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Life In the Fast Lane

By Chaste on Thursday, July 27, 2023

“Life in the fast lane

Surely make you lose your mind.”

– Eagles, “Life in the Fast Lane”

Guys! Guys! Can you believe it? It’s only two days and a few hours until the end of Chastity 90! Well, at least for me and anyone who took up the challenge when I did back on the first day of May. If you did, or if you started the challenge a little later as I know a few guys did, I hope you’ve been successful. I suppose I have no reason to celebrate since, according to Lucie, I won’t be getting a release any time soon even when my Chastity 90 ends.

Speaking of Lucie, she has teased me with a vengeance since returning from vacation, giving me a task to complete every single day. It’s life in the fast lane. I suspect she wants me to suffer as much as possible until the end of Chastity 90. Of course, she is only making it more enjoyable and making the days pass faster by keeping my arousal level peaking continuously.

My dedication to completing the task list she left me before going on vacation impressed Lucie. She has “rewarded” me by telling me she will keep me locked a lot longer this time. For how long, I have no clue. Now that I’m accomplished with prostate milking, she is no longer concerned with making me unlock periodically for health and safety reasons. Lucie has also added another wrinkle to our relationship.

While I’ve been a distance runner since my junior high days, I’ve really slacked on working out for about the last year and a half. I blame it on the effects of the pandemic hangover. Slacking, combined with my love of beer and pizza has caused me to develop something of a belly. Lucie has informed me she wants the belly gone. She says she doesn’t expect six-pack abs, but does expect a flat belly. She even sent me a workout schedule and told me to consider it a task and it’s not optional.

To start, it was all aerobic with three days of running and two days of cycling with gradually increasing distances for both. But she added some weight training to the mix after the second week ended. I’m happy to do what she wants; even grateful she has taken an interest in helping me drop some weight and get fit again. Since I haven’t had the motivation to lose weight and improve my fitness lately, I appreciate that Lucie is now providing me some motivation. Fair is fair since I neglected to put forced exercise on my hard limits list. 🙂

Anyway, after less than three full weeks, I have already dropped a few pounds and lost more than an inch around my waist. Based on experience, getting rid of the beer gut will take some time. It seems belly fat is always the last to go for me. But it will happen eventually. Happily, Lucie hasn’t taken my beer away completely, just made me cut back. And she says she won’t take the beer away completely as long as I continue showing consistent weekly progress. I’m also grateful for that. After all, without beer, what’s the point to life?

I find it hard to believe Lucie and I have been playing together for almost three months. Back in May, when I decided I wanted a virtual key holder again for a while, I expected to do a month, maybe two, and then to go back to self-locking. But, oh my. I’ve had the privilege of having had several terrific key holders. But Lucie is definitely in a class by herself. Honestly, I’m not sure I ever want to go back to self-locking. At least not as long as Lucie is willing to continue.

She has warned me from the start that there is only so much you can do virtually and sooner or later one or both of us will grow bored and we’ll have to stop. But I’m no where close to that and Lucie doesn’t seem to be either. The new fitness thing has given me a reason to hope that we will continue for the foreseeable future. That’s because it may not be optional for me to exercise, but it really isn’t just a task. It’s Lucie requiring greater commitment from me. Why would she want that if she was feeling bored? I dread the day it does end with us and being a realist, I know Lucie isn’t wrong. But after Lucie, I know I’ll never find another key holder that suits me so perfectly. I don’t obsess about it, but I hope Lucie doesn’t grow bored any time soon. I know I won’t grow bored with her. Like ever. She is that amazing as a Mistress.

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Chastity 90 Check-In End of Week 1

By Chaste on Monday, May 8, 2023

For those taking part in the challenge, it’s time for a Chastity 90 check-in.

If you’re taking part in our Chastity 90 challenge and have abstained from masturbation, orgasm, and ejaculation so far, congratulations. Going without for seven days is hard, even for those with lots of experience practicing long-term chastity.

Revisiting My Early Days in Chastity

When I unlocked for three days and indulged in sexual release before locking up for Chastity 90, I did so because I expected it would make the challenge more challenging. I felt it only right to make it harder for me, since I was encouraging others to join me in ninety days of chastity. But I admit, I didn’t realize just how much harder it would make things. It took me back to my early days in chastity. I experienced again what I am sure every individual experiences when embarking on a lengthy period of chastity and denial.

Days two through four were the hardest, because my body was ready to orgasm and ejaculate again. The temptation to unlock and attend to business was almost unbearable, which felt a little unsettling since I’d just ended such a long period of chastity. But I got through it, and somewhere around day five or six, I began feeling better and less desperate for relief. Today, I am back in the groove, finding myself thinking spontaneously warm, pleasant thoughts and feeling motivated. Yes, I still feel the heightened arousal, but it isn’t bad. It’s pleasurable actually.

Pushing Onward

Even though, like me, you may have found the first days of the challenge difficult and felt the inability to rub one out casually when you wanted irritating, don’t let it get you down. Instead of focusing on how good it would feel to have a nice orgasm and to ejaculate, commit yourself to something better and higher. I think spending ninety days in chastity is such a profoundly positive experience that you will be glad you persevered at the end. Ninety days can feel like a long time, but it isn’t forever. Cultivate patience, Grasshopper, and you will earn a reward at the end.

Blue Balls

Blue balls are not a myth. And I understand some people find it more uncomfortable than others. The sensations can range from a dull ache to an intense pressure accompanied by a strong urge to ejaculate. It can last from hours to even a few days, but it subsides eventually. And while you may struggle with blue balls, there is also the ever increasing sexual desire that accompanies chastity that feels quite pleasurable. The two sensations create quite an interesting contrast. So, instead of giving in, use a little ice or take cold showers for a day or two and you will get past it.

I'm Rocking a New Cage

As promised, after buying and reviewing a couple of Cobra knockoffs, in fairness to Kink3D, the original creator of the Cobra, I ordered an authentic Cobra from them. It arrived last week. Since I had to remove the Nub for cleaning last Saturday, anyway, I set it aside temporarily and put on the Cobra. Almost three days in, it feels very comfortable. I will wear test it for a week and then return to the Nub on Saturday when I unlock for cleaning. Then I will post a review sometime next week.

Mistress Update

After whinging about it a few days ago that none of the Mistresses I reached out to recently had replied, one of them contacted me today. And believe it or not, my first choice. So, I will soon have a keyholder again. She seems great. Very professional, intelligent, experienced, and very sadistic. I should probably be scared, but I’m only feeling excited. Of course, this will make Chastity 90 even more challenging. We are starting with a video chat lock up later this week, so I will give another update later.

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Unlocked After Wearing a Chastity Device for 877 Days

By Chaste on Friday, April 28, 2023

As I write this post, it’s been almost seven hours since I unlocked and removed my chastity cage before beginning the Chastity 90 Challenge on May 1. This is the longest I’ve gone without wearing a cage 24/7 in 877 days. It feels weird.

During the longest period I’ve spent continuously locked, I’ve only removed my chastity device for brief hygiene unlocks, always following the same procedure.

First, I clean the device and leave it to air dry before getting into the shower. Usually I spend about 15-20 minutes showering and shaving my pubic area, which is enough time for the chastity device to dry. Then I put it right back on and lock up.

Since there has been no occasion to put on underwear between taking off the device and locking it back on, today is the first time I’ve worn underwear without a chastity device attached to my body in a very long time and it feels different.

Feel Me?

When you’re circumcised like me, things like masturbation and just your exposed glans rubbing against the fabric of your underwear constantly as you walk and move around toughens the skin of the glans a little and reduces sensitivity. After so much time spent wearing a chastity device, the skin of my glans is again soft and noticeably more sensitive.

With my penis free inside my underwear, just from normal movement and walking around and no further encouragement, it’s been frequently semi-erect. And I’ve already had two random, full, firm erections, again with no encouragement or while thinking about anything remotely sexual. So, I can report after 877 days of confinement, there is no sign of erectile dysfunction (ED), something a lot of guys worry about with long-term chastity device wear.

Did I Shrink?

Right out of the shower after drying off, I took a measurement of my flaccid penis, and the length is unchanged from the averaged measurements I took in 2021 before ordering my Jail Bird from Mature Metal. I haven’t taken a measurement while erect yet, but it looks normal.

The erections I’ve had resulted only from my more sensitive glans rubbing against my cotton underwear, not from sexual arousal. So, I’ll wait to take that measurement when I am intentionally aroused, since that is when my penis grows to its full erect girth and length. Still, I already feel it’s safe to say I have experienced no shrinkage. If chastity device shrinkage is a thing, as some people claim, it evidently takes over 877 days for it to occur. Frankly, based on past experience, I’ve never believed in chastity device shrinkage, anyway.

Plumbing Check

While externally, all systems seem normal and functional, I haven’t checked the internal plumbing, meaning I have not attempted to stimulate myself to orgasm and ejaculate. I hadn’t really thought about doing that when I decided to unlock for 72 hours before starting the Chastity 90 Challenge, since that isn’t the reason I’ve chosen to unlock for a few days. But I have thought about it today and it makes sense to orgasm and ejaculate before locking up again on May 1 since the whole point is to make Chastity 90 a distinct 90-day period unconnected to my past and future periods of long-term chastity. I haven’t decided when I’ll check the internal plumbing. All I know is I’ll do it, and only once, before May 1. So, I’ll table that discussion for now.

A Different Countdown

When I first began experimenting with chastity, I was always counting down the days until I could unlock. But it’s the opposite now. Already, after less than seven hours unlocked, I’m counting down the days until I can put my device back on. After so much time locked in a device, the absence of the cage feels abnormal. I’ll stick with the 72-hour plan, but am eagerly looking forward to locking up again on Monday morning, May 1.

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Chastity 90

By Chaste on Sunday, April 2, 2023

Chastity 90? Lately, I’ve been meditating on what chastity means to me and the progression I’ve undergone since incorporating it into my life. I pondered what seemed most responsible for moving me from mere curiosity to become passionate about practicing chastity to finally adopting chastity as a lifestyle. Reflecting on it, I realized what it was. It was the first time I experienced practicing chastity for 90 days. And that realization motivated me to write this post, because I think it could be something that others might find useful.

Reviewing the Benefits of Chastity

Those who follow this blog or others like it or who have perhaps read one of the many books available on chastity have read about it and the benefits that many claim it offers. As a quick review, the practice of chastity means abstaining from ejaculation or orgasm, either for a certain period or indefinitely.

Many people, from ancient times to the present, have held the basic idea that semen is a precious substance, rich in life force and vital energy. According to this perspective, they view ejaculation as a loss and waste of this energy, which can lead to physical and mental exhaustion, as well as a weakened immune system and decreased vitality. By definition then, chastity involves semen retention. And many claim semen retention offers some important benefits.

Among them:

(1) Increased energy and vitality

(2) Improved focus and concentration

(3) Increased confidence and self-esteem

(4) Enhanced creativity

(5) Improved sexual performance

(6) Improved mental health

Many who have practiced chastity and thus semen retention claim having experienced all these benefits and more. Yes, the reported benefits are based on anecdotal evidence, and it’s important to note that scientific research on the benefits of chastity and semen retention is limited. But the sheer number of people who have reported experiencing these benefits by practicing chastity lend the ring of authenticity to the claims.

I have experienced these benefits while practicing chastity, so I find it easy to believe the similar claims of others that track with my firsthand experiences. But I’ve learned you must spend a lengthy time in chastity to appropriate all the amazing benefits it offers. The first time I spent 90 days in chastity was the first time I experienced all the benefits I listed above significantly.

Why Short-Term Chastity is Not Sufficient

I believe there are benefits available from practicing shorter terms of chastity, but my experiences and the experiences of others I’ve heard about point to something important. While you might experience some benefits or in rare instances, even most of them during a week or a month spent in chastity, you really will have only scratched the surface.

To fully realize all the powerful benefits, I believe spending 90 days in chastity and abstaining from ejaculation is the minimum period necessary to fully experience the benefits. And from there, it only gets better the longer and deeper you go into living a chaste life.

Maybe you’ve only ever managed a few days or a week in chastity. Or perhaps you’ve struggled through a full month either on your own or while participating in Locktober or one of the other month-long chastity events many observe each year. Completing a month in chastity, especially while locked in a chastity device, is a significant accomplishment. And for those who have achieved it, I’m sure they got a taste of all the benefits I’ve mentioned. But I’m just as certain that a month is not nearly long enough to reap the richer, deeper aspects.

Instead of a month-long challenge, why not challenge yourself to spend 90 days in chastity? I’m convinced that those who do that will learn for themselves what chastity is all about and how beneficial it truly is. I’ve found it transformative and I think you can, too.

But Isn’t 90 Days Really Hard?

I found that spending thirty days locked in chastity for the first time was the most difficult thing I’d ever done. In fact, I found it so difficult that had I not been under the supervision of a keyholder, I would have probably given up after the first week.

Since then, I’ve found it gets much easier. The first time I spent 60 days in chastity was easier than the first 30 and then 90 days was easier than 60. And the longer I stayed locked after that, the easier it became. At some point you become so accustomed to it, you rarely think about what it feels like to not be in chastity or to ejaculate whenever you want. If you set your mind to do it, you can make the 90 days.

But Isn’t it Unhealthy to Retain Semen for 90 Days?

For most guys, semen retention in and of itself is not harmful, as it simply involves abstaining from ejaculation or orgasm. This is true, regardless of how long you abstain from ejaculation or orgasm. Semen doesn’t just continue building up. The body breaks the semen down and reabsorbs it, or sometimes, the body may expel semen either by leakage or through nocturnal emissions also called “wet dreams.”

It is important to note that semen retention may not be recommended for individuals with certain medical conditions, such as prostate problems or infections. In these cases, ejaculation can be an important part of maintaining prostate health. But for most of us, lengthy periods of semen retention are not harmful. It’s beneficial.

But I’ve Never Been Able to Wear a Chastity Device for More Than a Few Days

As you may already know, after I wrote and published The 7 Day Chastity Challenge, I conducted a survey to learn about the experiences of individuals who had taken on the challenge. A surprising number reported that they physically could not wear a chastity device for seven full days.

If I had to guess, I’d say for most of them that probably resulted from having a poorly fitted device. Instead of taking careful measurements to get the best fitting device they could afford, I’d bet many either bought a device they thought looked cool or else got something cheap and in either case didn’t fit them well. I made those same mistakes when I first began experimenting with chastity. Since I was only satisfying my curiosity, I wasn’t ready to spend several hundred bucks for a quality, custom fitted device, so I wasted money on three different ill-fitting devices before I found one that worked.

I’d also bet some of those unable to wear a device for a full week simply didn’t find the discomfort worth it and threw in the towel. Accepting even minor irritation and discomfort is more difficult for some than for others.

I still recall what it was like when I first engaged a professional keyholder for chastity training. I had sore spots after the first few days that lasted for almost two weeks, and I experienced some annoying testicular discomfort for at least the first week. Then my body adjusted to having the hunk of stainless steel attached to it, and the soreness and discomfort went away. I was committing to succeeding, mostly because I didn’t want to disappoint my keyholder. So I stuck it out. But some guys lack the commitment and once things get uncomfortable, they choose to quit instead of giving their bodies time to make the adjustment.

Personally, I think it would be rare to find someone without some physical anomaly who couldn’t acclimate to wearing a well-fitted chastity device within one to two weeks with sufficient motivation to succeed. But I could be wrong.

Yes, chastity devices can support the practice of chastity by preventing individuals from engaging in sexual activity or masturbation. Chastity devices prevent erection and orgasm. They represent a physical barrier to giving in to sexual impulses. I’ve found them an invaluable aid. But I also know ball-trap chastity devices are not magic.

Unless combined with a piercing for added security, with enough motivation, I know that all ball-trap devices are escapable while locked. And anyone holding their own keys can simply unlock and remove them whenever they wish.

For me, a chastity device is more a symbol of my commitment to chastity than a failsafe barrier to giving in to my sexual impulses. So, while it requires greater willpower, it’s definitely possible to practice chastity and to refrain from sexual activity and masturbation without wearing a chastity device. I believe I could remain chaste without wearing a device at this point in my journey. But I like the symbol, I like the reminder of my commitment, so I continue wearing a device every day.

Are You Up for a 90-Day Chastity Challenge?

I’m putting the finishing touches on Chastity 90, a challenging 90-day period of abstinence and self-discipline, supported by suggested activities to help you succeed. The 90-day benchmark is not arbitrary, but the minimum number of days I firmly believe is necessary for individuals to reap the full benefit of a time spent in chastity. If you’re interested, watch for the next post where I’ll outline the Chastity 90 Challenge.

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