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My first night sleeping in a male chastity device

By Chaste on Friday, December 27, 2019

Finally, I experienced my first night sleeping in a male chastity device. LJ told me to remain locked when I went to bed last night. I had been keen to do it, which led to what seemed a small misunderstanding.

Yesterday afternoon I mentioned how I was really hoping she would let me sleep while locked. I meant only to convey how much I liked being locked for her and that I was feeling confident I was ready for my first night locked. Evidently, she either interpreted what I said as a request or a suggested course of action.

At any rate, I received a terse reply reminding me in no uncertain terms that she made the decisions, and what I wanted was completely irrelevant. Fair enough, I suppose, if she really believed I had overstepped. But, I was honestly only sharing my mental state at the time which is something I thought she expected from me. This goes to show that getting acquainted and comfortable with a new keyholder is just as much a part of this process as getting accustomed to being locked.

I’m not the type who gets hurt feelings easily. But LJ’s curt correction, which I truly believe was simply based on an incorrect interpretation on her part, smarted a bit. It also makes me feel less eager to express feelings as opposed to only the facts about my adjustment to being locked. That is problematic in my view. It makes me feel less willing to be completely open and vulnerable with her which I’d think is how this kind of arrangement should ideally go.

Anyway, it’s still a bit of a sore spot for me this morning. The shocking bit is she has been strict, but very reasonable up until the exchange yesterday afternoon. Guess it will start to feel more like we’re on the same page as we get better acquainted.

Later in the evening, LJ told me I would be sleeping while locked. I was a bit surprised by that given what she had said earlier. I half expected she was going to make me remove the cage, not out of spite, but to drive home the point she was boss. I’m happy she didn’t do that because to be honest, I would have seen that as petty. I have a very firm grasp of the dynamics of power exchanges. I’m not one to attempt topping from the bottom. I feel no entitlement to suggest courses of action to LJ, and I’ve not made a single request of her. I simply do what she says which is how I see the whole enforced chastity thing working. I hope we get this sorted in short order.

Well, off my rant and back to the actual topic, my first overnight locked. Sleeping locked was probably the one thing I felt a bit uneasy about at the beginning. I’d read a lot of experiences shared by other guys, which made me worry dealing with night time erections might be a very unpleasant, and maybe even painful experiences. As it turned out, I worried about it way too much.

I was awakened three times by attempted erections during the night. With the first two occurrences, things subsided quickly and I went back to sleep almost immediately. The last erection was a short time before I intended to get out of bed this morning. Morning wood, I suppose. It didn’t cause what I’d characterize as real discomfort. But, I was very much aware of some significant pressure from the base ring being pulled tighter. So, using a tip I’d read somewhere, I went to the bathroom and urinated which resolved things quickly.

In short, my first overnight while locked went amazingly well. I’ve now experienced my first complete 24-hour locked experience. I slept normally for the most part, and had no trouble finding a comfortable sleeping position. The cage is beginning to feel more like a part of my body rather than an uncomfortable foreign object. And, I am very pleased with this inexpensive, made in China, device I had to switch to when the Jailhouse device didn’t work out. It is amazingly comfortable to wear, and its open style makes cleaning up in the shower while locked a breeze.

The only thing I dislike about the device is the “shower head” effect caused by the end cap with multiple holes. Invariably, my urethral opening is never lined up properly with the center hole. So, when peeing, the urine splashes against the inside of the end cap and pretty much goes everywhere except where intended. I’m now planning a full review of the device once I’ve worn it another week or so.

I have no clue where we will go from here, or how long I’ll be locked before being released again. As LJ brusquely reminded me yesterday afternoon, she makes the decisions about how things will go and will tell me what happens next when she feels I need to know. Yep, cool. Pretty much what I expected when I decided to jump into male chastity.

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LJ Rules

By Chaste on Thursday, December 26, 2019

I suppose I’m in a contemplative mood today, even though it’s only my third day in chastity. I thought I’d start by sharing LJ’s rules for me in this post. The rules are few but straightforward. I’m sure most of them are similar to the rules other key holders set. The last two relate to the fact LJ is enforcing my chastity from a distance.

1. My cock belongs to LJ, period.
2. I must wear my chastity device at all times unless she instructs me to remove it. (A bonafide medical emergency the only exception.)
3. I can only come when given permission, and in the manner, LJ instructs me to do so.
4. When I’m unlocked, I may not touch “her” penis except as required for cleaning and must never play with “her” penis whether locked or unlocked without permission.
5. I am required to submit verification photos whenever LJ chooses to require them.
6. I must complete any assigned tasks given by LJ promptly and to her satisfaction.

Here is the contemplative part. As I was looking at the rules again today, I’ve agreed to follow, a few thoughts came to mind about exactly what accepting these rules means for me.

1. I no longer decide when and how often sexual stimulation or release happens for me.
2. I enjoy no entitlement to sexual stimulation or release.
3. I have no expectation of being allowed sexual stimulation or release.
4. Pleasure for me now is doing my best to show respect to LJ by obeying her in every respect, pleasing her, and submitting to her authority.
5. When and if LJ allows me sexual stimulation or release, it will be a gift.

When a man gives up control over the very thing that defines his manhood, he gives up a lot of other related things too. Most of them go against the grain of everything our culture says men are entitled to. Even though I’m only in my third day of enforced chastity, I already suspect accepting and embracing these realities will be among the hardest things I’ve ever done. And, I’ve done some hard shit during my lifetime.

Even so, at the very outset of this dive into male chastity, I feel deeply enforced chastity is something I don’t think I’ll ever want to give up.

Yes, LJ rules. She makes them. I live by them. I don’t think I’d have it any other way.

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Houston we have a problem

By Chaste on Wednesday, December 25, 2019

I hadn’t planned on posting another update until the 72-hour mark. But, Houston, we had big chastity device problems.

Things were going so swimmingly, I expected it to continue. But, at around five yesterday afternoon on my first real day in chastity, I lost my right nut.

I wasn’t even aware it happened until Lady Jayne, who for the sake of brevity, will be known from this point forward as LJ, asked for a photo. She wanted to check that my color was still good and there weren’t any circulation issues. I dropped trou to take the photo with my phone and that’s when I discovered righty had gone AWOL. It had slipped the ring and then hidden itself up inside me. I tried to coax it back through the ring, but it was a no-go. I had to cut the lock and remove the device to sort it out.

Weirdly, there was absolutely no sensation associated with the wayward nut. Everything felt copacetic. The damn device had felt so secure. Anyway, I put it back on and locked up with a new plastic numbered lock, thinking it was only a fluke. But it wasn’t.

About four hours later, I was sitting in my recliner watching football. Sure as fuck, my right nut popped right out of the base ring again. I wasn’t having an erection of anything. One minute it was inside the ring. The next, it was hiding again up inside me. That time I did feel a slight twinge when it happened.

After talking it over with LJ, we concluded the base ring was too big. Buying an off-the-shelf device, I had only three choices in base rings; a 1.50 inch (40mm), 1.75 inch (45mm), or 2.00 inch (50mm). I’d purchased a cheap device earlier with a 40mm base ring but hadn’t been able to get the ring on. I’d also tried on a 50mm standard behind the scrotum cock ring when checking sizes. It was too big. So, by process of elimination, I ordered the new device with a 45mm base ring. Without the option of a custom-fit ring, the 45mm seemed the right choice. Evidently not.

LJ was tied up with Christmas Eve guests when I lost my ball the second time. So, I took the initiative. I pulled out the cheap device (made in China) I’d bought previously with the 40mm ring. My thinking was if 45mm was too big, the 40mm had to fit unless I was one of those unlucky guys between sizes who has to have a custom-size base ring. Low and behold, the damn 40mm went right on, no sweat.

Later when we touched base, LJ was skeptical. She didn’t see I could suddenly fit into a 40mm ring that I’d been unable to get on before even using a lubricant. She was concerned about circulatory issues cropping up. But, she graciously gave me permission to try wearing it on the condition I took it off at bedtime. She is super safety conscious and wouldn’t risk me wearing the smaller ring to bed having worn it for such a short time. So, that’s what we did.

Christmas morning, I put the 40mm ring and the cheap device back on. I had to work it a bit more than on the night before, but it went on easy enough. My nutsack is the type that is really tight up against my base and likes to stay that way, especially first thing in the morning. But, once I got things stretched out a little, the ring went on and it was all good.

I’ve had this device on for about eight hours as of publication time. It’s simple and cheap, but actually I kind of like it. For one thing, it weighs a ton less than the other device that wouldn’t stay on me. LJ and I chatted briefly about me ordering a new custom-fitted device now that I may have finally figured out my true base ring size, or close to it. I’m feeling confident about the 40mm.

For one thing, I read Thumper’s blog religiously, Denying Thumper, and just based on the images he shares, I’d be willing to bet we’re about the same size. He has said 40mm is his standard base ring size, so from the get-go, I couldn’t understand why I had trouble getting the 40mm ring on before. I’m thinking it must have been because of my tight scrote. Wearing the bigger, heavier device for a day and a half, I think stretched things just enough so I could get into the 40mm ring.

Previously, I shared in this post the insights from an experienced key holder who advises this when buying a custom-fitted device.

“The main option is the length (short is good actually buy one way shorter than you think you should as well) the other critical size is the base ring buy that in the size you think is right and also the next two smaller sizes. Sure go ahead, start with the one that’s easy to get on. There’s a good chance it will eventually fall off even without trying. Go smaller, go a lot smaller, then go even smaller.” ─ Chastity Perkins

I’m definitely taking Chastity’s advice when I order my custom device. I’ll get a 40mm base ring and the next two smaller sizes. From what I’ve read, it seems an accepted fact that the weight of stainless steel devices does stretch the scrotum over time. So, Chastity’s take, based on her experience with her husband, makes perfect sense to me.

Meanwhile, I think now I’ll be able to get by with my cheap, made in China replacement until I get my hands on a high-quality custom-fitted device.

Rocking the cheap, made in China model

Hope everyone is having, or had happy holidays. Thanks for reading.

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Locked in a male chastity device for the first time

By Chaste on Tuesday, December 24, 2019

Finally, I’m sharing my first post while locked in a male chastity device and can relate my first in-chastity experience.

I received the chastity device yesterday afternoon. For the first time, Lady Jayne had me wear it for only a few hours until bedtime last night. The idea I assume is to allow me to gradually grow accustomed to staying locked for longer and longer periods. Here are my first impressions of what it felt like to be locked for the first time, and after removing it last night.

Physically the first thing I noticed was the device adds noticeable extra weight to my penis. Not surprising since the device is made of metal. It felt a little unusual at first. Not uncomfortable, only different. The device pulled my penis downwards a little more than normal, and the cage presses rather tightly against my testicles.

After a little while, the device generally felt comfortable. I found I rather liked the physical sensations of confinement. While I liked the looks of things, I can’t say I felt particularly aroused at the outset. Perhaps that only indicates chastity devices aren’t a fetish for me. Almost immediately, being locked did make me very aware of my key holder.

I’ve read some guys who are accustomed to long term lock up actually feel “naked” when not wearing their device. Maybe because I wore it only a handful of hours, I can’t say I felt that way exactly after removing it. Perhaps that will come in time. However, I can already easily imagine how wearing a chastity device will come to serve as a constant reminder of my commitment to Lady Jayne and our agreement, that I’ve surrendered complete control of my penis to her, and that I need her permission to orgasm.

Here are a few other thoughts.

Comfort

As said, wearing the chastity device caused no discomfort. It certainly didn’t cause any pain. Still, even after wearing it a relatively short time, I feel sure I’m not going to just forget I’m wearing it any time soon. I expect it will take some time to get used to it. Both physically and mentally. I’m already curious about what it will feel like when I experience my first attempted erection. I wonder if it will feel more like the good kind of erotic pain, or the bad kind of pain.

Wearing a chastity device definitely made me aware I was denied the full range of sensation I usually experience with my penis, that I couldn’t touch myself, and that visiting the bathroom to urinate can be a bit frustrating. I used the “stocking method” to coax my penis to the end of the cage. Everything seemed lined up, and I thought I might be able to urinate normally. Not so. It seems I retracted a little after wearing the device for a while, so the first time I needed to go and tried the usual approach, it made a mess. Guess I’ll be sitting to pee from now on.

As said, no real discomfort of any kind was felt. The base ring felt tight, but not too tight. There wasn’t any discomfort felt around the scrotum where the base ring fits. Having worn regular metal cock rings in the past, my body is likely already accustomed to that part it.

The Device

I’m pleased with how well the device I chose fit right out of the box. For a mass-produced device, it seems reasonably well made. The interior of the tube isn’t polished the way the exterior is, but it’s smooth without any rough spots. It seems I chose the correct base ring size, at least for making a start with all this. Since it’s stainless steel, there is some heft to the device, but the weight doesn’t feel overly burdensome.

Here is a look of me wearing the device for anyone interested.

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Locked for the first time

Somewhere I read a suggestion about wearing tight underwear to help with support when wearing a steel device. In preparation, I picked up some new briefs a size smaller than I usually wear. It does seem they help with supporting the weight.

Typically I wear relaxed fit jeans or track pants. I’ve tried on both while wearing the device, and the “chastity bump” doesn’t appear too noticeable in either. I have found I need to “adjust” myself more than usual, especially while sitting. I expect it will only take a little getting used to on that front.

Erections

I haven’t yet experienced an attempted erection, so I can’t yet offer any thoughts on how that feels while locked. Having nocturnal erections is the one bit I’m feeling a little anxious about. I’ve read the experiences of others. For some, it doesn’t seem much of a bother. A few described it as quite painful.

Current status

As instructed by Lady Jayne, I put the device back on first thing this morning after showering and giving the device a thorough cleaning. Since she hasn’t told me, I have no idea how long I’ll be locked before I’m allowed to next remove the device. But, I suspect I won’t be taking it off at bedtime tonight since she instructed me to secure the device with a numbered plastic lock instead of the padlock. I find I rather like the uncertainty over not knowing when or if I’ll be unlocked.

I’m also very keen to learn how wearing a chastity device and having fewer orgasms than I’m accustomed to will affect me. Over time will my body become more mentally attuned to some of the other erogenous zones? Will I gain a better appreciation through chastity and orgasm denial that stimulation of my penis isn’t absolutely necessary to enjoy life? Will I learn to enjoy the pleasures of my own body without orgasms or the ability to directly touch of my penis? Will wearing a chastity device cause me to feel more sexually aroused during the day, as my mind returns to the one who holds my key? These things and more are what I’m contemplating this morning.

Concluding thoughts

I’m planning to post the next update of my first-time chastity experience after I reach the 72-hour mark. While I have some initial impressions about the device itself, since this is the first time I’ve worn one, I think I will wear it for two weeks before posting a full review.

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Size matters

By Chaste on Monday, December 23, 2019

Size matters when it comes to choosing a male chastity device. It’s crucial. When choosing a standard two-piece device made up of a tube or cage, and a base ring, the size of both components are important.

If a base ring is too large, it could actually fall off, or at least you could fall out of it without trying. Too tight and it will be uncomfortable, it might chafe and cause raw, irritated skin, or even compromise circulation. Similar issues can crop up with an improperly sized tube.

Given the variances in the human male body, the importance of proper sizing suggests a custom made device built to exact specifications is always going to be the best option. Unfortunately, it is also a pricey option and not every guy interested in experiencing male chastity is going to be able to fit a custom device into his budget.

Like me, I’m sure a lot of guys have gone with the off-the-shelf option, at least for a first device. If it doesn’t fit well, it becomes a matter of either biting the bullet and investing in a custom made device or buying a different mass-produced model that may provide a better fit.

As I mentioned in the “Male chastity expectations versus reality” post, proper sizing was certainly a major concern of mine when getting started. Since then, I found an attention-grabbing article on Medium about sizing written by a female key holder, Chastity Perkins. She enforces chastity for her husband. Here is what she wrote that I found so interesting.

“…finding the right device and, more importantly, the right size which will be far smaller than the one you think is “too tight.” It’s best to choose a male chastity device that you think is the right size and then also get two sizes smaller in the various parts available.

The main option is the length (short is good actually buy one way shorter than you think you should as well) the other critical size is the “base ring” buy that in the size you think is right and also the next two smaller sizes. Sure go ahead, start with the one that’s easy to get on. There’s a good chance it will eventually fall off even without trying. Go smaller, go a lot smaller, then go even smaller.

After a week or so of this routine, it’s not only dulling that awareness but also conditioning the body to not constantly fight the chastity device. During this period, there’s a good chance that you’ll need to use a smaller device, smaller ring, smaller. Not sure? Go smaller. Go as small as can possibly be MADE to fit as long as nothing is turning colors.”¹

The idea a guy will acclimate to smaller and smaller sizes over time than he started with is something I haven’t come across before. Not only that, the rest of Perkins’ article indicates this occurs relatively quickly.

Here is my biggest takeaway from this. Buying a custom-fitted chastity device sooner rather than later might actually be the less expensive way to go. Most mass-produced steel devices come with only one base ring. While moderately priced, if you have to keep buying a new one frequently, it seems it may not take long to spend more than the cost of a custom device.

Also, with custom made devices, in most cases, I have found you can purchase a new ring of a different size from the manufacturer if needed without having to buy a whole new device. This isn’t usually an option with cheaper off-the-shelf models.

It seems there is always more to learn once you get started with male chastity. One thing for sure is I now have even more of an appreciation for how much size matters when choosing a properly fitted device.

¹Perkins, Chastity. “Implementing Long Term Male Chastity Enforcement.” Medium.com. 31 May 2018. Web. 22 Dec. 2019.

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Male chastity expectations versus reality

By Chaste on Sunday, December 22, 2019

Expectations versus reality. Things don’t always go like you think they will. Like, pretty much never.

This is what I’m thinking about today after receiving an update from the postal service advising me the package containing my chastity device arrived at my local post office at 5:43 a.m. this morning. That means if all goes according to plan, it should be delivered tomorrow in the afternoon mail. Shit is about to get real.

Don’t get me wrong. I’m still eager to experience this. But, given the whole expectations versus reality thing, I admit to feeling a little anxious. It’s not only a matter of what it will be like to be locked up for the first time, and all that entails, but also a matter of interacting with Lady Jayne, my soon to be key holder. I’m sure she has expectations too, though at least up until now, she has only outlined them in the broadest of terms. Did I mention I’m feeling a bit anxious?

There are plenty of things that could go wrong, you know. Like Murphy said. “Anything that can go wrong will go wrong.” For one thing, I’m obsessing a little over the base ring size I selected. I tried measuring first, using the instructions from one of the custom manufacturer’s websites. But, I kept coming up with different results. Finally, I decided to try the Goldilocks method. I ordered a really cheap (made in China) device off Amazon that came with three different sized base rings—1.50 inches, 1.75 inches, 2.00 inches.

I tried the 1.50 inch ring first, but it was too small. With a lot of effort, I did manage to get both testicles inside, but no matter how hard I huffed and puffed, I couldn’t get my flaccid penis inside with them. It was just as well since before I gave up my balls were already taking on an unfamiliar hue.

Next, I tried the 2.00 inch ring even though I expected it would prove too large. Sure enough, it was. It was comfortable and easy to get on, but all the advice I’d read on choosing base ring size adamantly suggests choosing the smallest you can get on and wear comfortably without any circulation issues.

Finally, I tried the 1.75. “Ahhh, just right,” I sighed. At least I hope so. It felt a bit on the tight side and did take some work to get on, but I wore it for an hour and my junk retained its normal color. I didn’t try wearing the device itself because it’s ugly and weighs a ton. I only ordered it because it provided a way to get a variety of base ring sizes on the cheap to experiment with. So, that is how I determined the ring size to order for the device I’m expecting in the post tomorrow. But, what if 1.75 inches isn’t the right size? Maybe it felt fine after wearing it for an hour. How will it feel after 24 hours, 72 hours, or longer?

After reading first-timer accounts by other guys on the web, I suppose the thing I’m most worried about is the dreaded nocturnal erections. How will I deal with that? Some described them as incredibly painful. Will my sleep suffer while caged? Not to mention all the other things that could go wrong.

What if the tube chafes the skin of my penis? What if the chafing creates patches of raw, irritated, sensitive skin, which then becomes a breeding ground for infection? I have a fairly high pain threshold. I am confident I can handle whatever minor discomfort the cage throws at me. But, a raw, irritated, infected Johnson? Wait. Obviously, I’m not gonna want to fucking deal with that.

It’s a lot to think about, to worry about, to obsess about when you’re facing something new and for which you have no frame of reference. Sure, in his first inaugural address, Franklin D. Roosevelt said, “There is nothing to fear but fear itself.” But, I kind of doubt he ever had a chastity cage locked on his penis. Chastity devices weren’t really a thing back then. Were they?

At this point, I can only hope I chose my first device wisely, that the fit will at least be satisfactory, and that I’m able to observe proper hygiene so I don’t run into any unforeseen problems due to bacteria and/or small, unnoticed injuries.

One can only hope. In this instance of expectations versus reality, maybe things will go the way I hope they will.

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How did you become interested in male chastity

By Chaste on Saturday, December 21, 2019

How did you become interested in male chastity? That’s a good question, one I don’t yet have a good answer for.

Having read endless blogs and forum posts about enforced male chastity, it seems for many men, it all starts with a fantasy. Orgasm control and male chastity are powerful sexual fantasies for them. For some, the sexual fantasies are so intense, they develop the desire and willingness to enact the fantasies and turn chastity into reality. That’s why it seems nine times out of ten; it is the male who brings up the idea of male chastity with a partner.

I’m certain I’ve likely fantasized about orgasm denial and enforced chastity from time to time, but frankly, I’ve always had a full and vivid sexual fantasy life. I can say that fantasies about being subjected to chastity have never been at the top of my go-to fantasies list. So, I feel certain the desire to enact a fantasy doesn’t explain my attraction to trying enforced male chastity.

On the UK Tickleberry website, I found this list of eleven common reasons men find chastity appealing.

(1) It’s a secret fetish a man finds highly provocative, arousing, and very sexy, to the point that even just an image of a chastity device could cause the beginnings of an erection.

(2) It links in with the sexual fantasy of surrendering himself to a partner in erotic submission.

(3) It’s not just concerned with physical sensations, but the mind, body, emotional, and innermost self. He will understand chastity as all-encompassing desire, fetish or kink, that’s an intellectual, physical, emotional, sexual and spiritual experience.

(4) From his sexual fantasy perspective, the allure is that a loving wife or girlfriend holds the key to his penis. His cock becomes theirs, it’s freedom is dependent upon them releasing him. They become the key holder and become the key to his release.

(5) A man believes he’s masturbating far too much and would like help controlling this by being made to wear a chastity device to prevent him from touching himself.
(6) He longs to be “Loved, Locked and Owned” by a partner, and he believes that wearing a chastity device will demonstrate his commitment and faithfulness to his partner.

(7) He longs to escape from everyday realities and to allow his submissive desires freedom. This is a “need” for many men who long to set free their sexual submissiveness in the safety and security of their own homes and with their loving wife or girlfriend.

(8) Orgasm denial is highly arousing to him.

(9) He believes that his female partner is superior to him, and he needs to demonstrate his acknowledgment of this by wearing a chastity device.

(10) A desire to seek his pleasure in pleasing and pleasuring his partner, thinking of his keyholder’s needs above his own. Wearing a chastity device helps him to sexually achieve this.

(11) He is interested in practicing Tantric Sexuality and wearing a chastity device may help save his sexual energy for his higher, emotional and intellectual self.

Looking over the list, I didn’t see anything that truly resonated that might explain my attraction to trying enforced male chastity. If I had to pick one, perhaps part of number eleven applies; “wearing a chastity device may help save his sexual energy for his higher, emotional and intellectual self.” But I’m not sure. Most of the reasons offered at the Tickleberry site involve an existing intimate partner which I don’t have at the moment. So, those don’t seem to apply.

Celebrated theoretical physicist Albert Einstein once said, “The important thing is to not stop questioning. Curiosity has its own reason for existing.” Perhaps then curiosity is reason enough. Maybe I simply wish to satisfy my curiosity about how it feels to be locked up and have my penis under the complete control of another. Maybe that’s explanation enough.

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Chastity devices I like and why

By Chaste on Friday, December 20, 2019

This post was updated on 02.15.2021

Back in December 2019 when I wrote this post, “Chastity devices I like and why,” I was just getting started with male chastity. I made my selections almost purely based on aesthetics since I really knew very little about choosing a good male chastity device back then. Also, I hadn’t worn any of the devices I included in the post, but now I’ve worn and reviewed all but one of them. Here you can read all my reviews. But below you will find links to the specific devices.

Interestingly, even though I knew little about chastity cages back when I wrote the post, as it turns out I actually made some very good choices.

While I didn’t remove any of the three original devices I listed on this post back in 2019, I have made one addition because I have since acquired a new favorite.

The Original Post

While I’ve already chosen my device for my introduction to male chastity, I suppose it is never too early to start thinking about what I’d like to get down the road should I decide to take a deeper dive into enforced male chastity.

In this post, I’m sharing the ~~three~~ four devices I like best right now, and why. Assuming my thirty-day introduction goes well and I find chastity to be something I am truly passionate about, as long as my key holder gives me permission to change, I’ll definitely be looking to acquire one of these devices.

Please note, I have no affiliation with the companies mentioned in this post, and have not been paid to recommend any of the devices mentioned. All opinions expressed are my own. Prices were current at the time of publication.

Watchful Mistress

The first device I find truly impressive is the Watchful Mistress by Mature Metal. It isn’t cheap at $370.00, but I could fit it into my budget. It is constructed of surgical grade stainless steel. Best of all, like all Mature Metal devices, it is custom-built to your specifications.

With this particular model, you can choose cage inside diameter, base ring inside diameter, length, the width of the gap between the cage, and the shape (oval or round). It can be designed to be secured with a padlock or security set screw.

READ MY WATCHFUL MISTRESS REVIEW HERE

Jail Bird

The Jail Bird is Mature Metal’s most popular design, and I do like it too. It’s also $50.00 less than the Watchful Mistress at $320.00, and offers all the same customization options. But, what draws me to the Watchful Mistress is Mature Metal’s claim that it is their most lightweight and compact model, which makes it perfect for 24/7/365 wear. Still, the Jail Bird stays on my shortlist for my next device.

READ MY JAIL BIRD REVIEW HERE

Holy Trainer Nub

While I’m most attracted to steel devices at the moment, there is one resin device that I find very intriguing, the Holy Trainer Nub. What I like most about this device is the super small size. So small in fact, once it’s locked on the penis virtually disappears.

You can’t truly appreciate how small this device is from the above Holy Trainer website image. But, by clicking on this link to the Denying Thumper website, you can appreciate the tiny size of it by taking a look at the device while it’s being worn by Thumper. I can only provide a link since the image belongs to Thumper, and I don’t have permission to post it here.

I find the compact size truly amazing, and in Thumper’s detailed review of the Nub, he swears it is very comfortable to wear even though it may not look like it is. This would be a great option for air travel since the Nub is made of resin instead of metal. I also think it would be a great device to wear when running or at the gym. The Nub is available from Holy Trainer for $165.00 and comes in a variety of colors.

NOTE: Holy Trainer Nub Review Coming Soon

Amicus

The Amicus by Male Chastity Now is the new addition to my male chastity device line up. I didn’t even know about the Male Chastity Now Company back in 2019 when I published the original post. When I did discover the company, I bought an Amicus and from the moment I put it on, it became one of my most favorite stainless steel devices.

Amicus is a “near” custom chastity device since MCN offers several sizing options with it. You can’t customize it to the extent of a Mature Metal device, but you do get a lot of options with this very reasonably priced device. For that reason, the Amicus is vastly superior to any of the off the shelf, mass-produced cock cages available and it doesn’t cost much more.

READ MY AMICUS REVIEW HERE

If you’re into male chastity, what device do you wear? What are you’re likes and dislikes about it? I’d really appreciate it if you left a comment and shared your experiences with your favorite device.

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The Agreement

By Chaste on Wednesday, December 18, 2019

In the previous post, I promised to share a little about my agreement with my key holder, who for the purposes of this blog is known as Lady Jayne. First, let me say how fortunate I feel I am to have met her. She is extremely knowledgeable about enforced male chastity and has a good deal of experience with it. I don’t think I could be in better hands. Figuratively speaking, of course.

I just signed an agreement yesterday that covers what amounts to a 30-day introduction to enforced male chastity. This period of time allows me to learn whether male chastity is something I wish to experience long-term. It also gives Lady Jane the opportunity to evaluate me and decide whether I am the kind of guy she wishes to be the key holder for.

While we haven’t had a lot of interaction yet, already I am very impressed with Lady Jayne’s knowledge and professional attitude. She is an easy woman to respect, and already I sense her dominance.

As I’ve mentioned before, a lot of “vanilla” people are practicing enforced male chastity these days. So, submitting to male chastity doesn’t necessarily correspond with submission as practiced in D/s or BDSM. But, you can’t deny there is a real exchange of power involved. While I am a rank novice when it comes to enforced male chastity, I do have a rather lengthy experience with D/s relationships and BDSM play. Ironically, in terms of that, I’ve always filled the role of dominant or top. This then is a completely new paradigm for me to sort.

Now back to the agreement, it spells out the ground rules I’m to follow and provides me Lady Jayne’s expectations. During the next thirty days, I will remain under her control and she quite literally owns my penis. I am not allowed to touch except during cleaning or play with it at anytime whether locked or unlocked absent her permission and expressed direction. Actually, I find that concept quite thrilling to think about, having my most intimate bits in possession and under the control of another person. That bit is a major part of what I wanted to explore, and to learn how I’ll react to it.

In addition to wearing a chastity devices for longer and longer periods of time over the next thirty days, I will also receive assignments from time to time which I’ll be required to complete timely and to the satisfaction of Lady Jayne. These assignments haven’t been spelled out, but I rather suspect at least some of them will be aimed at elevating my arousal so that I will become even more acutely aware of my predicament.

It’s important to note that Lady Jayne and I do not live anywhere near each other. Our interaction will be only at a distance. That means, of course, that there isn’t anything physically sexual about our arrangement. From past experiences with power exchanges, I’m more than confident that even with the limitations of interaction at a distance, the control aspect will still feel quite profound.

The agreement has been signed, the die has been cast. Now it’s only a matter of waiting impatiently for the highly anticipated chastity device to arrive in the post. When the package arrives, I feel sure that things will get real.

In the next post, I’ll hopefully be able to share my initial experiences with enforced chastity while wearing the device for the first time. Until then, thanks for reading.

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The Jailhouse

By Chaste on Tuesday, December 17, 2019

After reading a ton of reviews on male chastity devices, I came away with two major things. First, a stainless steel device seemed more appealing to me than those made of other material like resin, silicone, or plastic. Steel seems more appealing due to its greater strength, aesthetics, and heft.

The other thing I learned, based on what I’d read, was steel chastity devices are best purchased from one of a handful of manufacturers who custom build them. Steelwerks and Mature Metal were two companies I saw recommended again and again. However, for a couple of reasons I chose not to go this route.

While a custom built device is no doubt optimal, it is a relatively expensive option. At Mature Metal for example, device prices range from $320 up to $480 depending on the model you’re interested in. The other thing is there is a lengthy wait of 6-8 weeks after you order before the device is shipped since it is custom built.

Given this is my first experience with enforced chastity, it didn’t seem to make sense to spend around $400 for a chastity device until I’ve learned whether enforced chastity is something I want to submit to on a more or less permanent basis. The other thing is after making the decision to explore enforced chastity, I didn’t want to wait 6-8 weeks or more before getting started. So, for those reasons I decided to go with a cheaper and faster option.

For my first experience, I chose to go with a more moderately priced device from a California manufacturer called the Jailhouse. It is the common two-piece device composed of a stainless steel tube, or cage and a stainless steel ring which connects with the cage using a series of three pins. There is a hole drilled in the center pin where either a small padlock or a numbered plastic lock can be used to secure the device.

The Jailhouse isn’t the cheapest way to go. I saw many similar style devices on Amazon for example which looked almost identical that were half its price. But, having researched this all quite exhaustively I was convinced getting the cheapest thing was not the way to go. So, a little more research led me to the device I ordered.

While I haven’t received the Jailhouse yet, I feel confident it will meet my expectations for a first device. Something I only learned after ordering it was it is basically a knockoff version in stainless steel of a very well known chastity device called the CB-6000. The CB-6000 has been the entry level device of choice for a great many men trying enforced chastity for the first time, but it is only available in poly-carbonate. Since I wanted steel, it wasn’t an option. Here is a side by side comparison of the Jailhouse and the CB-6000 to illustrate the similarities.

Notice that both devices use the three pin system, have similar looking vent holes, and the same style slit at the end of the tube for urination. Actually, as I’ve learned, the CB-6000 due to its popularity is likely the most copied chastity device in the world. You can even buy similar plastic models manufactured in China from Amazon, though the quality is no where near the same as you get with the authentic device.

For the gear heads, here are the specifications of the Jailhouse.

Stainless steel construction
Length 7cm (2.76 in.)
Tube inside diameter 35mm (1.38 in.)
Ring diameter 4.5cm (1.77 in.)

I’ve read both positive and negative reviews about steel CB-6000 knockoffs. The most troubling comment I read was from a very experienced guy I’ve developed a lot of respect for that found one he tried (not from the same manufacturer) to have a poorly finished interior that abraded the corona of his penis’ glans when he wore it while taking a long walk. Since I run almost every day, I have to have a device that accommodates physical activity without causing abrasions on one of the most sensitive parts of my anatomy. So, I’m trying to remain cautiously optimistic. Hopefully the device will meet my expectations.

Once I receive the Jailhouse and have had a chance to wear it a while, I will post a review for the benefit of others who may be interested in test driving a metal CB-6000 knockoff.

I hope you will visit again to read my next post when I’ll be sharing a little about the key holding agreement I’ve just signed with Lady Jayne.

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This post was updated on 02.15.2021

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