Month: November 2020

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Male Chastity Devices Selected for 2021 Reviews

By on Monday, November 30, 2020

I’ve selected four male chastity devices I’ll purchase and review during 2021, one device each quarter.

Male Chastity Devices Selected for 2021 Reviews

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Mature Metal's Jail Bird
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Holy Trainer Nub

The past few days, I’ve been working on the website and tidying things up. I noticed that Chastity Devices I Like and Why is one of the most popular posts. The problem is, when I wrote that post last December, I was still relatively new to male chastity and chose those devices mostly because they appealed to me aesthetically.

A year later, I have yet to try two of the devices I featured in the post, the Jail Bird by Mature Metal and the Holy Trainer Nub (V4 version). So, I intend to correct that in 2020.

I’ll buy both of those devices to wear-test and review during the coming year. Also, I will buy and review the Red Chili Sissy Cage I mentioned in this recent previous post, and lastly, I’ll be buying and reviewing a cage I’ve had my eye on for a while, the Male Chastity Now you coulda been a Contender.

Hopefully, that will give Cut to the Chaste Readers four new devices to consider adding to their collections.

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Male Chasity Now Contender

Still Awaiting the Holy Trainer Nano

The Holy Trainer Nano I ordered for a wear review has still not arrived, a week after placing the order. I hope to see it hit my mailbox sometime in the next few days.

I had planned to remain unlocked until the Nano arrived. Then after giving it a proper wear test, I intended to move right into my trial of Mistress Sabine St. Jack’s keyholding service. But I’ve been unlocked for nine days now, and I’m ready to get back into a cage.

I’ll be locking up in my trusty Amicus sometime after midnight, once No Nut November ends, and the calendar rolls over to December 1 and after I’ve savored my much-anticipated release.

What's Coming Next?

In the next post, I’ll be sharing, as promised, my post-six-months locked up observations.

  • Did I experience the dreaded shrinkage?
  • Did I develop chastity-related ED?
  • Is morning wood gone forever?
  • Is ejaculation possible anymore?

 

Please tune in next time when we’ll probe into those questions and more. There was one surprise I wasn’t expecting. I’ll talk about that too. You won’t want to miss it.

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My First Male Chastity Fiction Story

By on Saturday, November 28, 2020
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The Agreement Follows Expected Male Chastity Fiction Tropes

This month, I wrote my first proper male chastity fiction short story, The Agreement. The story follows the conventional chastity and erotica tropes that many chastity fiction readers expect and enjoy.

I’ve been resistant to writing these kinds of chastity fiction stories in the past. It seems an overused pattern to such a degree that all such stories start to sound alike. Only the names of the characters and the settings differ. That’s why in my Vulvarian Saga series, chastity is a key element of the stories, but it isn’t the overriding focus. But when I came up with what I thought might be a slightly different twist for a chastity story, I decided to give it a go with The Agreement.

The Agreement Synoposis

Here is the story synopsis.

When an unassuming IT systems technician encounters a devastatingly beautiful woman one morning at his regular coffee shop, he finds it unsettling when she shows an interest in him and starts asking intimate questions. His first inclination is to rebuff her when it seems she senses the submissive nature he has tried hard to hide and suppress. But the gorgeous woman persists and invites him for a drink at a popular local nightspot.

At first, he has no intention of keeping the date, but like a moth to a flame, he finds himself reluctantly drawn to the woman’s assertive nature. The next thing he knows, he winds up inside her luxurious waterfront penthouse condo. Things get steamy, but the sex he had expected doesn’t go quite the way he thought it would, and he ends up locked in a chastity cage.

As the guy discovers the intricacies of tease and denial and the challenges and rewards of being the submissive boyfriend of a stunning dominant woman, he finds being kept under lock and key in submission to female authority might be what his nature suits him for best.

Where to Get Your Copy of The Agreement

If you’re a fan of conventional male chastity fiction stories, you might enjoy reading The Agreement. It’s available now at Smashwords and should be available from other digital book retailers in a few days. Because the story contains the usual and expected sexually explicit scenes and graphic language, I chose to distribute it through Smashwords since they are more erotica-friendly than other distributors I use.

I know we all have our favorite digital book retailers, so as the information becomes available, I’ll update The Agreement book page with additional bookseller links.

For now, there is an exclusive deal for readers of Cut to the Chaste at Smashwords. Visitors to this blog can get a copy of The Agreement for only 99¢ from now until December 31, 2020. To get the deal, go to https://www.smashwords.com/books/view/1056370, click the Buy button, and then enter the code XJ89M when completing your checkout at Smashwords.com to receive the discounted price.

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Is He Masturbating Instead of Having Sex with You?

By on Tuesday, November 24, 2020
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Question for the women. Is he masturbating instead of having sex with you? If so, there is an easy fix you need to know about.

The other morning I saw this posted on Twitter—

3 women have emailed me a complaint that their men spend hours in the other room watching porn and masturbating. One of them even tried to convince her husband to watch porn together but he refused.

Not long ago, I read this, which was posted by a woman on a men’s health magazine website forum—

Why does my boyfriend masturbate when he could have sex with me instead? Just got home and found the wet spot on the covers..asked him and he denied it…made me mad that he lied about it. He said it’s embarrassing. He said that all men do it. Why does he do it when he has me? Is his hand better than having a girlfriend? He says no it just happens. Can guys get an erection for no reason at all? Confused and kinda hurt about this. Need answers!

It seems a lot of wives and girlfriends out there are freaking out that their partners are masturbating all the time instead of having sex with them. My question is this. Then why aren’t more women interested in locking up their partner’s cock in a chastity cage? It’s an easy fix. Lock up their cocks. Instead of so many guys begging their wives and girlfriends to put them in chastity, you would think it would be women insisting on it.

What Some Women May Not Know About Guys and Masturbation

Men and women have very different sex drives. While I don’t believe the myth that guys are constantly thinking about sex, it is true, generally speaking, that it’s a lot easier for guys to get in the mood.

Take something as innocuous as a guy working at home on his computer. He takes a break to check his Twitter feed and an image of a gorgeous woman showing off her bare breasts pops up. Believe me that is far from unusual on Twitter these days. The platform is literally overrun with sex workers hawking their “fans only” nude photos and film clips for sale on the site. Nothing wrong with that, but on Twitter on any given day, you can see everything from shapely female bare butts, to bare breasts, and even people having sex while checking your feed. Twitter is fast becoming as NSFW as Pornhub. But I digress. The next thing you know, the guy is off Twitter perusing Pornhub and jerking off when he wasn’t even thinking about sex until the boobs popped up on Twitter.

Suffice to say, it’s quite normal for guys to masturbate regularly. For some men it can be once a day, for others two or more times a day, and for still others maybe somewhere between seven and fourteen times a day. Some guys wank to relieve stress or to get to sleep faster, like jerk-off NyQuil. Some do it when they are bored.

Not All Masturbation is Bad

I don’t regard masturbation as the great evil. For couples with a healthy relationship and a happy sex life there can still be a place for self-pleasure as long as it doesn’t detract from the relationship.

For example, if a guy’s partner has a lower sex drive, then masturbating more often can help bridge the libido gap. Or say, you jump into the shower when getting ready for work and feel the urge to knock one out. It’s probably not an instance in which your partner would even want to have sex with you anyway.

But, unfortunately, frequent masturbation can detract from a relationship even if it isn’t a situation where a man stays up for hours watching porn and masturbating with no regard for his partner’s needs.

When Masturbation Becomes Problematic

Masturbation can be problematic for a relationship when it depletes a guy’s libido to the extent he loses interest in having sex regularly with his partner. Some women are lucky enough to have a partner who devotes his sexual energies exclusively to her, fulfilling her desires as completely as he possibly can. But others are less fortunate.

Some have partners who overindulge when it comes to masturbation. And, once a guy has ejaculated and his sexual urges have been satisfied, we know what happens. He becomes less interested in pleasing his partner and far from enthusiastic about helping out around the house.

As guys know, a man’s body chemistry changes after orgasm. The biochemical prolactin is released, physically altering his body and making him feel sluggish and tired. The release of the chemicals oxytocin, prolactin, gamma amino butyric acid (GABA) and endorphins all contribute to the infamous “roll over and snore” feeling.

What Too Many Women Don't Understand About Chastity

Many Don’t See the Point

First, I think too few women even know about male chastity, or at least don’t know enough about it to understand how they would benefit from caging their man’s penis. They don’t realize how easily they could take away their man’s ability to masturbate and make it so that his orgasms were entirely at their discretion.

When a woman controls exactly how and when her partner is allowed to come, he quickly becomes so desperate for release that he will do whatever it takes to win her favor. As the sole arbiter of his sexual needs, he won’t dare to intentionally do anything to displease her because he is entirely at her mercy. Only she can relieve the burning, consuming frustration. Under those circumstances, a guy will be sure to start putting her satisfaction first knowing that’s his only chance of getting his desires for relief satisfied.

They Think It’s Only a Kink Thing

Some women know a little about male chastity and may even be familiar with cock cages. But they have a faulty perception. They think male chastity is nothing but a kink that is all wrapped up with Female-led relationships, BMSM, or porn. Since many aren’t the whip-cracking dominatrix-types willing to dress in latex corsets and stilettos, nor do they have any interest in taking complete control in the relationship, they aren’t interested in male chastity. They don’t understand that male chastity can be seamlessly introduced into an otherwise vanilla relationship where neither partner has a kinky bone in their bodies.

They Believe Chastity Means a Sexless Relationship

Still other women, women who enjoy PIV sex, think locking up their guy’s penis means they have do without. Again, nothing could be further from the truth. A woman might have her partner wear a chastity device for a few hours as a prelude to some erotic action in the bedroom, guaranteeing she gets his full attention as he strives to satisfy her needs before being able to fulfill his own. Having him wear a cock cage for a few days or a week gives her partner plenty of time to anticipate what may be forthcoming, allowing his passions to be stoked into a frenzy. Getting her partner all fired up by teasing him sexually during this time can strengthen the intimate bonds between them, and is all the more effective since he is helpless to resist. The woman holding the key gets to decide when, how, and how often her needs get satisfied and her satisfaction will always come first. Chastity stops a man from masturbating or otherwise pleasuring himself without her permission and that alone can benefit a woman in ways she might hardly imagine.

There are plenty of ways to incorporate male chastity into a relationship. It doesn’t always have to be permanent or even long-term to be beneficial. While I suspect it is mostly men who visit Cut to the Chaste, I always hope some women are also visiting this site and are learning more about how locking up a guy’s cock can be massively beneficial for them and their relationships. We can help get the word out by directing the women in our lives to resources that accurately portray what male chastity is all about. One excellent resource is Krystine Kellogg’s excellent podcast where she discusses male chastity from the female point of view.

I’m confident that the more women who come to understand male chastity and its benefits for them and their relationships, the more who will not only embrace it, but will insist on it with their partners.

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What is Your Dream Male Chastity Device

By on Monday, November 23, 2020

What is your dream male chastity device? If money was no object, which cock cage would you buy?

Better judgment, financial responsibility, and a myriad other reasons keep many of us from making the purchase, but that doesn’t mean we wouldn’t love to find out what it’s like actually to lock up our cock in our dream chastity device.

Here are the two devices I dream of owning. Sadly, I’ll never own the first one. It’s fun to lust after, but the price is just too steep for me to ever justify buying it. The other, though not cheap, I plan to own before the end of 2021.

Steelwerks Full Metal Jacket

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In my estimation, the Full Metal Jacket by Steelwerks is to handcrafted custom dream chastity devices what the Lamborghini is to dream automobiles. It represents the pinnacle of artistic, custom male chastity inspiration because the grand master of his craft, Chris Miers, has elevated the design and manufacturing of cock cages to an entirely new level of the imagination. This total containment male chastity

monolith is a monument to Steelwerks Extreme’s commitment to individually custom made perfection.

I return to the Steelwerks website again and again to savor the Full Metal Metal Jacket. I salivate and feel those familiar tremors in my loins. But each time, I take a deep breath, step back from the situation, and go through all the reasons, one-by-one for why I simply can’t justify paying that kind of money for a chastity device. If you aren’t familiar with Steelwerks products, they are to my knowledge the most expensive chastity devices on the market. We’re not talking premium quality here, but luxury quality. The Steelwerks line is so expensive, they don’t even list the prices on the website. Here is why, according to the FAQS page on their website.

Because Steelwerks exclusively makes custom devices, we are unable to list prices for items on our site. Our prices are based on the client’s design and individual specifications. While our chastity cages are on the higher end of the market, they can range in price between $1,200.00 to as high as $10,000.00, however many of the cages on the site are in the $1,400.00 to $2,500.00 range.

Like shopping for a Lamborghini, if you have to ask the price, you probably can’t afford a Steelwerks chastity device. The devices are truly works of art, and no doubt worth ever penny. The craftsmanship is amazing. But when it comes to chastity devices, I’m not looking for a sense of validation. Like owning an expensive car, owning an expensive chastity device doesn’t validate anything. It’s simply a symbol of your ability to buy something most people can’t. I’ve never asked for a quote on the Full Metal Jacket. I didn’t want to waste their time knowing I wasn’t a buyer. But I’d be surprised if it wasn’t somewhere in the $2,500 to $3,500 range.

What I love most about the Full Metal Jacket is the total containment factor. It not only encases your cock in stainless steel, but fully encloses your balls as well. For some reason I find that massively hot. Steelwerks does offer another total confinement model called the Alchemist with the radical full metal testicular containment feature they call the castanet. The Alchemist is manufactured from lighter-weight titanium instead of stainless steel and dubbed as Steelwerks “most exclusive model.” No doubt that means it is even more pricey than the Full Metal Jacket which is crafted from surgical grade stainless steel.

Not that I’d ever wish to see anyone copy Steelwerks beautiful, artistic, and innovative designs, but I suspect at some point, someone will come out with a less expensive chastity device that includes some type of testicular containment. I suppose I’ll just have to wait for that to experience it.

I don’t have permission to post the image here, but if you want to see an image on the Steelwerks website showing the the Full Metal Jacket doing its work click here.

The Sissy Cage From Red Chili

My other dream chastity device at the moment is a work of art in its own right, yet available at a more forgiving price point. It is the Red Chili custom-made Sissy Cage at www.malechastity-devices.com.

While feminization is not one of my kinks and I’m not looking to get more in touch with my feminine side, I really love the Sissy Cage for two reasons. I’m attracted by the extreme angle of the cage that forces the cock to follow the curvature of the scrotum.

I don’t have permission to post the image here, but to see an image on the Red Chili website showing the Sissy Cage in use you can click here.

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The other thing I like is because of the extreme curvature, the Sissy Cage is a very low profile device which won’t produce much of a chastity bump at all. That’s important to those of us who prefer to wear our cock cages in the stealth mode.

Red Chili chastity devices are manufactured in France and Spain, so the Sissy Cage comes in at 285€, including shipping, for those living outside Europe. At the current rate of exchange that’s about $338.00 USD, on par with most devices offered by other custom manufacturers. I’ll be adding this cage to my collection and reviewing it during 2021.

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Chaste Life Monthly: November 2020

By on Saturday, November 21, 2020

Chaste Life Monthly Newsletter Vol. 1, Issue 2

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Welcome to the November 2020 issue of the Chaste Life Monthly Newsletter.

A Cautionary Chastity Tale

Imagine that your keyholder tells you to unlock for some teasing. Or that you want to remove your cock cage for a routine thorough cleaning. But to your horror, you discover the lock is seized up! Suddenly, like it or not, you’re stuck in permanent chastity! The other day I read a Twitter post by a guy who recently experienced just that.

The integral lock on his device had seized up and he couldn’t unlock and remove the cage. The culprit? One of the repurposed brass furniture locks Holy Trainer calls the “MagicLocker.”

Holy Trainer was the first to popularize use of the integral locks as a replacements for padlocks on chastity cages. The guy admitted he had recently noticed the lock was corroded and not working smoothly. But he had cleaned and lubricated it before locking up and used it anyway. Only a week later he discovered he couldn’t unlock it.

Holy Trainer provides a quality MagicLocker with their devices manufactured by the German company Burg Wachter. Like most German products, these locks are precision engineered from quality materials and reliable. But when the interest in chastity devices exploded, Chinese manufacturers developed a knock off version of the Burg Watcher lock that is furnished with the inexpensive chastity devices made in China. These locks are notoriously unreliable, often even when brand new.

The Twitter poster didn’t identify where the lock came from. But chances are, it was one of the cheap knock-off versions which are also sold as replacement locks on sites like eBay and Amazon for under ten dollars. In comparison, the Burg Wachter originals go for around twenty-five bucks.

Lessons learned? Never use an integrated lock with obvious corrosion or that you have already had problems with. Twenty-five bucks is cheap compared to the potential issues you will face from a failed cock cage lock. I’m pretty competent with power tools, but speaking as someone who once accidentally drove a screw through his finger when my trusty DeWalt slipped, I don’t want a power drill anywhere near my junk.

If you have problems with an integral lock, don’t be a shit sandwich. Throw the damn thing away and buy a new one. And only buy a Burg Wachter original. You can get the Burg Wachter ME/2 from the Holy Trainer Online Shop for $23 or from a Virginia company called Steinlock for $24. That’s way cheaper than a visit to the ER.

Unlocked

As planned, I unlocked this morning, November 21, after having my cock locked for 180 consecutive days. While I haven’t “celebrated” yet, I have spent time getting reacquainted with Mr. Happy.

I’ve been observing No Nut November as a follow-up to Locktober. There are only ten days left in the month, so I plan to carry on without an orgasm using willpower until the end of the month. I’ll content myself with edging until December 1.

One-hundred-eighty-days doubled my previous longest streak of consecutive days locked. So, now it is time for a new goal. But I won’t start that until January 1. I admit after six-months, it feels weird with my penis free of its cage. But I think it’s healthy to take a break. That’s not to say I won’t be locking up for some of the time before the end of the year. It just won’t be an unbroken streak.

After my junk has adjusted to its newfound freedom in a week or so, I’ll publish an after-action review post. I’ll discuss things there like any shrinkage observed, whether nocturnal erections have returned to normal, and whether everything else seems to be working properly after six-months of continuous chastity. These are all concerns for a lot of guys about long-term chastity. I’m pretty sure I already know the answers. But I’ll give things a week and then give you my honest observations.

Holy Trainer Review Coming Soon

Ever since my review of the CB-6000, I’ve wanted to do a head-to-head review with the Holy Trainer. I’ve heard from many people that the Holy Trainer is arguably the most secure and comfortable off-the-shelf male chastity device available on the market today. It’s time I judged that for the readers of Cut to the Chaste and myself. So, yesterday, I pulled the trigger and purchased a Holy Trainer V4 Nano for a wear-tested review. I expect it to hit my mailbox late next week. So, maybe I won’t have to depend on willpower alone to make it to the end of November. Look for the review around the first week of December.

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Chastity Lessons From Basic Training

By on Friday, November 20, 2020

Most of what I need to know about life, I learned during basic training. If you’re new to wearing a chastity device, mastering these chastity lessons from basic training can help you acclimate faster to wearing a cock cage for extended periods with fewer problems.

Every recruit must make it through basic training before they earn the right to be called soldiers. During boot camp, recruits get a crash course in military lifestyle, learn the skills necessary to accomplish the mission, acquire discipline, and develop habits to meet proper dress and grooming standards.

In this post, we adapt a few lessons from basic training to help the guys new to the chaste lifestyle succeed.

1. Details Matter

In basic training recruits quickly learn that details matter. Attention is to detail is the only way to meet the expected standards of performance. The same is true when it comes to chastity devices.

Today, there may be a thousand different models of chastity devices. Who knows? By now there could be ten thousand. Not every cock cage will work for every guy. One of the biggest mistakes guys make is purchasing an incorrectly sized, ill-fitting cage. And making that mistake is totally avoidable. When choosing your first chastity device, details matter.

Key Measurements

There are three key measurements to take when in comes to chastity devices.

 

  • Length of your flaccid penis (for cage length).
  • Girth or circumference of your flaccid penis (for internal cage diameter).
  • Girth or circumference of the base of your penis and scrotum (for base ring diameter).

 

These key measurements determine the proper cage length, internal diameter of the cage, and diameter of the base ring.

Getting the Measurements Right

Mature Metal offers this handy measuring guide that can help you get accurate measurements. In addition to using their guide, I recommend you purchase Mature Metal’s set of plastic sizing rings ($25 at time of publication) to obtain the most accurate base ring size.

Believe me, it’s worth spending the money for the sizing rings. Incorrectly sized base rings cause new guys more problems than most anything else. If the ring is too small, it will never feel comfortable. If it’s too large, you will experience ball slippage or the device might even come off on its own.

Even if you’re going with an inexpensive off-the-shelf model instead of a pricier custom-made device, accurate measurements will help. Now, even the lower end cage manufactures are generally giving at least the basic measurements for their devices.

With a properly fitted cock cage, the skin of your penis should touch all around. It should touch all sides of the internal circumference of the cage and at the tip. A cage that is longer than your flaccid penis or that is significantly larger than the girth of your cock will cause you more problems when you have the normal nocturnal erections that occur during the night.

Avoid cages that are too long, but don’t worry about too short. There is really no such thing as too short a cage. Your soft penis can compress painlessly to a surprisingly short length. That’s why guys are able to wear the incredibly short micro-cage devices. If it needs to, your penis will “turtle” inside your body.

2. Walk-Crawl-Run Methodology

The crawl, walk, and run methodology of training is the foundation for how the military trains during basic to demanding, yet achievable standards. It’s a good idea to use the same methodolgy when learning to wear a cock cage. Few guys will be able to put on a chastity cage for the first time and wear it indefinitely.

Chastity devices are attached to some of the most sensitive skin areas on your body. Even with a properly-sized, well-fitting device, chances are you will develop skin irritation and sore spots until your skin toughens up and adjusts to the cage. That’s why in the walk phase, you should only wear the device for an hour or so at a time for the first day. Gradually increase the wear time during the next day or two. Then, once things feel comfortable, you can try the walk phase, wearing your cock cage for a full day.

Never wear a new cage to sleep in until you’ve worn it for a full day and haven’t experienced any significant problems like circulation impairment or real pain. Some mild discomfort is to be expected, but pain isn’t normal. If something hurts, remove the cage and figure out what it wrong.

Once you’ve slept comfortably overnight in your device, you’re ready for the run phase where you can try wearing the cage for an extended time.

3. Keep It Neat and Tidy

In basic training, everyone is clean-shaven, buildings are kept clean, and the equipment is kept clean. In the same way, good hygiene practices are a must when it comes to wearing chastity devices.

If you choose one of the open-type cage devices, generally you can keep things adequately clean with your usual shower or bath. But if you choose one of the solid, enclosed tube devices, it’s good practice to remove it every few days for proper cleaning. While I usually wear an open-type stainless steel cage, I still remove it once a week for a thorough cleaning.

After cleaning your body and inspecting your genitals for minor injuries like broken skin and excessive redness, clean the device thoroughly with soap and water. With metal cages, I prefer to sterilize mine by submerging it in boiling water for 15-20 minutes. After cleaning, let the cage dry thoroughly before putting it back on.

With regard to good grooming practices, keeping your pubes trimmed is a must. I use a small battery operated beard trimmer on mine to keep the hair trimmed to about one-quarter inch in length. Shaving your pubic area bare is fine if it is something you’re already accustomed to doing. But if that hasn’t been your habit, breaking in a new chastity device is no the time to start as it can contribute to more skin irritation.

4. Practice Makes Perfect

Expect and accept setbacks. One of the key things recruits learn how to do in basic training is to adapt and overcome setbacks.

I’ve had too many guys tell me they have tried wearing a chastity device but just couldn’t get beyond wearing it for an hour or two. Sometimes the problem is a poorly fitted cage. But often it is something minor like they developed skin irritation or sore spots that could be easily addressed with the application of a good quality personal lubricant and just weren’t prepared to deal with the minor discomfort.

In my experience, it takes about a week for your skin to toughen  and grow accustomed to the chastity device hanging off your junk. After that, it is usually smooth sailing.

Especially when you’re just getting started, it’s a good idea to apply a little lubricant—silicone-based, water based, baby oil—around the inside of the base ring and the inside of the cage. This can help prevent skin irritation before it happens. If you experience broken skin, don’t be afraid to remove the cage for a day or two. Apply a little antibiotic cream and wait until it heals. Then start over with a wearing schedule and proper lubrication.

5. There Is No "I" in Team

During basic training, recruits learn how to work as a member of a team. You don’t have to do chastity alone. Websites like Cut to the Chaste, where you can find tips, chastity device reviews, and more, exist for the sole purpose of helping you learn about and acclimate to the chaste lifestyle.

6. Drive on

Once, as a “boot” cock cage wearer, you can wear your chastity cage for several days at a time, drive on. You can then start to push your boundaries and wear it for longer and longer periods. In the immortal words of the infamous Drill Instructor, Major Payne, “You’re still a shit sandwich, you’re just not a soggy one.”

Advanced Individual Training

After basic training, comes advanced individual training. When you’re ready for it, grab your copy of The Hitchhiker’s Guide to Male Chasity, everything you need to know about male chastity in the twenty-first century.

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Five Chastity New Year’s Resolution Ideas And How To Achieve Them

By on Thursday, November 19, 2020
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With Locktober 2020 firmly in the rearview mirror and a new year looming, now is a great time to indulge in a little retrospection and to reevaluate your chastity goals for 2021. Making a chastity New Year’s resolution is a perfect opportunity to make some progress for all those who failed to advance as far in their chastity journey in 2020 as they had hoped.

Now, with less than two months left in the year, it’s a great time to think about what important chastity lifestyle goal you want to reach in 2021. Being the charitable and caring bunch that we are here at Cut to the Chaste, we’ve decided to give you a little help—a few New Year’s chastity resolution ideas along with tips on how to achieve to them since the majority of people often fail to stick to their New Year’s resolutions.

Hopefully, you will find one or more of these suggestions useful if you are looking for effective ways of making your chastity life better and more meaningful in 2021.

1. Resolve to Take the Chastity Plunge

If you’re still at the intrigued with the idea of chastity and finding it hot to think about stage, but you’ve never got untracked and actually tried locking up your cock, resolve now to take the chastity plunge in 2021. Ask yourself what is holding you back.

Maybe you have your eye on an expensive, custom-made chastity device and haven’t been able to come up with the cash needed to pull the trigger. If so, consider going with a less expensive device for the time being. You can always get that ideal device later.

Today there is a mind-boggling array of inexpensive, yet serviceable chastity devices available in almost every material imaginable from online retailers like eBay at prices between $10 and $25. You’re sure to find an inexpensive device to your liking you can use to get started. The chastity device reviews on this site include my experiences with several budget friendly cages I used when I first got started.

Perhaps not having anyone in mind to act as your keyholder is holding back. It’s hard to argue that having a keyholder doesn’t provide the most meaningful chastity experience. But, why not get started with self-locking and then focus on organizing a keyholder?

Personally, I think it is a good idea to find a cage that works for you and then to acclimate to wearing it 24/7 for a week or ten days at a time before thinking about finding a keyholder. It will save you and the keyholder from a lot of aggravation and disappointment. Then, once you find a keyholder, you will already have experience with staying locked for extended periods in a chastity cage that feels comfortable.

2. Resolve to Find a Keyholder in 2021

Maybe you’ve built up an impressive amount of self-locked experience in 2020, but doing chastity on your own has lost some of the luster. You’re ready for a keyholder but you’re not in a relationship at the moment or not in a relationship with someone interested in taking on the responsibility of being your keyholder. What’s a guy to do?

Perhaps it’s time to think outside the box a little. Sure, in a perfect world having a wife or other romantic partner as your keyholder would be the best situation. Unfortunately, for many of us that isn’t an option. But that needn’t keep you from finding a keyholder. You don’t need to get into a relationship first before finding a keyholder.

Think about the friends you already have. Is there someone you already know you might ask to take possession of the key to your chastity cage? All you need is someone you have a close enough friendship with that you would feel comfortable discussing something as personal as your interest in chastity with them. It doesn’t even matter whether the friend is male or female. In a real sense, a keyholder is someone who acts as your chastity accountability partner. So, even if you’re straight, that doesn’t mean one of your close guy friends couldn’t act as your keyholder. All you need is someone willing to hold your key so you won’t unlock whenever you feel tempted.

Here is another idea. You could get a friend to act as your keyholder without even discussing the whole chastity thing with them. You could simply put your key in an envelope and then ask a friend to hold on to the envelope for you until some date in the future. You could explain the envelope has something important inside you dont’t want to lose and you temporaily need someone reponsible to hold onto it for you.

3. Resolve to Use a Professional Keyholder for the First Time

When you don’t have a partner or friend to act as your keyholder, a professional keyholding service can be a great alternative. I’ve had great experiences with several different professionals. And, paying for keyholding services doesn’t have to break the bank.

Availability of professional keyholding services has grown right along with the explosion of interest among men in wearing chastity cages. The services available run the gamut from elite keyholding services with optional add-ons like the services offered by Mistress Sabine St. Jack to basic keyholding available from lifestyle Dommes. I’ve paid as little at $35 per month for basic keyholding. If you want teasing assignments to go along with someone taking possession of your key, expect to pay a little a more. I pay around $50 per month to my go-to keyholding services provider for keyholding and daily teasing assignments that help keep my arousal ramped up.

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The sky is the limit when it comes to finding the exact kind of service that works for you. You can choose to pay month to month or for multiple months up to a full year at a time. Generally, the longer the period of chastity you sign up for, the cheaper the monthly cost.

At least for me, having a permanent professional keyholder isn’t a must. I mix self-locking with professional keyholding which saves money yet still gives me a burst of motivation when I need it.

It’s not difficult to find a professional keyholder. A quick web search for “chastity keyholding services” will give you a lot of service offerings to consider. Also, more and more, professional keyholders are advertising on Twitter.

4. Resolve to Finally Have the Conversation

There are a lot of guys out there who are in a relationship. They may have already bought a chastity cage and have been wearing it on the sly. They have wanted to broach the chastity topic with their wife or partner for a while, but haven’t mustered up the courage or figured out exactly how to start the discussion. Make 2021 the year you resolve to have the conversation with your wife or partner.

Not sure how to tell your wife or partner you want her to lock up your cock and keep the key? There is now a wealth of books on that very subject that can help. In The Hitchhiker’s Guide to Male Chastity, you can find suggestions on how to bring up your chastity desires with your wife or partner. There is also a complete section devoted to women that explains why men desire chastity and what’s in it for women who agree to become keyholders for their men. Kindle Unlimited subscribers can even read the digital version free.

But that’s not the only great book on the topic. Male Chastity: How to Introduce Your Partner by Jules Scot is another excellent resource to give your wife or partner that explains male chastity and what being a chastity keyholder entails. It’s also free to read on Amazon for Kindle Unlimited subscribers.

5. Resolve to Purchase Your Dream Chastity Device

If you’ve been involved with chastity for long and know it’s something you want to keep as a part of your life, you probably have that special chastity cage you’re salivating over. That sweet, sexy looking, custom-made device you can’t wait to get your hands on. But it’s pricey and you just can’t justify the expense right now. Why not save for it? Why not put aside a few bucks a week or a month dedicated toward giving yourself a special gift you know you will like for Christmas 2021? Here is a savings trick I’ve been using for years for just such a purpose. It’s called “The 52-Week Savings Challenge.”

The idea is simple: You save just $1 the first week of the year, and then gradually increase your savings by a dollar a week throughout the year. So you save $2 in Week 2, then $3 in Week 3, and so on, until you’re stashing away upwards of $50 a week next December. By the end of the year, when you complete the challenge, you’ll have saved $1,378 plus any accrued interest. That would buy you just about any custom-made chastity device you could dream of. Here is a link to a page where you can see the challenge week by week and the amount you need to save.

I get the whole instant gratification thing, but I’ve learned to discipline myself to save for big ticket items instead of just whipping out the plastic when I see something I want. The 52-week savings challenge hack has served me well in that regard.

Well, there you have it—my suggestions for five chastity New Year’s resolution Ideas and how to achieve them—a list of advice, tips and tricks to help you see your New Year’s chastity resolution through and make some long-term changes in your life.

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Why Do Men Desire Chastity So Much?

By on Wednesday, November 18, 2020
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Male chastity is where your penis is locked in a specially designed device that prevents you from getting full erections or using your penis for sex. While locked up, you can’t masturbate or orgasm. Unless you self-lock, the cage can only be removed by your designated “keyholder.” Why do men desire chastity so much? Why would any guy voluntarily surrender control of the most intimate part of his body, let alone enthusiastically offer to do so? The short answer is pleasure. Chastity feels good, and that’s why we crave it. But that doesn’t mean we all desire chastity for the same reason. Here are six of the top reasons chastity feels good and why guys crave it.

1. The Desire to be Controlled by Another Person

Wearing a male chastity device is an inherently submissive act for a man. Some men are, by nature, sexually submissive. That doesn’t necessarily mean they’re effeminate, wimpish cupcakes.

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Lots of otherwise outwardly dominant men secretly desire the fill the submissive role sexually. Many men enjoy sexual fantasies in which the man is more of a passive player.

Almost every list of top male sexual fantasies you can find include fantasies about submitting sexually to a dominant partner—being tied up, teased, and tantalized. Chasity is a low-level but serious and very functional form of bondage. Some speculate the popularity of this fantasy is because it runs contrary to the way men experience their lives outside the bedroom.

Having your partner lock you in a chastity device is one of the most effective and far-reaching ways imaginable to surrender sexual control to a partner. Submitting to a partner with chastity may be part of a wider female-led or Dom/sub relationship. But it doesn’t have to be.

2. The Desire to Enjoy a Constant High Level of Sexual Arousal

The body is hard-wired to enjoy desire, the first phase of the sexual response cycle. We move into the equally desirable arousal phase from desire—that’s why it fundamentally feels good to feel horny.

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But the period between feeling aroused and doing something about it is often short for guys. Men are driven by sexual desire. It’s a natural, fundamental urge that’s impossible for us to ignore. So, few of us experience heightened arousal over an extended period when left to our own devices.

When guys get horny, we’re eager to get to the last two phases of the sexual response cycle, orgasm, and resolution. If we don’t have a partner available, we tend to take matters in hand and rub out a quick one.

Having your cock locked in a chastity cage changes all that. Your desire and arousal get ample opportunity to build and build to the point where everything starts to feel sexy, and you get so horny you could burst.

3. The Desire to Reduce the Frequency of Wanking

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While evolution has gifted men with a powerful sex drive, most of us are almost powerless to control it. Resisting such a powerful drive requires more willpower than most men can muster. So, sooner or later, we have to seek satisfaction. This often comes in the form of masturbation. In itself, masturbation can become addicting, and we find ourselves doing it more often than we may feel comfortable with. Also, frequent masturbation can lead to other addictions. Spending too much time watching porn

is one of them.

Many guys desire chastity as a way of reclaiming control and cutting back on the time they spend wanking and watching porn. It might be out of an interest in spending their time on more productive things or to have more energy for and interest in sex with their romantic partners.

Some men find themselves secretly racked by an inner conflict between the fleeting pleasure derived from frequent wanking and the sense of guilt that inevitably follows. Relinquishing control over such matters means the inner turmoil ceases. A chastity device helps men resist the temptation to masturbate far more effectively than willpower alone ever could.

4. The Desire to Increase the Quality of Orgasms

Most of us can agree that the more often we climax, the less intense and enjoyable orgasms feel. Some men desire chastity as a means of increasing the quality and intensity of their orgasms. Even postponing the next orgasm for a few days can make a big difference. Guys accustomed to spending weeks or months locked in a chastity cage often describe their orgasms as truly mind-blowing experiences.

Many men say that the orgasm denial that accompanies being kept in chastity increases their sex drive and improves their focus. Obviously, that can also heighten the stakes of a relationship.

5. The Desire to Feel Emasculated

Some guys find it sexually and/or emotionally pleasurable to feel emasculated. That’s why, for some, chastity may be part of a wider experience of things like forced feminization, cross-dressing, or cuckolding. Spending an extended time locked in a chastity cage can feel extremely emasculating, which can be just the ticket for guys who embrace the idea of female superiority.

There is certainly a feminization aspect to wearing a

chastity device that many guys like. With many of the devices, you can’t stand up and use a urinal. The whole hetero-patriarchy thing gets smashed a little when you have to pee sitting down because of a cock cage.

With chastity, there’s that all-encompassing feeling of enclosure. Every part of your cock is completely enclosed and off-limits to you. It can put you into the headspace that you’re inferior to women, that you don’t deserve to be allowed to get off, someone who needs to be put in his place. Chastity makes it impossible to engage in penetrative sex, which is tremendously exciting for some men because it produces a feeling of impotence in that regard.

6. The Desire to Show Maximum Commitment to a Partner

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Chastity includes some profound psychological implications. This intimate form of submission to a partner can encourage a guy to do all manner of things he might not ordinarily voluntarily do for his partner without the need for her to ask or even nag him about it.

Male chastity provides a man with a subtle, unspoken motivation to do the right thing for his partner and the relationship. That runs the gamut of becoming more helpful around the house, showering his partner with

with affectionate attention, and being more aware and considerate of his partner’s needs.

Male chastity can literally restore the romance in a relationship. A chaste guy stops taking his partner for granted and becomes more attentive and considerate of her desires. He no longer feels tempted by pornography or other women. For many men, chastity is the way toward experiencing a stronger, deeper relationship with their partners, which they find very satisfying.

While the thought of having their penises locked in a chastity cage might make some men cringe, it makes others whimper with excitement. Being caged can be extremely exciting and fulfilling. Why do men desire chastity so much? We’ve looked at six of the reasons. Chances are you read one that resonated with you. But of course, some of us are motivated to desire chastity for more than only one single reason. It could be a combination of reasons that cause you to desire chastity.

New to male chastity but finding yourself intrigued? Grab a copy of The Hitchhiker’s Guide to Male Chastity, everything you need to know in one place about male chastity in the 21st century.

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Closing in on Six Months Locked in a Chastity Cage

By on Sunday, November 15, 2020

If you keep up with my current status, then you know I’m closing in on six months locked in a chastity cage. That’s 180 days, twice my previous record of 90 days, which I’ve achieved twice. That significant date is now only six days away. What to do?

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I’m Torn After Six Months Locked in a Chastity Cage

Less than a week away from six months locked in a chastity cage, as Natalie Imbruglia sang in her 1997 debut hit single, I’m torn. I still love that song, by the way.

A part of me would like to soldier on and see how far I can push my limits. But another part of me wants to unlock for a while.

I truly admire a guy like Thumper, who remains in perpetual chastity. For me, I think permanent chastity would be Nirvana, a place of perfect peace and happiness, the highest state a chaste man can attain, and a state of enlightenment where individual desires and suffering fade away. That’s my goal, but I’m not ready for it yet.

Unlike Thumper, I don’t have a permanent partner for a keyholder. At least as I understand all he has written on his excellent blog, that is the secret sauce that helps Thumper endure. It seems the guy has tons of motivation and willpower, sure, but still unlocking his penis is up to his wife, Belle, not up to him.

For much of the past six months, a keyholder has supervised me. But I’ve done stretches of self-locked, too, which is where I am now. That, I believe, makes committing to permanent chastity much harder.

Lessons Learned After Almost Six Months Locked in a Chastity Cage

I’m pretty sure the desire to wank and orgasm never completely goes away. I figure if you give a guy a choice, he will typically take it. But oddly, that isn’t what I miss the most after almost six months locked in a chastity cage. What I miss is much more simple and basic. I miss being able to touch my penis.

What is it with us guys and touching our penises? We do it all the time. At least unless we’re into chastity. We touch it and hold it often without even being conscious of it a lot of the time.

Before I started locking my penis in a cage, sometimes I’d be lying on the couch or sitting in my recliner watching television, and my hand would just find its way into my shorts. There was nothing necessarily sexual about it. I think it is more of a comfort thing than anything else. Maybe it’s because the male genitals are just sort of out there front and center that lends them to this behavior.

It’s hard to let go after six months, knowing you face starting all over again at ground zero. But, I’ve decided to unlock for a while. Maybe until the end of the year. Then on January 1, 2021, I plan to lock up again and push for a new record. Can I double my time in chastity once again? Can I remain locked for an entire year? That’s what I’m considering now. Maybe after one full year, I will be ready to commit to permanent. Guess we’ll find out.

How about you? What are your plans for chastity in 2021? In the next post, I’ll offer five chastity New Year’s resolution ideas along with tips on how to achieve each of them.

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