31 Days of Chastity Day Meme Day 14: Discretion

How do you keep your Chastity Lifestyle or play from family, friends and colleagues? Has anyone found out? What happened?

For those of us who live, sleep, and breathe chastity, wearing a cage may have become part and parcel of our everyday lives, yet like me, I expect most chastity device wearing guys don’t flaunt the fact our penises are locked in a cage. Other than those we’re intimate with, we practice discretion, concealing our practice of male chastity from friends, family, and our colleagues at work. Why? Are we ashamed about it? Is this yet another in the closet experience we fear stepping out of? I don’t think so. At least shame has nothing to do with why I don’t broadcast my chastity loving ways publicly.

Let’s start with this. The general ethical consensus in the kink community has been you shouldn’t involve someone else in your kink without their consent — meaning, you need to be stealthy about it. Not everyone holds this view. Recently, I read an article about guys who purposely show off that they wear chastity cages when they go to the gym, either while changing clothes in the locker room, showering, or by wearing tight, lycra clothing that makes in obvious while they work out. They specifically want to be seen wearing their chastity devices. I think the motivation here is some other kink beyond enjoying chastity. Something more on the spectrum of exhibitionism. Or maybe they are hoping for humiliation scenarios.

I’m not into kink shaming, so I don’t judge guys who do this. I don’t even judge guys who post nude except for their chastity device images on vanilla social media sites like X (formerly known as Twitter). While I admit to believing their motivation for doing it is more akin to exhibitionist tendencies than to being proud of their choice to embrace chastity, it isn’t my place to judge them. I can only say none of that is for me.

As part of my review of chastity devices, I do post images of me wearing the devices, but I think that is a little different. I think people who visit sites like mine expect to see such images and don’t take offense at them. But I don’t think you could make the same argument about posting such images on vanilla social media sites. It doesn’t offend me, but I’ll bet it offends some people. And I embrace the ethical consensus of the kink community and do not involve others in my kink without their consent.

Another reason I practice discretion is because I don’t think most of my friends and family members who are mostly vanilla and not into kink would understand my desire for chastity. Actually, I think they would feel embarrassed if I revealed it to them and would consider it to be in the “too much information bro” category. I don’t discuss my sex life, sexual orientation, etc. with them either.

I just feel more comfortable keeping it on a need to know basis. And who really needs to know besides me and my key holder? I expose it here, but that’s the purpose this blog exists and the reason people visit the blog. They are interested in learning more about chastity and I’m sure a part of that is reading about the experiences of others with it. When I first began exploring chastity, I know reading about the experiences of others was very helpful to me.

That’s my take on discretion and chastity. If you want to share your views on this, I invite you to have your say by posting a comment below.

Hard to believe we’re almost halfway through Locktober 2023 and this 31 Days of Chastity Meme. Here is the prompt for tomorrow’s post, Day 15:

Has disloyalty, either through infidelity or unauthorized masturbation, played a part in your Chastity relationship? How?