January 2020 - Cut to the Chaste

January 2020 Metrics

By Chaste on Friday, January 31, 2020

The first month of the new year is over. I’m ending the month in a new cage, Koalaswim’s Man Trap (MT 4889). It’s a much better fitting cage for me, one I actually fill. The Man Trap will see me through until Mature Metal delivers my custom made Watchful Mistress in February, though I do have a new custom made 3D-printed nylon cage on its way to me. I’ll reveal more about that one in a future post. Now to the stats.

Locked days

During January LJ kept me locked for 31 consecutive days except for short periods for cleaning and maintenance. Typically LJ allows a thorough cleaning once each week. My time out of the cage this month totaled one hour and twenty-four minutes. That comes out to around 99.8% of the month locked.

Releases

LJ only permitted me one ruined orgasm and one normal orgasm this month. The last came on January 12, so I finished January with 19 consecutive days of denial. No idea when LJ plans the next release. To be honest, I’m hoping for one over the upcoming weekend since this period of denial is already twice the length of any previous period since LJ became my keyholder.

While I really hate them, even a ruined orgasm would be welcome at this point. But any release may only be wishful thinking. About a week ago I mentioned to LJ I’d set a new consecutive days denied orgasm record. Her response was, “Yes, and each day you will set a new one.” That didn’t sound too promising. Hopefully, it was only a mind fuck. Now that she is teasing me regularly, my arousal level keeps bouncing off the ceiling like a helium-filled balloon.

Tune in next time when I’ll share more in the next post about the new 3D-printed nylon cage.

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Man Trap Chastity Device Review

By Chaste on Friday, January 31, 2020

While the A086 cage worked pretty well for me once I got a larger base ring, there was one thing I didn’t like. The cage was a little over an inch too long for me. Also, the gap was a little too wide and as a result I had ball slippage a couple of times. Since it will still be several more weeks before I can expect to receive my Mature Metal Watchful Mistress cage, with LJ’s approval I ordered another cage to use during the interim. About a week later, I received the Man Trap (MT4889) from California vendor Koalaswim.

Intro

I was impressed with the Man Trap right out of the box. It seemed a quality build, constructed of surgical grade stainless steel. All cage interior and exterior surfaces were completely smooth. The gap was much narrower than that of the A086 I’d been wearing. And the gap was uniform all the way around. This was accomplished by setting the center locking pin about five degrees below horizontal. I was confident this device would not allow for slippage and I couldn’t wait to try it on.

However, after putting it on I immediately discovered that the narrow gap was too narrow for my high and tight scrotum. Things soon became unbearably uncomfortable. But, the cage itself fit so well I wasn’t about to give up on it so quickly. I took the base ring down to my shop, put it into a vice, and heated it with a torch. I then carefully bent the center locking post upwards to remove the five degree downward attitude. That opened up the gap, but still left it narrower than that of the A086. I put the base ring and cage back on after the adjustment and the fit was perfect.

I feel the adjustment I made would be necessary for guys with high and tight scrotum like mine to wear this device comfortably. But, for those with a longer scrotum and lower hanging balls the gap would probably be fine as it comes from the manufacturer. Fortunately, because of its high-quality construction, the adjustment is easily and safely made.

Meet the Man Trap

The Man Trap is another simple ball-trapping device is comprised of three parts.

1. Base ring.

2. Open-style vented stainless steel cage.

3. Brass padlock with two keys.

Base rings are available in the three standard off the shelf sizes – 2 in. (50mm), 1.75 in. (45mm), or 1.50 in. (40mm).

Fit

Man Trap doing it’s thing

This cage is 2-inches long and 1-1/2 inches wide. The length is perfect for me, exactly the same length I ordered for my custom-made Mature Metal cage. This eliminates any extra room for attempted erections to get started and also makes peeing a much less risky proposition. I still sit to pee to err on the side of caution, but with my urethral opening properly aligned with the urination hole at the end of the cage, I have been able to pee normally while standing with little or no mess. With an average size penis, I find the cage snug, but not tight. I’m easily able to insert my flaccid penis fully into the cage without use of the stocking method. Once the cage is mated with the base ring and locked, it feels very secure.

Comfort

This is by far the most comfortable device I’ve worn since beginning with chastity. While steel, it is surprisingly lightweight. That means the base ring stays close to my body. Initially, I was a bit concerned the opening to the cage might cause chafing where it presses tightly against the scrotum. The reason is that the opening is not an actual ring, but a ring formed of flat steel and therefore has a thinner edge than other devices I’ve tried. But, happily I have had no chafing problems at all. It’s been a non-issue.

Security

As mentioned, I find the device very secure. I’m confident It would be very difficult, not to mention painful if I tried to pull out of it while locked. Of course, we accept that no ball-trapping device is one-hundred percent secure unless combined with a piercing. Where there is a will, there is almost always a way. Still, for someone serious about experiencing chastity who has no intention of attempting to defeat the device, I think this device is about as secure as it gets.

Hygiene

Thanks to the open-design, I’ve found the Man Trap simple to keep clean. Since urination is less problematic, I’ve not experienced any funky smells between cleanings. LJ generally requires me to go a week between unlocking for cleaning and maintenance so hygiene is always an important consideration for me.

Other impressions

Beyond the adjustment I found necessary to accommodate my high and tight scrotum, I can’t find anything to dislike about this device. It’s well made and comfortable to wear. Koalaswim describes the Man Trap as part of its exclusive “Handmade” collection. I’m unsure what that means exactly, whether it means they manufacture it in the U.S. or not. All, I can say it doesn’t look like any made in China device I’m familiar with. The standard of quality suggests it isn’t made in China. I’ll be happily wearing this device until my permanent custom-made device is delivered. It’s also great to know I have a well made, great fitting device to use should I ever need to send my Mature Metal device back for any adjustments.

Recommendation

For a guy looking for a well made, mid-range chastity device and for whom a 2-inch cage length is appropriate, I see no reason not to recommend this cage. Just remember if you have a high and tight scrotum you will probably have to make the minor adjustment I’ve described. At the time I published this review, it was available from Koalaswim for $69.00 plus shipping. It’s far superior to any of the cheap, made in China devices I’ve tried personally and I’ve had great experiences with Koalaswim both times I’ve made purchases from them.

Only my own opinions are expressed in this review. I purchased the Man Trap using my own funds, and I have no affiliation with Koalaswim.

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Chastity Metrics SITREP

By Chaste on Tuesday, January 21, 2020

Today marks the end of my thirty-day introduction to chastity. So, it seems an opportune time to provide an updated situation report. This final day doesn’t end until the stroke of midnight, but having high confidence LJ has no intention of unlocking me or giving me a release today, I saw no reason to delay this post until tomorrow.

Thirty days multiplied by twenty-four hours equals 720 hours. I was out of the device for 22-1/2 hours (3.1-percent) over the thirty day period of December 23, 2019 through January 21, 2020. Most of those hours (around 80-percent) came in December, and included the first two nights when LJ didn’t allow me to sleep while wearing the device as a safety precaution. The remainder of the unlocked time was for cleaning, maintenance, and activities LJ prescribed that required removal of the device. I was locked for the remaining 697-1/2 hours (96.9 percent). You can see the percentages visually presented in the above pie chart.

I wore the Jailhouse device for the first two days and then switched to the A086 which I wore for the rest of the thirty days.

LJ let me have one ruined orgasm and one regular orgasm during the thirty days, so I spent 28 of the 30 days in denial. The longest number of consecutive days without any kind of release was 10. Trust me, that was a very severe reduction compared to the number of orgasms I typically had in any average 30-day period before beginning chastity.

As I shared in the previous post, LJ offered to assume full ownership of me and we’re rolling straight into it from the 30-day introduction. I fully expect to spend an even greater percentage of time wearing the device going forward than I did during the introductory training phase.

For anyone who may be interested, going forward I plan on posting metrics like this monthly. The next update will be posted February 1.

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The road goes on forever in chastity

By Chaste on Monday, January 20, 2020

“The road goes on forever and the party never ends,” says the lyrics of a Robert Earl Keen song. I suppose that fairly describes my circumstances with regard to my chastity experience.

As mentioned at the end of a previous post, my 30-day introduction to chastity and training agreement with Lady Jayne ends in three days. At the outset last month, she told me if things went well, she might extend a permanent ownership offer. If we both agreed, our arrangement might be extended indefinitely. That ownership offer came during our regular catch up chat last evening.

When I first started all this and reached out to LJ when seeking a keyholder, I was attempting to satisfy my curiosity about male chastity. I was committed to completing the 30-day trial agreement we made, but wasn’t sure I wanted to be locked permanently. Yet as the days and weeks ticked by, I found a stronger, deeper attraction to both the lifestyle and LJ’s control.

Halfway through I knew I wanted us to continue. At times LJ would speak about things which sounded more like her long-term plans for me than something more immediate. And she has been generous in her praise of how I’ve behaved under her authority. So, for a while now I’ve been confident she would make an ownership offer. I’d been thinking a lot the last several days about whether that was something I truly wanted.

Somehow the topic came up in conversation last evening, and LJ told me she had made her decision so it was time for me to make mine. She laid out the terms and gave me an idea of how things would differ from how they have gone the past four weeks. She told me about some additional areas she would expect to assume control over, and about a few of the perks I could expect with the move to a more permanent status.

The new areas she wants authority over all relate to enhancing her control over my access to sexual pleasure and stimulation. As two examples, I won’t be allowed to watch porn without her permission or order/use any new sex toys without her approval. Nothing major or anything I had any objections to. Perks LJ mentioned included more time with her and more frequent, structured teasing. I’ve already been very pleased with the access she has given me, and I’m all in on more intense teasing. So, I was happy enough with the added terms.

There was only one surprise. LJ doesn’t want a break. She wants to roll right into ownership at the end of our 30-day agreement. I on the other hand was of a different mind. I had been thinking about taking a break until the end of the month and restarting the first of February. But, LJ wasn’t down with me taking a week off “for a wank fest.“ She told me I could have a few days to think it over, but if I wanted to continue she intended we carry on without a break.

I didn’t need a few days to think it over. I knew I wanted to continue with LJ as my keyholder. A long-distance arrangement is what works best for me at the moment, and I’d researched quite well what is available in that regard before reaching out to LJ. She was hands down the best option I’d found which Is why I contacted her first. So, it wasn’t a difficult decision.

I have no interest in seeking a new keyholder because things have been so amazing with LJ. If she wants to carry on without a release, I reckon it is a small sacrifice to make on my part to skip a break. I can deal with it. I accepted her offer. Thursday LJ becomes my Domme and owner for the foreseeable future.

Looks like I’m now in permanent chastity. The road goes on forever and the party never ends.

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New chastity cages on the way

By Chaste on Sunday, January 19, 2020

I can’t believe I haven’t posted about this already since I’m really pumped about it. But, my first custom-fitted, custom made chastity device has been ordered from Mature Metal. Hopefully, it will be showing up in my mailbox within a month or so.

After discussing it with Lady Jayne, we decided on the Watchful Mistress. Mature metal recommends this model for long-distance relationships as it has an open design which makes it easy to clean without removing the device. It’s also advertised to be discreet under clothing and so lightweight and comfortable you forget you’re wearing it. All the reviews I read from those who own the device were super positive.

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Mature Metal Watchful Mistress

If left up only to me, I probably would have gone with the Jail Bird, which I like just as much. But, Lady Jayne considered it far too plain for her tastes. At any rate, I’m stoked to get my hands on one of the quality crafted cages from Mature Metal. Not to mention, Watchful Mistress was on my top three list.

I’ve also placed an order for another lower-end device with Lady Jayne’s blessing, which we intend to try out while waiting for the Watchful Mistress to arrive. It’s coming from Koalaswim.com Chastity Store, a company I’ve ordered from before.

Lady Jayne is definitely not a fan of low-end cages but allowed me to order the Man Trap to try until my permanent custom cage arrives. It too is an open design stainless steel cage which I hope will have a gap that fits me better. It is also the exact same length as the cage I ordered from Mature Metal so it will give me a chance to check my measurements.

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Man Trap

The cage I’ve worn for most of the thirty-day chastity introduction with Lady Jayne has worked well enough for the most part. But, it is about an inch too long, and I’ve always hated the solid end cap with its “shower-head” effect when I need to pee. The fact that the cage is too long makes that issue even worse. Also, since going to the larger 45mm (1.75 inches) base ring, I’ve had ball slippage twice now which is a real pain. Hopefully, the Man Trap will solve those issues until the permanent device is built and delivered.

Once I get the Man Trap and have had a chance to wear it, I’ll be posting a review.

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First orgasm release in chastity

By Chaste on Sunday, January 19, 2020

So, a week ago Lady Jayne gave me my first proper release. She controlled the whole thing as far as choosing the when, where, and how I’d have the orgasm. She also gave me a time limit, but it was a generous one. As usual, there was no advance notice. She texted me and told me to unlock for a release.

Once I understood it was to be a normal orgasm, not another ruined one, I admit I was excited by the prospect. On the other hand, I felt a little anxious since I’ve heard all about what happens after an orgasm for men who have been denied for a lengthy time. For me, my last orgasm, other than the ruined one, had been on December 23, one day short of three weeks. I’d never gone three weeks without an orgasm since I discovered masturbation as a kid. To tell the truth, pretty sure I’ve never gone three days without one before being locked.

She’s the boss, so despite the misgivings I followed her instructions. I wasn’t watching the clock, but I’m fairly sure it took no more than two minutes of stimulation to reach climax. As I anticipated it was a mind-blowing orgasm, the most intense I can recall having in a very long time. There was one rope of semen spurted after another. I had been standing as I’d been told to do. My knees felt shaky and pretty sure I saw a starburst or two when the orgasm hit. All good on that front. But, along with the good came the bad.

By the time I’d showered, cleaned the cage, and locked back up, I was already feeling like I had a hangover. I also felt tired, emotionally drained, mildly depressed, a bit sad, and strangely enough, I felt a little guilty for having the orgasm.

Since this was my first release after a lengthy time in denial, it was my first experience with this neurochemical reaction. Even though I had expected it to happen, I wasn’t prepared for how strong the stew of emotions were that hit me. Even all I’d read about it hadn’t mitigated it. I understand why it happens, but that didn’t make it easier to experience it.

I suppose what men in chastity experience when having an orgasm after a lengthy time of denial is a form of what is called post-coital tristesse (PCT), or after sex sadness. It too is a neurochemical reaction that thoroughly confuses and dulls the mind. What goes up, must come down. After the dopamine-flood accompanying orgasm, dopamine levels drop below baseline-that is, lower than they were before orgasm.

I’ve learned that being locked in chastity and denied continues to stoke arousal causing the brain to flood itself with dopamine and endorphins. That means your baseline levels are much higher than normal, so it’s understandable why the hormone and dopamine drop is so precipitous when you come. Once the highly pleasurable orgasm ends, so does the dopamine flows until the arousal cycle starts all over again.

It actually took me the rest of the evening and part of the next day to process what I’d experienced. A part of me felt like I never wanted to have another orgasm while locked and denied since I felt so literally miserable after the orgasm. But, as the week since the release has progressed, my arousal has returned to a high level and I’m getting the dopamine fix again. Lady Jayne has helped with that.

Satisfied I have adjusted to the cage, she has added daily teasing to the mix. That probably has me feeling more aroused than anytime since my chastity exploration started on Christmas Eve. So, yes, I’m already craving another release. I just wonder if the next time the drop will be as hard as the last time. I find myself hoping it is something you learn to deal with better with practice.

I don’t really have another orgasm on the horizon to approach with the mixture of eager anticipation and dread since the 30-day introduction to chastity that Lady Jayne and I agreed to ends this coming Wednesday. While nothing has been decided about extending our agreement yet, we’ve talked about it some in recent days. It seems clear we’re both interested in continuing with each other and agreeing for her to take permanent ownership. But, at least right now I’m considering taking the rest of January off and restarting with her on the first of February. I think I could use the time to process what I learned over the 30 days and see how it feels to be unlocked again. That I think would help me to decide if a more permanent relationship with Lady Jayne is what I really want.

The thing is, I already have a strong feeling that getting started in the chastity lifestyle is a lot easier than walking away from it once you’ve had the experience of being locked. That’s one reason I feel like I should take a step back for a week or so to see what it feels like being unlocked again. Since Lady Jayne locked me for the first time, sometimes I feel like Neo sitting in a dark room with Morpheus when he holds out his hand and offers two options. The pill of knowledge or the pill of blissful ignorance. The red pill or the blue pill.

Do I to go forward living in the dopamine-fueled bliss I’ve experienced while in chastity under the complete control of Lady Jayne? Or, do I go back to the way things were before, blissfully ignorant of how my past penis-centrism affected about every aspect of my life and relationships with others? Like Neo, I feel I’m facing a very important decision. And, it’s not an easy one to make.

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Chasing the chastity rabbit down the hole without a look back

By Chaste on Thursday, January 9, 2020

I was re-reading one of Thumper’s posts at Denying Thumper, where he talks about listening to a podcast and being taken aback when the hosts said something about not being into chastity for “behavior modification.” Thumper weighs in on the idea with, “Thing is, I can’t conceive of chastity as not modifying behavior. And not just the obvious tactical changes it enforces (no masturbating), but the big picture stuff, too.”

Nearing the end of my eighth consecutive day of being locked, I tend to agree with Thumper’s analysis. I’ll even go a step further. If we’re talking serious, long-term male chastity, I think behavior modification is the whole point of it. Consider what makes behavior modification work, as explained in this excerpt from a Psychology Today article.

“Behavior modification focuses on changing an individual’s environment in ways that increase the likelihood that certain behaviors will occur. Regardless of the specific approaches being used, ‘behavior change’ is always the goal.”

Source: “Understanding What Makes Behavior Modification Work.” Psychology Today. Oct. 2, 2018 web. Dec. 28, 2019.

It certainly alters a guy’s environment big time when his cock gets locked in a chastity device and he loses all access to it. The truth is most guys feel like the very core of their masculinity comes from their penis and being able to use it sexually. Chastity is a sea change in his environment. It’s bound to affect behavioral change.

This point is really being driven home to me today as I enter my second week of being locked in a chastity device. Sure, that isn’t a long time in the greater scheme of things, but it is another profound milestone for me as a novice. It has been an occasion for me to look inward and ponder some of the changes that have already started to take place. One very significant change immediately came to mind.

At first, when I became interested in trying male chastity, I’ll admit my motives were selfish. It was all about me. It was about experiencing something that seemed very erotic to think and fantasize about. I think you can see that in the early posts here on this blog. I remember being so frustrated when LJ wasn’t offering to do the things I expected, like teasing as one example. But, when I think about it today, my paradigm has changed considerably. I’m no longer thinking about what LJ can do for me. Instead, I’m thinking about how I can do more for her; how I can do more to show her my respect, admiration, and devotion. Each day it seems more important to me to please her in every way I can think of given the limitations imposed by our long-distance relationship.

This morning I had to admit to myself for the first time that as much as I love orgasms, I have started to love the feel of LJ’s control even more. In fact, I no longer want her to give me permission to orgasm because she thinks I want to, but only if it pleases her to allow it. Pleasing LJ has slowly turned into my prime directive. I have to admit that while I’ve never considered myself a submissive man, I am starting to feel very submissive toward LJ. One thing worries me about that.

Humility is a good thing. But at least to me, it is only attractive as long as it’s paired with self-confidence and proactivity. But it is starting to seem that being a chaste man tends to make me overly humble and submissive, completely reactive to LJ and her needs. To a degree, I feel I’m even becoming infatuated with LJ to a ridiculous degree.

Can a chaste man become so submissive, so servile, so single-mindedly focused on his keyholder and her happiness, and so docile that she eventually loses interest in him as a man? I’m not certain I want to be transformed into some kind of sycophant by this experience. I have no desire to have my masculinity completely stripped away.

But this fact remains. I have surrendered to LJ and have given her my complete trust. In doing that, I admit I have found true happiness. I have stopped struggling to be her equal and have submitted fully to her female authority.

In some ways, I feel like I’m on a greased ledge with no handholds, slowly sliding toward the drop-off into the abyss of chastity and there is nothing I can to slow it down.

The further I go down the rabbit hole with this, the more time I spend locked for LJ, the more I discover about myself. To be fair, I suppose that is the very reason I wanted to explore this.

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Stainless Steel Chastity Device AO86 Review

By Chaste on Tuesday, January 7, 2020

Having worn this device almost continuously for the past two weeks, I’m ready to offer a review.

Intro

I originally ordered the AO86 with a 40mm (1.50 inch) base ring. When it arrived, try as I might, I was unable to get the base ring on. Assuming I just needed something larger, and not knowing at the time there was a place I could source a larger ring, I ordered an entirely different device with a 45mm (1.75 inch) ring, the Jailhouse.

After having problems with the Jailhouse, which you can read about here, in desperation, I turned to the AO86 once again. To my surprise, I was able to get the 40mm ring on without much effort. I attribute it to perhaps a little stretching of my scrotal area during the two days I was attempting to wear the other device. At any rate, by default, the AO86 became my device for my first venture into male chastity.

I found this device on eBay, constructed of surgical grade stainless steel, for around $14. While the 40mm base ring had been bearable, it became clear pretty quickly that it was tighter than it needed to be and was at times a little uncomfortable.

As soon as I received the 45mm stainless steel ring I sourced on the webs, LJ allowed me to replace the 40mm ring. Back in the device with the larger ring, it still feels just as secure but so much more comfortable.

Note this is yet another mass-produced, cheap, made in China cage. I’d found identical devices on two other online sites. So, I would be very surprised if it weren’t possible to find this same device on the websites of other chastity device retailers, pehaps even under a different model name.

Meet the AO86

This is the medical grade stainless steel version from eBay

The AO86 is comprised of only three parts.

1. Base ring.

2. Welded stainless steel cage with solid shower-head style end cap.

3. Cheap brass padlock with keys.

It’s just your basic balls capturing device. There are no adjustments and no sizing beyond your choice of the base ring size which is available in the standard sizes for off the shelf devices─40mm (1.50 in), 45mm (1.75 in), or 50mm (2.00 in)

The cage length is 60mm, with an inside diameter of 35mm (1-3/8 inches).

Fit

I have an average size penis, all around. When flaccid, but not shrunken, it’s generally about 2.5 inches long, so the AO86 is a little over an inch longer than I need. The tip of my penis only touches the end of the end cap when my peen is plumped.

However, I find the diameter of the cage perfect. It’s tight enough; I have to use the stocking method to get my penis deep into the cage. But, it has never felt too constricting. Since I started with chastity, I’ve never had any problem sleeping in it. I think that is largely because the cage is restrictive enough. It doesn’t allow attempted overnight erections to grow large enough to produce any discomfort. If the cage was an inch or so shorter, it would be a perfect fit for me. The takeaway, this device should work for most guys of average size who are only looking for an inexpensive, stainless steel device to get a first taste of being locked.

Stainless steel chastity device AO86

Comfort

First, the AO86 is surprisingly light for a stainless steel device. After two weeks, most of the time, I’m not even aware of it. It stays close to my body as it isn’t so heavy it pulls a lot on the base ring. The gap between the base ring and cage opening is small, about 3/8 inch. I have a scrotum that pulls up tight against the base of my peen and find the gap just about right. So, I expect it would work pretty much for anyone.

The only issue I’ve had is struggling to figure out exactly what size of base ring I really need. I have measured using the suggestions available at Mature Metal, but the results say I need a 50mm (2-inch) ring. Yet, having tried on a 2-inch steel ring, I can get easily get two fingers under it, which makes me feel it is too large. The 40mm ring I’ve worn for almost two weeks has been bearable, but a little too tight. I could barely get a fingertip beneath the ring when it was on. There were no circulatory problems, but I could tell it was tighter than it needed to be. The 45mm ring feels so much better and the security of the device has been unchanged since I changed out the rings. Over the coming days, I’m hopeful the larger ring will make this whole experience a lot less seamless.

Since the cage seems so close to a perfect fit, except for length, it doesn’t surprise me that overall it has been very comfortable to wear. The design pushes your cock downwards a bit, so the chastity bump is not noticeable in any of the casual clothing I usually wear. I’m a runner, and the device isn’t even noticeable when I’m wearing running shorts. I doubt it would even get me dick-checked in a gym though I have my own home gym so I don’t use the public ones.

For such a cheap cage, I’m impressed with the quality of manufacturing. Everything is smooth, with no sharp edges or rough spots anywhere on the device.

Security

I’m very pleased with the feeling of security wearing this standard ball-trapping device. As mentioned, the gap is small, which does a good job of keeping me in the cage. I know a lot of guys say how easy they can escape from any ball trapping device when soaped up in the shower, but looking at this device doesn’t make me confident I could do it. I might with effort be able to withdraw my peen, but I don’t think I’d even try pulling my nuts out. I have a very low pain threshold in that department. Anyway, I’m in chastity because I want to be, so unless it was some kind of ambulance calling emergency, I’m never going to try to escape from a device. So, this one is plenty secure as far as I’m concerned. It definitely isn’t going to just fall off of its own accord as long as you have on a properly sized base ring.

AO86 doing its job

Hygiene

The open design makes keeping things tidy a snap with the AO86. I soap up and then use a handheld shower-head to clean up each morning and haven’t had any foul odors or other nasty hygiene issues. Everything feels clean once I’m done showering. The contents have remained a healthy looking pink and happy since I was locked.

Other impressions

There is only one small thing I don’t like about the AO86 besides the cage length being a bit long for me. I hate the solid shower-head type end cap. I’m sure the length is part of the problem because my tip is usually nowhere near the end of the tube when I need to pee. But, I think the shower-head cap is just a dumb idea. My experience is pee goes about everyplace you don’t want it to unless you’re sitting on a toilet. Even then, you sometimes get random splashes.

Funny thing is I was seriously looking at a Rigid Chastity device I really liked, but it has the same kind of solid end cap, shower-head design. No way I’m buying it now. Instead, I’ve ordered my first custom device from Mature Metal.

Recommendation

I’m just never going to give a full-on “go buy this” recommendation for any mass-produced, made in China device. I may be green, but it didn’t take me long to understand that sucking it up and spending what it takes to get a custom-fitted device is the only way to go if you intend spending a serious amount of time with your junk locked up. That said, if you’re only at the curious stage, you kind of want to see what it is like to have you dick locked in a chastity device, and you don’t want to spend a lot to get the experience, then this device is one I think you should consider.

It’s inexpensive, remarkably comfortable for the price, and so far the only made in China device I have personal experience with where I can say the workmanship far exceeds the price I paid for it. If I hadn’t had the money to order the Mature Metal custom device I’ll be getting in a few weeks, I could be happy wearing the AO86 indefinitely in spite of the two minor things I don’t like about it. My key holder likes it well enough too, except for the length. She tells me almost every day it’s too long, and that she likes seeing a well stuffed cage. I told her I didn’t sign up for small penis humiliation (grin). And, that’s my take.

This review is completely my own personal, candid opinions on a device I own, and that I purchased with my own funds.

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Does the desire to wear a male chastity device make you submissive?

By Chaste on Monday, January 6, 2020

Most of what you find to read about male chastity on the webs suggests that any guy who desires to have another person lock his peen in a chastity device and control his orgasms is by definition submissive. But is that true? Let’s talk about that.

As I’ve shared before, I have considerable past experience in the kink world to include BDSM play and actual relationships based upon the dominant and submissive dynamic. From the time I first became involved, my role was always dominant or top, depending on the particular circumstances. My partners were always submissive women. So, does my recent interest and participation in male chastity mean I’ve suddenly become submissive? Was I filling the wrong role all those years? I don’t think so. But, before I explain, let’s take a look at submission.

Let me first offer my perspective on submissive men. There is absolutely nothing wrong with a man being submissive or wanting to submit. Given my past experience, I have great respect for submissive people, whether male or female. I have a healthy view of submission. Being submissive does not mean a guy is weak or unmanly. Being submissive doesn’t necessarily mean a guy isn’t a real man. It doesn’t mean he is a doormat or milquetoast. Many submissive people I’ve known over the years are by nature very strong, assertive individuals. They simply enjoy the submissive role, submitting to more dominant people, especially when it comes to erotic play and sex. Submitting is what feels most fulfilling to them.

Also, a submissive guy might have several facets to his submissiveness, perhaps sometimes overlapping with each other, depending on his partner, his mood, and the stage of his development. There is no form of submissiveness that is “better” or more true to the essence of submission than any other. That brings me to the next point. There are many different types of submissive individuals. Qualified people who have studied the psychology of it say there are perhaps seven to nine different types. Simply looking at the extremes of a range of submissive men, we could say at one end of the spectrum, you have the “slave” and, at the opposite end, the “bottom.”

A slave gives himself lock, cock, and barrel to his dominant partner. For our purposes in the discussion of male chastity, the key holder. Beyond being locked in a chastity device, a slave happily submits to being beaten, pierced, even branded. Anything goes. He is owned body and mind. He will accept sleeping on the floor or even in a cage. He will submit to be given to others for use, for example, when cuckoldry is part of the dynamic. This is perhaps the pinnacle of being submissive, whether male or female.

On the other end of the spectrum is the bottom. Not to say a bottom doesn’t authentically submit to his partner, but a bottom submits to obtain the desired outcome. In the context of male chastity, he submits to have the fantasy realized. He desires a strong, dominant partner, usually a woman in my own experience, to lock his peen in a chastity device and control not only his orgasms but even access to his own genitals. Male chastity is just the icing on the cake so to speak, not a vehicle for expressing his highest submissive nature. It’s a transactional arrangement where he gets what he wants, the mind fuck of being locked and denied, in return for the dominant getting what she wants, usually control.

I think the reason so much of what you read about male chastity on the webs seems to insist that all men who want to be kept in chastity are by definition submissive males, is because much of it is written by women who subscribe to the concept of female supremacy within Femdom or FLRs. This I believe, is largely what has perpetuated the myth that all men who want to be kept in chastity, especially by a dominant woman, are submissive by nature. But, I submit it is only a myth. Some chaste males are submissive, some aren’t. It isn’t a requirement that a guy is submissive for him to desire being locked.

The desire by a male to be sexually dominated by a woman in any fashion doesn’t necessarily equate to having some deep-rooted need to express his submissive nature. A man might just as easily only desire to be the bottom during the sexual experience. For some guys then, the desire to be sexually dominated by a woman by having her lock his penis in a cage and assume control over his access to sexual pleasure can be as simple as wanting to fulfill an arousing fantasy by being the bottom during this specific form of sexual play.

A good way to describe this to guys who have never experienced having their penis locked in a device and denied sexual pleasure is to compare it to something someone is absolutely passionate about–say chocolate, for example. If chocolate is your weakness and your ultimate favorite chocolate is locked inside a cage where you can see it, you can smell it, you can almost taste it–you will naturally crave it. And the person who has the key to the cage says they will let you have it, but only if you submit to something they want from you. If you want the chocolate bad enough, if you crave it strongly enough, you will do whatever it takes to get it. Each task you perform at the behest of the key holder only increases the value of the chocolate you can’t have. Each task only heightens your need to please the key holder who controls access to that which you want the most. Naturally, you behave more and more submissively to the key holder. It’s because you become desperate to please to get the chocolate you’re starving for. But, in these circumstances, behaving submissively no matter how authentic, doesn’t necessarily mean a man is submissive by nature or temperament.

Think about all the men you’ve read about who often entertained the supremely arousing fantasy of giving a woman power over their orgasms and feeling the sensations of having a device locked on their cock as a constant reminder that they are not allowed to orgasm. Those who find a woman willing to lock them up achieve such a “needy” state of arousal that they reach a mental state of submission where they will do almost anything to please their key holder. The intensity of the sexual arousal enhances sensations and everything around them takes on new meaning. It creates a depth like nothing else they have ever experienced and can be highly addictive. It may also foster a profound emotional dependency on the person holding the key.

But what happens in many cases when they are allowed release? What happens when they finally get the forbidden chocolate? The submissive feelings evaporate. That’s because, for most men, submission is directly related to their level of sexual arousal.

Once they achieve orgasm, their submission no longer exists. Submission for them is not a state of nature, but a temporary state of mind, a behavior adapted to meet the desired end. Such men then, as much as they love experiencing male chastity, are not submissive.

I’d wager you this. You could take the manliest, dominant man you could find. If you could convince him to allow you to lock a cage on his penis and subject him to a long enough period of sexual teasing and denial, he’d eventually be willing to do almost anything to get out of the cage and experience orgasm. He would behave submissively though not a submissive.

The point of all this is you needn’t be a submissive man where being locked is only another natural outlet to express your submissive nature. I think any guy with the desire to explore male chastity, submissive or not, can find it quite a meaningful and fulfilling experience. In fact, you don’t even have to be kinky as today many vanilla men enjoy being locked in a chastity device too.

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Chasity boy of little faith

By Chaste on Sunday, January 5, 2020

As she has a way of doing, LJ completely destroyed my “I’m not getting any sexual teasing” complaint from the previous post. Funny thing is I didn’t even bring it up. Sometimes, I think the woman knows men so well she always knows what I’m thinking. Anyway, here is what happened.

After publishing yesterday’s post, LJ and I were chatting. I asked her a question about something that wasn’t even related to the disappointment I have felt over the absence of teasing, and there being nothing sexual as a part of the dynamic thus far. In answering the question I asked, she went on to answer the questions I didn’t.

LJ told me that many of the guys she is the key holder are allowed sexual playtime as rewards when she feels they have earned it. She then told me this. I wasn’t there yet. I was in training, my first introduction to chastity, so my circumstances were very different. Experiencing denial, and learning to cope with the building sexual need and frustration was what I needed first before I’d be ready for teasing and the other sexual stuff. She believes learning to master that first will make me appreciate it all the more when she does allow me orgasms. More importantly, I will then truly understand that she is the only one that allows me pleasure and it never comes easily.

Makes sense. It was reassuring to know I’m not just being locked and forgotten, and that th3 dynamic between us will continue to evolve as I gain experience. And she was right. I am completely new to all this and haven’t earned anything. I just need to be patient and have faith and trust in her judgment. There was one thing about it that wasn’t so comforting.

The reminder I was in training seemed to make one thing clear. I shouldn’t expect any dramatic changes in how things go until I complete the thirty-day training program I signed up for. Like for example, I’m probably not going to get any full-on satisfying orgasms during the next 18 days. I may be lucky to get even another health and welfare ruined one. The jury is still out on the teasing part. But, you know something. Now, I’m content to wait for it because this has only increased my trust in LJ. I have to hand it to her. The woman knows what she is doing.

The very best part of getting answers to unasked questions is that it has removed the doubts I had that LJ and I may not be compatible enough to continue long-term after the 30 days of chastity training are done. Now, more than ever, I believe we are.

Month: January 2020

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