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Mail Call: Urethral Chastity Devices Question

By Chaste on Tuesday, June 27, 2023

Welcome to another edition of mail call where I do my best to answer questions from readers of this blog. The question today is about urethral chastity devices.

Don, a new visitor to the site, is getting back into chastity. He asked about my take on catheter use with a chastity cage. These devices, sometimes called urethral chastity cages, include either a rigid, all metal catheter or a length of silicone tubing with metal connections with friction ridges that slide into the tubing at each end. First, welcome to the site, Don. I hope you find something of value here and I appreciate you sending me the question.

It seems, based on the discussions I’ve seen on various chastity forums recently, urethral chastity cages have quite a following because of the popularity of “flat” micro-chastity devices. Also, many who use catheters believe it is a way of making the cage more secure for those who want increased security but have no interest in getting a PA piercing. I can imagine having a catheter inserted in the penis does at least make it more difficult to withdraw the penis from the back of the device. Yet, the truth is, no chastity cage is completely secure. Ball trap device security, even with a PA attachment is mostly fantasy. With the motivation, and in some cases proper tools, a person can escape from any locked chastity device.

Let me say here at the beginning, I have never worn a urethral chastity device. I once bought a micro-chastity device that came with one, but after inspecting the catheter, I tossed it. It was one of those with a length of tubing with metal connectors at the ends. No way was I going to shove that inside my dick.

Maybe they work fine and the fitting at the end you insert into your urethra will never come loose from the tubing. But I’m a firm believer in Murphy’s Law. “Anything that can go wrong will go wrong.” Losing one of those steel connections inside the urethra means an embarrassing and expensive visit to the emergency room and hoping a doctor can extract it without surgery. Nope, not going there.

If I was keen to try a urethral chastity device, which I’m not, the only type I’d try is one with a rigid, one-piece, medical grade stainless-steel catheter. But that’s another problem. With most of the urethral cages coming from China, how can you be sure what kind of metal they make the catheter from (or the attachable ends for those with plastic tubing)? You can’t. I did come across a U.S. company that sells after-market chastity cage catheters they claim are made from medical grade stainless steel and medical grade silicone tubing for the types with the connectors at each end. I’d be more inclined to check out that company thoroughly and then buy the catheter from them if I felt satisfied that the company seemed trustworthy.

To be honest, I think people interested in urethral chastity cages probably are more into the fetish aspect of sticking things into their dicks than looking for added security. It’s actually a common fetish and there are all kinds of things designed for those who are into it, such as; urethral sounds, penis plugs, etc. And it’s classified as serious kink play that’s best left to people who know what the hell they are doing.

Also, I recently read a medical paper on the topic of some mentally ill people with penises who stick things like pencils, wooden matches, nails, wire, and screws inside their dicks with the intention of injuring themselves, and then they appear at an emergency room regularly for treatment of injuries or help extracting an object stuck inside their penis.

Getting back to Murphy’s Law, I can think of plenty that could go wrong using a urethral chastity cage. I will even discount the chance of one of those detachable friction connectors getting lost inside one’s dick. Here are a few other risks.

Urinary tract infection (UTI) anyone? I’m pretty sure I remember a post on Thumper’s blog about how he got a UTI after trying out a cage with a catheter that ended with a trip to the emergency room. And from what I’ve read on chastity forums, that is quite common. The urethral opening of a penis stays closed unless discharging fluids for a reason. It helps keep bacteria out of the urethra. Bacteria getting into the urethra is what causes UTIs. When you insert something into your pee hole, even if it is sterile going in, it still provides a pathway for bacteria.

When medical professionals prescribe catheters for patients who need them for medical reasons, they instruct patients to carefully clean around the urethral opening and the exposed portion of the catheter daily. That is to lower the risk of getting a UTI. A chastity cage would make it difficult if not impossible to do this effectively each day without removing the cage first. And the designs I’ve seen make me think you might also have to remove the catheter to clean it and reinsert it daily as well.

Next up on our Murphy’s list is penile necrosis (gangrene of the penis), which medical professionals say is one of the risks that comes from inserting a foreign object into the penis. That can cause an infected injury to the delicate urethral tissue. This can result in acute urinary retention, septic shock with multiple organ failure, and the spread of penile gangrene to the scrotum and fascia (Fournier gangrene). It is treatable if a person seeks medical help in time, but depending on the treatment required, that can produce erectile dysfunction, chronic pain syndrome, or penile deformity. It’s rare, but penile necrosis can happen from an accidental injury.

Fistulae wounds are another possibility when putting stuff into the urethra. These are traumatic injuries that often result in infections and painful inflammation. Forcing something, particularly something too large into your urethra could cause such injuries. And like most off-the-shelf chastity devices, those with catheters come with one-size-fits-all catheters.

Although there are other possible medical complications from inserting foreign objects into the urethra through the penis, urethral strictures are the last Murphy’s possibility we’ll consider. Urethral strictures occur when scarring occurs inside the urethra, narrowing it, and impairing the flow of urine from the bladder. This can cause leaking urine, incontinence, infections of the urethra and bladder, or chronic renal failure. Medical catheter insertion is one of the most common causes of urethral strictures. How much riskier might sex toy catheters be?

So, Don, probably more than you wanted to know, but I would not use a chastity cage with a catheter nor would I recommend it. Too much could go wrong. When I look at the risk-reward ratio, I don’t see enough benefits to justify the risks.

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Is Permanent Chastity the Ultimate Goal?

By Chaste on Monday, June 12, 2023

Is it the purpose of wearing a chastity device for everyone to achieve permanent chastity by wearing it 24/7, twelve months a year? Let’s talk about it..

Some people think the legitimate practice of chastity involves progressively longer periods of being locked, leading to permanent chastity (except for brief unlocked periods for cleaning).

I’ve held this perspective on chastity from the start, particularly after finishing my initial 30-day locked period. The longer I wore the device, the more I desired to stay locked. My recent partnership with Lucie, my remote keyholder, has brought about a change for me.

Not only does Lucie decide when I wear a device, but also when I don’t. She thinks it’s important for good health and other reasons to take regular breaks from wearing a chastity device. For example, Lucie is of the opinion that my obedience to her when I’m unlocked is a better way to gauge my submission to her than when I’m wearing a device. Also, during my unlocked periods, Lucie can subject me to some teasing she can’t when I’m locked. I’ve learned that she particularly enjoys making me edge in the usual way, which I find extremely arousing but also devastatingly frustrating. The suffering is, of course, the point. She is a sadist, after all.

Previously, I preferred wearing a chastity device as much as possible, but now I’ve had to change my perspective. I have to admit that Lucie has taught me a thing or two about chastity that I never experienced before. One thing I’ve learned is to value the submissive aspect of chastity more than ever.

Although I prefer permanent chastity, I don’t think it must be the aim for all users of chastity devices. This is not only unrealistic but also undesirable. Everyone has their own reason for embracing chastity. Wearing a chastity device for extended periods can have benefits, but permanent chastity is not superior to short-term chastity. Wearing a device for a few days or hours is a valid form of chastity and the experience of denial.

If you want to practice permanent chastity, that’s great. Go for it. But if you only want to do chastity occasionally, and only for short periods of time, you’re not doing it wrong. Chastity is not a competition, and the only opinions that matter are yours and those of your keyholder if you have one. Chastity is only about what works for you in satisfying what you want to get from it.

Even though I’m again taking a Lucie mandated break from my cage, I’m still practicing chastity and remain denied. That’s because Lucie graciously agreed to allow me to keep my commitment to the Chastity 90 challenge. For another forty-eight days, at least, I won’t experience orgasm or ejaculation. But afterward, that too will be up to Lucie.

I’m finding this unlocked period less unsettling than the last. It hasn’t surprised me that being unlocked hasn’t created the temptation to cheat. I respect Lucie too much to cheat, and I don’t want to disappoint her. Also, by giving in to temptation and allowing myself sexual release, I would cheat myself as much as Lucie. While she hasn’t told me how long that I’ll stay unlocked this time, I expect it will be for fewer days than the last time since I was locked fewer days. But of course, that’s up to Lucie and I wouldn’t have it any other way.

The post image is more of my AI art experimentation, which I’m finding hugely entertaining. Hope you like it.

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Back in a Chastity Device After Six Day Hiatus

By Chaste on Sunday, May 28, 2023

After six long days without wearing a chastity cage, as of early afternoon today, Lucie has kindly locked me again and I’m sporting my KINK3D Cobra N secured with the new air lock.

Sans chastity device for almost a full week wasn’t as traumatic as I had expected. Still, I’m happy to be back in the Cobra. Chastity devices promise new adventures. And even if those adventures never really come, I don’t want to be denied the anticipation of them. But over the past six days, Lucie taught me some valuable lessons, so no regrets.

I love wearing chastity devices. I love enforced chastity. I have ideas about why I love having a dominant woman locking me in a chastity device and making all the decisions about my access to my penis and sexual pleasure. None of my ideas are very deep, or very unusual. But that arrangement brings me pleasure more than it brings me frustration, and it forces me to channel my sexual desire and tension into paying attention to my keyholder and what she wants and delivering it to the best of my ability.

I would like my kink to motivate me to think of women as human beings rather than suppliers of sex to satisfy whatever fits my grab bag of sexual fantasies. Of course, I suppose the reason straight men want women to lock their penis in a chastity device and make them suffer the pangs of orgasm denial might not be because their sexuality is really about satisfying female desire—but about fulfilling some arbitrary crass and oh-so-often kinky set of fantasy-driven desires of their own. But that can’t be true, can it?

Maybe my desire for enforced chastity and whatever rocky course it has set me on is I want to be a plaything for my superior Mistress, a harsh and cruel, yet seductive creature of delight. Perhaps I want to put all my wants and needs aside unselfishly and exist purely for her pleasure. Or maybe it is more about the humiliation of being treated as less of a man, having the very symbol of my masculinity taken away, being a slut, and being ridiculous and, and, and…

I’m not sure what motivated me at the beginning of my chastity journey. But during the past six days, I have learned a few things. I’m not a natural submissive, but that’s okay. Lucie is skilled at making me learn to be more submissive. I learned the past six days was an opportunity to show my devotion to her, which she well deserves. She kept me horny and full of sexual tension for her with texts, images, and assignments, things she knew would make me insanely aroused. It’s almost frightening sometimes how well she knows exactly what to do to get the reactions she wants from me, but I love it.

The main thing Lucie taught me during the past week is she isn’t only in control when she has locked my penis in a chastity device, but also when she hasn’t. That reminded me a big part of the chastity and denial is me keeping my full focus on her, and pleasing her, not thinking about my penis, my pleasure, or getting to wear a chastity device just because I want to. There is an intensity between us I’ve rarely experienced before. That makes me appreciate Lucie all the more for putting in the effort that makes chastity fun and meaningful, even though we’re an ocean apart.

Yes, Lucie is a dominant woman acting as my keyholder for money rather than love, honey. But that doesn’t make it feel any less than amazing or spectacular. While I know she is keyholding for lots of other guys, somehow she makes me feel like I’m the only one. Small things like that count just as much as the large things for having a meaningful chastity experience with a keyholder.

Playing With AI Art

So, I’ve been experimenting with AI art for a few days. The image at the top of the post is my best result so far. I found out on my first attempt a few days ago that the AI platform I’m using doesn’t allow the term “dominatrix” in the text prompts so I experimented using different text prompts to describe the image I wanted without using the word. Quite a few of the AI images I have created have been pretty horrible. Parts of the images have been good, but sometimes for reasons I can’t imagine, I get weird stuff like extra limbs or things I didn’t ask for. So, I’m very pleased with this image which captures almost exactly what I was looking for. Anyway, I may share more of my AI creations here should I get more results like this one.

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The Stuff About Chastity Device Security You May Not Have Considered and Really Should

By Chaste on Sunday, September 4, 2022

Weirdly, three different guys contacted me last week about chastity device security. They all wanted to know how to find a chastity device that was completely inescapable. They all posed their questions a little differently, but it was the same question. And they weren’t asking about incorporating a piercing. They were all talking about ball-trap devices, not chastity belts. All had the same impression. Somewhere out there in the ether was the genuine article. The real deal. The holy grail of chastity devices. Either a device so perfectly designed it was escape proof, or some enhancement they might incorporate that they just hadn’t yet found that could make it so. Spoiler alert. There is no magic inescapable ball-trap device (like the one you have now). None.

There was a device manufacturer I saw mentioned on various chastity forums a while back that advertised having an inescapable device. I forget the name. But the company claimed its chastity device, which used a spring-loaded cam and a uniquely shaped base ring, was totally secure. Strangely, the company’s website has long since disappeared, so it’s a safe assumption they went out of business. That should tell you all you need to know about its “inescapable device” claims.

I always mention “security” in my device reviews. But understand, I’m always talking “relative security” not factual security. To me, the security of a ball-trap device means it fits tight enough that it doesn’t fall off on its own when you don’t want it to and would take over two seconds for me to remove it while locked. And, yes, while I won’t embarrass any manufacturers by naming them, I have two such devices I can get off in about two seconds flat while locked. As a general rule, custom made devices manufactured to a guy’s specific measurements are the most secure. The relative security of any off-the-shelf device is pretty much judged by whether it can fall off on its own, or allows testicles to pop out of the base ring.

Why Are So Many Guys Obsessed with Chastity Device Security?

This is a simple question to answer and has to do with the fantasy aspect of chastity. Even those of us who approach chastity from more of a practical perspective still embrace this fantasy to some degree. The idea of being totally helpless and under control of a chastity device or the control of another person holding the key to the device is an insanely hot and arousing concept. Also, chastity devices play right into the very common “do me while I’m helpless” male fantasy. So, knowing you could get a device off without unlocking it if you truly wanted sort of ruins the whole fantasy deal. Instead of accepting they must balance the fantasy with the reality of chastity device security, some guys long for a chastity device that even Houdini couldn’t have wriggled out of.

What About Security Add-Ons?

Sure, there are add-ons available like anti-pullout pins. They may make escaping more painful, but not impossible. I imagine easily how someone could design something with anti-pullout pins or teeth that would serve as a real deterrent. But the pin points or teeth would need to be so sharp that they would do serious damage if a guy tried to pull his peen out of the cage or tube to inflict enough pain to dissuade him. By definition, that means enough physical damage to cause that level of pain. The problem is, because a penis is a state of near constant change, just wearing a device equipped with something like that means it would cause nicks, cuts, and bloody shorts just from wearing it. Who wants to risk bleeding to death or nerve damage to gain an inescapable chastity device? That’s what I thought.

It's Physiology

The reason no ball-trap device is unequivocally secure is a simple matter of physiology. Who knows? Someday there may be devices that doctors can surgically attach to prevent removal. But at the moment, there is only one way to attach a ball-trap chastity device to male genitals, and that method makes it possible for a motivated guy to withdraw his penis from the cage and out the back of the base ring. Once he gets his penis out, while maybe it won’t be completely pain free, it creates sufficient space so he can then work a testicle out of the base ring, and then it’s easy to pop the other one out. That’s harder to do with some devices than with others. But it’s possible with every device I’ve ever seen or tried. Sometimes, with a well-fitted device, it might require soaping up in the shower or using lubrication, but it is never impossible.

Realistic Improved Chastity Device Security

There are only two realistic ways to get enhanced chastity device security. With ball-trap devices, it requires getting your penis pierced and wearing a ring through the piercing that attaches inside the cage to prevent backing your penis out. The Price Albert (PA) is the most popular for guys who choose this route. But a frenum piercing can also work. I wrote this post about penis piercings recently if you’re interested in that.

Usually, the body jewelry ring slips over an “S-hook” attached to the inside of the cage or tube. So once they lock on a device, the wearer has no access to the ring through the piercing and no way to withdraw his penis. I don’t have a piercing, but from what I’ve read on other chastity blogs and forums, this makes a chastity device quite secure, especially with a PA. I see no reason to doubt that as a practical matter, especially with tube-type devices where the tip of the S-hook goes through a tiny hole at the tip of the tube and extends slightly outside it. That ensures there isn’t even the smallest gap a guy might use to manipulate the ring and get it free from the hook inside the device.

The second option for practical chastity device security is going the full chastity belt route instead of using a ball-trap device. Of course, this is a far more expensive option if you want a quality belt. But, besides the costs, belts present their own problems. As examples, they must be precisely fitted. So, if you buy one and then lose or gain significant weight, the belt may no longer fit. Good hygiene requires much more time and effort. And belts may feel less comfortable and are bulkier. Still, a well-fitted belt is practically inescapable when locked unless the wearer resorts to tools to destroy it by cutting it off.

While far more secure than any ball-trap device alone, incorporating penis piercings or opting for a full chastity belt offers greater security, but with sufficient motivation to escape and cutting tools, neither is definitively inescapable. My point is, security is relative and may be enhanced, but still absolute security is simply unattainable. So, when we think of chastity device security, maybe we aren’t asking the right questions.

Chastity in the Real World

Devices, locks, etcetera are all symbolic. A totally escape proof chastity device does not exist. So, whether you could wriggle out of your chastity or not shouldn’t be an issue. Why not suspend belief and embrace the illusion that your device is inescapable? That will make chastity hotter for you and for your key holder if you have one who gets to believe you can’t possibly get out of it without their consent. If you attempt and succeed in escaping, that only ruins the illusion for you and your key holder, if applicable. Accept the balance between fantasy and reality. Even a well designed and fabricated ball-trap chastity device is not totally escape proof. But that doesn’t make chastity, or the associated orgasm denial any less fun, beneficial, or fulfilling.

Like I read somewhere, the best chastity device is between your ears, not your legs. If a guy cheats by escaping from a chastity device, then enhancing security isn’t really the problem. It’s a lack of commitment and he is only cheating himself out of the positive benefits of learning to control his penis instead of letting his penis control him. If that’s not important to him, then he should just unlock himself whenever he feels like it, even if that means asking for the key back from a key holder.

I’ve read a lot of chastity forum and blog posts by guys claiming their partners have forced them to wear a chastity device. Probably ninety-nine percent of those claims are fiction. I doubt there are many guys kept in chastity against their will. When a guy’s cock gets locked, it’s almost always his idea and he may have worked hard to convince a partner to act as his key holder. It’s voluntary, not forced. But enforced chastity makes it seem way hotter, so I understand why some guys make those claims.

The bottom line is you can always escape if you really want. And if that’s the case, why do the whole chastity thing at all if you don’t really want it? Actual chastity isn’t easy. You’re battling powerful biological urges impressed upon you by tens of thousands of years of evolution. And the proliferation of free porn on the internet makes it even harder to resist. At one extreme are guys who want the benefits that come from chastity and reduced ejaculation frequency. At the other are those for whom chastity is only an erotic game. Regardless of where you fall between the extremes, just accept that a chastity device is only a tool to supplement good old-fashioned willpower and self-discipline. Then you can focus on developing a more mindful sense with the help of a device that allows you to get on top of your masturbation habit, conquer your biological urges, and, within your relationship with a partner, help you focus more on their pleasure than your own. And you can stop wasting time and energy worrying that your device is not escape proof.

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February 2021 Chastity Question of the Month

By Chaste on Wednesday, February 10, 2021

From time to time, I receive questions from readers, especially about chastity device fitting issues. I thought I’d start answering questions in a post that might benefit others having similar issues. Here is the February 2021 Chastity Question of the Month.

The Question

“Hello! I’m on my 2nd cage. I’m between sizes (45 slips out, 40mm too tight and chafes), so I’ve got a 42mm 3d printed cage. Ring passes finger test, and cage is 3/4-in shorter than my measurements. However, the base ring still rubs a lot, and causes me to take it off after 3-5 days. I’ve tried Vaseline and aquaphor 4ish times a day, still seems to happen. Any advice on what could be causing it? I’ve got a 3D printed cage and I sanded down the base ring so it’s very smooth.”

Since I don’t know the specific cage the reader is wearing, I have to give an answer here that is pretty generic.

The Surface of 3D-Printed Cage Can be Abrasive

First, let’s talk about 3D-printed cages. Since I have one, I am familiar with a common issue. 3D-printed cages tend to have rough surfaces. It’s not quite like sandpaper, but the base rings can feel that way on your tender bits and will cause chafing and discomfort. In this case, the reader told me he was aware of that potential issue and sanded down the base ring until it was smooth. So, we can eliminate that as the cause of the chafing and discomfort that forces him to take the device off after 3-5 days of wear. Still, the need to sand down a 3D-printed base ring is something some guys may not know about it, so that’s why I covered it here.

Base Ring Considerations

Getting the base ring size right shouldn’t be that difficult. You take an accurate measurement of the distance around the base of your penis and behind your balls, and that’s the size you should get. But many guys, including me in my early days, have had problems choosing the right size base ring. Like many others, I did not trust the measurements when I first got into wearing chastity devices.

In my case, I had ball slippage issues with the first couple of cages I tried. Intuitively, it seemed going to a smaller base ring was the answer to the problem. But it wasn’t. Going smaller sometimes solved the ball slippage problem, but wearing a too-small ring invariably causes chafing and discomfort. It took a lot of trial and error for me to get that through my head.

Here, the reader says he feels he is “between sizes” and feels the 45mm ring is too large because he has the slippage issue. He tried a 40mm ring, which he found was too tight. Then he went to a 42mm with a 3D-printed cage. I have to wonder if 45mm was the size his measurements called for, but he abandoned it because of the slippage problem. My guess is the problem here is not a base ring sizing issue.

Again, through much trial and error, I discovered that it usually results from an incorrect gap when you have ball slippage problems. The gap is the distance between the base ring and the cage once you mate the two pieces together. I also learned that you could wear a base ring that’s too large without much of a problem as long as the gap is right.

The Pesky Gap

First, there is no way to measure your junk and to get an accurate gap measurement. Custom manufacturers will tell you that. If you choose an off-the-shelf device, it doesn’t matter anyway because the manufacturer sets the gap measurement, and it is what it is. That’s why you can sometimes wear one off the shelf, mass-manufactured cage, but another one won’t work.

I have tried a few inexpensive off the shelf steel devices where I could make a slight adjustment to the gap. But I’ve broken more than one device trying to do that.

Most custom cage manufacturers, including some of the 3D-printed cage manufacturers, can customize the gap for you. But since there is no way to measure the gap, it’s still largely a trial and error proposition. Still, with a custom device, at least with steel cages, you can send the cage back and have the gap adjusted later if needed.

Mature Metal recommends ordering a 3/8-inch gap because they say that works for ninety-percent of their customers. I agree and took their advice when I ordered my first Mature Metal cage and found 3/8-inch works for me. The gap measurement is determined by what type of scrotum you have. Guys with a high and tight scrotum might need to move up to a 1/2-inch gap. Those with loose scrotums where the testicles dangle might need to choose a 1/4-inch gap. But 3/8-inch is the average. With a 1/2-inch gap, I always have ball slippage issues. I tried a 1/4-inch gap once, and it felt like the base ring was ripping my balls off. Now let’s talk about how the gap comes into play.

Scrotums are Weird

You’ve probably noticed your scrotum and balls are in a constant state of flux. There is a reason for that. Sperm does best in an environment where the temperature is slightly less than our normal body temperature. That’s why our testicles hang outside the body in the fleshy sack called the scrotum.

Muscles in the scrotum move the testicles closer or farther away from the body to keep the temperature optimum for sperm production and survival. That’s why when you finish a hard run and you’re hot and sweaty, you notice your scrotum is soft, and your balls hang a little more than usual. When you spend time outside in the cold, the opposite thing happens. Your scrotum skin is firm and tight, and your balls are up close to the base of your penis.

The effects mentioned above happen whether you’re wearing a ball-trapping chastity device or not. When your scrotum pulls your balls up close to the base of your cock against a chastity device base ring, it can feel uncomfortable, at times even when you’ve nailed proper sizing.

The Cremaster Muscle

The cremaster muscle, a pelvic muscle found only in males, covers the testicles. It’s the primary muscle that moves and lowers the testicles to control the temperature that promotes healthy and motile sperm. The cremaster muscle is incredibly strong. When the muscle starts pulling your balls upwards, and you’re wearing a ball-trapping chastity device with a base ring, you know it.

Even with a cage that generally feels comfortable, you may experience short periods of discomfort when the cremaster is doing its thing. When this happens, if you check out your balls, you will find your scrotum feels tight and hard compared to how it feels at other times during the day.

The cremaster muscle also causes the ball slippage problems when you wear a chastity device with a gap size that is too wide. Similarly, if the gap size is too narrow, the cremaster muscle is the cause of the rather intense pain you may feel when the muscle is drawing your balls tightly against a base ring.

If the gap is too wide, when the muscle pulls your balls tightly into the gap, a testicle can flatten out just enough to escape from the base ring into the gap. Sometimes you know when it happens because there is a flash of pain. Other times you may only realize it happened when you become aware that things feel a bit off with the cage. You drop your pants and check and discover one of your testicles has escaped the base ring. Usually, it’s the one that tends to hang a little higher than the other.

My Advice to the Reader

Here is my advice to the reader who submitted the original question. If you’re sure you’ve sanded down the 3D-printed base ring where it is completely smooth, then you’re having the chafing and discomfort because the 42mm ring is too small. I would remeasure for the base ring and make sure you get an accurate measurement. Then take a look at the gap.

While we can’t accurately measure our package to determine gap width, you can assemble the device and measure the gap that has been set. Also, many manufacturers include the gap setting in their specs. My guess is, in your case, the gap is too wide, and that’s why you had a slippage problem while wearing the 45mm ring, not because the ring was too large.

If the 45mm ring was comfortable to wear, didn’t cause chafing and discomfort, and conforms to your actual base ring measurement, I’d go back to that and address the gap issue. I don’t know what specific device you’re wearing, but some 3D-print device makers can adjust the gap setting by providing a different base ring. If the company that made your device can’t do that, then, unfortunately, you may have to go to a different device.

The key takeaway is that a base ring should never feel overly uncomfortable and shouldn’t cause chafing or pain from friction after more than three to five days. Your skin usually toughens enough to acclimate to wearing a base ring in that amount of time when you’ve used lubricant. Being unable to continue wearing a device for more than a few days because of discomfort indicates something is off with the sizing. In this case, I feel certain your problems stem from incorrect gap sizing and not from the base ring.

Hope that answered your question.

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Beginner Chastity Device Wearing Schedule

By Chaste on Monday, December 14, 2020

I decided to update this post from December 2020 because it has consistently been one of the most popular posts on this site. The reason I’ve updated it is that with more experience comes more knowledge and my views on a beginner chastity device wearing schedule have changed. Getting used to wearing a chastity device for long periods is a gradual process. But having gained more experience, I now believe a beginner can progress faster without compromising safety.

I first published the post in December because I know every Christmas, there are guys who receive their first chastity device as a gift, because they asked their partner to lock them in chastity or sometimes because a partner wants to add male chastity to the relationship. That made December a perfect time to publish this suggested beginner chastity device wearing schedule. But, of course, it should be useful to anyone no matter what time of the year he begins wearing a chastity device.

It takes time for a guy’s genitals, some of the most sensitive real estate of the male body, to adjust to a chastity device. The best way to ensure maximum comfort and avoid problems is to adhere to a reasonable wearing schedule when breaking in your new device.

Often, a chastity device will feel comfortable even when you’re wearing it too long at first. But this can lead to complications like compression pain and friction chafing that will ultimately produce a setback. Allowing your body time to adjust can prevent those problems. But introducing your body to wearing a device doesn’t have to take a long time. I have aimed this suggested beginner wearing schedule at those putting on a chastity cage for the first time or who have only worn a device for a short period.

Wearing Your Device the First Day

The first day should be a familiarization day. This is a time to get acquainted with your new chastity device, its parts, and how to put it on. These days, the most popular “ball trap” models usually consist of only three parts; a base ring, cage, and some type of lock.

After cleansing and drying the device, put it on. Only wear it for an hour or two on the first day. While wearing it, make sure it fits reasonably well (e.g., not too tight, but not falling off), isn’t pinching your skin, and feels reasonably comfortable. Also, make certain the base ring is not interfering with blood circulation by monitoring the skin color and temperature of your scrotum. If your skin doesn’t feel abnormally cool to the touch or change from its usual color, you can assume there are no problems with circulation.

If you experience substantial discomfort or pain at any time, don’t just tough it out. Immediately take off the device and diagnose the problem before putting it back on.

If all goes well, wear the device for no longer than two hours, even if it feels comfortable, then take it off. Clean the device thoroughly again with warm soapy water, rinse with plain warm water, and put it aside to air dry so it will be ready for you to put back on the following day.

Following this suggested schedule will allow your body to acclimate to the device but also give it plenty of time to return to normal before you put the device back on.

Applying a little baby oil or water-based or silicone lubricant to the inside of the base ring and cage or tube will help prevent skin irritation, friction burn, and chafing. A water-resistant silicone lubricants or baby oil lasts longer than water-based lubricants. You won’t have to reapply them as often.

Schedule for Day Two

On the second day, if you had no problems on the first, it’s time to start serious chastity training. Put on the device and wear it for four hours. Again, resist the temptation to wear it longer, even if everything feels great.

Monitor the temperature and color of your scrotum hourly until you remove the device to make certain you are having circulatory problems. After removing and cleaning your chastity device, examine your genital area carefully for excessive redness, chafing, or broken skin.

Treat redness and chafing with lubricant. If you experience minor broken skin, treat it with an antibiotic ointment like Neosporin.

Day Three and Beyond

On the third day, if you experienced no significant problems wearing the device continuously for four hours, wear it for another four hours every day until you complete seven consecutive days. Don’t skip any days unless you experience excessive chafing or broken skin. Don’t exceed four hours and make sure to clean your device thoroughly after removing it. Continue inspecting your skin for any problems.

Week Two

Once you’ve worn the device for four hours a day for seven consecutive days, you’re ready to take the next step. Beginning on the first day of the second week, wear your device for eight full hours for seven consecutive days. Don’t skip any days and don’t exceed eight hours of wear. Clean the device daily after removing it and continue the skin inspections. Stay on top of chafing and hot spots, especially where the base ring rests against your skin, by applying lubricant as needed.

It can take 10 days to two weeks for your body to get used to wearing a chastity device. The best way to ensure maximum comfort and avoid complications and injuries is to patiently and faithfully adhere to this wearing schedule, and using lubrication when needed.

Week Three

Once you reach the milestone of wearing the device with reasonable comfort eight hours a day for seven full days, you’re ready to try sleeping while wearing it for the first time. As long as you have had no excessive chafing, broken skin, circulation issues, or pain, it’s now time to wear the device 24/7, including wearing it to bed.

Some guys who are new to wearing a chastity device experience more problems with nighttime erections than others. When they occur, nocturnal erections almost always wake you in the middle of the night for the first few nights. It can feel noticeably uncomfortable the first few times you experience an attempted erection while wearing a chastity device. Getting out of bed and walking around a little will usually solve the problem. Going to the bathroom and urinating can also help the erection subside.

Once you reach the point where you can comfortably wear your device 24/7 and sleep reasonably well while wearing it, you should be able to wear the device indefinitely. How long you remain locked is up to you or your keyholder if you have one. If you wear the device continually, it’s best practice to remove it once a week for a thorough cleaning and to clean your genitals.

Following this suggested schedule should take you from a complete beginner to wearing a chastity device 24/7 in less than a month.

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Measuring For A Chastity Device

By Chaste on Friday, December 11, 2020

I see endless chastity forum posts every week about chastity device fitting problems, so I have created this quick start measuring for a chastity device guide.

Poorly Fitted Chastity Device Complaints

The two most common complaints I see about poorly fitting chastity devices concern the base ring. The first is the ring causes wearers discomfort or pain all the time. The other is that when the wearer’s penis attempts to become erect, the base ring behind the balls slides up and “chokes” the testicles causing discomfort or pain. Getting accurate measurements before buying a chastity device will usually help you avoid both issues.

In the past, I’ve always pointed guys to the measuring guide on the Mature Metal website. But recently, I discovered they changed it. I expect they were trying to improve it, but I think the guide is now less clear and less useful. That’s why I have created this measuring guide. It will work for most ball-trap devices.

I’ve aimed the guide at those who plan to order a custom-made device. However, taking proper measurements before buying an off the shelf device is never a waste of time. Many manufacturers are now providing at least some basic measurements you can use to choose a better fitting cage or tube.

The three measurements you need are flaccid penis length, circumference of the soft penis shaft, and the circumference of an imaginary circle running around the base of your penis behind your balls.

How to Measure Penis Length

Always measure when your penis is flaccid, soft, but not “shriveled.” Penises regularly shrink and expand in length while flaccid. That is amply illustrated by the image below that I found on Wikipedia.

As the image shows, there is a wide variance in the length of the same penis photographed at six different times.

The imaged labeled 1 depicts a semi-erect penis. In image 2, the penis is returning to its normal flaccid state. Based on my experiences, image 3 depicts a flaccid penis. That’s what I most often see when I look at my penis inside a chastity cage.

The penis starts in image 4, moving toward a “shriveled” state. The state of the penis in image 3, I believe, is the flaccid length most useful for chastity device measurements.

If you measured your penis length in the state depicted in image 2, you would probably find that most of the time the tip of the penis would not touch the end of the cage or tube.

To get the most accurate measurements for a chastity device, take measurements at different times of day over two or three days. Then use the shortest measurement you obtained.

Some chastity device manufacturers like Mature Metal ask you to measure the underneath side of your penis from your balls to the tip. Others ask you to measure from the top from base to tip. Make sure to follow the appropriate instructions as that is how the manufacturer accounts for the gap between the cage and base ring. If you can’t find on their website which measurement a manufacturer uses, call or email and find out.

Whether you measure from the bottom or top, a ruler is the best device for measuring length. If you measure the underneath side of your penis, take care not to press the end of the ruler into your scrotum. The ruler should only lightly touch the skin.

Always record your measurements. Don’t rely on memory.

After taking several penis length measurements at different times of day over several days, choose the smallest measurement. You should then subtract a small amount.

Mature Metal suggests subtracting 1/4-inch. That’s what I did when I ordered my first Mature Metal cage. As it turned out, the cage is about 1/2-inch too long, and the tip of my penis rarely touches the end.

That wasn’t the fault of Mature Metal. They built what I asked for. And I feel sure I took accurate measurements. So that told me subtracting 1/4-inch is not enough. Since the cage was about 1/2-inch too long, I now subtract 3/4-inch from my smallest length measurement when ordering custom-made cages. I recommend never subtracting less than 1/2-inch.

You can’t really go too short. You can easily compress your soft penis. If you push your flaccid penis toward your body, it easily compresses to half its normal length or less. If you keep pushing, it will “turtle” inside your body and disappear. The real problems with chastity cages occur when they are too long, and most guys buy devices with cages that are too long. That sets them up for attempted erection problems. More on that when we get to measuring for base rings.

Measuring Penis Circumference

The penis circumference measurement is very important for several reasons. Chastity device fabricators use this measurement to calculate the internal diameter of the cage or tube. Custom manufacturers can change the length of the cage or tube, the ring size, and the gap if needed, but they can not change the internal diameter of a cage. Whatever you order as the inside diameter, you can’t alter later.

This measurement is important because you want the cage or tube to “fit like a glove,” with your penis always touching the sides, bottom, and top of the cage or tube. Extra space inside the cage or tube will likely cause you problems during attempted erections. Erections don’t stop until your penis feels compression from the inside of the device.

If you can easily insert your flaccid penis into a cage or tube, then the interior diameter is too big. You will most often have to apply a little lubricant with a properly fitted device and work your penis into the cage or else use the “stocking method” to coax it fully into the tube.

The flaccid penis is extremely squishy. You can compress it to half or less of its normal circumference without any pain. There isn’t much risk that you’re going to strangle your penis by choosing a close-fitting cage or tube. A tip I’ve learned and use is to take your smallest penis circumference measurement and subtract 1/4-inch to get the best fit.

You don’t want the inside diameter so small that it compresses your flaccid penis, but you want a snug fit. Although soft penises are very malleable, what you don’t want is to compress your penis both in length and circumference at the same time. If you constrict the diameter too much while compressing the length any appreciable amount, you can restrict urine flow through the urethra. That’s why micro-chastity device cages only cover the glans of the penis. Those devices already compress the length of the penis to an extreme. By covering only the glans, it prevents compression of the shaft’s circumference at the same time. Urine flow through the uretha is not hampered.

I recommend using a soft tailor’s measuring tape to measure penis circumference. The measurement will be more accurate than trying to eyeball it by placing your penis on top of a ruler. You can pick up a soft tape for a dollar or two from most discount stores.

If you don’t have a tailor’s tape and don’t want to buy one, you can use the string method. Wrap a length of the string (an old shoelace works well) snugly around your penis. Then mark with a felt pen where the end of your string touches the rest of the string. Stretch out your string along a ruler and see where the felt mark is. That’s the circumference.

Base Ring Measurement

The easiest and most accurate method of measuring for a base ring is to spend $25 to buy the plastic sizing ring assortment from Mature Metal. Then you will have actual rings to try on, wear, and experiment with until you find a comfortable fit.

You will find that you can get several different sizes on. The way you can know which one is the right size is by using the fingertip test. With a properly sized base ring, you should be able to easily insert one fingertip between your skin and the inside of the ring. If you can’t, the ring is too small. If you can get two or more fingertips inside, the ring is too large.

If you don’t want to spend the twenty-five bucks, you can go old school and use either the tailor’s measuring tape or string method described in the previous section.

The thing is, the base ring size isn’t usually going to be a problem. You can get that a little off and still be fine. One of the two base ring issues I mentioned earlier—the ring rides up during an attempted erection and digs painfully into the balls—isn’t a base ring problem. It’s a cage length problem. When the cage is too long, it encourages the erection to continue. The tip of the expanding penis pushes against the end of the cage, which causes the cage to pull against the base ring. That’s always uncomfortable.

If the base ring is too small, that can be why a base ring causes constant discomfort. If the ring is too large, you may have problems with a ball popping out of the ring. Also, an oversized ring allows the device to rotate around your scrotum and penis base, which can cause friction chafing. That’s all unnecessary as the base ring measurement is probably the easiest measurement to get right, except for guys who buy the cheaper off the shelf cages where they only give you three ring size options to choose from.

Gap Measurement

The distance between the cage entrance and the base ring is called the gap. Even in the 21st Century, with all the world’s advanced technology, there is no way to measure the gap before ordering a chastity device. It remains a guesstimate subject to trial and error. But chastity device manufacturers do have some advice on the gap.

Mature Metal says ninety-percent of their customers order a 3/8-inch gap and are happy with it. Based on experience, I agree with that. I have a high and tight scrotum with average-sized balls, and 3/8-inch works for me. I once tried a 1/4-inch gap to solve a ball-popping from the base ring problem with one of my devices, but it was too close. The narrower gap caused me worse problems of its own.

If you have a loose, low rider style scrotum, a 1/4-inch gap might be a better fit. Also, guys with high and tight scrotums and larger balls might need to step up to a 1/2-inch gap to gain more comfort.

My advice is to go with the 3/8-inch gap unless there is a good reason not to. If you should find you need something different, it’s an easy fix for your device manufacturer.

Summary

Now for a quick review, and yes, this will be on the test.

Always measure when your penis is truly flaccid, not semi-erect or shriveled.

Take multiple measurements at different times of day over two or three days. Select the smallest measurement taken for length, circumference, and base ring.

From your shortest penis length measurement, subtract at least 1/4-inch, although subtracting 1/2-inch will probably give you a better fit, and in my opinion, subtracting 3/4-inch an even better fit.

From your shortest penis circumference measurement, subtract 1/4-inch.

Best practice is to buy and use a set of sizing rings to determine base ring size. A custom-made chastity device is a big investment, and it’s worth an extra twenty-five bucks to get it right the first time. Getting the wrong size base ring and having to buy another one will usually set you back about $80.

Go with a 3/8-inch gap unless you have a good reason to go smaller or larger.

Disclaimer: All penises are different. I’ve learned what works for me from trial and error and believe you can benefit from my experience. But your mileage may vary.

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Ten Ways Life Changes When You Start Wearing a Chastity Device

By Chaste on Tuesday, December 1, 2020

I’m not going to lie. When you decide to become a chaste man, your life is going to change. Here are ten ways life changes when you start wearing a chastity device.

1. Urinals Become a Thing of the Past

Instead of stepping up to a urinal and whipping it out to pee, you instead have to wait for an empty stall. With most chastity cages, trying to pee like other guys is generally a pray and spray affair. Chaste men must sit to pee, both in public restrooms and at home.

Don’t forget to wipe, girls.

2. Size Comparison Becomes Moot

You stop wondering whether other guys have a bigger dick than you. You can be confident yours is always smaller.

3. You Take Shaving to a Whole New Level

You learn how to shave or trim your genital area properly until it becomes second nature. That is unless you’re the masochistic type who gets turned on by having stray pubic hairs getting trapped and ripped out by the roots.

4. Moisturizers and Lubricants Are Not Optional

You become an ardent consumer of moisturizers, personal lubricants, and baby oil to avoid chafing those sensitive skin areas.

5. Nocturnal Penile Tumescence Becomes a Thing

Medical professionals say that a healthy man can expect to get hard three to five times per night during Rapid Eye Movement (REM) sleep. Doctors call it nocturnal penile tumescence. You soon discover just how close you come to the healthy man norm once you start caging your cock.

6. Sound of the Tin Man

Thanks to the tap-tap-tapping of the padlock against your cage, you will sound like the Tin Man whenever you’re walking along. Thankfully, at least this issue is going away since security screws, and MagicLocks have begun to replace padlocks as the means of securing chastity devices.

If you still use a padlock with yours, you might want to borrow a play from the military. When I was in the Army, we used miles of black electrical tape on things like load-bearing equipment

buckles and snaps and dog tags, so we didn’t rattle when going into battle. It was called noise discipline. No use tipping off Ali Baba that you were in the AO if he was waiting up ahead to trigger an IED on your ass.

7. You Stop Exaggerating Your Penis Size

Out of vanity, a lot guys new to chastity tend to buy larger cages than they need. Too much leftover space inside a chastity tube or cage means more problems with painful night-time erections. You must decide whether you prefer squished erections or having your balls ripped off by the base ring because you were too proud to buy a shorter cage. The choice is yours, my friend.

8. Ass Play Becomes Acceptable

No matter how you felt about anal play before you started wearing a chastity device, you soon learn that having things stuck up your bum is preferable to the constant ache of blue balls.

9. Orgasms Become a Thing of the Past

No matter how many more orgasms your partner had than you before when you had sex, the number increases by at least a factor of one since you won’t be getting any of that shit.

10. The Silver Lining

Don’t despair. There is a silver lining to be found in all this. You will never have to worry anymore about your partner complaining to her girlfriends how pathetic a fuck you are. You won’t be doing any more of that.

Status Update

On a personal note, I am locked again in my Amicus while I wait for the HT Nano to arrive.