31 Days of Chastity Meme Day 6: Chastity Fantasies

Why do people have sexual fantasies? Thanks to the Psychology Today website, I have an answer to that question. Here, according to a survey of 4,175 Americans, the top 12 reasons people fantasize about sex, from the most to least common.

1. To experience sexual arousal (reported by 79.5 percent of participants).
2. Because you’re curious about different sexual experiences and sensations (reported by 69.8 percent)
3. To meet unfulfilled sexual needs (reported by 59.7 percent)
4. To temporarily escape reality (reported by 59.4 percent)
5. To express or fulfill a socially taboo sexual desire (reported by 58.4 percent)
6. To plan out a future sexual encounter (reported by 55.7 percent)
7. To relax or reduce anxiety (reported by 43.6 percent)
8. Because you’re bored and don’t have anything else to do (reported by 40.0 percent)
9. To feel more sexually confident (reported by 32.5 percent)
10. To meet unfulfilled emotional needs (reported by 29.8 percent)
11. To block out distractions during sex (reported by 19.8 percent)
12. To compensate for an unattractive or undesirable partner (reported by 11.8 percent)

Many of those reasons could apply to a guy in chastity. Fantasies, often fueled by porn, are what motivates a lot of guys to want to try chastity in the first place. And it’s the exposure to porn and the fantasies it produces that cause many to get into chastity with unrealistic expectations.

Sure, like most people, I have sexual fantasies. And many of them revolve around the experience of chastity. But since I often peruse chastity forums, I have to admit my fantasies are pretty tame compared to those of other men. That’s because I think it is very important to distinguish the difference between fantasy and reality if you expect to have a meaningful experience with chastity. Chastity already has a lot of taboo surrounding it because of porn. It’s easy to get lost in a sea of exaggerated and overblown scenarios about how a keyholder chooses to enforce our chastity. And it truly is up to the keyholder. We should never treat a keyholder as a kink dispenser with some obligation to fulfill all the fantasies that get us off. No keyholder has any responsibility to do that.

I explained all that to say this. What we see online usually depicts men in chastity as weak and worthless, typically with small penis insecurities, often cuckolded, and never allowed PIV sex with their partner. This is one view of chastity, but only one view. None of that stuff appeals to me. For me, chastity is about experiencing the control of a strong, dominant woman. It’s that simple. So, the fantasy I’ll share today isn’t something anyone will probably find weird, and maybe not even terribly interesting. But it is a fantasy that I entertain often and one that I find arousing to think about. I fantasize about Lucie permanently marking me as her owned property.

No, I don’t want her to brand me. I don’t like pain, remember? At least not that kind of pain. What my fantasy centers on is Lucie telling me to get “Owned by” and her name permanently tattooed on my body above my chastity cage. I’m not really into ink that much, but for some reason, this idea appeals to me very strongly. And here is what led to the idea becoming one of my favorite chastity-centered fantasies.

About two months ago, Lucie tasked me with writing “Owned by” and her name on my body above my chastity cage and sending her a photo after I’d done it. She told me she wanted to use the image (without showing my face) on her social media platforms as advertising for her online keyholding service. While I was happy to do it for her, apparently, I lack the hand and eye coordination to do this well. And at the time, I didn’t have the right type of writing implement to use. So, I tried to do it many times. I kept running out of room because the letters were too large, and my writing was pretty illegible anyway. I scrubbed the mistakes off my skin and kept trying until my skin was red and feeling raw. In the end, I took the photo she had described and photoshopped the writing part. Of course, Lucie found that totally unacceptable, telling me she could have done that herself, but she wanted a photo that was real, not fake.

I kept trying, and even went to an office supply store and found a pen designed for drawing temporary tattoos. That worked better, but still my attempt at writing looked pretty messy. Lucie finally accepted doing the task the way she wanted just wasn’t in my skill set. While we were talking about it, I jokingly suggested I could go to a tattoo parlor near my home and have them tattoo what she wanted above my cage. Lucie’s reply was, “Let’s not get carried away. I don’t think we’re ready for that level of commitment.”

Of course, Lucie was right. Still, the more I thought about getting the tattoo, Lucie’s permanent mark above my cage, the more appealing I found the idea. At this point, I would say I’m almost craving having it done. Certainly, if Lucie ever agreed to it, she would decide exactly what she wanted the tattoo to look like. But in my fantasies about it, I envision it as a long stem rose in the center with “Owned by” above the rose and Lucie’s name below. I’ve thought about having Lucie’s permanent mark for so long now that it has truly become a sexual fantasy I find extremely arousing to contemplate. But that’s just it. It is a fantasy. I know that neither of us is ready for that level of commitment. We’re still a few days away from being together for five months. But who knows? If we continue together and reach our first full year together, maybe I’ll ask Lucie about marking me permanently as her property again, only this time, I won’t be joking.

That’s my response to the prompt for the 31 Days of Chastity Meme Day 6. Please check back tomorrow if you’re interested in learning more about my toy box when I’ll answer this question:

What’s your favorite toy or item of equipment (excluding your chastity device) that you use or your keyholder uses during chastity play?