The prompt for today’s 31 Days of Chastity Meme is another one that has no application for me. It’s aimed at those fortunate enough to have a wife or other romantic partner as their keyholder. Still, serving a keyholder is an interesting topic to talk about, so I’m going with it.
How do you like to serve? What ways of serving your keyholder really turn you on?
In the chastity blogs I follow regularly, the curators often share about the ways they serve their keyholders. Of the four blogs I enjoy most, men curate three of them and a dominant woman the fourth. The men all have a wife as their keyholder and the woman enforces her husband’s chastity. It shouldn’t surprise anyone then that the services rendered and received by these bloggers are almost singularly focused on sexual service.
I can’t recall any of the guys ever sharing stories about doing house cleaning or laundry, completing “honey do” lists, or running errands for their wives, things that could make their spouse’s life easier. Maybe some of this goes on, but we can’t know that since none of these guys ever talk about it. Maybe it’s because they think that writing about performing household chores as acts of service to their keyholder wives is too mundane and assume other guys in to chastity would much rather hear about the sexual side of things. Interesting, the woman blogger is the same. She only writes about her husband’s sexual acts of service.
Look, I get it. I suppose I have to admit I prefer reading about the sex too, much more than I would enjoy a guy relating the story of how he washed and detailed his wife’s car last weekend as an act of unselfish service. And hearing from the woman how her locked and sexually denied husband eagerly performs cunnilingus on her on command and gives her intercourse until she orgasms while restraining himself also makes for great reading.
One male blogger in particular enjoys telling how much his wife loves him giving her penetrative sex while he wears a strap on harness with a large, realistic and “real skin” feeling dildo belted on above his chastity cage. She even seems to prefer the more generously sized dildo so much to his smaller penis that she no longer allows him to ever use it for intercourse anymore. Yes, I love these stories. After all, isn’t putting your partner’s sexual desires and needs above your own really what chastity is all about?
I’m not ashamed to admit how much I truly envy all the guys from these blogs, having the opportunity to service their wives sexually as much as their wives want and whenever they want. And while they remain locked in a chastity device with no opportunity to feel any stimulation or have orgasms themselves. But when you think about it, all these stories I read on those blogs really sound much more like the fantasy side of chastity than the reality side of chastity.
Yes, unselfish and unreciprocated sexual service is a valid way of serving a keyholder who wants it. But when you think about how much this all connects with the male chastity fantasy, you must admit that these guys are getting exactly what they want out of the deal too, aren’t they? It doesn’t require much imagination for me to visualize how amazing it must be serving your keyholder this way. Hearing her moan and then feeling her writhe beneath you as she orgasms. Yes, I don’t find it hard at all to imagine how my caged penis would swell and strain inside the cage the entire time, and how it would make me feel so insanely horny. It all sounds massively appealing.
These guys aren’t getting orgasms, but aren’t they receiving sexual pleasure in just the way they want it? So, how unselfish is it, really? And who is serving who? I just think there has to be more to serving a keyholder than just the sexual part.
For those of us who don’t have a wife or partner as a keyholder and who look to professionals to enforce our chastity, serving sexually isn’t an option. Sometimes guys who do regular in call sessions with a professional domme get opportunities to serve them. Maybe the domme lets them buy her things, or she allows them to do chores for her around her home.
One professional dominatrix I know told me one of her clients often comes to her house and cooks gourmet meals for her. But serving a pro domme sexually is rarely if ever in the mix. Part of the allure of seeing a dominatrix is she is the unattainable woman, a woman who would never have sex with you under any circumstance. And pro dommes want to preserve this. The vast majority of them would never have sex with a client, even if she felt an attraction for him. So, when a pro allows it, a client can only serve her in other ways and only in ways she allows him to serve her.
I’ve never booked an in call with a pro domme. I’ve thought about doing it sometimes, but never have. Not saying I never will do, but so far I have only interacted remotely with pro dommes for keyholding services. That makes serving your keyholder even more difficult. You can’t drop by her house to do landscaping, clean her bathroom, or to drop off her dry cleaning. My current keyholder lives in Europe and I live in the States. I’ve been to Europe many times, but I don’t go there regularly. So, I have no opportunity to serve Lucie in any physical way. That doesn’t mean I don’t serve her at all. I just serve Lucie in ways compatible with the reality of our circumstances.
The primary way I serve Lucie is by giving her financial tributes in respect for the time and effort she devotes to enforcing my chastity and teasing me so that I enjoy the experience of her keeping me locked. The tributes are actually modest compared to those required by other professionals I’ve had as keyholders in the past. And as much of herself as Lucie puts into the keyholding services she provides, she should charge a lot more than she does. That’s why I always add a generous tip to the tributes she asks for. I would feel cheap not to.
The fact is, offering financial tributes is the only actual way you can serve a distance keyholder. It’s the only way you can make her life better, which should always be every locked guy’s goal. I have done a few other things for Lucie that I could do online, and was happy for the opportunities. I have also served her by performing the tasks she assigns me to the best of my ability. And that form of service has turned me on the most. But financial tributes remain the only actual option for me to serve her in any meaningful way. And you can believe me when I say Lucie has been worth every penny. She has given me the most satisfying chastity experience I have ever had. And I will sorely miss it when our arrangement ends.
Wow! We’re almost at the end of the 31 Days of Chastity Meme series. Only four days and four posts remain. The prompt for tomorrow’s 31 Days of Chastity Meme Day 28 is:
How do you keep your device discreet under clothing? Any embarrassing moments at airports, etc?
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