Finally, I experienced my first night sleeping in a male chastity device. LJ told me to remain locked when I went to bed last night. I had been keen to do it, which led to what seemed a small misunderstanding.
Yesterday afternoon I mentioned how I was really hoping she would let me sleep while locked. I meant only to convey how much I liked being locked for her and that I was feeling confident I was ready for my first night locked. Evidently, she either interpreted what I said as a request or a suggested course of action.
At any rate, I received a terse reply reminding me in no uncertain terms that she made the decisions, and what I wanted was completely irrelevant. Fair enough, I suppose, if she really believed I had overstepped. But, I was honestly only sharing my mental state at the time which is something I thought she expected from me. This goes to show that getting acquainted and comfortable with a new keyholder is just as much a part of this process as getting accustomed to being locked.
I’m not the type who gets hurt feelings easily. But LJ’s curt correction, which I truly believe was simply based on an incorrect interpretation on her part, smarted a bit. It also makes me feel less eager to express feelings as opposed to only the facts about my adjustment to being locked. That is problematic in my view. It makes me feel less willing to be completely open and vulnerable with her which I’d think is how this kind of arrangement should ideally go.
Anyway, it’s still a bit of a sore spot for me this morning. The shocking bit is she has been strict, but very reasonable up until the exchange yesterday afternoon. Guess it will start to feel more like we’re on the same page as we get better acquainted.
Later in the evening, LJ told me I would be sleeping while locked. I was a bit surprised by that given what she had said earlier. I half expected she was going to make me remove the cage, not out of spite, but to drive home the point she was boss. I’m happy she didn’t do that because to be honest, I would have seen that as petty. I have a very firm grasp of the dynamics of power exchanges. I’m not one to attempt topping from the bottom. I feel no entitlement to suggest courses of action to LJ, and I’ve not made a single request of her. I simply do what she says which is how I see the whole enforced chastity thing working. I hope we get this sorted in short order.
Well, off my rant and back to the actual topic, my first overnight locked. Sleeping locked was probably the one thing I felt a bit uneasy about at the beginning. I’d read a lot of experiences shared by other guys, which made me worry dealing with night time erections might be a very unpleasant, and maybe even painful experiences. As it turned out, I worried about it way too much.
I was awakened three times by attempted erections during the night. With the first two occurrences, things subsided quickly and I went back to sleep almost immediately. The last erection was a short time before I intended to get out of bed this morning. Morning wood, I suppose. It didn’t cause what I’d characterize as real discomfort. But, I was very much aware of some significant pressure from the base ring being pulled tighter. So, using a tip I’d read somewhere, I went to the bathroom and urinated which resolved things quickly.
In short, my first overnight while locked went amazingly well. I’ve now experienced my first complete 24-hour locked experience. I slept normally for the most part, and had no trouble finding a comfortable sleeping position. The cage is beginning to feel more like a part of my body rather than an uncomfortable foreign object. And, I am very pleased with this inexpensive, made in China, device I had to switch to when the Jailhouse device didn’t work out. It is amazingly comfortable to wear, and its open style makes cleaning up in the shower while locked a breeze.
The only thing I dislike about the device is the “shower head” effect caused by the end cap with multiple holes. Invariably, my urethral opening is never lined up properly with the center hole. So, when peeing, the urine splashes against the inside of the end cap and pretty much goes everywhere except where intended. I’m now planning a full review of the device once I’ve worn it another week or so.
I have no clue where we will go from here, or how long I’ll be locked before being released again. As LJ brusquely reminded me yesterday afternoon, she makes the decisions about how things will go and will tell me what happens next when she feels I need to know. Yep, cool. Pretty much what I expected when I decided to jump into male chastity.