusiast, does it really matter if your penis shrinks as a result? A half-inch wouldn’t even be noticeable even for guys who already own a smaller dick. But even if the shrinkage was more in the range mentioned in the previous section, so what? If a guy is going to wear a chastity device more or less permanently, then his dick’s length seems a moot point.

But if the specter of possible penis shrinkage is something that terrifies you, then my advice would be to wear a cock cage for a week at a time with two-day breaks in between stints of chastity. If chastity device induced shrinkage is a real thing, then you could be confident that any shrinkage would be minimal (within the theoretical half-inch range).

I’m not particularly concerned about penis shrinkage myself. I’m nowhere close to porn star size, and truthfully I’ve never suffered from insecurities over my very average-sized penis. The genetic lottery determines penis size. Most guys are average-sized. Only a small percentage of men on either side of the bell curve have very large or very small penises. Despite the ads you see on various porn sites, you can do nothing to grow a bigger dick. So, my question is this. Why waste time worrying about something you cannot change?

My Experience After Six Months

While I don’t claim my results are scientific, I have measured my Johnson before ordering custom-made cages, so I have a good handle on my normal flaccid size. And, like most of you (okay, admit it, all of you), I’ve measured my dick when it was erect. With those measurements in mind, here is what I discovered after six-months in a chastity cage. No change.

My flaccid length was about a half inch shorter for a day or two after taking off the device. But by the third day, my soft penis was the same size as when I ordered my Mature Metal cage. Also, I measured the erect length four days after taking off the cock cage after six-months and again observed no change in length.

Medical professionals tell us some things cause penises to shrink. For example, as you get older, your penis and testicles may get slightly smaller. One reason is the buildup of fatty deposits in your arteries, reducing blood flow to your penis. This can cause withering of the muscle cells in the spongy tubes of erectile tissue inside your penis. Also, things like decreased testosterone levels and lifestyle causative factors like smoking and weight gain can cause the penis to get slightly smaller.

After six months of continuous wear, I saw no permanent shrinkage due to wearing a chastity cage. I have yet to see any scientific or otherwise compelling evidence that proves long-term chastity causes penis shrinkage. I’m going to put this one in the myth category.

Nocturnal Penile Tumescence

Nocturnal penile tumescence, better known outside medical circles as night-time erections, is a normal occurrence for healthy men. The cause of nocturnal erections isn’t fully understood. But scientific studies suggest they’re closely associated with the phase of sleep known as rapid eye movement (REM) sleep. A healthy man can expect to get hard three to five times per night. Also, “morning wood,” waking with an erection is the same animal as the night-time erections.

Some medical professionals say that night-time erections keep your penile tissue soft and stretchy. They also prompt the smooth muscles in your penis to relax, allowing the blood to rush in and get you hard. That keeps it in fighting shape for when you’re awake and want to use it for various pleasurable activities. Without this regular sleep time workout, some urologists believe the muscles may become too contracted, and eventually, the length of your erect penis may shorten.

Frankly, I can’t say whether you stop having nocturnal penile tumescence when you start wearing a chastity cage or whether you just stop noticing them. I still do wake on occasion with my willy filling the cage, though I haven’t awakened in the middle of the night in a long while with an attempted erection. But I was one of those fortunate guys who never had any real issues with painful night-time erections even when I slept wearing a chastity device the first time. In only a few days, they didn’t even wake me anymore.

I didn’t awaken in the middle of the night with a boner a single time after removing the cage after six-months, so I can’t claim night-time erections returned for me (assuming they ever left), but beginning on the third morning after taking the cage off, I started waking up hard again. Lesson learned? At least after six-months of continual wear, to my knowledge, my chastity cage has not negatively impacted my everyday experience of nocturnal penile tumescence.

The Dreaded Erectile Dysfunction (ED)

Rivaling only the shrinkage myth is the fear of long-term chastity device wear induced ED. From time to time, I visit a chastity forum replete with accounts from guys who claim they suffered erectile dysfunction from wearing chastity devices. All of these sufferers of chastity device induced ED are always self-diagnoses, of course. None that I’ve heard of had consulted a practitioner of the healing arts. Also, none shared anything about their general health history, drug use, or mentioned possible two-pack a day smoking habits.

Like penis shrinkage, doctors tell us that medical conditions, particularly diabetes or heart conditions, other chronic health conditions, tobacco use, and obesity, cause erectile dysfunction. Anything that restricts blood flow to veins and arteries can cause it. But currently, there exists no scientific evidence that long-term wear of a chastity device causes ED.

Some urologists have expressed concerns that cock cages may interfere with normal nocturnal penile tumescence, which they say “could” result in erectile dysfunction, but none have actually observed it.

Based on my six-month experience, I can say that I detected not even a hint of ED. In the wee morning hours of December 1, I masturbated to orgasm (okay, more than once if we must get technical) for diagnostic testing purposes only, of course. I experienced normal, firm erections, and all the plumbing worked in good order. While I can’t say definitively that chastity device induced ED isn’t possible, so far, I’ve seen no compelling evidence that it occurs.

My One Surprising Observation

There is one rather peculiar penis change I have observed after my six-month sojourn into extended chastity. Sadly, I was circumcised shortly after birth, as many of you were. I still haven’t forgiven my parents for choosing to mutilate me as an infant without even discussing it with me first. But after six months in my cage, I’m now sort of uncut.

For some bizarre, unknown reason, my glans now spontaneously pull back inside the remnants of my foreskin with only a small portion of the tip showing. I’m at a loss to explain why this happens. My glans are always fully visible when I wear my cage, so why they have chosen to retreat when I’m not wearing a cage is mystifying. I must even press lightly with my thumb and index finger on the tip of my shaft to make the glans appear when I need to pee. Otherwise, it tends to interfere with an accurate stream.

The only possible explanation I can think of is this. I purposely ordered my Amicus device about three-quarters of an inch shorter than my normal flaccid size. That’s because I’m a bit enamored with micro-chastity at the moment, and I like experiencing a little “turtling” effect. The shorter cage also ensures that the tip of my dick is firmly against the end of the cage at all times, which allows me to pee while standing in the usual male fashion. I don’t know that the shorter cage is the cause behind my new uncircumcised look, but it’s the only thing I can think may have caused it. Nevertheless, I’ve locked up again now and can’t say whether this condition is permanent or not.

The bottom line is I observed no ill effects from spending six months wearing a chastity device.

In other news, I’m still awaiting the arrival of the Holy Trainer Nano. At the moment, like Clark Griswald’s bonus check, it seems to be MIA. The last tracking update I received said the package was at a USPS facility in Chicago on November 27. I haven’t received an update since.

Hopefully, it is working its way through the bowels of the infamously glacially moving U.S. Postal Service and will become a dump in my mailbox soon. Know what? There are a lot of people these days clamoring to replace capitalism in this country with socialism. I always wonder if they have ever considered our postal service, America’s first flirtation with a socialist, government-run business? Seriously, these people. Do they really want their health care, housing, and everything else their lives depend on delivered with the same glorious inefficiency as their mail? But that’s a whole other story.

Until next time, take care, and thanks for reading.

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