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Mail Call: Chastity Related Questions November 2023

It’s time once again to dig into the mailbag and to respond to the inquiries sent in by readers in this month’s edition of Mail Call: Chastity Related Questions.

This month, we received questions from two different blog followers about the same issue which suggests their chastity device related issues are something that may apply to our wider audience. Today we’re discussing the appearance of sores on the penis while wearing a chastity device and how to prevent them.

Here is the first email sent in by a reader named Jerry…

I have been using chastity cages for about 7 years but come upon the same problem every time I go for long periods. When I pee (sitting of course) some gets on /in the cage and I get sores, how can I prevent this?

Reader Ray wrote in with a similar issue…

Hello

I recently came across your website and find it very insightful & informative. It is nice to hear from a real living person of their experiences with a chastity device rather than just the marketing material on all the websites. Thank you.

I am very interested in buying a new metal cock cage that provides:

1. Ultra comfort for long-term use

2. Maximum security to prevent escape

My current metal cage is a “Jailhouse metal locking device”. I like the design that provides total enclosure of the penis, however, having worn this continually for 7 days and then taking it off (for a medical appointment) the top of my penis had 2 x cut marks (around the spacing section). The left side of the penis also had early signs of an infection of the foreskin. I shower daily and used Vaseline and baby oil to keep lubricated on a regular basis throughout the day.

So here is the request. I am hoping you can help me by providing me with:

A) 3 x recommendations for alternative metal device options that meet 1 & 2 above.

B) Any other ways to improve my daily hygiene to avoid cuts/infections?

Any feedback from you would be very greatly appreciated.

It’s always difficult to diagnose the specific problems individuals have when wearing chastity devices. Generally, readers who send in questions do a good job of describing their problem. But, not knowing them personally, I can’t, of course, know details about them that could shed light on the problem they share and seek a solution for. That’s the case with both of these situations, since the first thing I would want to know is the specifics of their hygiene habits.

I will do the best I can with what information I’ve got to work with it, but the truth is many things cause sores on the penis. Yet, with wearing chastity devices, poor hygiene habits are always the likely suspect. Not to say these guys are lazy about cleaning their peens. The design of many chastity devices can often make it damn difficult to clean the contents thoroughly enough to prevent problems.

A Clean Peen Is A Happy Peen

A recent survey by The Derm Review, a comprehensive online resource on skincare products, cosmetic ingredients and beauty how to’s, reveals 60 percent of men are washing their penises all wrong (more on that later), and many are not doing it enough. Toss a chastity device into the mix and it exacerbates what can become serious problems from poor hygiene practices. So, someone getting sores or infections on their Johnson after wearing a chastity device should first ask themselves if they are cleaning their penis properly and often enough.

Penis Washing Frequency

The consensus opinion of medical professionals is that we should wash our penis once each day. Some respondents to the survey I referenced reported they washed their penis at least twice a day. But this is a case where more is not always better. Washing too often can cause irritation, dryness, and itching. Still, not washing enough is worse than washing too often.

Infrequent washing results in unpleasant odors and makes your junk a natural breeding ground for bacteria that can cause painful sores and bacterial infections. Trapped urine, leaking semen, and the normal sloughing off of skin cells that also get trapped inside a chastity device contribute to these problems. A thorough cleaning once a day is the perfect frequency, medical professionals say. They also recommend using only warm water and shower gel or soap that is not heavily perfumed, which can cause allergic reactions. Be sure to wash the tip of your penis and, if you’re uncircumcised, pull back and clean beneath the foreskin. Obviously, that’s hard to do while wearing a chastity device, but it is possible (though not easy to do) with the use of cotton swabs.

While Jerry didn’t share what type of device he usually wears, Ray says he has worn a “Jailhouse metal locking device.” From his description of the device as one with a tube that encloses his penis completely, I think he may have described the very first chastity device I tried and found completely unsatisfactory. I didn’t get any sores from it, but I only wore it for a few days before discarding it. Ray’s device evidently worked for him well enough that he wore it continuously for seven days and then discovered the sores when he removed it. My first inclination is that Ray experienced a hygiene related problem, which is common with fully enclosing tube style cages.

While I don’t know what type of cage Jerry usually wears, he mentioned wearing chastity devices for the past seven years. So, I suspect his problem with sores is probably also related to hygiene issues. The longer we’ve worn chastity devices, the more prone we can become to not spending as much time and effort as is necessary to clean our junk properly. Anyway, my advice to Jerry and Ray is to first focus on proper washing and see if that solves their problem. If no improvement happens, then it’s probably time to see a doctor for a professional diagnosis.

My "Jailhouse" Chastity Device

Proper Chastity Hygiene Solutions

I know some people prefer the fully enclosing tube type cages. I have a few of them and I do enjoy the sensations the devices provide. But in the interest of good penis health and spending less time making sure I have washed thoroughly, I gravitated to the open-type “birdcage” devices. This means I spend less time in the shower washing and it’s less complicated. But here is my advice to those who prefer the tube type devices. Remove the devices at least every three days so you can wash your penis and clean the device thoroughly. And then dry your junk completely, including the tip beneath your foreskin if you’re uncut and the device before putting it back on.

Yes, I know it feels like a pain to unlock and lock every three days. But I think it’s an inconvenience you just must live with if you choose to wear a fully enclosed device. If you don’t want to do it, then it’s an easy fix. Get an open-style cage instead. There are plenty to choose from in both stainless steel and plastic. My two 3D printed devices, the Cobra and the Hera, both have sufficient openings to allow me to get a fairly thorough cleaning in the shower each day with no special equipment. Still, if I’m self-locking, I remove the device once a week to clean it and give myself a good scrubbing. That can be inconvenient when a keyholder is enforcing my chastity, so instead of removing the device, I use another technique to make sure I get an extra-thorough cleaning once a week.

The Squeeze Bottle Method

I found a cheap plastic bottle at a local dollar store that does a great job of helping me keep the cage contents tidy. First, I fill the bottle with some Dove fragrance free body wash and warm water. I spray the soapy solution into every nook and cranny of my cage. And then I use cotton swabs to scrub the contents of the cage as best I can. Once I’ve finished, I rinse the bottle thoroughly with warm water, fill it with plain warm water, and then again spray the water inside all the openings, including the top of the cage next to my abdomen. Usually I use two full bottles of plain warm water to make sure I’ve rinsed all the soap from inside the cage. Then after toweling dry, I use a blow dryer on low heat to dry the contents of the cage. Your junk does best when you keep the environment clean and dry. That’s why I don’t recommend using products like Vaseline or baby oil inside the cage. I only use a dab of baby oil inside the base ring when putting on the device.

Once You’re Confident You Are Washing Properly and Washing Daily

I’m not a doctor and don’t play one on television, which is why I would suggest only giving things a few days to a week for sores after making sure I was washing properly and daily to see any improvement. If the sores aren’t healing, it’s time to get professional help. Go see your doctor. Also, with infections, I’d recommend seeing a medical professional immediately before things get worse. That’s because poor hygiene practices and wearing chastity devices aren’t the only things that cause sores and infections of the penis. Things like undiagnosed diabetes, STIs, and skin disorders like psoriasis can also cause genital sores and infections, nothing you want to mess around with.

Chastity Device Recommendations

Both Jerry and Ray asked for chastity device recommendations, so I’ll end with that. First, I always recommend open “birdcage” type cages over the enclosed tube styles for continuous wear. It’s just easier to keep things clean and to avoid the issues you are experiencing. Second, I’m not a fan of cheap off-the-shelf chastity devices. We’ve probably all gone that route when we couldn’t justify the spend for a quality, custom-fitted stainless steel device. But if you intend to practice long-term chastity, invest in a quality cage.

The Mature Metal Jail Bird is one of my favorite stainless steel options. But the device offers only two locking options, padlock or security set screw. If you prefer the internal barrel lock system instead, I recommend Badassworkroom devices like my BA-21. The prices for the Jail Bird and the BA-21 are about the same. For a less expensive off-the-shelf option, a 3D printed device is a great choice. I love both my Cobra N and Hera. The nylon material and finishing used in both cases is hypoallergenic and bacterial resistant. I’ve worn the Cobra for multiple months without removing it with no problems and expect the same would be true of my Hera XS. I just haven’t had it long enough to find out yet.

Hopefully, that helps both Jerry and Ray and anyone else who may be experiencing similar problems.

Chaste Life Monthly: November 2020

Chaste Life Monthly Newsletter Vol. 1, Issue 2

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Welcome to the November 2020 issue of the Chaste Life Monthly Newsletter.

A Cautionary Chastity Tale

Imagine that your keyholder tells you to unlock for some teasing. Or that you want to remove your cock cage for a routine thorough cleaning. But to your horror, you discover the lock is seized up! Suddenly, like it or not, you’re stuck in permanent chastity! The other day I read a Twitter post by a guy who recently experienced just that.

The integral lock on his device had seized up and he couldn’t unlock and remove the cage. The culprit? One of the repurposed brass furniture locks Holy Trainer calls the “MagicLocker.”

Holy Trainer was the first to popularize use of the integral locks as a replacements for padlocks on chastity cages. The guy admitted he had recently noticed the lock was corroded and not working smoothly. But he had cleaned and lubricated it before locking up and used it anyway. Only a week later he discovered he couldn’t unlock it.

Holy Trainer provides a quality MagicLocker with their devices manufactured by the German company Burg Wachter. Like most German products, these locks are precision engineered from quality materials and reliable. But when the interest in chastity devices exploded, Chinese manufacturers developed a knock off version of the Burg Watcher lock that is furnished with the inexpensive chastity devices made in China. These locks are notoriously unreliable, often even when brand new.

The Twitter poster didn’t identify where the lock came from. But chances are, it was one of the cheap knock-off versions which are also sold as replacement locks on sites like eBay and Amazon for under ten dollars. In comparison, the Burg Wachter originals go for around twenty-five bucks.

Lessons learned? Never use an integrated lock with obvious corrosion or that you have already had problems with. Twenty-five bucks is cheap compared to the potential issues you will face from a failed cock cage lock. I’m pretty competent with power tools, but speaking as someone who once accidentally drove a screw through his finger when my trusty DeWalt slipped, I don’t want a power drill anywhere near my junk.

If you have problems with an integral lock, don’t be a shit sandwich. Throw the damn thing away and buy a new one. And only buy a Burg Wachter original. You can get the Burg Wachter ME/2 from the Holy Trainer Online Shop for $23 or from a Virginia company called Steinlock for $24. That’s way cheaper than a visit to the ER.

Unlocked

As planned, I unlocked this morning, November 21, after having my cock locked for 180 consecutive days. While I haven’t “celebrated” yet, I have spent time getting reacquainted with Mr. Happy.

I’ve been observing No Nut November as a follow-up to Locktober. There are only ten days left in the month, so I plan to carry on without an orgasm using willpower until the end of the month. I’ll content myself with edging until December 1.

One-hundred-eighty-days doubled my previous longest streak of consecutive days locked. So, now it is time for a new goal. But I won’t start that until January 1. I admit after six-months, it feels weird with my penis free of its cage. But I think it’s healthy to take a break. That’s not to say I won’t be locking up for some of the time before the end of the year. It just won’t be an unbroken streak.

After my junk has adjusted to its newfound freedom in a week or so, I’ll publish an after-action review post. I’ll discuss things there like any shrinkage observed, whether nocturnal erections have returned to normal, and whether everything else seems to be working properly after six-months of continuous chastity. These are all concerns for a lot of guys about long-term chastity. I’m pretty sure I already know the answers. But I’ll give things a week and then give you my honest observations.

Holy Trainer Review Coming Soon

Ever since my review of the CB-6000, I’ve wanted to do a head-to-head review with the Holy Trainer. I’ve heard from many people that the Holy Trainer is arguably the most secure and comfortable off-the-shelf male chastity device available on the market today. It’s time I judged that for the readers of Cut to the Chaste and myself. So, yesterday, I pulled the trigger and purchased a Holy Trainer V4 Nano for a wear-tested review. I expect it to hit my mailbox late next week. So, maybe I won’t have to depend on willpower alone to make it to the end of November. Look for the review around the first week of December.

Houston we have a problem

I hadn’t planned on posting another update until the 72-hour mark. But, Houston, we had big chastity device problems.

Things were going so swimmingly, I expected it to continue. But, at around five yesterday afternoon on my first real day in chastity, I lost my right nut.

I wasn’t even aware it happened until Lady Jayne, who for the sake of brevity, will be known from this point forward as LJ, asked for a photo. She wanted to check that my color was still good and there weren’t any circulation issues. I dropped trou to take the photo with my phone and that’s when I discovered righty had gone AWOL. It had slipped the ring and then hidden itself up inside me. I tried to coax it back through the ring, but it was a no-go. I had to cut the lock and remove the device to sort it out.

Weirdly, there was absolutely no sensation associated with the wayward nut. Everything felt copacetic. The damn device had felt so secure. Anyway, I put it back on and locked up with a new plastic numbered lock, thinking it was only a fluke. But it wasn’t.

About four hours later, I was sitting in my recliner watching football. Sure as fuck, my right nut popped right out of the base ring again. I wasn’t having an erection of anything. One minute it was inside the ring. The next, it was hiding again up inside me. That time I did feel a slight twinge when it happened.

After talking it over with LJ, we concluded the base ring was too big. Buying an off-the-shelf device, I had only three choices in base rings; a 1.50 inch (40mm), 1.75 inch (45mm), or 2.00 inch (50mm). I’d purchased a cheap device earlier with a 40mm base ring but hadn’t been able to get the ring on. I’d also tried on a 50mm standard behind the scrotum cock ring when checking sizes. It was too big. So, by process of elimination, I ordered the new device with a 45mm base ring. Without the option of a custom-fit ring, the 45mm seemed the right choice. Evidently not.

LJ was tied up with Christmas Eve guests when I lost my ball the second time. So, I took the initiative. I pulled out the cheap device (made in China) I’d bought previously with the 40mm ring. My thinking was if 45mm was too big, the 40mm had to fit unless I was one of those unlucky guys between sizes who has to have a custom-size base ring. Low and behold, the damn 40mm went right on, no sweat.

Later when we touched base, LJ was skeptical. She didn’t see I could suddenly fit into a 40mm ring that I’d been unable to get on before even using a lubricant. She was concerned about circulatory issues cropping up. But, she graciously gave me permission to try wearing it on the condition I took it off at bedtime. She is super safety conscious and wouldn’t risk me wearing the smaller ring to bed having worn it for such a short time. So, that’s what we did.

Christmas morning, I put the 40mm ring and the cheap device back on. I had to work it a bit more than on the night before, but it went on easy enough. My nutsack is the type that is really tight up against my base and likes to stay that way, especially first thing in the morning. But, once I got things stretched out a little, the ring went on and it was all good.

I’ve had this device on for about eight hours as of publication time. It’s simple and cheap, but actually I kind of like it. For one thing, it weighs a ton less than the other device that wouldn’t stay on me. LJ and I chatted briefly about me ordering a new custom-fitted device now that I may have finally figured out my true base ring size, or close to it. I’m feeling confident about the 40mm.

For one thing, I read Thumper’s blog religiously, Denying Thumper, and just based on the images he shares, I’d be willing to bet we’re about the same size. He has said 40mm is his standard base ring size, so from the get-go, I couldn’t understand why I had trouble getting the 40mm ring on before. I’m thinking it must have been because of my tight scrote. Wearing the bigger, heavier device for a day and a half, I think stretched things just enough so I could get into the 40mm ring.

Previously, I shared in this post the insights from an experienced key holder who advises this when buying a custom-fitted device.

“The main option is the length (short is good actually buy one way shorter than you think you should as well) the other critical size is the base ring buy that in the size you think is right and also the next two smaller sizes. Sure go ahead, start with the one that’s easy to get on. There’s a good chance it will eventually fall off even without trying. Go smaller, go a lot smaller, then go even smaller.” ─ Chastity Perkins

I’m definitely taking Chastity’s advice when I order my custom device. I’ll get a 40mm base ring and the next two smaller sizes. From what I’ve read, it seems an accepted fact that the weight of stainless steel devices does stretch the scrotum over time. So, Chastity’s take, based on her experience with her husband, makes perfect sense to me.

Meanwhile, I think now I’ll be able to get by with my cheap, made in China replacement until I get my hands on a high-quality custom-fitted device.

Rocking the cheap, made in China model

Hope everyone is having, or had happy holidays. Thanks for reading.