There were several views about how long a chastised male should remain locked and denied orgasm. Among couples, even in a virtual relationship like mine, keyholders who seriously practice chastity decide. There are several things a keyholder should take into consideration when deciding about how long her male spends locked in his device and denied orgasm. Most experienced keyholders say the best approach is striking a balance between keeping their man completely denied while giving him some hope of gaining a release to maintain his interest in the dynamic. Here on the 31 Days of Chastity Meme Day 10, I will share my longest period of confinement and denial and about what I see my future in chastity looking like.
What’s the longest your partner has kept you locked and denied? What’s your goal?
Sixty days was the longest uninterrupted length of time a keyholder had kept me locked before I met Lucie. Lucie has long since smashed that record and as of today has kept me locked and denied for 96 days. I have self-locked for much longer periods, but in my experience at least, I found that easier to do than when I’ve had a keyholder. It’s never been more challenging than it has with Lucie because she is a woman who truly loves the art of the tease. If she gets even a hint that my arousal and frustration levels aren’t bouncing off the ceiling, she immediately begins teasing me even more aggressively. I suppose that feeds the flames of her sadistic side. But I’m not complaining. Lucie’s style keeps me engaged to the max and certainly holds my interest.
Regarding a goal, I don’t have one actually, since how long I am caged and denied is not up to me. That is totally up to Lucie. My preference is longer periods locked than shorter, but I readily accept whatever decision Lucie makes. As I’ve shared before, my arrangement with my first keyholder ended because she overestimated my readiness for permanent chastity and I truly wasn’t ready when we she attempted to make the move to permanent. But I feel certain I am ready now. Part of that is because I have more experience and my body has now adjusted to longer periods of denial. But my willingness to accept Lucie imposing permanent chastity on me also has much to do with how much I trust her judgement and how eager I am to please her in every way.
Honestly, I don’t feel ready to give up orgasms completely and forever. I hope that isn’t the path Lucie chooses for me. And I am perfectly fine if she chooses to allow me only ruined orgasms without unlocking me. But I don’t think a guy ever completely gets past wanting to come. Not even when he accepts it won’t ever go back to normal where he could come whenever he wished. Still, that too is up to Lucie. If she wishes to allow me orgasms, then I will get them. And if she doesn’t, then I won’t. It’s as simple as that and I accept it because I much desire Lucie’s control and authority over having orgasms.
Lucie will have kept me locked and denied for 117 days by the time Locktober ends. Will that be my new personal record? It’s hard to say, because you never know with Lucie. She hasn’t yet mentioned NO-vember, but she could at anytime. Who knows? I may arrive at 117 days only to learn I’ll be spending another thirty days locked during a dry, confined November.
Does it raise your spirits that we have now entered double-digit days for Locktober? For me, the first ten days have flown by. I feel almost ashamed at actually having to admit this has been the easiest Locktober for me ever. Partly because Lucie has made it so much fun, but also because she had already kept me locked and denied for weeks before Locktober started. Even after four years of practicing chastity, had Lucie allowed me to come a day or two before Locktober, I would have found it just as difficult the first 3-7 days as any other guy. So, Lucie actually did me a kindness by not allowing me a release. But let’s keep that between us. No use spoiling things for Lucie.
Please return tomorrow for 31 Days of Chastity Meme Day 11. Chastity, as a lifestyle choice, is the topic, and I will share my thoughts on this prompt:
What are your views on Chastity as a lifestyle choice? Would you advocate it, or is it purely an element of play for short periods only? Which is best for your lifestyle?