How did you become interested in male chastity? That’s a good question, one I don’t yet have a good answer for.
Having read endless blogs and forum posts about enforced male chastity, it seems for many men, it all starts with a fantasy. Orgasm control and male chastity are powerful sexual fantasies for them. For some, the sexual fantasies are so intense, they develop the desire and willingness to enact the fantasies and turn chastity into reality. That’s why it seems nine times out of ten; it is the male who brings up the idea of male chastity with a partner.
I’m certain I’ve likely fantasized about orgasm denial and enforced chastity from time to time, but frankly, I’ve always had a full and vivid sexual fantasy life. I can say that fantasies about being subjected to chastity have never been at the top of my go-to fantasies list. So, I feel certain the desire to enact a fantasy doesn’t explain my attraction to trying enforced male chastity.
On the UK Tickleberry website, I found this list of eleven common reasons men find chastity appealing.
(1) It’s a secret fetish a man finds highly provocative, arousing, and very sexy, to the point that even just an image of a chastity device could cause the beginnings of an erection.
(2) It links in with the sexual fantasy of surrendering himself to a partner in erotic submission.
(3) It’s not just concerned with physical sensations, but the mind, body, emotional, and innermost self. He will understand chastity as all-encompassing desire, fetish or kink, that’s an intellectual, physical, emotional, sexual and spiritual experience.
(4) From his sexual fantasy perspective, the allure is that a loving wife or girlfriend holds the key to his penis. His cock becomes theirs, it’s freedom is dependent upon them releasing him. They become the key holder and become the key to his release.
(5) A man believes he’s masturbating far too much and would like help controlling this by being made to wear a chastity device to prevent him from touching himself.
(6) He longs to be “Loved, Locked and Owned” by a partner, and he believes that wearing a chastity device will demonstrate his commitment and faithfulness to his partner.
(7) He longs to escape from everyday realities and to allow his submissive desires freedom. This is a “need” for many men who long to set free their sexual submissiveness in the safety and security of their own homes and with their loving wife or girlfriend.
(8) Orgasm denial is highly arousing to him.
(9) He believes that his female partner is superior to him, and he needs to demonstrate his acknowledgment of this by wearing a chastity device.
(10) A desire to seek his pleasure in pleasing and pleasuring his partner, thinking of his keyholder’s needs above his own. Wearing a chastity device helps him to sexually achieve this.
(11) He is interested in practicing Tantric Sexuality and wearing a chastity device may help save his sexual energy for his higher, emotional and intellectual self.
Looking over the list, I didn’t see anything that truly resonated that might explain my attraction to trying enforced male chastity. If I had to pick one, perhaps part of number eleven applies; “wearing a chastity device may help save his sexual energy for his higher, emotional and intellectual self.” But I’m not sure. Most of the reasons offered at the Tickleberry site involve an existing intimate partner which I don’t have at the moment. So, those don’t seem to apply.
Celebrated theoretical physicist Albert Einstein once said, “The important thing is to not stop questioning. Curiosity has its own reason for existing.” Perhaps then curiosity is reason enough. Maybe I simply wish to satisfy my curiosity about how it feels to be locked up and have my penis under the complete control of another. Maybe that’s explanation enough.