I been thinking a lot lately about indefinite chastity, and the more I ponder the idea, the more I find I want to experience it.
Indefinite chastity is not an original idea I’ve come up with. I’ve read plenty of chastity blog posts and forum posts written by guys who are doing indefinite chastity even if they are not consciously aware of it or don’t know that is what they are doing.
Indefinite Chastity Defined
If you aren’t sure what I am discussing, here is a simple definition of indefinite chastity. It’s when a keyholder tells you to put on and lock your chastity device and then says you must wear it until further notice. End of discussion. The keyholder has imposed an indefinite ban on you having sex, masturbating, having an orgasm, and ejaculating. From my chastity travels around the web, this seems how chastity is done commonly between partners where one’s partner acts as the keyholder.
Fixed Term Chastity
The other popular way of chastity with a keyholder is the fixed term embargo. As an example, you must wear the chastity device for one week, one month, etc. There is a blog I follow curated by a dominant woman in a female led relationship. She requires her husband to wear a chastity device for six days and then unlocks him on the seventh and allows him to orgasm and ejaculate every week. She explains she adopted that schedule because if he remains locked for over six days without an orgasm, he becomes either depressed or resentful. So, going in, he knows how long he must remain locked. I suspect he then spends the intervening time counting down the days, hours and minutes, and the closer the end gets, the more desperate he becomes.
My Experience With Enforced Chastity
Since I have only had professional keyholders, the fixed term is the type of chastity I’m most familiar with, since that is how most professionals structure their services. You pay a fee for a week locked in chastity under their supervision, or a fortnight, or a month, etc. It works okay, but I want to experience indefinite chastity. There is just something about stepping out into the great unknown that excites me.
With indefinite chastity, when it will end and the keyholder will unlock you is a moot point. The term is indefinite. With a fixed term, you know how long you must stay locked. You have a goal. When the term is indefinite, there is hope that it might end at any time. Yet there is also the awful prospect that it might go on and on, stretching out into an orgasm-free eternity.
It’s not that I want an orgasm-free future where I may never have sex, mastubate, orgasm, or ejaculate again. That is the unthinkable, a life sentence of chastity. Having to endure such a draconian regimen might well be where madness lies. No time off for good behavior. No more negotiations. No more counting down the days until the cage comes off, and the ban is lifted. No more dreams of the mother of all orgasms. Just a bleak, endless future bereft of sexual release stretching out before you.
Is There a Professional Keyholder in the House?
My problem has been finding a professional keyholder willing to make my dream of indefinite chastity a reality. During the pandemic, when dominatrices could not offer in person sessions, professionals offering distance chastity keyholding were a dime a dozen. Cam, phone, or text sessions were the only way to fill the gaping hole the pandemic shutdowns knocked in their incomes. But now, with things back to normal, most of them have returned to plying their trade through the far more lucrative in person sessions.
Also, all the payment platforms and banks professionals once used to collect payments for keyholding and other online services now discriminate against sex workers. It seems the industry most known for wokenss and progressive spirit have no qualms about marginalizing sex workers. I guess they don’t deserve a seat at the intersectionality table. But I digress. The point is, it is much harder to find a good professional dominatrix for distance keyholding these days.
After spending considerable time this past week searching for a dominatrix offering keyholding, I found less than a dozen. I found a few more than that, but I discounted those who do not publish their required tribute amounts (their fees) on their websites. That is always a dead giveaway that they are insanely expensive. Half of those I found advertised fees that were, shall we say, well out of my price range. I saw fees ranging from $100 per week, for just basic keyholding to $3,000 for a month, with a few naughty pictures and texts thrown in. Of course, a professional dominatrix is within her rights to set her fees at whatever she feels the market will bear. I’m willing to pay a fair rate for what I want. But since I am not independently wealthy or desperate, I wouldn’t even consider paying anything close to those rates.
Narrowing the Search
Finally, I narrowed my search down to three professionals, all of whom specifically offered chastity keyholding services. All three offered their services for around the same amount. I’m sure I would be happy with any of the three, but ranked them from my first to third choices. Then I completed the obligatory forms on their websites to submit my applications. After submitting the form, then you sit back and wait for them to reply at their convenience.
I did not apply to all three at the same time, as I would never wish to waste anyone’s time. If I had done that and received a reply from my first choice, then the other two would have wasted their time replying to me. I applied to my first choice and waited. And waited. Five days passed by and no reply. Not that I think she rejected me. The initial form required didn’t request enough information to warrant rejection. It was only an initial inquiry about the services I was interested in. There are at least three explanations for the no reply. The person is focused on in person sessions and no longer offers distance keyholding but has not bothered to update her site by removing the offer of keyholding. The forms function on the website doesn’t work properly (more common than you might think) and she never saw my application. Or, her PayPal, Venmo, etc. account got cancelled, and she has no way to collect for online services anymore and couldn’t be bothered to reply to me with regret.
The Quest Continues
So, I filled in another form on the website of candidate number two. Same result. Another five days went by with no response. Then, I filled in the form at the website of contestant number three. That was yesterday, so it is too early to tell how that one will turn out. But I’m not feeling optimistic. If she doesn’t reply, then I will probably shelve the idea for a while. Many respected economists claim the economy will go into recession by the end of the year or early next year. If that happens, the in person session income will dry up again when horny guys will not have as much disposable income to finance their kink desires. And then, more dominatrices will probably be happy to take on distance keyholding clients again to pay the bills.