We’re closing in on the end of the second week of Locktober 2023. Today’s post for 31 Days of Chastity Meme Day 13 focuses on trust. Trust is critically important to the success of any relationship. Trust allows us to feel safe with others, gives us the courage to take risks, plays an important role in conflict resolution, and is essential for intimacy to take place. No where is trust more important than between a make in chastity and his key holder.
Have you ever broken out of your device without permission, or before the agreed time? What happened and how did you feel about it?
You can’t underestimate the importance of trust within relationships. I have ended both romances and friendships when I felt people had betrayed my trust. The funny thing is, once trust gets lost, you rarely can earn it back. So, within the chastity realm, I take trust seriously.
I have removed a chastity device before the agreed time. I didn’t break out of it, and I didn’t take it off until I had discussed it with my key holder. I’ve already talked about this in the past. It was with my first key holder and her attempt to introduce me to permanent chastity when I was still a novice and not ready for it. I contacted her first and told her I wanted to end our agreement and only after she said if I was determined to quit, she couldn’t very well force me to continue did I remove the device. I still didn’t feel good about it and I ended up regretting it. But I have never escaped from a locked device without permission or before the agreed time and that goes to the importance I place on trust.
Every key holder I’ve had always told me in one form or another that they would not tolerate violations of our trust. So, it has never once occurred to me to cheat since I wanted the key holding relationship to continue. Everyone knows that wearing a chastity device requires suspension of belief. There is no ball trap device you can’t wriggle out of if you want to escape from it unless it incorporates a piercing. I test every chastity device I review for escapability. Some are harder to escape from than others, but I’ve yet to try one I couldn’t get out of. But I also haven’t found one I could get back on after taking it completely off. Maybe you could do that with one of the silicone cages, but I’ve never tried one since no one considers silicone cages serious chastity. The point is, escaping would eventually require admission of cheating and most key holders would drop you like a hot rock for doing it, or in the case of a partner as a key holder, refuse to play anymore.
I want a key holder to lock me and enforce my chastity and I at least have enough willpower to keep my agreement with them. I don’t have a single doubt that Lucie would no longer wish to continue with me if she found out I had cheated. And I wouldn’t blame her because cheating would be a betrayal of her trust.
It’s not up to me to tell other guys what they should do. But I will say a guy who purposely escapes from a chastity device just because he wants to wank is only cheating himself and his key holder and should probably find a new hobby. If someone is that lacking in self-discipline, they should at least man up and tell their key holder they want to quit. I value the trust that Lucie and I have built and I’m never throwing that a way just for a few seconds of pleasure.
Join me tomorrow for 31 Days of Chastity Meme Day 14 when our prompt will be:
How do you keep your Chastity Lifestyle or play from family, friends and colleagues? Has anyone found out? What happened?