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The Complete Idiot’s Guide To Finding A Chastity Keyholder ─ Part 2

By on Friday, June 5, 2020

This post, The Complete Idiot’s Guide To Finding A Chastity Keyholder ─ Part 2, focuses on guys who are not in a committed romantic relationship at the moment but are interested in trying chastity. Either you’ve recently discovered male chastity and think it’s something you want to try. Or, you already have a chastity device and have been enjoying self-locking for a while.

In The Complete Idiot’s Guide To Finding A Chastity Keyholder ─ Part 1, we defined the term keyholder. I won’t repeat the definition here, so if you haven’t read the first part of the multi-part post, you can click on the above link and review it if you wish.

As noted in the first part of this post, a keyholder can be anyone as long as that person consents to fill the role. Most commonly for men in relationships, it is the caged male’s wife or intimate partner. A guy not in a relationship doesn’t have this built-in option. That can make finding a keyholder at least somewhat more challenging. But it is not impossible.

Chastity For Lust And The Fun Of It All

Is it even necessary to have a keyholder to try chastity? Can’t a guy just self-lock or use one of the many virtual chastity device keyholders you can easily find on the web? Sure, you can do that, and some men find that an acceptable option. Just understand you won’t get the full chastity experience if you go about it that way. Locking your device and then handing over the keys to another human being to control takes chastity to a whole other level.

Most guys who try self-locking get bored right away. And, let’s face it. Self-locking is hard. You become entirely dependent on willpower to control those same urges that may have often sent you to a porn site with your penis in your hand. Most of us don’t have the willpower to last very long on our own. Also, starting your chastity journey alone is a lonely way to go. If what you want is the chastity lifestyle instead of just chastity play, a keyholder is a must.

I Have No One To Ask To Be My Keyholder

I hear a lot of guys say, I’d really like to try chastity, and I know I won’t enjoy self-locking. But I have no one to ask to be my keyholder. When I hear that, I think what they probably mean is that they are hesitant to ask someone to be their keyholder. It’s really quite like how we are sometimes timid about asking out a girl we like because we’re afraid she will say no. None of us enjoys rejection. I get that. Also, guys may fear if they bring up chastity with a girl, they believe she will think they are weird or something. But, the truth is, most guys know someone they could ask if they would only do it.

Most of us have females as platonic friends. A good many of us have ex-girlfriends. Both of those are good options. I have always tended to remain friends with my ex-girlfriends after the romantic relationships ended. Just because we weren’t a good fit for a relationship doesn’t mean they aren’t perfectly good friends. Out of my last four ex-girlfriends, I’d be comfortable with asking three of them to be my keyholder. At least two of those I’m pretty sure would agree to do it. I also have two female friends I’ve never dated that are definite maybes.

A guy I spoke with on a chastity website in a chat room once told me that one of his ex-girlfriends had been his keyholder for years. He’d mail her his keys, and she’d give him a date when he could ask to have them back. When he asked, she would either send the keys back or give him a new date when he could ask again. He said she liked being his keyholder so much he was concerned about one thing. He worried someday he would ask for the keys back, and she would not only say no, but she’d also say there would be no new release dates. Then he’d find himself in permanent chastity.

As long as the relationship with an ex-girlfriend ended amicably, and you are still in regular contact, she might be only too happy to mail out a lock or some keys once in a while and set a release date. It’s hardly any effort on her part, and it allows her to keep a thumb on the scales of your life. We could say pretty much the same thing about platonic female friends.

In both cases, you just need to do a good job of explaining to them your interest in chastity and what you want them to do. And make sure you tell them that if they agree to be your keyholder, they are allowed to exercise their independent judgment about when they give you releases.

The truth is, there are something like 3.5 billion females on the planet. Unless a guy is a castaway on some deserted island, it’s hard to make the case he has no one to ask to be his keyholder. But, if you’re too shy to ask a female you know, or too afraid she will think you’re a freak for the asking, then you have other options.

The Professionals

Beyond platonic friends and ex-girlfriends, a keyholder can also be a professional dominatrix, pro-domme, or another service for-fee provider. There are advantages and disadvantages to using a pro. An advantage is you don’t have to explain chastity to them. They probably know more about it than you do, and they will also probably know all about the different chastity device options. The disadvantage is you must pay them to enforce your chastity, and in some cases, they will insist upon making all the rules without any concern for what you may want in your chastity experience. Let’s look at three options.

Professional Dominatrix

Most professional dominatrices offer enforced chastity services. But they will often be the most expensive option. These ladies often make their livings from indulging the kinks of their clients. If you live in a large city, chances are you can even find a local one. If so, you can probably schedule a face-to-face session where she will physically lock you in your device.

You can also connect with one online via Skype or some similar video and voice platform, and she will supervise while you lock yourself. These women also offer a wide array of other services tailored to kink enthusiasts, tease and denial as one example. Since a professional dominatrix sets her own prices, it would be useless for me to try and offer price specifics. Let’s just say you should expect to pay them hundreds of dollars per hour, whether you are looking for an in-person or online video-based session. Almost always, you pay a dominatrix in cash, or by online cash transfers. You find these women on the Internet. They are small businesspersons, and all have a web and social media presence.

Professional Dommes

Professional Dommes are similar to professional dominatrices regarding the kind of services they offer. They, too, can be on the expensive side, but not usually as expensive as a professional dominatrix. Again, in larger cities, you may find them locally. Also, there are many of them online. Some charge per hour for sessions like their dominatrix sisters, but some offer basic enforced chastity keyholding services at a standard weekly rate. I’ve used one such online service, which was very reasonable in price.

If you want something besides keyholding, like tease and denial sessions or online assignments, be prepared to pay extra. Usually, you pay pro-dommes in cash, or by online cash transfers. You also find pro-dommes on the Internet. A web search on the term “chastity keyholder” will return lots of website links for your consideration.

Other Service For-Fee Providers

The recent explosive growth of interest in chastity among men has created a cottage-like industry to address the increased demand for chastity keyholders. These women are almost exclusively online, distant keyholders. Women, from college students to homemakers to lifestyle dommes, are prepared to be your keyholder for a nominal fee. It tends to be a side gig for them instead of a full-time job.

Many of these service for-fee providers have websites, but a lot of them operate off social media platforms like Twitter. While they have set fees, the costs for keyholding are typically much less than you would pay a dominatrix or pro-domme. Another difference is many of these providers don’t accept cash. Instead, they require payments (they term “tributes”) via online digital gift cards, like those available from Amazon and other retailers.

Take Away

I believe having a “lifestyle” keyholder, a platonic friend or ex-girlfriend, is the best option, and not only because it’s free. I think it is just a better experience, closer to what men in relationships enjoy from having a wife or partner as their keyholder. But, if that’s not an option for you, there are professional ladies out there willing to hold your keys for a fee.

With all the options available, I don’t see a reason any guy has to self-lock and go it alone. There are the virtual keyholding services out there you can find on the web, some that are free for basic service, and some at a nominal charge. But comparing a virtual keyholding service to a flesh and blood keyholder to me is like comparing a Fleshlight to a girlfriend. It just isn’t the same.

That wraps up The Complete Idiot’s Guide To Finding A Keyholder. Thanks for reading. I hope you learned something or that the posts at least sparked a few ideas for you. Good luck finding your perfect keyholder, or one as perfect as your circumstances allow.

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The Complete Idiot’s Guide To Finding A Chastity Keyholder ─ Part 1

By on Thursday, June 4, 2020

This post, The Complete Idiot’s Guide To Finding A Chastity Keyholder ─ Part 1, is aimed at guys who are in one of two places right now. Either you’ve recently discovered male chastity and think it’s something you want to try. Or, you already have a chastity device and have been enjoying self-locking for a while.

Before we jump into our topic, allow me to explain the term “idiot,” which I used is the title of this post. I used it only used as hyperbole. Being unsure about how to go about acquiring a keyholder does not make you an idiot. We’ve all be there. I’m only stressing the point that I hope to provide you with a basic understanding of what can be a confusing, complicated topic. My approach will be explaining how to find a keyholder using basic terminology, definitions, and a synopsis of the steps to be taken within the context of your unique situation.

What Is a Keyholder, Anyway?

keyholder

noun

CHASTITY

a keyholder is a person who consents to possess the key to someone else’s chastity device.

A keyholder can be anyone as long as that person consents to fill the role. Most commonly, it is the caged male’s wife or intimate partner, But a keyholder can also be a friend, professional dominatrix, pro-domme, or another service for-fee provider. Sometimes, because it’s male chastity, people assume a keyholder is always a female. That isn’t the case. Anyone, regardless of gender or sexual orientation, can fill the role. However, for the sake of brevity, I will be using she/her to refer to keyholders in this post.

Chastity For Love And The Long Haul

If you’re a guy in a relationship who has discovered chastity, you may be thinking it is about time to have a conversation with your wife or partner. You probably hope to introduce chastity to your partner and enlist her as your keyholder. I think having a wife or partner as the keyholder is the best of all possible circumstances for a chaste man. Being a keyholder is a responsibility, but keyholding can also be a lot of fun and a source of satisfaction for a keyholder. But, when you work up the nerve to talk with your partner to tell her all the wonderful things about this new world you’ve discovered, you may be shocked by her response.

First, your partner may have no idea what male chastity is or what it entails. If they are aware that chastity cages exist, and that some men wear them, their response may even be negative. Why? She may think chastity is only another kinky thing you found on the Internet you want to try—something completely unnatural, nothing she is the least bit interested in, not very sexy, kind of stupid, very stupid, and pointless. Can you blame her? After all, if you’re anything like lots of other guys and me, it probably won’t be the first time you have tried introducing her to some sex thing you found on the web. You know, something to spice up things in the bedroom a little.

Having The Chastity Conversation

As men, we tend to think in a logical, linear pattern when looking for a solution to a problem. Instinctively, our first thought is we can overcome our partner’s objections by telling her all the wonderful benefits chastity will give her. If she will only lock your penis in a chastity cage and take possession of the key, she will see an incredible transformation.

  1. You won’t be able to masturbate while watching porn anymore, which means you won’t watch so much porn since there won’t be any point.
  1. You will become so much more attentive, and you will care more deeply about her feelings and about what she wants.
  1. You won’t be able to cheat on her. Seriously? Who would say that?
  1. You will become more helpful around the house.
  1. You will become a more selfless lover.

I’ve even seen variations on this same approach suggested in chastity guides and on many online chastity sites. But, there is only one problem with this strategy. It doesn’t work. Please, don’t use any of those lame suggestions.

Think about it for a moment. Let’s assume your partner knows about your porn and masturbation habits because I’m confident she does. You will only remind her of something she probably not only dislikes but may even find hurtful. Maybe she believes you don’t find her sexually attractive enough any longer, so you get off watching porn and masturbating instead of having sex with her.

As far as all those other things, she won’t see those as benefits for her either. She will probably ask you why you aren’t already doing all those things. Your partner will want to know why you have to lock your dick inside some silly contraption to do all the things a caring partner would already be doing if he cared enough about her and the relationship. See where I’m going with this?

Indeed, chastity will probably motivate you to do every single one of those things on the above list. But, it will make more of an impact if she starts seeing those positive changes than you telling her how much better a partner you will be if she only agrees first to give you something you want.

A Better Strategy

Make it about her and her needs, not about you. After explaining that you have researched male chastity, and you are convinced chastity could make you a better person and partner. Then use talking points like this to tell her how you believe chastity could help you do that.

  1. Tell her that after much thought, you realize you need to learn to serve her better and to make her life easier.
  1. Explain that her guidance and constructive criticism on how you perform your share of the household chores would help you learn to become more attentive to her needs and desires.
  1. Let her know that wearing a chastity device would prevent you from wasting energy on masturbation, energy that you could devote to higher purposes like pleasing her.
  1. Share how wearing a chastity device will help you learn to give her more pleasure in the bedroom. Instead of being self-focused on your satisfaction and desires, chastity will help you learn to focus your energy on her happiness and desires. Her pleasure will become your pleasure.
  1. Be honest and explain that the thought of wearing a chastity device for her and having her take complete control of your sex life excites you. Help her understand your primary motivation is not just to wear a chastity device, but to wear a chastity device for her.

See how these points are more focused on your partner, not on just another urge or desire you want your partner to fulfill for you.

You’re not trying to trick your partner with this strategy. You’re only being honest. Using these suggestions shows that you are aware you have shortcomings you need to correct and that you sincerely want to become a better man and partner. But, you need to learn how to do that. You believe practicing male chastity will help you learn the things you need to learn to do a better job of pleasing and satisfying her and making her life better.

Thanks for reading. I hope found the information useful, and that you will return for The Complete Idiot’s Guide To Finding A Chastity Keyholder ─ Part 2, where I will offer practical tips and suggestions to single guys for finding a keyholder.

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Does the desire to wear a male chastity device make you submissive?

By on Monday, January 6, 2020

Most of what you find to read about male chastity on the webs suggests that any guy who desires to have another person lock his peen in a chastity device and control his orgasms is by definition submissive. But is that true? Let’s talk about that.

As I’ve shared before, I have considerable past experience in the kink world to include BDSM play and actual relationships based upon the dominant and submissive dynamic. From the time I first became involved, my role was always dominant or top, depending on the particular circumstances. My partners were always submissive women. So, does my recent interest and participation in male chastity mean I’ve suddenly become submissive? Was I filling the wrong role all those years? I don’t think so. But, before I explain, let’s take a look at submission.

Let me first offer my perspective on submissive men. There is absolutely nothing wrong with a man being submissive or wanting to submit. Given my past experience, I have great respect for submissive people, whether male or female. I have a healthy view of submission. Being submissive does not mean a guy is weak or unmanly. Being submissive doesn’t necessarily mean a guy isn’t a real man. It doesn’t mean he is a doormat or milquetoast. Many submissive people I’ve known over the years are by nature very strong, assertive individuals. They simply enjoy the submissive role, submitting to more dominant people, especially when it comes to erotic play and sex. Submitting is what feels most fulfilling to them.

Also, a submissive guy might have several facets to his submissiveness, perhaps sometimes overlapping with each other, depending on his partner, his mood, and the stage of his development. There is no form of submissiveness that is “better” or more true to the essence of submission than any other. That brings me to the next point. There are many different types of submissive individuals. Qualified people who have studied the psychology of it say there are perhaps seven to nine different types. Simply looking at the extremes of a range of submissive men, we could say at one end of the spectrum, you have the “slave” and, at the opposite end, the “bottom.”

A slave gives himself lock, cock, and barrel to his dominant partner. For our purposes in the discussion of male chastity, the key holder. Beyond being locked in a chastity device, a slave happily submits to being beaten, pierced, even branded. Anything goes. He is owned body and mind. He will accept sleeping on the floor or even in a cage. He will submit to be given to others for use, for example, when cuckoldry is part of the dynamic. This is perhaps the pinnacle of being submissive, whether male or female.

On the other end of the spectrum is the bottom. Not to say a bottom doesn’t authentically submit to his partner, but a bottom submits to obtain the desired outcome. In the context of male chastity, he submits to have the fantasy realized. He desires a strong, dominant partner, usually a woman in my own experience, to lock his peen in a chastity device and control not only his orgasms but even access to his own genitals. Male chastity is just the icing on the cake so to speak, not a vehicle for expressing his highest submissive nature. It’s a transactional arrangement where he gets what he wants, the mind fuck of being locked and denied, in return for the dominant getting what she wants, usually control.

I think the reason so much of what you read about male chastity on the webs seems to insist that all men who want to be kept in chastity are by definition submissive males, is because much of it is written by women who subscribe to the concept of female supremacy within Femdom or FLRs. This I believe, is largely what has perpetuated the myth that all men who want to be kept in chastity, especially by a dominant woman, are submissive by nature. But, I submit it is only a myth. Some chaste males are submissive, some aren’t. It isn’t a requirement that a guy is submissive for him to desire being locked.

The desire by a male to be sexually dominated by a woman in any fashion doesn’t necessarily equate to having some deep-rooted need to express his submissive nature. A man might just as easily only desire to be the bottom during the sexual experience. For some guys then, the desire to be sexually dominated by a woman by having her lock his penis in a cage and assume control over his access to sexual pleasure can be as simple as wanting to fulfill an arousing fantasy by being the bottom during this specific form of sexual play.

A good way to describe this to guys who have never experienced having their penis locked in a device and denied sexual pleasure is to compare it to something someone is absolutely passionate about–say chocolate, for example. If chocolate is your weakness and your ultimate favorite chocolate is locked inside a cage where you can see it, you can smell it, you can almost taste it–you will naturally crave it. And the person who has the key to the cage says they will let you have it, but only if you submit to something they want from you. If you want the chocolate bad enough, if you crave it strongly enough, you will do whatever it takes to get it. Each task you perform at the behest of the key holder only increases the value of the chocolate you can’t have. Each task only heightens your need to please the key holder who controls access to that which you want the most. Naturally, you behave more and more submissively to the key holder. It’s because you become desperate to please to get the chocolate you’re starving for. But, in these circumstances, behaving submissively no matter how authentic, doesn’t necessarily mean a man is submissive by nature or temperament.

Think about all the men you’ve read about who often entertained the supremely arousing fantasy of giving a woman power over their orgasms and feeling the sensations of having a device locked on their cock as a constant reminder that they are not allowed to orgasm. Those who find a woman willing to lock them up achieve such a “needy” state of arousal that they reach a mental state of submission where they will do almost anything to please their key holder. The intensity of the sexual arousal enhances sensations and everything around them takes on new meaning. It creates a depth like nothing else they have ever experienced and can be highly addictive. It may also foster a profound emotional dependency on the person holding the key.

But what happens in many cases when they are allowed release? What happens when they finally get the forbidden chocolate? The submissive feelings evaporate. That’s because, for most men, submission is directly related to their level of sexual arousal.

Once they achieve orgasm, their submission no longer exists. Submission for them is not a state of nature, but a temporary state of mind, a behavior adapted to meet the desired end. Such men then, as much as they love experiencing male chastity, are not submissive.

I’d wager you this. You could take the manliest, dominant man you could find. If you could convince him to allow you to lock a cage on his penis and subject him to a long enough period of sexual teasing and denial, he’d eventually be willing to do almost anything to get out of the cage and experience orgasm. He would behave submissively though not a submissive.

The point of all this is you needn’t be a submissive man where being locked is only another natural outlet to express your submissive nature. I think any guy with the desire to explore male chastity, submissive or not, can find it quite a meaningful and fulfilling experience. In fact, you don’t even have to be kinky as today many vanilla men enjoy being locked in a chastity device too.

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Chasity boy of little faith

By on Sunday, January 5, 2020

As she has a way of doing, LJ completely destroyed my “I’m not getting any sexual teasing” complaint from the previous post. Funny thing is I didn’t even bring it up. Sometimes, I think the woman knows men so well she always knows what I’m thinking. Anyway, here is what happened.

After publishing yesterday’s post, LJ and I were chatting. I asked her a question about something that wasn’t even related to the disappointment I have felt over the absence of teasing, and there being nothing sexual as a part of the dynamic thus far. In answering the question I asked, she went on to answer the questions I didn’t.

LJ told me that many of the guys she is the key holder are allowed sexual playtime as rewards when she feels they have earned it. She then told me this. I wasn’t there yet. I was in training, my first introduction to chastity, so my circumstances were very different. Experiencing denial, and learning to cope with the building sexual need and frustration was what I needed first before I’d be ready for teasing and the other sexual stuff. She believes learning to master that first will make me appreciate it all the more when she does allow me orgasms. More importantly, I will then truly understand that she is the only one that allows me pleasure and it never comes easily.

Makes sense. It was reassuring to know I’m not just being locked and forgotten, and that th3 dynamic between us will continue to evolve as I gain experience. And she was right. I am completely new to all this and haven’t earned anything. I just need to be patient and have faith and trust in her judgment. There was one thing about it that wasn’t so comforting.

The reminder I was in training seemed to make one thing clear. I shouldn’t expect any dramatic changes in how things go until I complete the thirty-day training program I signed up for. Like for example, I’m probably not going to get any full-on satisfying orgasms during the next 18 days. I may be lucky to get even another health and welfare ruined one. The jury is still out on the teasing part. But, you know something. Now, I’m content to wait for it because this has only increased my trust in LJ. I have to hand it to her. The woman knows what she is doing.

The very best part of getting answers to unasked questions is that it has removed the doubts I had that LJ and I may not be compatible enough to continue long-term after the 30 days of chastity training are done. Now, more than ever, I believe we are.

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The Agreement

By on Wednesday, December 18, 2019

In the previous post, I promised to share a little about my agreement with my key holder, who for the purposes of this blog is known as Lady Jayne. First, let me say how fortunate I feel I am to have met her. She is extremely knowledgeable about enforced male chastity and has a good deal of experience with it. I don’t think I could be in better hands. Figuratively speaking, of course.

I just signed an agreement yesterday that covers what amounts to a 30-day introduction to enforced male chastity. This period of time allows me to learn whether male chastity is something I wish to experience long-term. It also gives Lady Jane the opportunity to evaluate me and decide whether I am the kind of guy she wishes to be the key holder for.

While we haven’t had a lot of interaction yet, already I am very impressed with Lady Jayne’s knowledge and professional attitude. She is an easy woman to respect, and already I sense her dominance.

As I’ve mentioned before, a lot of “vanilla” people are practicing enforced male chastity these days. So, submitting to male chastity doesn’t necessarily correspond with submission as practiced in D/s or BDSM. But, you can’t deny there is a real exchange of power involved. While I am a rank novice when it comes to enforced male chastity, I do have a rather lengthy experience with D/s relationships and BDSM play. Ironically, in terms of that, I’ve always filled the role of dominant or top. This then is a completely new paradigm for me to sort.

Now back to the agreement, it spells out the ground rules I’m to follow and provides me Lady Jayne’s expectations. During the next thirty days, I will remain under her control and she quite literally owns my penis. I am not allowed to touch except during cleaning or play with it at anytime whether locked or unlocked absent her permission and expressed direction. Actually, I find that concept quite thrilling to think about, having my most intimate bits in possession and under the control of another person. That bit is a major part of what I wanted to explore, and to learn how I’ll react to it.

In addition to wearing a chastity devices for longer and longer periods of time over the next thirty days, I will also receive assignments from time to time which I’ll be required to complete timely and to the satisfaction of Lady Jayne. These assignments haven’t been spelled out, but I rather suspect at least some of them will be aimed at elevating my arousal so that I will become even more acutely aware of my predicament.

It’s important to note that Lady Jayne and I do not live anywhere near each other. Our interaction will be only at a distance. That means, of course, that there isn’t anything physically sexual about our arrangement. From past experiences with power exchanges, I’m more than confident that even with the limitations of interaction at a distance, the control aspect will still feel quite profound.

The agreement has been signed, the die has been cast. Now it’s only a matter of waiting impatiently for the highly anticipated chastity device to arrive in the post. When the package arrives, I feel sure that things will get real.

In the next post, I’ll hopefully be able to share my initial experiences with enforced chastity while wearing the device for the first time. Until then, thanks for reading.

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Cut to the Chaste

By on Monday, December 16, 2019

Welcome to Cut to the Chaste, my online journal where I chronicle my exploration of enforced male chastity. I’m your host. You may call me Chaste, and this is my very first post.

For the uninitiated who may have landed here out of curiosity, simply put, enforced male chastity is a practice where a male voluntarily submits to having his penis confined in some sort of chastity device. Once he is “locked up,” another person, known as the key holder, assumes ownership of his penis and complete control over its availability for sexual activity of any kind. The device may be removed only with the permission and at the expressed direction of the key holder. That of course means the guy is subjected to orgasm control or even outright orgasm denial for whatever period of time the key holder deems appropriate.

I can imagine there must be someone reading this is wondering why any man would want to subject himself to enforced chastity. The truth is, like many things in life, enforced male chastity is not as simple as it seems. The reasons why someone would desire to be locked up in a chastity device are likely as varied as the men who choose to do it. I’m not qualified to explain why others desire to experience enforced chastity, and to be frank I’m still trying to suss out my own attraction to experiencing it. That is a big part of the reason why I’m embarking on this journey of exploration and self discovery.

The practice of enforced male chastity is actually far more common than you might imagine. Also, it isn’t only kinky people who practice it. In recent years it has become quite common in committed relationships between partners who otherwise practice “vanilla” intimacy. Part of the reason for this may simply be the fact that the availability of male chastity devices has literally exploded in recent times. Once choices were few and costs were very high. Now the options are quite mind boggling.

When it comes to male chastity devices, there are two basic options. Chastity belts and chastity tubes, sometimes called cages. I’ve chosen to go with a cage device. The device is composed of two primary parts. There is the tube or cage the flaccid penis is inserted in and a ring which encircles the base of the penis and goes behind the scrotum entrapping the testicles. Once the penis is inserted in the tube, the tube is mated to the ring and secured with a locking device. In the next post, I’ll share more about the specific device I’ve chosen and why.

Ideally, in my opinion, the best choice for a key holder is someone you are already having an intimate relationship with. Sadly, in my case that wasn’t an option as I’m between partners at the moment. So, I had to seek out someone willing to act as my key holder. The best option seemed to be someone who offers key holding services on a “pay-to-play” basis.

After some due diligence research, I contacted a dominant woman I felt comfortable with who is willing to provide me the service I need in return for me showing my respect and appreciation for her by offering tribute (a fee). I’m quite happy with the arrangement as this woman, we’ll call her Lady Jayne, seems very experienced, straightforward, and someone I’ll come to trust. The more contact I have with Lady Jayne, the more confident I am that she is the perfect person to act as my key holder at this stage of my exploration. If you continue visiting here and reading my posts, you will learn more about Lady Jayne as time goes on.

At the time of this post, I’m not yet locked up. While the arrangement with Lady Jayne has been finalized, I am still awaiting delivery of the chastity device I ordered. Hopefully, it will arrive by week’s end and we will be able to get started. As a complete novice, I am excited about all this, but a bit nervous too. But, soon we’ll see how things go with it.

I hope you will return here to read the next post when I’ll share a little about the specific device I’ll be locked up in and why I chose it. Until then, thank you for reading.

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