31 Days of Chastity Meme Day 26: Release Management

Every keyholder has their own system of managing their chastised male’s releases. Some prefer longer locked periods and some prefer shorter. The best-case scenario is when a keyholder knows their charge well and tailors the locked periods to how the male responds to orgasm denial.

One of the excellent chastity blogs I follow regularly is curated by the femdom keyholder in a chastity-based, FLR relationship with her husband. She regularly keeps her husband on a 7-day schedule, keeping him locked in his device all week and then unlocking him and allowing him to orgasm and ejaculate at the end of each week before beginning the cycle again. The keyholder follows the 7-day schedule because she says her husband gets resentful or depressed when locked and denied for over 7 days, so she rarely goes beyond that except for punishment or just a change of pace.

Personally, I would hate that 7-day schedule. Here’s why. Agni, a chastity keyholding expert and the woman who once curated the Tumbler blog, Ask Agni, wrote an interesting piece called “Traffic Jam Chastity.” Like the constant starting and stopping in a traffic jam, Agni believes that unlocking and allowing a male to orgasm after only a few days or a week at a time prevents him from ever getting past the battle for relief and into the “Goldilocks Phase,” the period where he is floating on the fabled dopamine-driven submissive cloud of chaste pleasure. And that phase is when chastity is the best and most enjoyable for the male and most beneficial for his keyholder. And, as Agni explains, that is just how the male sexual response cycle works.

Agni believes after a male has an orgasm and ejaculates and enters the refractory period, all that nice tension wound into his brain by denial unravels and his interest in sex evaporates along with his submissive feelings. After two or three days, sexual desire slowly returns as his prostate refills and his one-track mind gets ready for another orgasm. That’s why the third or fourth day of chastity and denial are always the hardest and why Agni believes a keyholder must train the male to endure longer periods of chastity.

In my experience, Agni is correct. Days three and four are always the hardest for me after I’ve had a release. Between the end of the third day and the beginning of the fourth, my brain finally accepts that orgasm is not imminent and my body stops fighting the chastity. Usually between the fifth to seventh day, I hit the Goldilocks phase and find chastity the most enjoyable. I agree with Agni that this period, lasting between three to four weeks, is when a male is the most malleable and submissive.

That’s exactly how it works with me. So, if a keyholder kept me on a regular 7-day schedule between releases, I would never enter the phase of chastity I love the most. I suspect for the husband in the blog I mentioned, the weeks probably feel like doing and unending series of Locktober again and again because I’m sure he is always counting down the days and craving the release more with each passing day he knows always comes at the end of the week. No wonder he gets resentful or depressed whenever his wife occasionally keeps him locked longer. She has conditioned him to the 7-day cycle.