31 Days of Chastity Day 20: Just Curious

If you follow this blog regularly, apologies in advance because you’ve probably already read this many times. But because I think it’s so important that it’s impossible to overemphasize it, my first tip is to measure and measure again before buying a chastity device.

Only by knowing your specific measurements can you get a reasonably well fitted device. This is especially true with base ring sizing. Incorrectly sized base rings are without a doubt the source of the vast majority of problems people have adjusting to wearing a chastity device without undue discomfort.

Many chastity device manufacturers and some retailers offer sizing advice for their products. My second piece of advice to those just beginning with chastity is don’t ignore this advice. Accept that manufacturers and many retailers know a lot more about a properly sized cage than you do. As an example, the Kink3D length and width advice is excellent. It recommends taking accurate flaccid measurements before choosing a Cobra model. But unless you have accurately measured yourself first, this good advice becomes useless.

Where the company could do much better is the Kink3D advice on base ring sizing, which they admit is one of the trickiest parts of chastity. The Kink3D device here is basically to choose your size based on previous experiences with chastity devices. Sorry, not helpful for the chastity novice. Here I’d recommend the base ring sizing guidance found at House of Denial, which is very good.

Getting a well-fitted chastity device is only half the battle when taking your first tentative steps into the chastity lifestyle. Next, the beginner interested in wearing one for more than a few hours or days must acclimate gradually to wearing a chastity device. Trying to do too much too soon almost always produces chafing, sore spots, and even broken skin, which makes the chastity experience unnecessarily uncomfortable and sometimes even painful. After one or two unsuccessful attempts, many guys end up tossing their device in a sock drawer and leaving it there. For them, the juice just isn’t worth the squeeze.

You can find many guides around the web that suggest schedules for learning to wear a chastity device comfortably for longer periods. Some are too gradual and in our instant gratification society, most guys won’t have the patience to spend six weeks getting accustomed to long-term wear.

I published a 7-Day challenge guide a while back, which takes a beginner to wearing a device 24/7 in only 7 days. But understand this guide is by intent a challenge. I think most guys with the proper motivation can complete the challenge easily. But it is by design an accelerated process and even successful challenge participants do often experience some chafing, soreness, and discomfort.

That’s the same thing that usually happens to guys who buy a chastity device, lock it on for the first time, and then try to do the 31-day Locktober challenge. The attempts usually end in failure. A few days ago, a professional keyholder posted a poll asking how many guys who had started Locktober were still locked. The percentage after16 days was already down to just under 65%. Yes, I know it wasn’t a scientific poll, but I still bet the figure was fairly accurate.

While someone in the same circumstances might easily complete a 7-day challenge, hanging on for a full month is quite a different matter. The bottom line? Gradual is always better. Start with a few hours, progress to a few consecutive days, and then shoot for longer locked periods. Once you can wear a chastity device with reasonable comfort for a full week, you can usually progress quickly from there to longer periods.

Another piece of advice for beginners I’ll offer is to keep a good quality lubricant on hand while adjusting to wearing your device. While I don’t need lubricant any more to prevent chafing and sore spots, I definitely needed it when I was first getting started. You can use a water-based lubricant, a silicone-based lubricant (longer lasting), or even baby oil, my personal favorite.

Finally, maintaining good hygiene is a must. You can usually keep open-type cock cages clean easily with a hand-held shower head attachment. I’ve worn such a device for the entire month during Locktober with no issues in the past and am doing it again this year. Closed, tube-like devices (e.g. Holy Trainer, CB-6000) present a bigger challenge. Those you should always remove regularly, once a week as a minimum, for cleaning.

You can learn a lot about chastity device wear and the lifestyle through trial and error. But these are a few tips and words of advice that I think every guy getting started with chastity will find makes things much easier.

Tomorrow, the post, 31 Days of Chastity Day 21, centers on this prompt:

How do you deal with the need for key access in an emergency? Wax? Ice? Left-Luggage Locker? If you’ve ever had to use your emergency key, write about what happened.